babyosisi:
Ladies please imagine this scenario
In your university days,money was tight,father and mother poor,living in a one room at overail Aba
You are in the third year at UNIJOS
Temptations
Somebody comes and tells you some senators are coming into town and you follow them go party
After the party,una come go for bed
Na so you begin do small small side things and you graduate from the uni
You turn a new leaf,totally hate what you did and genuinely repent

Tomorrow you meet emeka who is getting serious with you and in the name of coming clean,you tell him all your last including the 5 senators and Mazi you chopped,emeka picks race.
One year later,you meat Nnamdi,same thing repeats
6 months later you meet charles,you will open mouth again and start blabbing
You meet Gbenga and Edet,you are still blabbing
Assuming the relationships didn't break over these revelations per se but all of a sudden you have about 7 or 8 men that you have told secrets of your life
Emeka,Nnamdi,Gbenga et al will of course tell people what you told them especially when the relationship is over
Ngwa how does that feel to know your story is everywhere
This is how girls destroy themselves with their own mouths
Don't do it please

Oh lawdy lawd, someone typed this and called it advice. Lmao...

Anyway, I already know the kind of women that will read this and see nothing wrong with it.

babyosisi:


How can you ask forgiveness foR something that has nothing to do with the person
You are conflating two issues
If I have forgiven myself of my past and God has wiped them away and remembers them no more as He says, the man owes me no forgiveness so why would I be looking for forgiveness that I don't need?

You said

A babalawo's curse can be easily broken by prayers
Go to a spirit filled church for deliverance and his powers will have no hold on you
This one is actually a testimony IMHO

And I am asking you how one can expect deliverance without confession ?

angelTI:
Lemme perch here. I can forsee its going to be an interesting and interactive thread

Perchi Perchi

naijababe:



You said

And I am asking you how one can expect deliverance without confession ?

And that confession is to the fiancée or wife or between him and his God ?

kenex4ever:
this is just Like telling ur university to withdraw ur certificate after years of post graduation just because u cheated in one of the exams.

Abegi!!! You faked your certificate and got a plum job thereafter decided to ask God to forgive you but still continued on the job. Even started paying 50% of your wages from the fraudulently gotten job as tithe. Nna, God wey go punish you eh!

babyosisi:


It is not lying
The person sinned, is remorseful and repented
Where is the lying in it?
Living in it is lying

aunty our women cannot keep their mouths shut when they'r inlove. Ther's this gal i just met,3weeks in2 d relationshp i'v known half of her past. Women cnt kip shut dia mouths when dey'r in lov

babyosisi:


And that confession is to the fiancée or wife or between him and his God?

His past is affecting her present, so yes, that confession is not only for God's ears but the wife's too

nicerod:
aunty our women cannot keep their mouths shut when they'r inlove. Ther's this gal i just met,3weeks in2 d relationshp i'v known half of her past. Women cnt kip shut dia mouths when dey'r in lov

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Una see wetin I dey talk[/size]
3weeks and a girl has told her whole life history
For what?
That is why I want girls to use their heads
Women keep your diarrhea mouths shut
Zip it
You ain't getting no medals for your stories
You are destroying your own selves with this talkativeness
Keep it to yourselves
Love should not be synonymous with foolishness

Kimoni:


My dear, believe whatever makes you sleep at night ooo

~ This is Africa

~ It's a man's world

~ It pays men to cheat but not women

~ My wife is virgin(like Osho baba believes )

Imagine Osho baba that is a master in this ashana business boasting he married a virgin

Virgin ko, Vagina ni

Hahahhahahaha.

I heard osho baba's wife gist o. Mehn, men are soooo gullible. Just be beautiful and lie that you are virgin they will just lick your feet. Who does osho baba think he is deceiving with the 'Virgin story'? For im mind e wise well well bypassing nigerian women to marry a foreigner after sleeping with so many Edo state university babes. Infact his s.excapades are well known all over edo state and girls can tell the size of his organ sef. I read a blog where girls were washing his dirty linen. Chai! After trying so hard to avoid a runz babe, he ended up with one for a wife.

My belief is men that think they are soooo smart living anyhow lives usually end up with ladies who are just like them. Cunning man die, cunning woman bury am o. You have a very bad lifestyle feeling like a cat with 9 lives, life will throw at you someone who is just like you. Karma works o.

No man comes to a woman to ask ,nne did you do ashawo work
So why should the woman mention ashawo when there is no ashawo in the picture

Who asked you?
If you haven't asked God to cleanse you go and do so and if your heart is contrite,he forgives you and once he has forgiven it,you are forgiven and pure again
The ashawo is dead and buried
So why bring it up again
So that what will happen?


But if by your ashawority,you lost your Fallopian tubes,that is another story
Tell him you made mistakes and had ectopics and your tubes are gone
You don't have to mention ashawo still

SHARIAREPORTERS:
D very reason I wanna marry a virgin
A new nylon
D hymen must be intact
I no wan hear story dat touches d hart

just remember that a lot of virgin girls perform a lot of MouthAction with different men because to them its not really sex, I just laugh when they say that because this goes to show that they aren't really keeping it because they fear God but because they want their future husbands to think they are angels and they would never tell u about all the MouthAction they gave and received. not all virgin girls do this but ive noticed it with most of them.

jadelyn007:
Depending on the kind of man u r with. Had a friend who cheated on her man n got pregnant, she confessed and was truely remorseful. The guy forgave and today they are married.

As for me if I happen to cheat mistakenly I aint confessing nada
The only kind of info I'd be confessing is if I have HIV, a kid somewhere, been a prostitute or a damaged womb. Apart from the above mentioned, what the hell u want to know my body count for Wanna use it to withdraw money in the bank

Some info are not necessary unless it has a potential of damaging the relationship. If u cheated, but u r sorry and u r sure there r no loose ends in d affair u had, STFU please unless u are not interested in the relationship anymore.

Summary of the whole gist, weigh whatever info before letting it out

You know i've always wondered how someone cheats ''mistakenly
Like the man landed on you by mistake, and his hips started moving by mistake....and you enjoy the thrill of the moment by mistake

Besides if you keep cheating on your spouse by mistake
And he nabs you by mistake
He might mistakenly break up with you

.........even if you occasionally feel sorry for wat you did....you make it sound like 'its just infidelity..nothing serious...I'll probably try my best no to do it next time,'

Nori:
just remember that a lot of virgin girls perform a lot of MouthAction with different men because to them its not really sex, I just laugh when they say that because this goes to show that they aren't really keeping it because they fear God but because they want their future husbands to think they are angels and they would never tell u about all the MouthAction they gave and received. not all virgin girls do this but ive noticed it with most of them.

Some virgins are specialists in taking it in the nyash
All na virgin
Abeg talk something else
You give BJ and the man uses his electric fingers in return,all na virgins o
Some men are so gullible

Mehn! This na real end time thread

Ladies, honesty is always the best policy. If you can't do the time don't do the crime. If your hubby or fiancé asks you specific questions of your past, be honest about it.

Truthfulness is not necessarily for the other party but for you. It liberates your soul. Let me use myself as an example. When I was still courting my hubby, he asked specific questions on abortion, guys I had slept with, any diseases etc and I answered all truthfully. We still got married. If I had lied, he may have found out and the marriage may not have held.

However, don't go all chatterbox with boyfriends or friends. Only spill it all with your spouse or fiancé if asked.

The truth liberates you even if things don't work out fine. "unfollows thread"

Nori:
just remember that a lot of virgin girls perform a lot of MouthAction with different men because to them its not really sex, I just laugh when they say that because this goes to show that they aren't really keeping it because they fear God but because they want their future husbands to think they are angels and they would never tell u about all the MouthAction they gave and received. not all virgin girls do this but ive noticed it with most of them.

I know too well
Buh can't stand it wen ma boo dem don open am for me
I want a brand new hymen
Ma wife dem go play me her video from small to wen I marry her

shrekandfiona:
Mehn! This na real end time thread



Truthfulness is not necessarily for the other party but for you. It liberates your soul. Let me use myself as an example. When I was still courting my hubby, he asked specific questions on abortion, guys I had slept with, any diseases etc and I answered all truthfully. We still got married. If I had lied, he may have found out and the marriage may not have held.

That is even a good scenario if the wedding did not hold. Consider if he finds out after the wedding that he married a liar and a fraudster.

Guys and ladies! disregard the OP's advice and be honest as marriage is a life time commitment. Throw all your masks away else like someone rightly said you will have 4 people in the relationship....2 masked ones and 2 real ones. I am outta her before Babyosisi corrupts me

crackhaus:

Oh lawdy lawd, someone typed this and called it advice. Lmao...

Anyway, I already know the kind of women that will read this and see nothing wrong with it.

It seems the angle the OP is driving at is in staying married even at the cost of honesty and integrity.

This line of thinking favours the so called "reformed woman" of recent times. A woman who in her youth lived a life of careless sexual abandon, indulging to the fullest her party years with as many partners as she could attract. This type of behaviour is usually carried out at the peak of the woman's desirability in the attraction marketplace, in her late teens or early 20s.

It is when the fact of the very transient nature of female desirability dawns on her that she usually has her epiphany. She realises that she cannot continue to attract men forever, that her party years must come to an end. So in order to secure her long term interests she has to find a well established mugu man to settle down with in marriage. Obviously her adventurous history will scare away any self respecting man so she has no other option but to repent. So she "repents". All past deeds are blotted away. Her number count, should inquiries be made about it in the future, is reviewed to a lower figure, that is if at all she ever discloses it. Her "old" self is dead and she is now a picture of integrity, the perfect wife.

This is how her future husband meets her. He enters into what is supposed to be a union based on understanding and trust with her. He is sold on the image of the new woman and they begin their journey into matrimony... only thing is life has a way of bringing these things back to the surface...

crackhaus:

Oh lawdy lawd, someone typed this and called it advice. Lmao...

Anyway, I already know the kind of women that will read this and see nothing wrong with it.

Just imagine what she wrote up there. Pathetic!

babyosisi:

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Una see wetin I dey talk[/size]
3weeks and a girl has told her whole life history
For want?
That is why I want girls to use their heads
Women keep your diarrhea mouths shut
Zip it
You ain't getting no medals for your stories
You are destroying your own selves with this talkativeness
Keep it to yourselves
Love should not be synonymous with foolishness

....To tell you the truth,i honestly agree with you..Some women talk too damn much!..

...I mean lots of people(male and female)have a questionable past,a lot if men who were cultists in school,killing or aiding in killing of one or two persons will NEVER admit it to their future spouses come what may...meanwhile the karma that will deal with them will also affect the poor woman,but do you see them spilling about their sordid past?...


...Women should wisen up..chances are that that man or guy you are probably spilling your sob stories to has probably impregnated some girls whom they dumped for not having an abortion,a murderer via University cult activities,had dabbled with homosexuality while in an all boys secondary school,contracted STDs a number of times in the past...but will he tell you all these?...


...a big fat NO!..a word is enough for the wise.



....Confess to God,repent genuinly from the bottom of your heart and move on!!!.

shrekandfiona:
Mehn! This na real end time thread

Ladies, honesty is always the best policy. If you can't do the time don't do the crime. If your hubby or fiancé asks you specific questions of your past, be honest about it.

Truthfulness is not necessarily for the other party but for you. It liberates your soul. Let me use myself as an example. When I was still courting my hubby, he asked specific questions on abortion, guys I had slept with, any diseases etc and I answered all truthfully. We still got married. If I had lied, he may have found out and the marriage may not have held.

However, don't go all chatterbox with boyfriends or friends. Only spill it all with your spouse or fiancé if asked.

The truth liberates you even if things don't work out fine. "unfollows thread"

I even wonder why a man would even be interested in knowing who and who his intended wife dated or slept with in the past
I can understand diseases but an answer is not enough sef,in today's world only a fool will get married without testing for STDs
It sounds like a self esteem issue to me for a man to be asking details of men that came before him,that is my opinion
What is he asking for?
So that what will happen ?
Mine didn't ask me any of those questions at all,is that abnormal?
He actually snatched me kinda sorta from another man so asking about past men is fruitless
I wasn't a virgin and didn't pretend to be and that is enough history that there were others before him
Same way there were a legion before me,doesn't change a thing

Jahblessme:
HOLY!! HOLY!!! HOLY!!!

I love how when its woman matter they all start preaching confess confess.
Those people talking no vex oo but have you confessed totally how many prostitues you slept with or you are still sleeping with?

How about the one night stands?

How about the times you got your ex pregnant and she aborted?

Our society is NOT the right environment for any female to confess anything.If your brother comes and tells you his gf had 6 abortions, cheated on him or was an ashana won't you be the first to say dump her?? No matter how courageous she was or how reformed? Na una go scream 'harlot' pass.


Aren't 95% of you virgin hunters?? Una go poke but want to marry unpoked.Sorry.No wonder hymen repair is rampant.Sleep around, then go and become virgin again to fool d fools.And they'll be boasting,I married her a vajinn.Disregardng soo many other things about her character which are important.Was it not the other day that some governor married a chick and claimed he was disciplined while married to his first wife of blessed memory?? This same man famed for being a man -LovePeddler with uni chicks? shouting he married his wife cos she's a vajin? he and his mother also insulted Nigerian women


Abegg when men speak like others are dirt cos of any se xual past why would any sane thinking girl come out to really really talk about her body count?


Confess ko confess ni. Only an idi ot with a past would be reallly honest to the average Nigerian man.If you are caught red handed or if there's really no way out,then you can tell the truth as much as you feel is permissible cos a good percentage of the time,it will be used against you.

If you have chopped within or without the marriage/relationship, clean mouth quietly,discuss with your maker and move on.How many times has he come to you to confess that he chopped outside too? Even most men caught in the act will deny till they are blue in the face.

Only confess if you are ready to take a gamble that the relationship will die.If you are sick of his tired ass,please go into minute details ,he will flee by himself.

If you want to talk of the past,have u dated other people? - yes or no. body count questions are usually asked by the sanctimonious - avoid answering,its not his bizniz. abortion nko- of he asks,ask him how many he has taken part in first. A non judgey guy would never ever want to go into fine details cos he believes past is past,but the one wey go ask what color of pant you were wearing for each se xual act?? Flee.

Till Nigeria stops shaming women for having and acting on their sexual urges,nothing like confession.Mr Femi Kayode released na ked pictures of his ex gf when their relationship went south and he went to the extent of shaming her family and giving details of secrets she 'confessed' to him. ladies,talk at your own risk!

After all,if confession is so good why do the men who have forgiven cheating partners lie about it and join the crowd to shout God forbid,kick her out.Simple,its cos it is a taboo for them to accept that someone shined Congo better than them and they'd be laughed at for still going on with the 'slut'.

Talk if u have HIV or life threatening disease ,just be careful what you give away in the name of 'confession'.Daz all
I deviated a lot,sorry.

Gbam!!

Peeps are only concentrating on the confession part but are disregarding what happens after. Abeg you make too much sense jare.

babyosisi:


Nne I am in soup o
I forgot to rub deodorant and I don come work
Chai
That is another thread o
I feel so uncomfortable
Can't wait for lunch time to run to the store
I changed handbags and didn't transfer my carry on one
Abomination

It's just in your mind. You probably smell very fresh but the habit of using deo will leave you uncomfortable anyday you don't.

I understand

babyosisi:


Human beings are wicked I tell you
What are her chances of remarriage in that vicinity?
Nil
Women ought to be as gentle as doves and as wise as serpents
Wisdom is a gift and God says if you lack it,ask and he will give it freely


I told of a woman that opened up to her husband and confessed and is now the butt of jokes
Even women whose husbands are all over town are also talking
Imagine that
People should learn from other people's mistakes

Why should such a women still be thinking about marriage with that kind of history.

It is because many people hold on to the delusion that marriage is for all that's why they lie and deceive others to get married.

Sophyrocks:


Gbam!!

Peeps are only concentrating on the confession part but are disregarding what happens after. Abeg you make too much sense jare.

Every single girl that had aborted was impregnated by a man
Every one of them
And almost all those abortions were done by a man
No be so?
Where are those men and their confessions?
And you will run and blab because your mouth is itching you
Women use your heads
Don't come out holding the shorter end of the stick o
And start crying for self inflicted injury

I understand the Op, but im seeing it like a reaction of sorts to safarig.irl's thread.

daveP:
I understand the Op, but im seeing it like a reaction of sorts to safarig.irl's thread.

What if I told you I have no clue what thread you are referring to and mean it sincerely

ApexTitan:


Why should such a women still be thinking about marriage with that kind of history.

It is because many people hold on to the delusion that marriage is for all that's why they lie and deceive others to get married.

Did you read the story at all
The woman was married
After a nasty divorce,her ex husband started telling the stories of her past which he knew before marrying her
Her abortions and her mother's mental illness history
Now who made the initial error?
Who is now hurting?

babyosisi:


What if I told you I have no clue what thread you are referring to and mean it sincerely

sincerely, il take your word for it.

Trust is the bedrock of a relationship. Always be open to your husband, if you hide anything he will still know. Since there is nothing hidden under the sun, one day it will be blown open. Is better you tell him, than keeping secret and he finds out. He will believe there are many more things you are hiding and that could lead to divorce.

People will divulge even the pediatric size of their husband's blokoss at divorce
Secrets they never said
When it goes sour and everyone is trying to get at the other,they will say the ones with craw craw in their crotch
Some things you can't help obviously but the unnecessary stories are best left alone