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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
Kimoni: Heheheheehehe. Osho baba claims that throughout the 5 years he stayed single, he never messed around with women when his story is well known all over the place. Maybe he thinks he is talking with kids when saying all these. You are absolutely right about the bolded. But what they portray alpha males to be on nairaland is completely different from what it truly is in real life. Dnt be the deceived by the Nairaland version o. What i read as the REAL ALPHA MALE in sites and books i have come across is different. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:25pm On May 28, 2015 |
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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 7:26pm On May 28, 2015 |
ApexTitan: Strange you think men and women have different rules in relationship yet you are wondering Why women should not spill all. You cannot eat your cake and have it 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:27pm On May 28, 2015 |
dinachi: The original post has over 65 likes in case you didn't notice And they are certainly not all females and not my handles either Even here on this thread are men who have agreed that women should curtail the blabbing,didn't you read them Just because people are not typing doesn't mean they are not reading and comprehending and concurring And just because some chose to disagree doesn't mean they won't do what I suggested if faced with the situation Your babe could be amongst them sef 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 7:32pm On May 28, 2015 |
babygirlfl: We quote the Bible when it suits us Is it not the same NL wives are told not to search .their husbands ' phones So they not see What will hurt them? Thought they said What you don't know doesn't kill you? It is all good I think each person should run their relationship or marriage as they deem fit. You know your partner and What they can or cannot bear. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:33pm On May 28, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: Eneke the bird says that men have learned to shoot without missing so therefore he kwa has learnt to fly without perching 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:35pm On May 28, 2015 |
bukatyne: That is why I love threads like these It exposes the nigerian man and his thinking If he has not confessed his encounters with ndi ashawo,my sisters don't mention yours if u have any Simple 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:38pm On May 28, 2015 |
Raumdeuter,I see you What is your opinion here |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 7:40pm On May 28, 2015 |
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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 7:42pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: I think our society is very hypocritical and sometimes, we do not relate issues here with the real world. I honestly don't think I would want to hear How my husband strangled people to death.or If he has slept with 50 women and probably 30 without condoms or How many prostitutes gave him a Mouth Action. Simple I was once a cultist or I was once sexually loose will do for me. Imagining 30mouths had been There before mine or the hands caressing me has strangled people is enough to permanently kill the desire in me abeg. If it something life threatening or can affect the future then your spouse needs to know in details maybe not too gory. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 7:43pm On May 28, 2015 |
They don't even want you to know the one they are doing in the present and if you did,they would want you to be ok with it yet they want to know even the ones you did in the past. Marriage is openness and honestly indeed. bukatyne: |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by ApexTitan(m): 7:44pm On May 28, 2015 |
bukatyne: This is not a matter of what I think. This is something that I have seen repeated over and over again. Any disspassionate observer will arrive at the same conclusions as I have. These different rules for the genders have been in play for almost as long as civilisation itself. The exceptions to the rule do not negate this fact. A man with a large number of previous sexual encounters is not seen in the same light as a woman with a similar history. The man is not castigated like the woman, if anything he is celebrated and the woman is condemned. Cue the Hugh Hefners of this world. You would be hard pressed to find any female equivalent of Hefner or King Solomon. The rules are indeed different for women. 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 7:45pm On May 28, 2015 |
cococandy: Lols I guess different rules for men and women. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by raumdeuter: 7:45pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: I agree mostly You only reveal information on a need to know basis. If asked dont lie Most of us have done stuffs in the past we are not proud of so whats the use of rehashing them especially to your spouse. There are boys who in secondary wake up early to go climb trees behind girls hostel to peep at those bathing. Or that you go drunk and slept with 6 guys at the same time Dont divulge any damaging info about your family. How your uncle was once caught and disgraced as a village thief shouldnt be for discussion Dont ask, Dont tell. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 7:47pm On May 28, 2015 |
ApexTitan: If the rules are different, you will not see a lot of women fessing up... Don't you get it? Even the men who the society is more liberal to might not tell his wife all his escapades. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by raumdeuter: 7:49pm On May 28, 2015 |
Babyosisi Did you hear about the case of the Duggars where what the guy did when he was 14yr old is being dug up and the show might be stopped Whats your opinion about that or you want to open a new thread about that. I believe anyone under 16 is a minor and cant be held responsible for anything they do. It was the adults that was supposed to supervise them that failed |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by raumdeuter: 7:50pm On May 28, 2015 |
ApexTitan: Google Annabel Chong |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:50pm On May 28, 2015 |
BABE3: Nna, the thing tire me o. That's why marriages fail at an alarming rate in Nigeria, the new brides are too fake. Men tend to know what sort of demon their dealing with years into the relationship. What a shame. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:56pm On May 28, 2015 |
I would have said the op was trolling but ofcourse, its babyosisi... 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 7:59pm On May 28, 2015 |
Gaborone:thank you 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 8:03pm On May 28, 2015 |
Why not allow a man decide if he loves you for who you really are, faults and all... Why allow him marry who he thinks you are?? This is such a massive fraud... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 8:07pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:I see someone talking about not telling their bf or spouse about a past life of prostitution & multiple abortions. Do u subscribe to that too? Coz if u ask me, that is advocating "Pure" EVIL. How would u deceive a man into marrying u in the first place without coming clean about such. It goes both ways anyway. A man with a dirty past owes it to his woman whether he was an assassin, armed robber, rapist or whatever, as long as he has genuinely turned a new leaf. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by dinachi(m): 8:08pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:65 likes out of more than 1.3 million Naira land members inspite of the fact that you are on front page? B1tch you have not even began scratching the surface! babyosisi:How you take know? babyosisi:And vice versa. It works both ways! babyosisi:Another delusional statement! There are those who live on nairaland and there are those who live with their husbands in their matrimonial homes! 5 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Ngokafor(f): 8:09pm On May 28, 2015 |
ApexTitan: .....Duhhh!!!...thats why we are saying that the girls who have allowed themselves to be foolef by the likes of Hugh Hefner and co should shut up and report to God only and not blab to their partner who is certainly not matured enough to handle such truths.. ..because we know that there are different sets of rule in this hypocritical country if ours...but at the end of the day,cunning man die,cunning man bury am.. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by ApexTitan(m): 8:09pm On May 28, 2015 |
bukatyne: Women will continue to hide their party years history for as long as they can get away with it. They only fess up when ish hits the fan and their relationship is in danger. The OP is encouraging women to continue with this line of approach and I say she is doing them a disservice with such advice. The way to go about this is come clean from the start, that's what I say. The woman faces a different set of consequences when she decides to let sleeping dogs lie only for the dogs to be awaken later on by a passing canary. Those consequences are different for the man. The man may tell of his past sexual encounters to his wife and not take as much damage as the woman who is forced to reveal all later. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 8:15pm On May 28, 2015 |
Gaborone:God bless you.. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by BABE3: 8:25pm On May 28, 2015 |
njokusboy: coz marraige is a do or die affair for women. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 8:28pm On May 28, 2015 |
TooNoisy:Thank you so much.. I'm happy that one of the best counter response so far is coming from a fellow woman. God bless u 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 8:34pm On May 28, 2015 |
TooNoisy:Thank you so much. I'm glad that the best counter response so far is coming from a fellow woman.. God bless u 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Kimoni: 8:35pm On May 28, 2015 |
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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 8:36pm On May 28, 2015 |
BABE3: Walai.... There's nothing one would not read herem.. and it's supposed to be an advice |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by ApexTitan(m): 8:39pm On May 28, 2015 |
In the light of the risk that marriages entail for men in today's world I think it is best for men to ASK their wives about their sexual past. The doctrine of don't ask and don't tell as regards relationships is foolish. Every man should be fully aware of the type of woman he is ending up with, he should know the type of woman that will be the mother of his children. It is best to hear it from the horse's mouth and come to terms with it than find out from a compromising video on the interwebs or some idle chatter - These things do happen. The woman who is coy or elusive about this issue is showing a red flag... Like I stated earlier a women with a large number of previous sexual partners is a huge risk for long term/monogamous relationships. This advice is directed to the so called good men out there because they are the ones that tend to marry women who have lengthy CVs of previous lovers. (it is very rare that a man and woman with a large number of previous partners marry themselves) Do not marry a reformed harlot. 2 Likes |
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