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Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 12:56am On May 30, 2015
Hello

Please i need advice on what to do in my relationship.

I have a girlfriend whom i love so much and intend to marry. We love each other so much and everything have was perfect untill few weeks ago when she developed some kind of changes in the relationship.
I suspected that she has being seeing someone else but was not so sure. But yesterday she begged me to come visit her in school since it was a public holiday and i gladly did.
I was able to clear my doubt that she is really seeing someone else when she starts picking someone else call and talking in a romantic way.
I felt so bad because even though she asked me to come see her.. Her attitude towards me was cold and i wondered why she said she missed me so much but now she is not showing it.
I have tried talking to her but she said i didnt doing any thing wrong and i dont want to ask her about the guy that have being calling her.
It is hurting me badly that i cant sleep because this is someone i want to spend the rest of my life

Please i need advice and dont mind my grammatical error
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ronald4lif(m): 1:00am On May 30, 2015
What kind of advice do you seek for?. On how to move on, how to ask her who the other guy is or how to cope with a double-dating woman?. Be precise.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by faith551(m): 1:03am On May 30, 2015
You still need more investigation to prove you claims, when you're sure then u know ur next line of action.
But an advice Bro, braze up for the worst too, cause is pretty much obvious she is seeing someone else if the attitude was abrubt
Re: Need Urgent Advice by francis212: 1:03am On May 30, 2015
hello nairalanders,
please can some one advice me about traveling to vietnam, to live and work there..
i really need your advices please
Re: Need Urgent Advice by Holatunde007(m): 1:04am On May 30, 2015
Open a thread on Nairaland with the topic "Buy 1month iphone 6 for 25k" then drop ur number, u will be amazed with the call, then u can start forming for her too
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ronald4lif(m): 1:07am On May 30, 2015
francis212:
hello nairalanders,
please can some one advice me about traveling to vietnam, to live and work there..
i really need your advices please

Go to the travel section and create a thread about it. But why Vietnam of all places?.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 1:15am On May 30, 2015
ronald4lif:
What kind of advice do you seek for?. On how to move on, how to ask her who the other guy is or how to cope with a double-dating woman?. Be precise.

I need advice on what to do if i should move on or cope with her.
Either way is going to hurt me because i love her so much
I just cant understand why she asked me to come. Could it be she is in love with to guys
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ronald4lif(m): 1:27am On May 30, 2015
nonycool:


I need advice on what to do if i should move on or cope with her.
Either way is going to hurt me because i love her so much
I just cant understand why she asked me to come. Could it be she is in love with to guys

My guy moving on would be the best path to tow but I'm afraid the next girl out there might be worse. A lot these girls keep their option open just incase one of their boyfriend's disappoint. She just might have adopted same mentality.

Now I'll advise you still put up with the relationship and brace up for any negativity that may surface in the future. However, you should gradually start detaching your emotions and love towards her, bring it to a level that won't get you hurt while the relationship last. So you won't be taken aback should she quit it tomorrow.

The economic situation of the country is tough and it could have propelled her to embark on a new affair. Are you being supportive to her in sustaining this hardship that is rampaging like a wild inferno in the country?.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 1:32am On May 30, 2015
ronald4lif:


My guy moving on would be the best path to tow but I'm afraid the next girl out there might be worse. A lot these girls keep their option open just incase one of their boyfriend's disappoint. She just might have adopted same mentality.

Now I'll advise you still put up with the relationship and brace up for any negativity that may surface in the future. However, gradually start detaching your emotions and love towards her, bring it to a level that won't get you hurt while the relationship last. So you won't be taken aback should she quit it tomorrow.

The economic situation of the country is tough and it could have propelled her to embark on a new affair. Are you being supportive to her in sustaining this hardship that is rampaging like a wild inferno in the country?.

Sincerely i spent alot on her last year but i could not save much.
So this year i only gave her what she need and not what she want so that i can plan for other things
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ronald4lif(m): 1:39am On May 30, 2015
nonycool:


Sincerely i spent alot on her last year but i could not save much.
So this year i only gave her what she need and not what she want so that i can plan for other things

Yes, giving her what she wants should be fine. If she want her needs fulfilled let her go get a job for herself. You're not her father.

Just maintain the relationship and if she isn't married by the time you think you want to settle down and you still see her as the one then put a ring on it.

Don't get ensnared and deluded by the love trick. You don't necessarily need love to be in a happy and subsistence relationship. Enjoy the moment while it last and don't get too emotionally attached as she might dump you for him or someone else tomorrow.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 1:47am On May 30, 2015
ronald4lif:


Yes, giving her what she wants should be fine. If she want her needs fulfilled let her go get a job for herself. You're not her father.

Just maintain the relationship and if she isn't married by the time you think you want to settle down and you still see her as the one then put a ring on it.

Don't get ensnared and deluded by the love trick. You don't necessarily need love to be in a happy and subsistence relationship. Enjoy the moment while it last and don't get too emotionally attached as she might dump you for him or someone else tomorrow.
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Thanks. I truely appereciate your advice.
I going to move on even though it might be difficult
Re: Need Urgent Advice by Nobody: 1:57am On May 30, 2015
nonycool:


Sincerely i spent alot on her last year but i could not save much.
So this year I only gave her what she need and not what she want so that i can plan for other things
Now we are getting somewhere. So she loves you when the going was good but now U cant afford to and she is changing .
dude run
Re: Need Urgent Advice by brownlord: 2:27am On May 30, 2015
nonycool:


Sincerely i spent alot on her last year but i could not save much.
So this year i only gave her what she need and not what she want so that i can plan for other things

Oh another mumu invested his life savings on bear bear bank now opening thread of lamentation seeking advice.

Lol, receive sense
Re: Need Urgent Advice by agarawu23(m): 4:54am On May 30, 2015
I was able to clear my doubt that she is really seeing someone else when she starts picking someone else call and talking in a romantic way.

seems you didn't get the logic undecided she invited you just to let you know your doubt about her is kinda real. why will she be picking a guys call in your present when she was actually the one that asked you to pay her a visit? use your sense embarassed

As for your investment grin , is just like a church offering I.e "idi ti je" ( yansh don chop am) tongue
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ShayGirl(f): 5:15am On May 30, 2015
Free advice: Quit or stay
Cos don't be surprised wen she u receive an invite from her on her wedding to another guy since she'd suddenly become cold towards u..

Try acting like u don't really care anymore and get her reaction. then, u can be able to know d next step to take.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 5:34am On May 30, 2015
ShayGirl:
Free advice: Quit or stay
Cos don't be surprised wen she u receive an invite from her on her wedding to another guy since she'd suddenly become cold towards u..

Try acting like u don't really care anymore and get her reaction. then, u can be able to know d next step to take.

I tried acting like i dont care when she started the attitude thing but she conplained and promised to change her attitude which she did for a short while but changed again and for those saying i spent my investment on her. I only gave her what she needed and she picked the guy call because she thought i was sleeping if not during the day she usually excuse her self to answer the guy call thinking i will not notice
All the say Thanks for the advice and someone said dont fall for the love trick
Re: Need Urgent Advice by ShayGirl(f): 6:06am On May 30, 2015
nonycool:


I tried acting like i dont care when she started the attitude thing but she conplained and promised to change her attitude which she did for a short while but changed again and for those saying i spent my investment on her. I only gave her what she needed and she picked the guy call because she thought i was sleeping if not during the day she usually excuse her self to answer the guy call thinking i will not notice
All the say Thanks for the advice and someone said dont fall for the love trick


Uwlcm...... D fault might be from u spending too much on her, Though, ladies r meant to be cared for BT nt worth investing on yet still as a gf.
Re: Need Urgent Advice by nonycool: 6:24am On May 30, 2015
ShayGirl:



Uwlcm...... D fault might be from u spending too much on her, Though, ladies r meant to be cared for BT nt worth investing on yet still as a gf.

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