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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 1:16am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Something is trending does not mean it's desirable to me. Must it? I can bet my last penny nobody said single moms are more desirable than spinsters. I am sure what was said is that they should not be stigmatized. Is it not the character of the person that matters more than anything else? Is the one who aborted her child better than the one who gave life to the child? As long as you are not a virgin, you have no right to stigmatize a single mom/dad. It is repition of the mistake that I kick against cuz it's no more a mistake, it's becomes a habit eg Tuface 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 1:27am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 1:33am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: you would find out that women are mostly responsible for the stigmatisation of single mothers. 4 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 1:40am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: Thank you for this. She carries it in her body and transmit it from man to man. Ultimately, it's shared round. Nobody is safe after all |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 1:42am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: I need empirical evidence Nobody has stigmatized single women more on NL than TV. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 8:32am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: When u say better...wat do u mean..like morally or marriage wise? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 8:37am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: Now you are making things personal I fail to see any stigma by him or anyone else Saying the truth is now stigma? Saying that single mom's are not better than unmarried girls is now stigma? Why do u women hate to hear the truth... 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 8:56am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Pick, pls don't instigate anything I beg you. I mentioned TV for a reason, he doesn't sound like the kind of guy that will deny what he believes in. How many times has TV advised singles to stay away from single mothers and divorcees? On this same thread? Or you have never read this before? Yet again, you are the one twisting that statement. Show me where any one said single mothers are better than spinsters? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 9:47am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: Yes he is able to make himself clear The message which is not only his but most of us's is that single motherhood is not ideal and should not be encouraged As a single mom you are not able to command the full spectrum of desirable men but have To settle This is against what you and your fellow femmes say up n down That they are as if not more desirable than unmarried girls as they have shown they are fertile... That is laughable to say the least and borders on the aburd Is that the stigma you accuse us of doing 2 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 9:50am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Ok |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 10:06am On May 30, 2015 |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 10:18am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: TV never stigmatises single mothers - he just puts them in check when it seems they are being glorified. we get it that there would always be marital issues that lead to separation but then it shouldn't be the ideal setting or the default. however, you see some women beating their chests & feigning happiness that single motherhood is the best option. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 10:21am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: ~ Why did Metronet fail ~ why did BSF (building for the future) fail ~ why is NHS in a financial squeeze Answers plsss |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 10:28am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: Interesting Women need to start defending themselves like this too ooo (lessons learnt) It's called stigmatization. When you advise singles to steer clear of single mothers, I don't know what else to call it. No woman is happy being a single mother, the ideal is for both parent to train up a child. But if it happens, she just has to embrace it and move on. That shouldn't stop her life in any way and it's definitely not a minus to her, she shouldn't allow anybody tell her that. In trying to embrace her situation, if it is misinterpreted as her being proud of her situation, so be it. I repeat, no woman will prefer being a single mother to being a happily married wife and mother. If you believe otherwise, show me empirical evidence |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 10:39am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: Don't know much about the first two NHS Medical tourists Exorbitant pay for administrators Low birth rate and aging population Economic recession |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 10:40am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: brothers in arms!
he advises them to steer clear because majority of single mothers are bitter & they mostly have nothing but horrible advice for young women. their previous experience with men often beclouds their reasoning.
that was what i thought too until i found this section & i saw how single motherhood is glorified. the latent message they pass is a woman is better off without a husband & if she needs a child, she can adopt or find a spërm dönor somewhere to put her in the family way.
embracing her situation is a different thing altogether to glorifying it. simply put....single motherhood is like a driver with a busted tyre and using his spare tyre. yes, the spare tyre would serve its purpose but then it shouldn't be the ideal situation.
i also repeat, you haven't seen some comments on this section where women confidently said men are of no use at all.....as far as they are concerned, a woman on her own can raise her kids better than most happily married couples. before you say a word, they had already mentioned ben carson or barack obama.......completely forgetting for every ben carson, there are hundreds of thousands of such kids languishing in american prisons or in a morgue! 4 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 10:46am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni Are u the queen of empirical land? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 10:55am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Yes oooo Everything you say in my world must be backed with empirical evidence. Did you read that interview where Ekwesili asked for same and the whole of Naija went gaga Meanwhile, she said it innocently without any pun intended |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 11:01am On May 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Hmnnnn Funny thing is I didn't explore any of these reasons except for the last point which I talked briefly on. They are not material enough in my judgement. thnx though Coogar and TV must know about the first two. I await their analysis No be everytime we go dey discuss man - woman matter Man shall not live by bread alone |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 11:03am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: No problem |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 11:07am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: NHS? from my hut in ituku ozalla? i only know of our local teaching hospital here. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 11:09am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: brother in arms, the Chibok girls needest thou Single mothers are bitter and advise bitterly - empirical evidence or else, you are guilty of stigmatization Single mother is like a driver with a busted tyre...stigmatization I need to see this thread where women say men are of no use at all even though I am 99% sure they are being quoted out of context |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 11:11am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: Why are the teaching hospitals in Ituku ozalla in a financial squeeze? The reasons might just be the same Why did Metronet fail? Why did BSF fails? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 11:13am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: Lol Ok |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 11:19am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: i can confidently answer this one.... witchcraft is the major problem of the teaching hospitals here
poor leadership & inadequate management.
the spending cuts of cameron & clegg put paid to BSF in 2010. conservatives & cuts are like siamese twins. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 11:29am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 11:33am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: the other candidates were poorer. labour should have had that victory but many brits don't trust their policy on immigration. ed miliband backstabbed his own brother to become the leader of labour, i think that might have also worked against him. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 11:44am On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: Politics knows no brother, Everyman for himself I honestly thought labour would win, I refused to trust any Brit since then |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 11:53am On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: labour got fractured too. all the votes SNP got would have normally gone to the labour party but scotland formed their own national bloc. when a house is divided against itself, failure is imminent! |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 12:05pm On May 30, 2015 |
coogar: True! But you guys too should free them. Marriage no be by force naa Lol |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 12:10pm On May 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: but...but we need their oyel |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 12:16pm On May 30, 2015 |
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