kandiikane:


Like I said you are confused. You still do not get it, the whole point is not to do something just because you are a woman, one can still wash dishes but she should not do it because society has said that is her role but she does it because she is not a dirty human who wants her home riddled with cockroaches and mice. When you both work and come home late tired, you will not expect her to go in the kitchen and cook just because she is a woman. When you finish at 2 for example and she finishes at 7, it's common sense for you to say ooh, my wife will be tired, I should maybe run a bath for when she comes home and make something for her to eat. Same goes for a woman if it was the other way round. It does not matter who it is, whoever is at home more should make more of an effort for the tired spouse coming home, be it male or female. There are instances where the woman's job might require longer hours, so you should be considerate and realise she is human and not a donkey that has to do everything just because society says so.
Even if both of you are home, you help each other out. There is nothing wrong in your partner saying, "hunny, please can you wash the plates or hunny, I feel like eating stew, can you make some" without you feeling like your manhood has been detached from your groin.

5minsmadness:

And this is the sole reason why hypertension was unheard of in those days

tintingz:
I'm very sure madam chimamanda collected bride price because she's a women.

missterious:


Is it such a bad thing? After all, that is what women do everyday. Or does that mean men are too weak to cope with it?

TV01:

At no point in history has any group being afforded the kind of privilege and accommodations that the Western female has today. Privilege to such a degree, that it can only be continued and maintained by the forceful oppression of men.

Even that still doesn't really capture it. There are a vast array of initiatives, policies and laws aimed solely at giving women affirmative support, many such as VAWA are so structured and enforced,it's hard to figure out if they were drafted to "support" women or simply victimise men?
Now in all of this privilege, we have Wellesley College; one of the original "Seven Sister" - all women - institutions, designed to mirror the Ivy
league colleges.
This is where privilege meets elitism. The women who attend this college are not denied anything because they are women - think Hillary Clinton, Madeleine Albright - or expected to do anything because they are female. They literally have the world at their fingertips.

ireneidiva:

Women? can't deal. Bye

tintingz:
Lol, why not ignore the typo instead of behaving like a bugs bunny.

thorpido:
You haven't said anything here that I have not agreed with.It seems the confusion is on your part and you are getting emotional about it.
I have said roles can be reversed and that is all you have also written here.

tintingz:
@TV01 Up gunners.

^{...coming to deal with the nonsensical OP !}

There are now no structural impediments to women accessing or availing themselves of opportunity in any arena one can think of]

kandiikane:
what nonsense?

kandiikane:


Oh wow, you see why I hardly argue with guys like you anymore? It is because when you have someone teaching you life lessons, your inferiority complex starts flaring up and you start stating that, one is being emotional-obviously because I am a woman. Grow up please.

You did not say roles can be reversed you said you have a problem when a woman says they won't do something just because they are a woman. I educated you on that, now you want to start taking jabs. Why do you still keep on disagreeing when you say you agree? Abeg, jor! I am even insulting my own intelligence by staying here to have this discussion with you. Have a good day!

kandiikane:


without you feeling like your manhood has been detached from your groin.

missterious:


Babe, feminists have the greatest s*x. They demand for o.rg.asms.

Shollypopzz:






I wonder what you think of HBCUs, minority scholarships, diversity quota and all. I guess all these "opportunities" awarded to African Americans erases racism or erases the effects slavery/oppression has had on the group for years.

TV01:

...wifey is dancing round the parlour singing "oh to, oh to be, oh to be a gooner!


TV

^{...coming to deal with the nonsensical OP !}

esscence00:
oga stop it

I have said a few things that have not been so popular with a number of people. I have been told to shut up about certain things – such as my position on the equal rights of gay people on the continent of Africa

such as my deeply held belief that men and women are completely equal.

I don’t speak to provoke. I speak because I think our time on earth is short and each moment that we are not our truest selves, each moment we pretend to be what we are not, each moment we say what we do not mean because we imagine that is what somebody wants us to say, then we are wasting our time on earth. I don’t mean to sound precious but please don’t waste your time on earth, but there is one exception. The only acceptable way of wasting your time on earth is online shopping.

Okay, one last thing about my mother. My mother and I do not agree on many things regarding gender. There are certain things my mother believes a person should do, for the simple reason that said person ‘is a woman.’ Such as nod occasionally and smile even when smiling is the last thing one wants to do. Such as strategically give in to certain arguments, especially when arguing with a non-female. Such as get married and have children.

I can think of fairly good reasons for doing any of these. But ‘because you are a woman’ is not one of them. And so, Class of 2015, never ever accept ‘Because You Are A Woman’ as a reason for doing anything. Finally I would like to end with a final note on the most important thing in the world: love. Now girls are often raised to see love only as giving. Women are praised for their love when that love is an act of giving. But to love is to give AND to take. Please love by giving and by taking. Give and be given. If you are only giving and not taking, you’ll know. You’ll know from that small and true voice inside you that we females are so often socialized to silence.
Don’t silence that voice. Dare to take.

cococandy:
@topic, I will always gbadun chimamanda.

Under the sun and in the rain.
with dedication and selflessness.
Nigeria is ours Nigeria we serve.

Kpomkwem!!!

cococandy:
@topic, I will always gbadu chimamanda.

Under the sun and in the rain.
with dedication and selflessness.
Nigeria is ours Nigeria we serve.

Kpomkwem!!!

thorpido:
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bukatyne:


Missing service already?

TV01:

An impoverished definition of love - I hear she identifies as "Catholic", please someone, point her to 1 Corinthians 13 for starters..


TV

bukatyne:
How did nipples enter This discussion?

it is what it is

Jman06:
Adichie is right!!!

I detest it when women are made to play second fiddle to men. I mean! When we already know that more women are smarter than their male peers in all spheres of life.

In this age, both the male and female gender should be raised with the mindset that non is superior to the other. The consequences of doing the opposite continuously stare us in the face, yet some would not accept that. I know a family where the first male child grew up to become an overgrown baby whilst his immediate older sister(not older than 2yrs anyway) is the architect of the family's success today. Of course the guy was overpampered because he's male, while the lady was exposed to work early in life. The result is a lazy man who goes about beating his chest about how masculine he is whilst his sister is the engine room of the family. Whenever I think about that family, my resolve to empower my unborn daughters as much (if not more) as I do my sons gets deepened.

Women should never be treated as inferior to men. In fact, any discrimination against the female gender should be treated as a criminal offence. Period