fairygeh:

Oh lord,there we go again
Some men can be so impossible
You mean u read all this nice,intelligent speech and the only thing u could say is its cos she's not married.
You must be one egocentric piece of man,the kind of man that doesn't feel a woman must have a say in whatsoever.thats really sad.
BTW she's very married.

all4naija:
Sorry to say your point is flawed a little bit. You are trying to say because one is more qualified than the other we shouldn't look into the facts the other has to present.

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repogirl:
and when you are sick and need comfort, I guess your money will comfort you.

When you are lonely and your body is in need of some you know what, I guess your money will do that for you.

When you need advice or to have interesting conversations with someone, guess your money will do that for you.

When you feel the need to procreate and have cute little descendants of yours and then bring them up in the right way, I guess your money will do that for you.

When you need someone to boost your ego or morale when you're feeling unsure bout yourself, I guess your money will do that for you.

Lastly when you leave this world, who will miss you dearly, speak touching eulogies about you and keep your memory dear to their hearts. I guess your money will do that for you.

Our most important treasures in this world is our time, what we do with it and then our relationships. Everyone should aspire toward wealth and prosperity, but should not lose sight of what is really important. Because the really important things make life worth living.



Now on to the topic;

Well, I don't know Chimamanda's upbringing was but I was never brought me up to see myself as a lower being to give respect when it is needed but definitely not to be walked all over.

Nobody can put you in a place you don't want to be, sometimes as a woman, you deal with some men that have warped thinking, agreed but doesn't mean the world has put you in a corner.

Times are changing, for centuries, women have been homemakers mostly instead of career women but that was what was needed at the time. Now the economy has changed and like it or not, women have to also contribute their quota to their upkeep and family finances. I believe, like it or not, we are a constantly evolving race and with time, these things will change naturally.

All this you must not let people put you here or there is just not worth it to me, some people are malleable naturally and they will be that way whether you preach feminsm to them throughout eternity.

Women should not shenk important responsibilities because of this feminism crap. You can be an awesome career woman, awesome wife and an awesome mother all at once.

emzila:

whenever u are confused as to where u are going, then ask yourself of where u were coming from and u may just find d direction you need. From the first day of woman, she has been created to be a helper to the man on assignment. An attempt to change this is disputing God's wisdom.

Cutehector:
thank God for her she is married.. Btw, do u hav to show us ur yarnsh wen takin a pic? Whr is ur sense of worth..

all4naija:

Huh! Keep using the wrong ones to describe all women in your patriarchal or chauvinistic intentions.

all4naija:
The world all rather society put some women in corners. You have to travel around the world to understand that, most especially, in the Islamic countries. Yousafzai Malala is a good example of what I am driving at or talking about.

fairygeh:
stop talking off point how exactly does that concern you? I take my pic anytime,anywhere anyhow I like it,entirely my business.#mychoice. Intruder.

Cutehector:
thank God for her she is married.. Btw, do u hav to show us ur yarnsh wen takin a pic? Whr is ur sense of worth..

Cutehector:
lol yeah.. Any how u like it... No shame..

BUTCHCASSIDY:
All this talk of women roles really bores the crap out of me. James Brown said it well. It's a man's world but it would be nothing without a woman.
I Will always be the man as long as I make money, I'm required to protect my woman and my family, provide for them , in-carge of their welfare
and look out for them.You can come online and talk all the crap you want all day. Its a mans world always has been and always will be. [size=18pt]If you want to be respected then earn it. [/size]No one respects or gives freebies to anybody cos Ure a man or a woman. If Ure a man and act like a biitch you will be treated like a biitch. If you are a woman and you are able to work hard you will reap the rewards.

fairygeh:

Oh get off my mentions, u are the one who is shameless,u really do not want to get into an e-quarrel with me

5minsmadness:

Solid Gold!
Thank you repo girl.

FrancisTony:

I'm sure you didn't read that article.

If you did, you'll understand that her point is, why are men privileged to do so culturally, instead of who deserves it by achievement irregardless of the gender.

BUTCHCASSIDY:


She is married but to what type of man. Thats the question.

missclasssy:
She is correct.

Women have for a long time been made to feel that being powerful, being an authoritative figure or being in a positions of power isn't their right so when such happens it becomes seen as a remarkable thing, as something exceptional.

The political social and religious structures of the world have belittled the feminine gender into being seen as nothing but second to the male gender.
Men are seen as leaders, while women are seen as followers. Men are seen as rulers , while women are seen as helpers and supporters.
Men are seen as strong, while women are seen as weak.

Women are taught silence, while men are taught to speak.
Women are taught to serve men, to obey men, not to talk back at men and a lot of bullshit.
Most of our religious institutions especially ones like Islam, and christianity have a huge role to play in all this through their customs, doctrines and stories.


This has created a default mentality towards what women are supposed to be, So when people see a confident powerful woman, they become amazed. They see her as extraordinary.

Women need to see themselves differently from what they have been told and forced to believe.

Segzay:
I quite agree with some of her speech,,[size=14pt]bt wait o,,dose ppl over thr(western world) knws all dis tins and yet dey record d highest divorce rate[/size],,,d fact stil remain dat our cultures and our beliefs here is d best,,I believe dos dat created dis path for us to follow also made dem tru wisdom and critical tinkins,,its jst dt dey r nt opportuned to stand in front of ppl nd givin out speech like dis woman wey go stil mislead una,,,am nt disputin her words,,bt most of our girls here wuld mis-interprete her words,,gender equality is real nd true,,bt no too cari dat mentality reach una husband house o,,or else e go clear fr una eye wen dat humble,,cool and submissive woman snatch him frm u!

Cutehector:
lool yes I dnt want to.. Ur manners need change..

fairygeh:

See who is talking about manners?
You are one bloody hypocrite,i hate guys like u
Is it you who called a lady who made a lot of sense a feminist cos u feel she wasn't married that have manners?
Sorry to burst ur bubbles dear, you are a big fool and even the foolish call u foolish.
Now get missing please,i have got something important to do,
Wouldn't mind coming back tho incase u drop another weak -come back

BUTCHCASSIDY:


She is married but to what type of man. Thats the question.

missclasssy:


And where did you get this idea from?
A book I presume.

Look at you talking about God's plan like you have an idea what it really is.

Cutehector:
see person wey man go marry.. Ur d reason why ur mates aint findin husbands easily.. Nw pls go and reflect upon ur life in d next five years...

olaideeeedris:
Hmmmmm.... Mamma, take it easy. This 'equality' thing will take us nowhere... You are created to play the second fiddle to us



#thankgodiamaman

fairygeh:
lol lol lol.yes o na man go marry me,infact in the next few months,i will be officially married. but even if I would not,how is that your headache mister?
You see you are the type that only thinks a lady just have to be married to make her life meaningful or have a say in the society
What has marriage got to do with what we talking about now? ,aint u just a petty little fool!
Oh and about reflecting upon my life in the next five years,i see myself in my loving husband house with my beautiful twins and enjoying my happy home
And I see u in the next five years,picking up e-quarrels on nairaland as usual with a female and ranting and raving like a mad man over what doesn't concern u.
Get a brain dear,its free

FrancisTony:

He's far better than you.

A rich bi-racial medical doctor in USA, who are you?

femi4:
I disagree with her.

FrancisTony:

http://qz.com/415667/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-being-a-strong-woman-isnt-remarkable-its-normal/

Cutehector:
I still wonder whch slum u go to pick these ur free brains...

5minsmadness:
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How many times have we heard the man speak out to know if he is really happy?
A while ago chimamanda was talking about how she refused to take his surname in marriage. I will dig up the picture in a moment. The man's face in that pic was like "which kain wahala be dis"
All they talk about is how she married a rich educated tolerant man. Yeah right! How many times has the man come out to say he supports what his wife is doing. He tried supporting her in one of her interviews and it looked sooooo watery

Tomorrow God forbid they divorce, these same cronies will come out and say it's the man's fault!
For goodness sake she has been maintaining that same silly Ankara or gele hairstyle for 'centuries' now Where is the variety? The guy must be chewing his tongue just to keep from running away from her or getting in a messy divorce!