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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 1:15am On Jun 01, 2015 |
pickabeau1: but what if the images on the right is her natural colour & the one on the left was when she didn't have enough to take proper care of herself? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 1:19am On Jun 01, 2015 |
coogar: Girls of nowadays are bleaching n toning likes it's food |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 2:02am On Jun 01, 2015 |
apolonius: I switched planets I'm on a mission on planet earth |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 2:05am On Jun 01, 2015 |
pickabeau1: it they do it right, what's bad in it? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 2:07am On Jun 01, 2015 |
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 2:09am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by bellong: 2:34am On Jun 01, 2015 |
coogaluta: Risk of skin cancer |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 2:52am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 5:24am On Jun 01, 2015 |
pickabeau1: There's this thing I don't understand aabout Thiss bleaching business.... I always thought it's for "not so good looking girls" who feel being light would improve their appearance, this days even the tight ones do it... the girl in dat picture looked ok to me... I have always loved dark pretty girls, every girl now looks brighter than her future |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by RoyalRoy(m): 5:53am On Jun 01, 2015 |
APOLONIUS....... ..... Welcome oooo. Good to have u around man!! |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by RoyalRoy(m): 5:56am On Jun 01, 2015 |
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by RoyalRoy(m): 5:57am On Jun 01, 2015 |
I am a great fan of light skinned ladies..... But the moment I notice you have decided to take the "laws into your own hands" I begin to feel irritated. There is a smell. Yes, when they get in the sun or any kinda heat, makes me wanna puke. Sadly bleaching is beginning to catch up like wild fire!!! God save the girls coogaluta: |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 7:08am On Jun 01, 2015 |
njokusboy: I tire coogaluta: Nope |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by TV01(m): 9:40am On Jun 01, 2015 |
tearoses: We are all well thanks - having some issues with TV02 sha . When I invite him to eat with me - trying to teach him sharing - he now insists on having his own fork - thwarting my efforts to feed him a few small pieces then shoo him away! And it's worse than I thought. Yesterday I was prepping my salmon and he come up and said "I set a placemat for you daddy". I was so pleased. Little did I know he had a cunning plan I now sat down to eat ), and he suddenly appeared - fork in hand. And while I was busy cycling from fish to salad to rice, my man just attacked the fish. "Ah, ah" I said, "sharing daddy" he replied. I then had to change my whole chop strategy so as not to lose out on fish ! My daughter is still on milk, but how will I cope with the two of them when she grows teeth My wife just laughs and doesn't appear to grasp how serious this is . Please I need advice, no abuse 0 tearoses:Those ones are not my main thrust. As it's not like they simply had children without committed fathers - or more iportantly being able to extract support from the fathers. It's just like you've outlined it, a conscious decision to use the laws to effect their own selfish needs and desires. So whilst, she may be happy, men and children still suffer , so from a "flourishing point of view, it's still sub-optimal. It's a growing trend. Ewuro4 mentioned one of her neigbhours who did such. It needs it's own thread. tearoses:Apart from Sweden and perhaps some other Scandinavian countries, I know of no country with a benefits system that allows a woman to dispense with the need for a man. Although to note your point, if the man is effectively deadbeat, she may live relatively better without him. Again, kids suffer (or put another way, do not do as well) just from the absence of a father. I guess benefits + something from the fathers sha? Although will it go where it should - on the kids? As no one checks tearoses:I agree. Even with exceptions. And do not feel it should be normalised or considered a choice without consequences. tearoses:When I was a church rat, the hassle I got from single mothers almost drove me out. All because I showed kindness to their kids. That alone is a big draw - help with the kids, especially sons. Help with the costs and companionship and support. One really painful thing is that when families rally around a single-parent family, both the parent and child have an amplified sense of what they are missing ! The data is incontrivertible. Single-parenthood is a big indicator of poverty. Not to mention how much hardwork - with little or no respite - it must be. My wife is always asking how they cope or why anyone would choose that? TV |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by apolonius(m): 10:10am On Jun 01, 2015 |
coogaluta: That is a good one.You need a tag team that includes me?I am still with the imperialists on a PhD study. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 10:34am On Jun 01, 2015 |
apolonius: I really wouldn't mind Humans have this thing about them, I just can't seem to get it, maybe a familiar face would help #no offeinse to humans @TV, sharp boy |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogaluta(f): 10:35am On Jun 01, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Note the use of the word 'right' |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by apolonius(m): 11:13am On Jun 01, 2015 |
coogaluta: I am here for you,anytime.Is the relocation a permanent one?And where in their planet? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 12:14pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
TV01: To teach children to share, you should not only share your own meals but you should share his too, especially food groups that are considered favourites and sometimes try to eat more than your fair share of this favourite. My kids never really had a problem with sharing but my son had anger issues and I always try to mirror his behaviour back in the simplest way he can understand, he is much better at not lashing out and throwing things when angry now. Best wishes............... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by TV01(m): 12:54pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
naijababe:....hmmmm, cheers. He doesn't have any problems sharing, in fact whenever he's eating or snacking he's usually quite insistent that I "have some daddy". And if I ask there's never a problem. He likes fish - something I agitated for - and now whenever he spots it being prepared or ready, he gets a glint in his eye - in fact any food he likes. I thought I was safe yeaterday, as he had already eaten rice & plantain with broccoli and carrots. He then asked for extra rice, which I gladly gave him thinking he'd be too full to tax me. Not only that, he had actually raided his mum before I ate. I can't let this guy outsmart me, I've already lost ground to him in electronics/gadgets. Although I may come back to you about "anger". He has the occassional tantrum which I deal with in the traditional way . That plus sanctions means he's responding well - but I'll keep an eye out for that as it's not something I've really envisaged. I having red bream tonight. Tuesday it's "almost raw" tuna, hopefully that will put him off. We will know who is great white and who is orca ! TV |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 1:16pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
Great white and Orca?! |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Ewuro4: 1:22pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
TV01, wow @ your memory. This one is a Caucasian though. Did I tell you another man moved in already? Truth be told, he's hot. Hubby seem to get along with him already (buddy buddy rubish) . Men As per TV02, Its a stage they always outgrow (infact you'll beg for it later) . Just lay down your own rules regarding his fork quest ( "TV , only 3 bites and you're done okay? " kids respond well to ground rules, that I know. You should even be thankful he's eating your meals. Some kids won't touch their parents meals with a long stick I ordered 3 diff wings (honey garlic, Buffalo, breaded ) yesterday , my eldest didn't come close to my me while my middle & her minion finished the whole honey & breaded before I say jack. I give them 4 years tops before they join her (first) trend. It's a cool beautiful Monday morning here ... Enjoy the rest of your day folks. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by TV01(m): 3:29pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
Ewuro4:I recall you mentioning there was a man on the scene, not sure if he had moved in. I remeber it was qucik, quick too. My first response is don; tthese guys have any cojonés ? But if there are kids involved, he may not be able to see them if he is anything less than amenable to his ex and her toyboy. I actually have a friend who was booted out as his wife wanted to trade - the usual he is not ambitious enough/worthy of me rubbish. It was a wierd one one as he was so gentle, she couldn't even pin DV on him, so he slept downstairs in a spare room for over a year while the divorce was proceeding. He pleaded with her throughout. How odd must that have been for kids? The twist. She married some low paid dorky looking oyinbo (which Naija man wants someone after multiple children?). He hooked up with the most gorgeous multi-ethnic woman and has never been happier. He dated a Naija girl before the new one, but she was pushing for marriage and he wouldn't budge, so they parted. He says his ex-wife was not only a ghastly person, but a "crapshag", and the pleading was just because he doted on the children. They share custody, so there's no reason for him not to be jovial. Ewuro4:Cheers J. I just get the sense that the brother is outsmarting me and I need to lay down markers now I like your rules thingy though. I'm more the "Arican dad who barks direct orders and expects to be obeyed". He's always negotiating? I mean he's barely 3, who taught him to do that? TV |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by An0nimus: 4:51pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
RoyalRoy:oh my |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Ewuro4: 7:49pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
Tearoses called me Akproko #1 over her case years ago sef. TV01 .. Yesohoo there're kids involved. @your friend's example (happily E.A) isn't the case for every man out there. I saw him at the ice cream shop and we talked a bit. He literally lives in hotel suite and the whole divorce is taking a toll on his psyche. He looked scruffy ( a physician ). You can sense he's holding up because of those kids. And I'm afraid he's going to lose them eventually because he's moving out of the province. I said lose them because of another man involved in their ( kids) lives, he (other man) basically plays a dad role. Though the first child was quite rebellious and rude to him ( rude by my own definition, calling him by his first name like a slave ). As per the boy toy .. It's his what now, third summer? and the whole neighbourhood housewives are looking forward to his seasonal show of shame I'm very certain my other neighbour is busy watching him via her crazy translucent glass. The dude mows lawn almost naked while she's out and about the yard kissing him to shame us all I had an argument with hubby in our bedroom and my daughter mustve overheard us (bloody ac/heat vents) and studied our countenance throughout the week. The next thing she said at the dinner table was shocking " you guys should not tear this family apart like **'s " . She's friend with neighbour's daughter since they're toddlers so I wonder what she's feeding her? If a neighbour's divorce can have that much impact on her, I wonder how many therapy sessions the impacted kids will attend per week. You should see the kids crying during drop offs, oh my. very sad. I have many occasions rushed out to carry the youngest with a treat to console them. He just drives off without looking back, I'm sure he's teary too. The whole marriage institution is a game for some. I could care less though. Honestly, it's not my business how other people run their lives. I'm only worried about the children involved. That's my only consern. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by TV01(m): 9:04pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
Ewuro4:There's always "damage". And I don't think I've seen one where the kids weren't hurt and confused. My friend was very lucky. His case is certainly not typical of the ones I know of. You see them, glazed eyes, uninterested at gathering, associating with other men who have suffered the same and venting against women and the court system. I hate divorce, I detest home-wreckers Ewuro4:The funny thing is that divorce has been shown to be catching. It kind of trends and there are lots of women tempted to destabalize their homes as they personally have nothing to lose as the law essentially affirms and rewards their choices - no matter how damaging to others. Please update us when; he moves on, someone else moves in, another neighbour ploughs the same route,or the guy gets involved with a friend or neighbour. You lose religion and the anchor it provides families, and you lose families Ewuro4:I no go lie - I try and limit contact we have with non-traditional familes. TV02 already knows all his first cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, what a wife, husband, son and daughter are. No time. Ewuro4: Ewuro4:Yes but the climate of marriage and the examples by others affect everyone and become internalised by impressionable youngsters. Marriage is a societal artefact and we have to maintain it together. All marriages affect marriage overall - even if it's not readily apparent. I'm vexed jor. What with the Irish and all recently. TV |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Ewuro4: 11:32pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
TV01 , Nah no vex. I'll surely notify you on the updates as they roll in @TV02 negotiations.... Do you also notice that most of these obodo oyinbo kids aren't scared of their parent threats one tiny bit?? Who taught him? Nobody. The lil brother is just one confident son of God. They naturally possess that sense of security and self esteem that nothing seem to shake them. 'thought I'm the only one who noticed that. We call family meeting now and discuss ground rules hehe.. I told hubby to look into getting one of those intercom phones next couple of years because I can't scream anymore (so you can stop barking your orders cos it doesn't work ) and secondly, walking back and forth upstairs to call a child for supper is just ridiculous & I'm not getting any younger. I mean, Who has the time for that when I was a kid? P.S. I'll look into gradually separating my girl from that kid. Thanks for the hint. Home time. Have a good night. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 11:26pm On Jun 02, 2015 |
Coogar Have you seen mad max 3 Damn...Tina Turner was super |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 11:28pm On Jun 02, 2015 |
pickabeau1: i saw 1-3 when i was in primary school. i am sure the VHS tapes are buried somewhere in my father's storage. i will watch the latest one this weekend if time permits me. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 11:59pm On Jun 02, 2015 |
coogar: Cool Once I'm thru with thisone..then I'm ready to see fury road |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 2:58pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
tearoses: Thanks SC/TR Came across this online too Interesting read, this would be the major issue IMO @the bolded - I had to reconfirm we are not talking about the general hospital in Coogar's village Isnt this "modernized" corruption by the investors?? tax-payers money in action indeed!
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by bellong: 4:31pm On Jun 07, 2015 |
Are you watching the battle of wit and strength? Djoker and Stanima.... |
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