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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by BluStreak(m): 12:33pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
TooNoisy: Oya naaah stay there and be deluding yasef. No go crack this message wella and assimilate it. The OP hit some very vital points, hard to swallow but the simple truth.Note that everything wey I speak there na pidgin o 5 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 12:38pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
In my opinion, chronic unhappiness is the worst thing that can happen to a marriage, no matter what the cause of that unhappiness is. I just cannot dwell in an unhappy environment for a long time. . . 15 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Stillfire: 12:41pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I am guided by certain rules and principles I have set a standard for myself to the extent I can never date, let alone marry a babypapa. I know my worth and my worth requires 100% dedication in my relationship, marriage. I do not do half, quarter love. Material wealth does not move me, I will be content in one room with a dedicated, faithful husband. Also with my capabilities, I can provide for myself. All I need from a man is his faithfulness, companionship, ardent respect for family. What standards have you set for yourself? Don't think women can't/wont cheat. Despite the stringent punishment society places on cheating women, women still cheat. Imagine if those rules don't exist. It's best to stop looking at cheating as a man thing. I always say that the standards we hold women by regarding this subject, you need to hold men by it. Society needs to see cheating as anathema in men rather than condone it. 52 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Tvegas(m): 12:50pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
damiso: I love your opinion very balanced and objective. From my view Physical Abuse is the worst thing that a man or woman can endure in marriage. Beating your wife or husband or in laws is just unforgivable for me. People can easily stray into affairs and correct themselves but people dont just stray into wife beating or husband punching its innate. 1 Like |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 12:53pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Stillfire: 12:54pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
FrancisTony: They will not see this part of the bible. I really don't know what they preach in church. Even my ancient Igbo foremothers dealt with recalcitrant husbands. How much more women of today trying to condone a bad and evil thing. I don't get it. Some queer statistic show Nigerian women cheat more, I don't see men trying to justify or asking themselves to condone cheating and live with it. Anyway.... Pseudo-Feminist A person that claims to be a feminist yet ignores the main point of feminism, equality. Pseudo-Feminists will tend to blather on about how terrible men are, or assume how men do not face social issues in regards to their gender. Not only can these issues include false rape accusations (although that's EXTREMELY rare), rape of men (which is actually more common than you'd think) Selective Service in the United States, and the pressure of masculinity (which is very much like the pressures of feminization that women face and not considered as often). Just as how pseudo-feminists will frequently call acknowledgement of men's issues misogyny, many so called "masculists" try to generalize feminists by pseudo-feminists, in order to claim that feminism is misandric in nature. Of course, these "masculists" then ignore women's issues and prove to be nothing but hypocrites. If you misuse the term, you'll look stupid to any intelligent being. There are well documented pseudo-feminists, one of which is the 'Femitheist Divine', a young woman that on her previous blogs had called for mass genocide of men. They try to claim to be feminists in order to have a sense of legitimacy. Pseudo-Feminists are basically the gender-issue equivalent of a GSA member that hates heterosexuals. Or a Cancer Society volunteer that advocates smoking. 15 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 1:04pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
damiso: Very True 1 Like |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 1:05pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 1:06pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
And I hope all the people justifying cheating are neither Christians nor Muslims 11 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by damiso(f): 1:07pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Tvegas: I also think physical and emotional abuse is horrible and I cant condone it. That does not mean I will tolerate unrepentant chronic cheating. Some women will endure abuse and say at least he does not cheat. Some will endure cheating and say at least he does not abuse me and is also a 'great provider'( reminds me of one old school Christian song ) Some cant endure a non provider( a lot Nigerian women cant deal with a NO earning man note I used NO not low) One of my colleagues quit his job to become a stay at home dad cos his wife earns more and they wanted at least one of the parents home at the early years stage, to alot of Nigerian women( maybe me sef so I am not an hypocrite ) that's madness. He is even south American sef so its not like most people will say he is oyinbo. I know people who divorced their husbands cos 'he is just a useless liability I pay all the bills'. Like Stillwater said its down to the ideals and standards every individual has set for themselves. 4 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by TooNoisy(f): 1:08pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
damiso: Only a very beautiful and intelligent woman could have typed this. You must be very intelligent, cool and calm. 9 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by damiso(f): 1:09pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
TooNoisy: Awww am blushing thank you. |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by VintageCocktail(m): 1:10pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Nonso23:No it is not,The post is filled with self deceits, self denials, lack of self-control and rambling of someone with low self esteem. Philandering makes you a weak man that can't be trusted even by your peers. If you can't keep your word sworn in front of a gathering of friends, relatives and well wishers then you are not a trustworthy person that can be held at their own words. You don't cheat on people you love...... 59 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by jaybee3(m): 1:14pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
I think your attempt at downplaying the significance of a cheating partner is apt but you've failed to consider how the act of cheating in it's entirety reverberates around the foundation that a successful marriage should stand on. In other words, the ripple effect of cheating Yes cheating to us Men at most times is simply defined as sharing ones body. These are some of the direct impact of cheating in a relationship: The obvious STI's Finance Trust Issues (both Present and future) Increase of anxiety on the receiving partner Emotional Imbalance and in turn cloudiness of judgement when it comes to real issues 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: That one sabi wetin be pseudo-feminist? Dem just wake up, rush open thread 3 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Moana(f): 1:29pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Nonso23:since sex and love are not the same thing, there is nothing in hoping your wife has extra-maritals affairs then 21 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 1:30pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Moana: The men intuitively know that it is same for women 6 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by VintageCocktail(m): 1:35pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Nonso23:Let's agree to disagree. I am a man of my words, when I said I love you to my wife....I mean it......abstaining from things that will cause her pain becomes my priority not massaging my male ego and basking on the euphoria of being in a man's world and can cheat and get away with it ish. I came from a stable home and I am willing to make it more stable than my parents'. Anyway, whatever rocks your boat..... Coming to the bolded...this is the mentality of your average gigolos and runs girls. 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Moana(f): 1:36pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Nonso23:I thought sex was not love...what's wrong with finding out? Better yet she might make u raise your brother's children under the mistaken belief that they are yours 21 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by 5minsmadness: 1:36pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Amya:Hear hear! 2 Likes
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 1:37pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
VintageCocktail: Standing Ovation 17 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:38pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Chillisauce:I speak for married men in my family. 1 Like |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by 5minsmadness: 1:42pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
FrancisTony: Who are you to speak for Christians? Weren't u the one insulting the sacredness of the bible in the other thread a few moments ago? Aren't u the foremost supporter of homosexuality on this forum? H.y.p.o.c.r.i.t.e! 8 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by zed7: 1:42pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Moana: Is that what your god does? Give people sexually adventurous wives? Why are people so dull on nairaland? 7 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:45pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Stillfire:When I start exposing hypocrisy of men, they'll go emotional like a wussbag and start character assassination. 14 Likes |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Moana(f): 1:45pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
zed7:only to sexually adventurous men. I agree too many dull people who expect God to give worthy wives to unworthy men. God only gives according to what you are worth 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by Nobody: 1:46pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: A Cheating Husband Is Not The Worst Thing That Can Happen In Marriage. by 5minsmadness: 1:48pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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