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How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Dolypson04(m): 7:08pm On Jun 04, 2015
A friend asked me this question but I couldn't give him a satisfactory answer. I believe there are wiser people than me here. Advise him pls!
Let me narrate in his words.
This girl stays in my hostel in sch (Off campus). She is one kind SU and a prayer warrior. Its obvious we liked each other. Early this year, I asked her out and she told me I would never be able to cope with her past. I thought she was trying to scare me off considering her naivety and innocence. She told me she is no virgin and has aborted. I couldn't believe it. I wanted to run but I think I love her regardless of her past mistakes.
We started dating in a nutshell with agreement on no sex.
Just last month, I received a friend request from a guy. We chatted and he told me that he is my girl ex. He blackmailed her calling her a pretender that she is a LovePeddler and not a born again she portrayed. I decided to pretend as if her past was not obvious to me so I played along. He told me how she aborted but failed to mention who impregnated and denied her pregnancy. Now he told me he has evidences in case I find it difficult to believe him. He insist I come to check his evidences in his own school. I am seriously bothered as I don't know he could have up his sleeves. It might probably tarnish our image in future if the guy is not silenced.
I must confess, I once considered keeping him shut till eternity( U no wat I mean). It's against my religion and the law of the land.
Pls advise me. Should I meet him as he wants, how can I destroy his evidences without hurting him or should I even leave the girl outright? Help me plssss!
Snapshot of their conversation will follow b4 pple call it superstory.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by agarawu23(m): 7:12pm On Jun 04, 2015
the past your gf told you is the same with her ex?
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by dulux07(m): 7:16pm On Jun 04, 2015
Dolypson04:
A friend asked me this question but I couldn't give him a satisfactory answer. I believe there are wiser people than me here. Advise him pls!
Let me narrate in his words.
This girl stays in my hostel in sch (Off campus). She is one kind SU and a prayer warrior. Its obvious we liked each other. Early this year, I asked her out and she told me I would never be able to cope with her past. I thought she was trying to scare me off considering her naivety and innocence. She told me she is no virgin and has aborted. I couldn't believe it. I wanted to run but I think I love her regardless of her past mistakes.
We started dating in a nutshell with agreement on no sex.
Just last month, I received a friend request from a guy. We chatted and he told me that he is my girl ex. He blackmailed her calling her a pretender that she is a LovePeddler and not a born again she portrayed. I decided to pretend as if her past was not obvious to me so I played along. He told me how she aborted but failed to mention who impregnated and denied her pregnancy. Now he told me he has evidences in case I find it difficult to believe him. He insist I come to check his evidences in his own school. I am seriously bothered as I don't know he could have up his sleeves. It might probably tarnish our image in future if the guy is not silenced.
I must confess, I once considered keeping him shut till eternity( U no wat I mean). It's against my religion and the law of the land.
Pls advise me. Should I meet him as he wants, how can I destroy his evidences without hurting him or should I even leave the girl outright? Help me plssss!
Snapshot of their conversation will follow b4 pple call it superstory.

Jst delete d guy abeg, it should not bug u since The gal herself told u abt her past. If u feel u can cope with her despite her past, fine, if u cant, move on.
Dont go and visit anyone for evidence, d guy might b obsessed with d gal, n might b a setup. Speakin rm xperience.

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Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by QueenHeart(f): 7:19pm On Jun 04, 2015
agarawu23:
the past your gf told you is the same with her ex?
what is d guy's business if she has aborted or not.so now dat he told u wat does he want you to do,I dnt think ds is an issue ure all adults just warn him to stop calling2tell u trash. Must u stain ur hands wt blood cz u want2silence som1?truly u dnt hv a case
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by GeneralQuamdeen: 7:24pm On Jun 04, 2015
I think the problem is with you. People will tell you a lot but it depends if you want to listen. I'm in the same shoe with yours and i expected people to tell me a lot so i'm not dissapointed in any way.

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Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by agarawu23(m): 7:25pm On Jun 04, 2015
QueenHeart:
what is d guy's business if she has aborted or not.so now dat he told u wat does he want you to do,I dnt think ds is an issue ure all adults just warn him to stop calling2tell u trash. Must u stain ur hands wt blood cz u want2silence som1?truly u dnt hv a case
I was waiting for the op to reply my question before I comment further.
what happened between the ex and the Lady is unknown to us.
how the ex got the op number is unknown to us.
we aren't sure if the past the Lady told the op is the same with the ex
I can't just jump into conclusion when the issue is not clear enough to me

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Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by 20bc(m): 7:27pm On Jun 04, 2015
well if I was the director of this super story I will tell you not to go and see him, maybe he wants to silent you for entirnity first..She told you about her past and you moved on not minding now one yaba left citizen wants to drag you back into it and you are sheepishly following him well at this point I will say cut you are not really showing your emotions then I will action then you start reciting your tales by moon light all over again

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Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by QueenHeart(f): 7:30pm On Jun 04, 2015
agarawu23:
I was waiting for the op to reply my question before I comment further.
what happened between the ex and the Lady is unknown to us.
how the ex got the op number is unknown to us.
we aren't sure if the past the Lady told the op is the same with the ex
I can't just jump into conclusion when the issue is not clear enough to me
my dear their story no get head biko
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by agarawu23(m): 7:31pm On Jun 04, 2015
QueenHeart:
my dear their story no get head biko
lol
abi na
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Maamin(m): 7:46pm On Jun 04, 2015
Op, invite that badmouthed ex to a bar and lace his drink with Otapyapya. undecided



Problem solved grin





*fixes tooth pick in mouth and exits thread*
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by naijaboiy: 8:28pm On Jun 04, 2015
That's why it's good to let your partner know the necessary things to avoid complications later on.

Your girlfriend has already told you about her past though it may not be completely true but it's better than to be told nothing at all and at least you have an inkling of what she did.

I see no reason why you should start paying listening ears to her Ex. Just block the guy and don't allow him to disturb you again about those things. Let him keep the evidences to himself.

The past should remain in the past.

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Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Nobody: 8:34pm On Jun 04, 2015
op she has told u everything so why listen to an id!ot?
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Deefuray(f): 8:51pm On Jun 04, 2015
IGNORE HIM
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Kasimaramma2(f): 9:00pm On Jun 04, 2015
Dolypson04:
A friend asked me this question but I couldn't give him a satisfactory answer. I believe there are wiser people than me here. Advise him pls!
Let me narrate in his words.
This girl stays in my hostel in sch (Off campus). She is one kind SU and a prayer warrior. Its obvious we liked each other. Early this year, I asked her out and she told me I would never be able to cope with her past. I thought she was trying to scare me off considering her naivety and innocence. She told me she is no virgin and has aborted. I couldn't believe it. I wanted to run but I think I love her regardless of her past mistakes.
We started dating in a nutshell with agreement on no sex.
Just last month, I received a friend request from a guy. We chatted and he told me that he is my girl ex. He blackmailed her calling her a pretender that she is a LovePeddler and not a born again she portrayed. I decided to pretend as if her past was not obvious to me so I played along. He told me how she aborted but failed to mention who impregnated and denied her pregnancy. Now he told me he has evidences in case I find it difficult to believe him. He insist I come to check his evidences in his own school. I am seriously bothered as I don't know he could have up his sleeves. It might probably tarnish our image in future if the guy is not silenced.
I must confess, I once considered keeping him shut till eternity( U no wat I mean). It's against my religion and the law of the land.
Pls advise me. Should I meet him as he wants, how can I destroy his evidences without hurting him or should I even leave the girl outright? Help me plssss!
Snapshot of their conversation will follow b4 pple call it superstory.
if you really love her,u ll accept her past,present n future.she has done very great by owning up to u ha past aint clean,dnt leave her but be very careful.watch her closely.
You dnt knw if her ex z tryna spare you a heartbreak or if she hurt him so badly that he wants to have his pound of flesh.you have to put yourself in people shoe
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Jun 04, 2015
Deefuray:
IGNORE HIM
Deefuray!! shocked shocked honey where have you been all these while? You went AWOL without telling me your nairaland horse-band? chaii cry cry
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Deefuray(f): 9:15pm On Jun 04, 2015
FriedPlantain:
Deefuray!! shocked shocked honey where have you been all these while? You went AWOL without telling me your nairaland horse-band? chaii cry cry
my dearest horse-band, i took a break.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Dolypson04(m): 9:58pm On Jun 04, 2015
agarawu23:
the past your gf told you is the same with her ex?
Yes, exactly d same. Just that the girl told him its a rape from d ex ( u no, forceful sex wt beating tho dating) while d guy refused to mention who impregnated her.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Dolypson04(m): 10:03pm On Jun 04, 2015
Kasimaramma2:

if you really love her,u ll accept her past,present n future.she has done very great by owning up to u ha past aint clean,dnt leave her but be very careful.watch her closely.
You dnt knw if her ex z tryna spare you a heartbreak or if she hurt him so badly that he wants to have his pound of flesh.you have to put yourself in people shoe
Exactly what I advised him. it became suspicious when d guy insists he comes. All effort to make him send d evidences online proved abortive.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by agarawu23(m): 10:10pm On Jun 04, 2015
Dolypson04:

Yes, exactly d same. Just that the girl told him its a rape from d ex ( u no, forceful sex wt beating tho dating) while d guy refused to mention who impregnated her.
hmmm don't trust both of them. just play safe because some this ladies turning su aren't to be trusted
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Dolypson04(m): 10:16pm On Jun 04, 2015
agarawu23:
hmmm don't trust both of them. just play safe because some this ladies turning su aren't to be trusted
What's is the essence of love without trust?
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by agarawu23(m): 10:18pm On Jun 04, 2015
Dolypson04:

What's is the essence of love without trust?
you should sort yourself out bro, stop having bad mind towards her ex. ladies issue isnt worth dying for.
soldier go soldier come barracks remain the same
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Jamean(f): 11:59pm On Jun 04, 2015
He said you should come to his school for evidence, are you a 300L Law student and you are taking evidence as a course undecided

I wonder what people gain from blackmail. She aborted, yes. God will have mercy on who he chooses. Was there not a guy involved in the process and he has guts to blackmail.

Bitter, miserable guy. I believe he's disappointed that the girl moved on.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by jakesund(m): 12:12am On Jun 05, 2015
Laughing ma ass off @ the silence him forever part...


Do you sell silencer


Bet it nigga...she's gonna dump ur insecure ass soon..


That's why most girls aren't honest with niggas these days...

I.m.bec.I.le.s errwhere cheesy

Ur parents are busy working their asses off so u can have a good life while yo dum.b asss is busy looking for the MIssIng evidence of otuoke ...

I laugh in HAUSA dolodolodolodolo grin
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by QueenHeart(f): 7:17am On Jun 05, 2015
Dolypson04:

Yes, exactly d same. Just that the girl told him its a rape from d ex ( u no, forceful sex wt beating tho dating) while d guy refused to mention who impregnated her.
your story no get head biko go and read your books n graduate
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by QueenHeart(f): 7:22am On Jun 05, 2015
jakesund:
Laughing ma ass off @ the silence him forever part...


Do you sell silencer


Bet it nigga...she's gonna dump ur insecure ass soon..


That's why most girls aren't honest with niggas these days...

I.m.bec.I.le.s errwhere cheesy

Ur parents are busy working their asses off so u can have a good life while yo dum.b asss is busy looking for the MIssIng evidence of otuoke ...

I laugh in HAUSA dolodolodolodolo grin
my dear tell him oo stupidity is a disease no be say him wan marry d girl,school u neva evn finish,u dy choke head like Fbi.ure evn thinking of silencing him so u want to kill sombdy hmmmm my bro go n read ur books ooo
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Dolypson04(m): 7:37am On Jun 05, 2015
QueenHeart:
your story no get head biko go and read your books n graduate
I wanted to comment before but I reserve it. Someone more sensible above just contributed positively. Thanks all d same.
Re: How Should I Handle This Issue Of My Girl's Ex? by Nobody: 8:38am On Jun 05, 2015
Dolypson04:
A friend asked me this question but I couldn't give him a satisfactory answer. I believe there are wiser people than me here. Advise him pls!
Let me narrate in his words.
This girl stays in my hostel in sch (Off campus). She is one kind SU and a prayer warrior. Its obvious we liked each other. Early this year, I asked her out and she told me I would never be able to cope with her past. I thought she was trying to scare me off considering her naivety and innocence. She told me she is no virgin and has aborted. I couldn't believe it. I wanted to run but[b] I think I love her regardless of her past mistakes. [/b]
We started dating in a nutshell with agreement on no sex.
Just last month, I received a friend request from a guy. We chatted and he told me that he is my girl ex. He blackmailed her calling her a pretender that she is a LovePeddler and not a born again she portrayed. I decided to pretend as if her past was not obvious to me so I played along. He told me how she aborted but failed to mention who impregnated and denied her pregnancy. Now he told me he has evidences in case I find it difficult to believe him. He insist I come to check his evidences in his own school. I am seriously bothered as I don't know he could have up his sleeves. It might probably tarnish our image in future if the guy is not silenced.
I must confess, I once considered keeping him shut till eternity( U no wat I mean). It's against my religion and the law of the land.
Pls advise me. Should I meet him as he wants, how can I destroy his evidences without hurting him or should I even leave the girl outright? Help me plssss!
Snapshot of their conversation will follow b4 pple call it superstory.

He is yet to make up his mind whether he loves her or not. This is the test.

Why is he entertaining the guy talking crap about his woman? she already fessed up what is he investigating what does he want? This is no longer about the Ex or his girlfriend its about him what does he want. Your guy has to decide if he is with her or not.

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