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What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 7:07pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Hello fellow Nairalanders and romancelanders... i'm here again, seeking to learn, I really wanna know; why is marriage so much emphasized, when over 70% of it fails. I have a cousin, who just got married last month, only for me to learn today, her husband has started beating her up; and pushing her out of his house on any slightest provocation; she is already fed up (ending it is imminent).... Now this is not the only, there are several other cases I know; most of them very early, and the ladies re only bearing it; to only pass time. Why the overhyping of marriage; when most will always fail? True response pls |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by MEGGATRON(m): 7:08pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
this generation marriages? we need prayers! |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by holakunle(m): 7:10pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Well. I aim to be in the 30% that succeeds. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Cutehector(m): 7:11pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
My own marriage shall neva die |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by IamLEGEND1: 7:11pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
MARRIAGE? #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat...... |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by GeneralQuamdeen: 7:19pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
70% fails or want to fail |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by CountDracula(m): 7:21pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Raymondenyi:D essence is d 30% dat doesn't fail |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 7:36pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
The op is yoruba |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 7:38pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
GeneralQuamdeen:my brother 70% fails; truely... Teempakguy: Teempakguy: Teempakguy:. No sire; i'm Niger deltan... |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by psucc(m): 7:40pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
OP what is the essence of your living when over 80% of your mate had died? Better go Ondo or Rivers and drink their ogogoro. 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Aitee1: 7:43pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
psucc: How does the one in those two states taste 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 7:43pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Raymondenyi: I echoed similar thoughts on this forum. Marriage is overrated some people went up in arms about that Truth is this there is nothing fabulous about marriage. Its just another phase in life that comes with its challenges U think its all romance and sweet talk, then Im sorry for you |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Sexxkillz: 7:47pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
This simply means that 70% of people marry for the wrong reasons. Marriage is for people who are truly in love. The 30% successful marriages are between those who know the essence of marriage, who value marriage, who respect their marriage bed and marital vows. . . People who are ready to lay down their life for the other person. People who marry for companionship. People who want to raise a family together in love. People who cannot do without each other. People who want to wake up every morning to stare into the eyes of the one they love. People who. Realize that money, beauty, sexiness etc are all superficial. People who realize that the sexy girl of today will look like her grandma tomorrow. The other 70% all marry for the wrong reasons. - she's sexy - one day, sexiness ends. Marriage fails. - nice boobs - boobs bow to gravity, and he finds another girl with better boobs. Marriage fails. - nice shape - there's always a lady with a better shape out there. He sleeps with her, and the next one. Marriage fails. - lovely round yansh - better yanshes out there. Same as above. - nice smile - better smile out there. Same as above. - money - money finishes, or they meet someone richer. Even complain that they have all the money, but "love" don finish. Marriage fails. Love doesn't fail. - rich family - same as above. - fame - fame ends, money ends, same as above. - money - sigh - sex - legal sex. After the euphoria dies down, marriage fails. - children - after they've gotten the kids they want, they'll look outside for sexier women. Marriage fails - pity - he helped me. This was never for love. - compensation - same as above - money - sighs - lust - sighs I'm even surprised we don't have up to 85% of marriages failing. People who marry for the wrong reasons will fail. There's no magic to prevent it. Marriage isn't a vice. We just have a majority of people jumping into it to feel among. They think it's all about proposing on tv, youtube, instagram or proposing with davido singing while the girl rolls on the floor or goes to hide. They think it's all about the "awwwwwwww" from total strangers on social media. I don't have an iota of pity for such people. They should shut up and stop complaining. . . Better still, ask the other 30% how they keep their marriages strong. The singular fact that 30% succeed is enough for everyone to strive to be among the 30%. . . Let the other 70% continue in their foolishness and continually look for someone or something, to lay their failures on. If you fail to plan, you've planned to fail. . . Simples! 17 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by babyfaceafrica: 8:07pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
You ave a point ...but get married! |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Raymondenyi:Good. Now, let me make you realize. In ANYTHING that humans do, the percentage of success is always less than that of failure. Ninety percent of businesses fail seventy percent of all inventions never work ninety five percent of ideas never get acted upon. So you see. However, that is what makes it all the more exciting. Marriage is something that can fail. If you go into it, you HAVE to make it work. 30% know this. And that is why they are successful. Even if just two percent of all marriages are successful, it is still enough to prove that it is possible for your's to work. |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by firestar(f): 8:13pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: What's your drink of choice? I owe you one. 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Sexxkillz: 8:18pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
firestar:Red wine. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by firestar(f): 8:23pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 8:29pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
I dont agree with the 70%. Here r my hypothesis on why marriage fails 1. 2. 3. Lust and not love |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Sexxkillz:well said,thumbs up! |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by emperorchedda(m): 8:36pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Marriage: An overrated word One of the useless and senseless words in the dictionary Subjects the man to slavery He takes charge of a left over goods some other dude must have over used before she ends up in the unlucky guy's arm and calls him husband. We should just procreate and everyone goes back to his/her normal life. Because marriage favours only the female so they grab it with all their hearts |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
emperorchedda:my brother; this really made me laff hard; as weird as it may seem; there is actually tinges of truth in it. Teempakguy:very lovely analysis, well done... |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 9:32pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Observing... |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by MsBliss(f): 9:47pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
The same question I keep asking my mind.I haven't found an answer yet |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by joseph1832(m): 10:09pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Raymondenyi:The fact that over 70% of marriage fail doesn't mean mine will fail or yours will fail either. |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by NoMoreTrolling: 10:16pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: Umm, can you stop feeling like Mr. Know it all? How can you not have an iota of pity for peeps in failed marriages? Do you think it's all that easy. Well I wish the best for you regardless. 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by czarr(m): 10:22pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
......marriage is an institution... it's not compulsory to apply. marriage is created for the purpose of sanity. its a way of life,that if tampered with,In the long run would cause problems. and op,if U don't want children,u can stay unmarried. but most of our decisions now should be for the sake of our unborn children.... so they have the protection and nurturing of a family. if u have a mother married to your father,and you have what you can call a family. if you can deprive ur children of that then you are being SELFISH! |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by Nobody: 2:06am On Jun 09, 2015 |
30% may stay married...... But, what percentage of that 30% are HAPPILY MARRIED ? I venture out to say 15-20% married folks are truly happily married. Not good. What is ones' incentive here to get married? No wonder the institution is becoming archaic. |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by xp17(m): 3:44am On Jun 09, 2015 |
Sexxkillz:FYI, there is no such thing as true love, it only lies in our imaginations, It's humanly impossible to love some random person for no reason. People who re truly in love? Remember to be in any kind of relationship with a significant other, there must be at least one thing you like about the person, be it physical or moral attributes. You like a her because of her boobs is the same as a lady liking a guy because he nice towards her, all re infatuation. Since you base your analysis on love, What if you find a person that shows you more love? To me, What ever that makes you get involved in that marriage should always be sandwiched between understanding in other to make last, because that thing you called love will fade away as you get use to it .by making understanding the backbone you can live together forever regardless of her breast obeying the law laws of gravity |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by viruz007(m): 3:53pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Sexkillz was on point with post. I will also add my own opinion and view. Firstly the major reason many marriages fail today is because the foundation was not based on God. (Call me religious, na ur Kermit be that). Marriage is not a contract as the world has made it out to be rather it's a beautiful thing to happen to two people (male and female ooo). Someone mentioned there's no such thing as true love. Another fallacy the world has led you to believe. Marriage as beautiful as it is would have stormy moments, and it's in moments like this that the foundation and the character of the partners would be called to play and true love would show itself. I am not married nor am I saying am holier than thou, but if intending couples (myself included) genuinely sit down and seek God's face before going on to marry, half of the marriage problems we have today would be avoided. As I always say, if you cannot cope with the bad side of your partner, don't bother because once you tie the knot that's when true character is shown to you in full. I am going to be among the 30% who are and have been making their marriages work because marriage is such a beautiful concept and the idea of having kids of my own, growing old with the person who puts a smile on my frowny face and having God at the center of it all, is enough push for me |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by ENEMIESENEMY(m): 6:26pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: Bros you harsh o, but it's the truth though, harsh truth. |
Re: What Is The Essence Of Marriage; When Over 70% Fails? by grad2012(f): 8:50pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Well just because 70% of marriages fail doesn't mean urs will ok so pls don't go into marriage with such mentality. |
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