There is a friend of mine who is in his Mid thirties,he lives
and work in the northern part but originally from
the south. His fiancee is 29,lives in the south,she is in 400level doing a 5yrs course. During xmas holiday in 2013 when my friend went home his fiancee took in before he went back to the north so they both agree to keep the baby. She gave birth almost end of last year so my friend took her away from school hostel and got her an apartment.

My friend said his salary is about 90k per month so he do send them 50k at end of the month for the upkeep of the fiancee and baby while spend a minimum of 30k for his housing,transport and feeding.

Now the problem is the family of the girl are talking seriously about marriage (paying of bride price). He is confuse that how long can he save 10k a month to a reasonable amount of money to go and do the necessary thing

He want suggestions or advice

mrsmith11:
There is a friend of mine who is in his Mid thirties,he lives
and work in the northern part but originally from
the south. His fiancee is 29,lives in the south,she is in 400level doing a 5yrs course. During xmas holiday in 2013 when my friend went home his fiancee took in before he went back to the north so they both agree to keep the baby. She gave birth almost end of last year so my friend took her away from school hostel and got her an apartment.

My friend said his salary is about 90k per month so he do send them 50k at end of the month for the upkeep of the fiancee and baby while spend a minimum of 30k for his housing,transport and feeding.

Now the problem is the family of the girl are talking seriously about marriage (paying of bride price). He is confuse that how long can he save 10k a month to a reasonable amount of money to go and do the necessary thing

He want suggestions or advice

i cannot suggest anything until i know how much the bride price is. bride price varies from village to village. it can be cheap as 50 kobo & it can be as high as N2 million.

i need more info....

well in that situation, if the bride price is very high then the family of the girl doesnt love their own daughter
at the same time, doesnt he have a family to turn to

coogar:


i cannot suggest anything until i know how much the bride price is. bride price varies from village to village. it can be cheap as 50 kobo & it can be as high as N2 million.

i need more info....

If bride price is 1k for example
What about the celebration like logistic,entertainment and son on

mrsmith11:

If bride price is 1k for example
What about the celebration like logistic,entertainment and son on

the bride's family takes care of celebration, logistic, entertainment.....the guy can just add what he deems necessary.

coogar:


the bride's family takes care of celebration, logistic, entertainment.....the guy can just add what he deems necessary.

I don't think is possible for the bride family to shoulder most of the expenses. Moreover they are not the rich type but average class

mrsmith11:


I don't think is possible for the bride family to shoulder most of the expenses. Moreover they are not the rich type but average class

They should consider the guy too and make it a low key ceremony. The guy should search for other stuff to be doing too. Wish them the best.


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