Cutehector:
so na because of kiss u wan use take spoil ur marriage

It might seem minor to you but it's a actually a big deal

Na wa o, for younger generation?? Anyway, kiss your children. When your husband see u doing that, he will know something is wrong somewhere and will be ready to talk or at least, negotiate

Am sure the wife has a repulsive foul smelling breath or she got holes in her teeth as bacteria depot. She needs to see dentist and practice good oral hygiene.....brushing at least twice a day, use listerine mouth wash and avoid food and drinks that supports bad breath. Probably the guy must have noticed sores in his mouth after kissing or had series of sore throat after kissing wife. Some ladies breath or mouth odour is D.I.E. (Mouth smelling like Poo). Sometimes I wonder if they eat poo. There is no correlation between beauty and good dental hygiene...neither is beauty a guarantee of exclusion from repulsive foul smelling breath. . No.offence.

germainediva:
She is 30 been married for 6yrs with 3kids. She noticed hubby stopped kissing her after she had her last child......

Whenever she tries to kiss him,he just pecks her on the lips and that's all...and if she complains......he says its for the younger generation that she should forget about it........

When she tries to talk about it, he says she's nagging and being childish and looking for trouble where there's none.

Now its been over a year and she been fantasizing about it, recently she ran into her ex and one thing led to another and she had a very passionate kiss but nothing else happened.

She has been feeling guilty....her ex has been calling her but she has refused to pick his call because she never intended to cheat on her husband.......

Hubby has warned her not to bring up the issue of kissing .....now she is fantasizing about kissing....

Is there another way to communicate it to hubby?

Tell her to start brushing her teeth and floss regularly. The husband is being nice. Her mouth stinks PERIOD.
By the way, she is a cooonnnnnt for kissing her ex. Anyway, all these tales by moonlight stories sef....

Moana:


I have always seen guys on NL saying that a woman should be blamed if her husband falls into the arms of another woman because she is not focusing on him enough and i will use this opportunity to give the same advice, the husband should be blamed for letting his wife fall into the hands of another man. Since he doesnt want to be romantic with his wife, let her find happiness elsewhere.

Sorry to say but you have a lot of growing up to do! 6 year old marriage with 3 kids and the best advice you can give is to find happiness elsewhere? SMH!

Moana:


I have always seen guys on NL saying that a woman should be blamed if her husband falls into the arms of another woman because she is not focusing on him enough and i will use this opportunity to give the same advice, the husband should be blamed for letting his wife fall into the hands of another man. Since he doesnt want to be romantic with his wife, let her find happiness elsewhere.

smart and true. Double standards on NL

ArabianPrince:
Am sure the wife has a repulsive foul smelling breath or she got holes in her teeth as bacteria depot. She needs to see dentist and practice good oral hygiene.....brushing at least twice a day, use listerine mouth wash and avoid food and drinks that supports bad breath. Probably the guy must have noticed sores in his mouth after kissing or had series of sore throat after kissing wife. Some ladies breath or mouth odour is D.I.E. (Mouth smelling like Poo). Sometimes I wonder if they eat poo. There is no correlation between beauty and good dental hygiene...neither is beauty a guarantee of exclusion from repulsive foul smelling breath. . No.offence.

Exactly!

Na wa ooo!
this is a very simple issue to resolve, since kissing is forbidden inside the house (I assume f.ucking is allowed); do the kissing outside and the f.ucking inside.

She should get her head examined.
If na kiss dey worry her make she go begin kiss up and down then.
Because she no see kiss she go kiss her ex, well dog wey wan die no dey hear e master whistle.
Na her marriage and joy she wan loose so over kiss matter. When e don red for her, make she compare which one come pay her pass.
She is obviously an idle woman

Issues like these all boils down to communication. Are you trying to tell me that a 6 year old marriage is not mature enough to be able to tell each other anything? If the problem is with you, your husband should be able to share with you how to resolve it. Calm him down one day, fix his favorite meal, rub his back and then let him know what's bugging you. Unless the man is related to Abacha, he would definitely want to resolve the issue. On another point of view, are you sure he didn't accidently discover you kissing another man? Times without numbers I've seen guys deal with unfaithful partners by killing them slowly

nwadiuko1:
Seriously this is a very deep issue.....maybe the husband is someone like me who don like the idea of kissing

If you dont like kissing during romance hour. Then you are still in the dark bro.

Hilarious. Cheaters would always look for a lifeline, some reason to present for their despicable actions. Cheat on, woman! Please come back later to persuade the world when you finally take the route of adultery. Why did you marry him when you knew he didn't fancy kissing? Unstable as water, untrustworthy generation!

abbey621:


Sorry to say but you have a lot of growing up to do! 6 year old marriage with 3 kids and the best advice you can give is to find happiness elsewhere? SMH!

arent men with more than 3kids finding happiness elsewhere everyday? So why are u acting like its new?

abbey621:
Issues like these all boils down to communication. Are you trying to tell me that a 6 year old marriage is not mature enough to be able to tell each other anything? If the problem is with you, your husband should be able to share with you how to resolve it. Calm him down one day, fix his favorite meal, rub his back and then let him know what's bugging you. Unless the man is related to Abacha, he would definitely want to resolve the issue. On another point of view, are you sure he didn't accidently discover you kissing another man? Times without numbers I've seen guys deal with unfaithful partners by killing them slowly

you missed the part where its written that she has complained to him about it? She should continue speaking to deaf ears abi?

thorpido:
Is her breath okay?
Age should not be a reason to stop kissing.Some elderly people still do.
There must be something the hubby is not telling her..

You are right. It could be her breath or her personal hygiene which the husband would not want to say it out.

Someone women do not want to look good after having babies and think they can rekindle the old swag with her present status as a mother.

Let her go back and check herself properly to know why the sudden change. Her old Ex can kiss her even if maggot is been seen inside her mouth without minding because he wants to taste her punny.

The lady in question has a history of posting useless topics which all make front page. Some of her previous topics are, why do men cheat sweet, Hubby complains of wife not giving him mouth action, wife complains of hubby not kissing her. It's interesting that all these topics make front page. I think she's on someone's payroll and should not be taken seriously

Cutehector:
so na because of kiss u wan use take spoil ur marriage

bros abeg comot near thatv beach..i no get strength to save you if that water carry you......

Moana:
arent men with more than 3kids finding happiness elsewhere everyday? So why are u acting like its new?

Funny, people like you just don't get it. Women can get bleeped by any guy but to find one that will put you in his house and call you his wife is very scarce! Single ladies are still looking for husbands not to talk of after 3 and to make things worse when the kids ask why did you leave our father, her response would be "he refused to kiss me", nonsense!

Another dumb woman on the loose!

Moana:
you missed the part where its written that she has complained to him about it? She should continue speaking to deaf ears abi?

The keyword here is complain. Instead of complaining she should try communicating. It's not about the message but the way the message gets to the receiver!

abbey621:


Funny, people like you just don't get it. Women can get bleeped by any guy but to find one that will put you in his house and call you his wife is very scarce! Single ladies are still looking for husbands not to talk of after 3 and to make things worse when the kids ask why did you leave our father, her response would be "he refused to kiss me", nonsense!

its only a stupid man who will leave his wife over a kiss, since you are trying to make it seem like something very trivial

Op, having gone through most of your posts, I can put this straight to you that you are the one involved.

All your posts are ' 'my friend told me". You are only deceiving yourself.Go get yourself cleaned up and stop messing up trying to get answers to your problems, rather than saying it the way it is.

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abbey621:


The keyword here is complain. Instead of complaining she should try communicating. It's not about the message but the way the message gets to the receiver!

last time i checked u use words to make a complaint so it is communicating

If something is a problem for one of you, then it's a problem for both of you. Clearly, this is one of those times. Kissing is probably an act you enjoy not just because it's a sensuous promise of more to come, but because it symbolizes your intimate connection. Without it, you're worried that something bigger has flown out of your life.

You're right to worry. Even though your husband still wants sex, your instincts about his loss of passion are probably on target. Passion does wane over time for men and women, especially with the stresses of parenthood. Yet many men will continue to have sex without it.

Stop nagging your husband about the kissing and have a serious heart-to-heart with him about your underlying worries. Try normalizing the situation for him first. Tell your husband that you understand men sometimes feel less desire after they see their wives become mothers. Then put the problem in a positive light by asking what both of you can do to revitalize your sexual relationship. You might suggest regular date nights, for instance, as a way to stop feeling and acting like parents 24-7. Or your husband may reveal that he's resentful or angry about something, like the fact that he's working while you stay home with the kids or something.

Addressing the larger issues together may well get him to be more affectionate because he won't be bottling up his feelings. You may really need to press him on this issue, but don't give up.

Your husband may avoid conversations about passion because he's afraid to admit he doesn't feel any. But it is an important part of most couples' relationship, and you'll both benefit from getting it back.

Kissing your ex. may indicate you're the problem.

By the time she begin to kiss the house boy na then he go hear word.

Exafter 3kids??

I don't know why some people don't want to grow. Imagine someone's 'Kiss". OK go ahead and look for kiss by all means because ur Husband is interested in it any more

This is a new low! If kisses become nil, na make we jejely close shop. Abi, how does he expect me to get interested in the deed if kisses are not allowed? Might as well bunk a log! Orisirisi

germainediva:
The lady in question neither has bad breath nor mouth odor...............hubby said he never liked kissing but was just doing it accassionally then to please her but that he can't do it anymore

Either hubby is a gay or he is cheating on you or he is no longer attracted to you. Explore these three possibilities cos the answer lies in one of them. Hope you have a plan of action in case it is any one of them.

As regards your ex, stop feeling guilty. Only thing is give him a wide berth otherwise you'll keep making the same mistake over and over again until your home crashes.

I really feel sorry for your marriage. Many ignorant folks here never take into consideration the fact that it takes a spark to burn a forest. The spark could be something as negligible as a kiss.

Your husband is a complete selfish and inconsiderate prig. Your body belongs to him as his body belongs to you. Married couples should never deny each other their bodies since their bodies are no longer theirs by marital union. If in any case he remains adamant in his stance on kissing, be ready to live the rest of your life without that aspect of your marriage. What's the worst that can happen?

Story for the gods o

Instead of her to think about how the children will gradute, she is thinking of irrelevant thigs like kiss
Is good the man share the wahala so that she will know khaki is not leather

Moana:
last time i checked u use words to make a complaint so it is communicating

You are right it is communicating but the type of communication we are seeking here is called effective communication. Any mad person can make noise but it takes a reasonable minded person to deliver the message effectively to the intended audience! I'm an Aries if there's one thing I hate in a woman it is one without a sense of direction or time. If you want something from me better cool the hell down and discuss with me when I'm relaxed otherwise you'll just be speaking to thin air!