butanep:
@ bolded. You are here on nairaland lying and saying what you have never done and what you can't do.
Take it or leave it, most of you girls are just bunch of broke ass looking for who to prey upon.

ronald4lif:


Don't get into a crossfire, miss. This thread is like a revenge of one created today were guys got lambasted for inviting girls to their homes. How can you people expect a date out in a restaurant and place all the bills on the guys shoulder?. And when they employ ways of cutting cost and minimising expenditure it becomes a problem?. It's payback time.

DollyParton1:

There are other places u can go to minimise cost. It doesn't necessarily have to be the guys house.

DollyParton1:


Nigga phlurse, u don't know me like that.
Take your smelly post outta my face.

Insidous:


There are guys who still pick up the whole tab in the western world, what is your beef . Personally, whether I offer or not would depend on the circumstances. Well, I think the problem we have in Nigeria is the non-reciprocal attitude of our girls in relationship- WAIT O! Don't they cook for you in return? That should definitely count.

*Back to disqus*

I think who is to pick up the tab on a date is not the issue, the issue is our girls attitude towards relationship as a whole. Both sexes are guilty of having a sense of entitlement however it magnified in our women, that is where the problem lies.

adeh39:
Mmmmn............ There is nothing wrong in splitting the bills or even paying all as a lady, but Nigeria guys are so proud that they won't allow the lady to do that, They think that it's their responsibility as a man to always foot the bills, So I don't know the reason why Guys are complaining now

Shebi you guys "ARE THE MAN", so take the full responsibility of it and stop complaining.


#TEAM SCENT

it ain't about being proud,it's just a norm that has been in with the Nigerian/African culture of the man has to pay all bills syndrome and this would not stop anytime soon.

Anyone can foot the bill, regardless of the host

ronald4lif:

Sure there are guys who pick up bills abroad, I do too. Just like there are Nigerian women who pick up bills everywhere too. We're gisting about the larger scale though. But what we're saying is, if ladies decline a date at our home and insist on public places like restaurant, they should be willing to pick up or contribute in paying the bills.

butanep:
I don't need to know you before I know your kind of girl.

You are simply one of the broke ass lady period

ronald4lif:


Good and fine. If there's a suitable place where they can have a time out without anyone spending then perfect. But if there isn't we the Nigerian men singles club (NMAC) insist it must be at our home.

xp17:
it ain't about being proud,it's just a norm that has been in with the Nigerian/African culture of the man has to pay all bills syndrome and this would not stop anytime soon.

Anyone can foot the bill, regardless of the host

DollyParton1:

You are the NMAC publicity secretary?

butanep:
@ bolded. You are here on nairaland lying and saying what you have never done and what you can't do.
Take it or leave it, most of you girls are just bunch of broke ass looking for who to prey upon.

ronald4lif:


Maybe, maybe not. But I think our voice is one on this particular issue. And I stand to be corrected by any member of our inestimable organisation.

angieberry:

@agapechar is
You should first ask me if I go on dates na?? But when I go out(casually) with male friends, I pay for my own stuff (while they protest, of course), but e no concern me
And, in would never ask a guy out

@ronald4 liff
At that other thread, the main point the op was trying to make was that she felt it was very suggestive when a man asks a girl(especially one they barely know) to come to his house. I also concurred on that. I didn't read the thread to the end and I don't know how it was derailed into arguments about footing the bill And in the west, where chivalry is still very much alive, I want to believe that the man still foots the bill

Lol. I don't have anything to prove. I know my worth

Hmmmmm Good for you.

DollyParton1:


Did u read my post thoroughly? Did you notice I referred to both gender? Whether you are male or female, if you invite anyone out to lunch or whatever, you should be ready to foot the bills. If you can't foot the bills exclusively, let him/her know before hand.

I have gone out with couple of guys who had to caution me to keep my wallet anytime am with a guy, that a lady shouldn't pay for anything in the presence of a guy. One even went ahead to say its an insult on his person. I am the type of person that will bring out my wallet when the bill is presented, its left to the guy if he wants to share the bills with me or not. And if I am broke, I would let the guy know before hand.

And if a girl refuse to go on a second date because you asked her to split the bill with u, you should be happy. It just goes to show she is after your money. Or aren't u guys always complaining about girls trying to dig your golds.
If I see what I like in a guy, except the splitting bills side, I will still go on second and even third date with him. Onky if his reason for splitting the bills with me doesn't sit well with me, would I refuse to go on more dates with him.

ronald4lif:


At the emboldened - that reason is pedestrian and flimsy. A man don't have to inform her before she knows she has to pay for her own consumables. Na she chop the food for Christ sake. Do one need to remind someone to pay for whatever they consume themselves?. She's aware that in a restaurant payments are made for whatever cuisine or orders one requested for and doesn't need to be reminded.

DollyParton1:

U make me laugh.

No boy. Had to go through ur profile and previous posts on nairaland. I can buy you ten times man. You are not even fit to call my dog broke.

DollyParton1:

If u don't have money, don't take a girl out, its not by force. If I ask u out, I should have it at the back of my mind that I might pay the whole bill.

No, it should be if a guy ask a girl out on a date and she knows she doesn't have money to pay for her own stuff she should decline the invitation. It isn't a must she attend and he didn't force her to attend with a pointing gun.

And if she must attend she should be considerate by ordering for normal and cost friendly items on the menu list. Not requesting for shawarma, fried rice, isiewu, cocktail juice etc and as if that is not enough ask for take away package. She wan kill the guy

DollyParton1:

U make me laugh.

No boy. Had to go through ur profile and previous posts on nairaland. I can buy you ten times man. You are not even fit to call my dog broke.

buy him as a dido or as what?
BTW, ain't 10 too much?

ronald4lif:


No, it should be if a guy ask a girl out on a date and she knows she doesn't have money to pay for her own stuff she should decline the invitation. It isn't a must she attend and he didn't force her to attend with a pointing gun.

And if she must attend she should be considerate by ordering for normal and cost friendly items on the menu list. Not requesting for shawarma, fried rice, isiewu, cocktail juice etc and as if that is not enough ask for take away package. She wan kill the guy

xp17:
buy him as a dido or as what?
BTW, ain't 10 too much?

whizqueen:
All this points you guys are raising here sef is just biased. You shouldn't generalize this issue. Some of these things are even caused by the male folks to be precised.

An incident happened one time and lemme narrate how it went so you can say your opinion about the matter.
I boarded a bus one day and I met a male friend of mine. we chatted all through the journey till I got to the bus stop where I was gonna drop. I paid the transport fare for both of us and I waved good bye and left. I met the guy the following morning in school, instead of him to just say thanks for yesterday (yoruba culture na) or just ignore it. He walked up to me and started saying bullshit that next time if he can't pay for both of us I should just pay my own bill nd let him pay his, I shouldn't even dare to pay for both again. Isn't that being proud and too egoistic? I started regretting my actions sef.

Now tell me, if such guy invites me on a date with him another time do you think I'll offer to even pay a penny? I wouldn't because I don't want to but because I know he will see it as an insult to his personality or something.

Tell me what I did wrong?
Cc. Naija boiy
Ronald 4lif
Agape Charis

Hahahahahahahahahahaa
That guy is a dunce!! Who does that??
Well, your story doesn't negate the facts we stated above. Or did it??

DollyParton1:

U make me laugh.

No boy. Had to go through ur profile and previous posts on nairaland. I can buy you ten times man. You are not even fit to call my dog broke.

AgapeCharis:
Hahahahahahahahahahaa
That guy is a dunce!! Who does that??
Well, your story doesn't negate the facts we stated above. Or did it??

butanep:
Accept it or leave it...

You are certainly not my type. I don't mingle with broke ass girls...

whizqueen:
All this points you guys are raising here sef is just biased. You shouldn't generalize this issue. Some of these things are even caused by the male folks to be precised.

An incident happened one time and lemme narrate how it went so you can say your opinion about the matter.
I boarded a bus one day and I met a male friend of mine. we chatted all through the journey till I got to the bus stop where I was gonna drop. I paid the transport fare for both of us and I waved good bye and left. I met the guy the following morning in school, instead of him to just say thanks for yesterday (yoruba culture na) or just ignore it. He walked up to me and started saying bullshit that next time if he can't pay for both of us I should just pay my own bill nd let him pay his, I shouldn't even dare to pay for both again. Isn't that being proud and too egoistic? I started regretting my actions sef.

Now tell me, if such guy invites me on a date with him another time do you think I'll offer to even pay a penny? I wouldn't because I don't want to but because I know he will see it as an insult to his personality or something.

Tell me what I did wrong?
Cc. Naija boiy
Ronald 4lif
Agape Charis

segedoo:
@smgs
cc: dollyparton1
angieberry

Whatever happened to going on a date in a park, zoo, spring etc - where u pack some lunch and camp mat and just see nature, have fun and the spread a mat, talk and eat? not forgetting to take pictures?

I miss those. unfortunately, very few ladies I've invited could conceive a date @ these places.

Museums and galleries are also great places to go on a date.

Does it have to be restaurant or where there might undue pressure to impress or project an impression?

Call me old-fashioned. I think I am

ronald4lif:


Your encounter with this guy isn't uncommon and neither is it an unusual reaction from men once a woman attempt to foot their bills. Most guys will feel embarrassed but I don't think it's an excuse why ladies don't want to own up to their responsibility of splitting bills on a first date. We don't even expect a woman to pay on a date.

Personally, I only bring up this issue to counter women arguments and false assertion in regards to the man having to bear all financial responsibilities in a relationship. Not anything serious.