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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by streetzdreamz(m): 8:28pm On Jun 21, 2015
I always felt the same way back then,tried my best to please people,socialize,make friends but it never worked,in a crowd i'l always find a way to segregate maself and it comes naturally with no effort at all,it got worse during ma early days in d uni,got a tag from ma colleagues,actually people see the wrong reflection about me,yea a times am as annoyingly quiet as f*ck,am so off the key when it comes to the social world, I prefer staying indoors Rather than socialize as I have no friends,people have this general believe about me,that am proud and obviously believe they aint good enough for me,and thats why am staying off,@op there is nothing wrong with you,if there is an afterlife a perfect replica of who i am now would be ma first wish.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by trappatoni(m): 8:29pm On Jun 21, 2015
it's okay to be an introvert, it's even more interesting when they look down on you and you come out tops in class, whoop their as. s at chess.... my dear people will never know the level to which you can reason, but when they get to know you they'll definitely marvel.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by NthabeM: 8:31pm On Jun 21, 2015
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert as it is just a personality type and not a disability of some sort as people sometimes make it out to be.

Unfortunately, this world seems to favour extroverts and us introverts are incorrectly labelled as arrogant and full of ourselves if we are not as engaging in conversation as other people. This can even affect you at work where you are not trusted to be able to make presentations or communicate directly with clientèle because of your quiet nature. And the endless annoying times when people like asking you why you're so quiet (this can be really irritating angry)). All this is of course not accurate as If you have to present or talk to clients you're just as capable anyone else, you will just approach it In your own quiet way grin

All that matters though Is that you love and accept yourself wholeheartedly and everything else will fall into place. Your destiny ties in with the personality and talents that God has given you. Hang in there.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:34pm On Jun 21, 2015
I'm not an expert in this area,but from research and other people's experience,I've observed that introverts end up attracting their opposites which are extroverts. Me,i'm a mixture of both,there are times I just want to be alone to meditate,read,write and just watch tv,and there are also days I want to be around my family and friends,party,picnic etc. But my husband is an extrovert,sanguine and a fun person. Don't judge yourself or regret the way nature has made you,there's someone who'll love you for who you are. I wish all the men and all the dads that are doing it right a happy father's day!
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Chubhie: 8:39pm On Jun 21, 2015
It is a phase and you would get through it. What you spend this period doing will likely determine how enriching this existence is for you.

Discover and develop yourself. If your reason for electing to be alone cos of toxic people and being taken advantage of then this is the time to work on yourself and become grounded.

I love spending sometimes alone yet one you would wish to have on your team. I don't deny such people of those expectations and will give my best in a cause I believe in and only seek to be alone when drained which is respected.

This world is all about experiences. Why deny yourself such?
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by demolaprof(m): 8:40pm On Jun 21, 2015
I think u guys should just stop talking about me
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by neocortex: 8:41pm On Jun 21, 2015
@op
There is nothing wrong in being an introvert even though some people might not agree. That is their problem to deal with.
Your stories sound very familiar to me , it is always the same pattern of people close to you expecting you to behave
in a particular way and they get disappointed when you don't.

Note that those complaining about your behavior erroneously believes that they are trying to correct a "bad"
character because they don't understand how you feel or reason.

If you feel the pressure is becoming unbearable simply create a distraction with something unusual and everybody will see nothing to complain about.
e.g get more visits from your friend or make a new friend(preferably an introvert)

By the way , I do not believe in stereotyping because everybody has some level of introversy/extroversy in them.
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Audray(f): 8:43pm On Jun 21, 2015
INTROVERT:
WHO IS TALKING ABOUT ME grin grin

Hey Winnieberry I feel your pain but being an introvert is totally awesome for many reasons.
Being an introvert dosent mean you won't have friends or go out or have fun or boring. Take me for example, ave been a guest on NL for 2 years and I just registered last month but am well known now for just causing ish on FTC. As an introvert, It means you are in control of yourself and your emotions. Even if you are misunderstood don't mind them or give an F.

You Don't need to suck up to any friend.
You are intelligent and a deep intellectual cos you spend a lot of time reading books and surfing the net
[s]You become a goddess of the front page of NL[/s]


Don't let any one change you and as for your man, Hey sister don't rush or push it cos at the appropriate time you will get the best God has planned out for you.
Besides many men are looking for quiet(introverts).

kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss xo xo.
I LOVE YOU!!!
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:44pm On Jun 21, 2015
classicB:


I get moody alot. Hardly do i see my extrovert friends get moody like that.

I get very moody too, I know it's cos I'm melancholic. Maybe all melancholics are introverted. My extroverted friends annoy me lol cheesy
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by gj22(m): 8:44pm On Jun 21, 2015
winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv reading novels browse with my phone rather than chat with people.it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot E.g am not sociable,I don't go out its bad for a girl hw will toasters or my Future husband find me. It hurts me at times why can't people let me be for who I am cmon everyone can't be d same.To them am too secretive and sensitive,I choose to be secretive cos people can't just keep secrets , u tell smone somting .d nxt ting every else knows wat u told them.A lot of people tink am probably suffering frm insecurity,inferirity complex ,lowself esteem,Hell no .Pls anything wrong with been an introvert?

You are not alone in that world. I am a pure introvert too and used to beat myself up about it until a few years ago when I just stopped trying to be what everyone wants me to be.

When I first entered uni, my friends would drag me to parties. I hate parties and am always bored. After my first year, I just stopped trying to be that guy because that guy wasn't me. I embraced it and just stop giving a sh1t about what my friends were saying about me and I have never been happier.

Own it. I once stayed at home for 4mnts without stepping out (only to church). My friends think I have abandoned them or something, they just don't understand that I am not the going out type.

Just make sure you do productive things in your "alone time" and you will be fine, it worked for me. this is important.

There is a TEDtalk video titled "the power of introverts " that might help you.

Here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Ewuro4: 8:46pm On Jun 21, 2015
mutter:
No! great minds need their own company.

The problem is you are like a closed book, but the moment you open up: they read you, use you, abuse you and dump you.

Remain the way you! Be true to yourself. The world has got enough court clowns.

Court clowns indeed!

How are you and family Mutter? Happy Father's Day to your oga.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by firstolalekan(m): 8:46pm On Jun 21, 2015
Where is that foólish shemąle boy that calls himself INTROVERT
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by ChynoBEATS: 8:47pm On Jun 21, 2015
winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv, reading novels ,browse with my phone rather than chat with people.
it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos


My friends do be like "Guy nawa u Ó" ........ U nodey commot....

While my female friends be like "ah why dont you like calling...... You're such a snub.........you like avoiding peeps..... Blah blah blaaaah........




While I'll be like

Is being reserved a sin??.......









winnieberry:

I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot

Wow....i guess We're the same


No matter how much i have ......... I still wont call.....
Except it's important .....












I never knew I'm an introvert tho..........











I think I'm just a reserved being
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Pamcrest(f): 8:48pm On Jun 21, 2015
Op, too much of everything is bad! There's a fine line between being an introvert and a recluse. Pls u need to interact physically with people...browsing online alone isn't enough.....u can't be truly certain who u are chatting with. Visit a friend or school mate, go out for lunch or dinner or window shopping with someone, even your mum. U don't have to go to clubs or parties, getting more involved in church or school activities suffice.
Most of these guys who go out to shoot indiscriminately are usually introverts, who stay online all day, not talking to anyone, not going anywhere, no support system whatsoever, no outlet for their innermost thoughts....what's worse they are young with their whole lives out in front of them, yet......
Pls op, socialize more, for your physical well being....abeg!
My humble two cents

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by omojeesu(m): 8:48pm On Jun 21, 2015
Nothing, except when it becomes morbid. Then help is needed from a good friend, counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist or pastor.

The introvert state becomes morbid when the person 'shuts self in' for a significant part of the day for days, weeks or months affecting relationships and productivity.
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by firstolalekan(m): 8:48pm On Jun 21, 2015
winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv reading novels browse with my phone rather than chat with people.it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot E.g am not sociable,I don't go out its bad for a girl hw will toasters or my Future husband find me. It hurts me at times why can't people let me be for who I am cmon everyone can't be d same.To them am too secretive and sensitive,I choose to be secretive cos people can't just keep secrets , u tell smone somting .d nxt ting every else knows wat u told them.A lot of people tink am probably suffering frm insecurity,inferirity complex ,lowself esteem,Hell no .Pls anything wrong with been an introvert?
You dey find husband?
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jun 21, 2015
firstolalekan:

You dey find husband?

cheesygrin All the things weh she write na that one you see eh.

Anyway, she is being truthful, introverts don't go out, or go to parties or even mix with people so it's always hard for young introverted ladies to find men quick. And the anti-social introverts are the worst hit
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jun 21, 2015
Abeg...Help me ask them?I just piled burning coals on a friend that wouldnt let me be...Always saying "come out of your shell",they dont know that like snails,some humans carry their shells with them...
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:53pm On Jun 21, 2015
I was an extreme introvert as a kid, I am a functional introvert as an adult! Nothing wrong with that....sometimes i feel like it is physically and mentally draining to be around people....Humans are generally full of flaws....gosh it feels good to be a perfect superhuman introvert! grin grin grin grin
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Adbash: 8:54pm On Jun 21, 2015
wow, I never believe I have a lot of people who are exactly like me. I always believe I am alone in this, though I never for once regret who I am. #Team introvert

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by JeffreyJamez(m): 8:56pm On Jun 21, 2015
eleojo23:
Introverts...the most misunderstood beings on the planet even though they have contributed immensely to the progress of mankind (great scientists, musicians, inventors etc).
If you need someone who will think outside the box by reflex, you'll most likely find that among the introverts.

Nothing wrong with being an introvert.

It is your nature and you did not choose to be made that way. But the problem is that the world prefers and celebrates extroversion.

One thing however is that both are needed to create balance in the human society.
Look at a picture of both personalities.

The extrovert is an outgoing person who is excited by being among/around people, he/she is easily bored when there is no activity to engage in. Yeah, he's got lots of energy to spare. He has no difficulty expressing his feelings. When he's angry, you know and when he's happy, it's also very obvious ('cos he can just throw a party to show his happiness). He may not be so much interested in deep intellectual talk (not in all cases though) but he likes small talks like discussing about the weather and things like that.

But the introvert is different. He is the quiet type who does most of his talking in his head. Yeah, he thinks a lot and likes to engage in deep and intellectual conversations. He can stay alone for days and not get bored. He is not so easy to 'read' when compared with the extrovert. You may not know when he's happy or sad because his default expression is
'blank'. He could be experiencing intense joy on the inside but the best he may do to show it would just be a smile (no, he won't go jumping up and down, screaming in excitement). He likes depth in whatever he does. Cool music playing in the background and a book in hand is a perfect way for him to spend the day. When he loves, he is usually committed to the one he loves... #my fingers are already getting numb from typing... #

Hence, you see that both are needed to complement each other so don't ever entertain the thought that something is wrong with you because you're an introvert.
However, you can try make friends with a moderate extrovert and you will see how it will help you open up a little, just the same way an extrovert's excesses are curbed when she has an introverted friend. I say moderate extrovert because a highly extroverted friend can drive you nuts with too much stimulation (from talking and other activities peculiar to her nature).

Pardon my long epistle


You forgot to Add that we intoverts like to work from the background!..... it's better that way..... away from all the noise and.......People!

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by JeffreyJamez(m): 8:57pm On Jun 21, 2015
ayoolanr:
I was an extreme introvert as a kid, I am a functional introvert as an adult! Nothing wrong with that....sometimes i feel like it is physically and mentally draining to be around people....Humans are generally full of flaws....gosh it feels good to be a perfect superhuman introvert! grin grin grin grin

When the presence of humans around me Start getting to 4...it's like I'm choking!..... Especially when it's unfamiliar crowd... That's just torture!!!

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jun 21, 2015
Come out of your shell a little bit... you would get to learn a lot. Just make it a skill that you need to learn to be a well rounded individual.
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jun 21, 2015
ayoolanr:
I was an extreme introvert as a kid, I am a functional introvert as an adult! Nothing wrong with that....sometimes i feel like it is physically and mentally draining to be around people....Humans are generally full of flaws....gosh it feels good to be a perfect superhuman introvert! grin grin grin grin

Too much drama with humans!cant deal...In a world where everyone is overexposed,the coolest thing is to maintain your mystery.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 8:59pm On Jun 21, 2015
Are introverts born or made?, as far personality goes and temperaments introverts are made not born, even the most extrovercial of individuals, given the right reasons and circumstances would be introverts and verse versal.
Humans are emotional and expressionate beings thats our default settings, it means yhu wanna laugh. Yhu wanna create, yhu wanna share, yhu need attention to be mentally and psychological balance etc, even God himself expresses the above characters, as evident in the creation of humans. The primary need of adam while in the garden of Eden was a companion, someone like him, he could talk too and express himself with.

There'z no psychological findings that suggests introverts are breed out of insecurity or fear but one thing is constant with all introverts there is always a reason for being introvercial, even the OP expresses a reason unintentional, every good psychologist should that's an insecurity, a fear of some sort. Maybe it just the fact introverts are really sensitive, the most sensitive of people build the strongest and well reviewed fort/boundaries, constantly being reviewed, the introvert is creature of contempt, it there curse to bear. Think it has something to do with that ability to form internal dialogue. Introverts are so intelligent mentally they have form multiple perception without knowing, and picture all that mental power focused on yhur insecurities.

The extrovercial brain function in a different way, call it a weakness of some sort, an ability to focus outside, lets just say they ignore there insecurities or, the extrovercial mind is one prone to ignoring the inside and seeking perception and stimulation outside, they literally wish the world around them gleeful and as a matter of perception the world becomes gleeful.

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by eleojo23: 8:59pm On Jun 21, 2015
JeffreyJamez:


You forgot to Add that we intoverts like to work from the background!..... it's better that way..... away from all the noise and.......People!
Yeah, how could I have forgotten that fact? I'll include it immediately. Thanks. smiley
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by JeffreyJamez(m): 9:01pm On Jun 21, 2015
eleojo23:

Yeah, how could I have forgotten that fact? I'll include it immediately. Thanks. smiley

You're welcome! smiley
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by JeffreyJamez(m): 9:02pm On Jun 21, 2015
eleojo23:

Yeah, how could I have forgotten that fact? I'll include it immediately. Thanks. smiley

Oh and we make good psychologist too. grin
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by davide470(m): 9:04pm On Jun 21, 2015
Scrypt:
I don't even know which I am anymore. Sometimes it just happens that I'd rather stay in my own world than be around people. I have more conversations in my head than I do in real world. lipsrsealed
That's how it starts. Then, you will start hearing imaginary songs in your head, and the voices will tell you to dance to it (Its your world, ain't it)..


You know the rest. wink
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by lovely17(m): 9:06pm On Jun 21, 2015
Whoops I found my kind there is just one disadvantage it's really hard to get over a break up/rejection even after a year it's still hurts

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Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Jun 21, 2015
davide470:
That's how it starts. Then, you will start hearing imaginary songs in your head, and the voices will tell you to dance to it (Its your world, ain't it)..


You know the rest. wink
Lmao! You Don too dey watch movies. Cut your time spent at cinema houses. tongue
Re: What Is Wrong With Being An Introvert? by Collinsemegreat(m): 9:07pm On Jun 21, 2015
Am an introvert too! But why ask on NL meanwhile u like it? It's though being one bt if u're truely an introvert i knw u talk wit people on wat intrest u! Bt dn't lik talkng bt i dnt knw if u av d shy part u bt i hate and like it do!

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