Is the guy in the video a slut too?
Recording his sexual activities.
Yes, No?

If you can't answer yes or no without beating about the bush, don't bother.

Toks2008:


I dont care how deep the love is but if a lady im to get married to tells me she made a sex recording with an ex boyfriend i will simplu advice her to go into the porn industry.

It is manageable to immagine ten exes who have slept with you than to face the stark reality that my wife to be nudity is with another man and worst still might have been viewed by many.

Even K west with all the love he claims to have for kim k,he will always be haunted by that sex clip of his wife and her ex.

lets face it.its a very fooolish,myopic and totally dumb for a lady to allow herself being recorded in the act not even by her hubby howbeit a boyfriend.

sluttiness of the highest level.

Toks2008:


I dont care how deep the love is but if a lady im to get married to tells me she made a sex recording with an ex boyfriend i will simplu advice her to go into the porn industry.

It is manageable to immagine ten exes who have slept with you than to face the stark reality that my wife to be nudity is with another man and worst still might have been viewed by many.

Even K west with all the love he claims to have for kim k,he will always be haunted by that sex clip of his wife and her ex.

lets face it.its a very fooolish,myopic and totally dumb for a lady to allow herself being recorded in the act not even by her hubby howbeit a boyfriend.

sluttiness of the highest level.

And you do know that some people don't know there is a video of them out there having sex? Some depraved guys have hidden camera's too. What them if you find out an ex did such to your intending wife? If I was the OP sef, when the guy brings it up, I will pretend like I do not know what he is talking about. If your fiancé finds out, say it was without your consent. Except you were doing styles with hand camera. Lmao. Tufiakwa. I never did sex video, but who knows what type of mad people are out there. If such video comes out of your wife, as long as you were not a virgin yourself, you can move on easily from it. I see no big deal at all. Except the video was boring and really bad sex. If a video came out about my husband and he had really bad sex, I will be ashamed, angry and disappointed at him for that. Lmao. Not the Fact that there is a video out there of him

baby124:
Call his bluff. Never encourage such people. If he goes ahead and posts it, you too shame him by exposing who he is and how weak he is truly. Send the video to his wife and all threatening texts for sex. Post that information online with his real name. Destroy him wella. We will see who will lose. If he is abroad and can't find a job to support his family, then he will understand that he played himself. Your fiancé will stay if he loves you. We have all done stupid things.

I think u r right on point... She cld also do a little research on him to knw abt his family too on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and so on to knw more abt his family and wok.. Forward such information to him dat u wll also share d video also...

adeekiti:
In the first why should u make videos with a Man U ain't married to? It describes who u are , pornstars make videos so my question is 'were u a IndecentStar' now u av to pay for it , why crying but here is my candid advice tell ur hubby about ur past if only u never lied abt yourself and if lucky enough u get away with this mehn I congratulate u, it's disgusting making sex videos with a bf Chaii naija babes won't stop to amaze me, Now I see reasons why most men don't wanna get married , that beautiful girl u just met was a IndecentStar in her past so how will she erase it in the future... Una go dey fvck up and down, if I see any girl for Nairaland dey talk abt sex again, I will arrest una, una see una life that girl wey u spoil her with ur kini na another man wife tomoro o, but karma is a always waiting at its bustop omo u go pay o

Even as a married woman I could never make such a video. Unfortunately a lot of women these days do not think about the long term consequences. Any man that suggest I send nude pics or wants to make a sex video is a no go area for me!

baby124:


And you do know that some people don't know there is a video of them out there having sex? Some depraved guys have hidden camera's too. What them if you find out an ex did such to your intending wife? If I was the OP sef, when the guy brings it up, I will pretend like I do not know what he is talking about. If your fiancé finds out, say it was without your consent. Except you were doing styles with hand camera. Lmao. Tufiakwa. I never did sex video, but who knows what type of mad people are out there. If such video comes out of your wife, as long as you were not a virgin yourself, you can move on easily from it. I see no big deal at all. Except the video was boring and really bad sex. If a video came out about my husband and he had really bad sex, I will be ashamed, angry and disappointed at him for that. Lmao. Not the Fact that there is a video out there of him

I understand you perfectly and you are thinking like a perfect lady but most guys wont see it that way whether good or bad sex and infact for guys it better be a bad one.

However no matter how a guy tries to understand that it was a hidden camera,it will still haunt and hurt him no matter how matured he wants to act.

Let her get him arrested by the police . DAT will definitely stop him if truly if he has s video
And dat can b done without d knowledge her own man

cococandy:
Is the guy in the video a slut too?
Recording his sexual activities.
Yes, No?

If you can't answer yes or no without beating about the bush, don't bother.

An emphatic NO.

Im even surprised you are asking this funny question.

How can a man be a slut for doing thatYes he is foolish and irresponsible but sluttiness is the least word because to the guy the lady is an object of conquest and just as a lady poster wrote,she will even be happy if her hubby performs well in a sex recording but im yet to see a man that will be proud of his woman sexing so good in a video recording.

I remember the day my ex insisted we record a sex session and i vehemently refused yet she went ahead to do it and i had to delete the recording.

Imagine now that we are no longer together and that tape is with me,even if i dont use it against her,the fear that i have it will almost kill her.

ladies should get their brain set because you can fall out of relationship with even a guy you never taught you can part with.

Some thibgs are better imagined than viewed.

She is indeed very stupid,I mean idiot of the highest order.
How in her nincompoop mind will she think she can invite ur ex to ur wedding not even an ordinary ex,ur ex pornmate.
I guess she wan continue where she stopped with the ex.
She can't be trusted enuf like most 9ja babes.

If I were the fiancé,I ll definitely call off every preparation with this untrusted b.iatch.PERIOD.

@Op,#Msadviser just tell her as u think."e no concern u".

The sad thing is people will not learn from this. This suggests to me that she may not have been completely open with her fiance. But then, I don't think any Nigerian man would want a wife whose sex escapade was caught on tape, him no be kanye west na...lol. She should just prepare her mind for the worst and come clean with him- for her conscience sake. She wouldn't want to go into a marriage with that kind of guilt.

The thing with blackmailers is, they always come back. Its possible he may just be joking and not even have any video but she shouldnt take it lightly, she should try to get evidence of his threat/blackmail against her and report him to the concerned department in the police. She shld even threaten to report too to the FBI peradventure he decides to post when he leaves the country. SHE MUST TAKE CHARGE!!! Going about sobbing, crying up and down wldnt solve anything, she needs to be very tactical. I guess now shes suffering for her past, unconfessed sins...

I can imagine what the woman is going through. It really does depend on the man, at the very least, she shld know the type of man she is marrying and should be able to predict how he will react. If he's a kinda person that can't stomach it, she shouldn't tell him and deal with the dude (There is a million ways she could do that - I would suggest accusing him of rape. Stage the whole thing and give it an oscar winning performance. I think that attracts life in jail right). If he's the kinda person that would support her no matter what, then she should tell him, In my experience, I find out that those kind of people would rather want to know than utter thr words 'You should have told me' if they find out of their own. The whole rape thing applies for both cases anyways. That little c*nt deserves what ever it is that comes his way.

jayfolarin:


Besides telling the fiance, I am 100 with ur suggestion. The idi.ot will definitely pay for this.

Girlfriend was just with me now, I even showed her this thread and the comments. She is just really scared a revelation such as this could ruin her relationship completely.

"He has been transparent with me, I know basically everything there is to know of his past, how do I tell him now that I did something this appalling and didn't mention it until now that's just few months to our wedding?"..her words

Mehn this matter just weak me.

She should not, never ever tell her fiance.
There are certain infos that are pretty damaging to someone's psych.

She should get a close relative to pose as her fiance and call the guy- tell him that he heard about blackmail and that will never make him to stop loving his lady!

When the blackmailer finds out that the "fiance" is aware and wouldn't care, he will back down!

Toks2008:


I dont care how deep the love is but if a lady im to get married to tells me she made a sex recording with an ex boyfriend i will simplu advice her to go into the porn industry.

It is manageable to immagine ten exes who have slept with you than to face the stark reality that my wife to be nudity is with another man and worst still might have been viewed by many.

Even K west with all the love he claims to have for kim k,he will always be haunted by that sex clip of his wife and her ex.

lets face it.its a very fooolish,myopic and totally dumb for a lady to allow herself being recorded in the act not even by her hubby howbeit a boyfriend.

sluttiness of the highest level.

After writing a thesis on how slutty she is, what's your solution?

She made a mistake, a stupid one at that but what's the use flogging a dead horse!

She needs help not bashing!

emmatok:


Her Sexcapade is not the issue here, but that the video evidence(twice recorded) is online or with some dud.

O boy the fiance will start thinking she is Nigerian Roxy Reynolds?

Now can a girl who is a virgin have a sex video? Kapital Nooooooooo.
Her sex video is still part of the sexcapade. For there is a very thin line separating the two.
I know the kind of sex gospel going on among the youth nowadays. Most young men around turn to pressurize and lure these young girls into sex through very silly tricks. Some tell them the thing will pain you when you do it with your husband as if the one they will do will not pain the girl. The evil system we are in only makes these girls believe sex before marriage is the norm.
The quest to examine and test every big manhood around during your high school days (maybe so as not to marry a small one) comes back to hurt us the more when we begin to reason with our senses even though it might be too late. You go for sex parties, dance naked and participate in group sex with different sets of people, forgeting that there is a beautiful but decent life, one should live before & after your high school days. You can't give the best part of your youthfulness to the devil and expect total peace afterwards.
A lot of girls still fall prey to to these sex pressures and as I speak with you, so many girls' sex videos are there stored in their boyfriends' electronic gadgets. Most of them don't even know when and how the whole thing was recorded. All these guys want is to have enough arsenal from which to pay you back the day you dump them. Some boys/girls call this sodomic evil 'game'. They trade this evil path both in the university and youth service days thinking it will just go like that. Not knowing that they are only planting bombs on their express route to a better life in marriage. Your fiance or husband may not find out about your past sexcapade, but you may have only succeeded in buying the costly and risky ticket of visiting different prayer houses for life in your marriage, even if your husband is a dummy or saint as the case may be. Your husband may have lived a decent live. But immediately he MEETS you, he will begin to go for other women so as to help you reap what you sowed (its natural, harvest time). Yes I know exactly what is going through the hearts of those who are readind this right now. "Every body has a past, but not every body's past is as evil and corrupt as others" "Are you a saint, perfect/Righteous?" 'No but am called to be on the path that leads to life' the path of perfection/holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.
#YouthsBeWarned#

Tell him now. Him leaving now is better than him leaving after marriage. Also Look for the family or the blackmailer and tell them too. They might be able to call him to order. It might not be a bluff, cos I have pictures and videos on my old memory cards from waaaay back. I am one paranoid dude. If my girl sees her ex and enchanges contacts, she Had better gimme a damn good reason why. If i see a video of her riding another dude like a stallion, loll, the look on my face will be enough to send the mrssage. Once again, paranoiddd

jameseva:
Tell him about sex video? Lol!Tell her not to try that nonsense if she likes her marraige oo. Even if the guy posts the recording, chances of your fiance or friends seeing it is pretty slim. Another advice, although bad, is that she should go hookup with the guy to silence him, it's not like it's d first time he's hit it. That way she can save her marriage and beg d other guy to delete d video or something. Whateva u decide, goodluck.

anything that will make the babe agree to let her ex bleep her is likely to reoccur again and again until the marriage is ruined!
The truth is, the video is nowhere to be found.
The guy will continue to be threatening her for the rest of her life with the video and be bleeping her. Don't try that nonsense. She should just delete the guy contact and avoid picking his call, else, the guy will torment her life with threat.
Again, never tell her hubby about it. Not all men can tolerate. She should just cut the off.

adeekiti:
In the first why should u make videos with a Man U ain't married to? It describes who u are , pornstars make videos so my question is 'were u a IndecentStar' now u av to pay for it , why crying but here is my candid advice tell ur hubby about ur past if only u never lied abt yourself and if lucky enough u get away with this mehn I congratulate u, it's disgusting making sex videos with a bf Chaii naija babes won't stop to amaze me, Now I see reasons why most men don't wanna get married , that beautiful girl u just met was a IndecentStar in her past so how will she erase it in the future... Una go dey fvck up and down, if I see any girl for Nairaland dey talk abt sex again, I will arrest una, una see una life that girl wey u spoil her with ur kini na another man wife tomoro o, but karma is a always waiting at its bustop omo u go pay o

Even with the man you are married to,why make videos?Anybody can use it against you

The porn star has now repented because she's seen a guy that's planning to take her to the altar. I just wonder why these young girls or teenagers can be so silly! And when you even advise them to watch the kind of friends they keep or date, they think you're just jealous; they feel it's every guy that wants to sleep with them. She should just be ready for any consequences that result from her silly actions, or whose fault is it that she dated a pervert and nincompoop? She might just take some of the sensible pieces of advice offered here, if she's lucky she might not lose her hubby to be. But she should know she can't eat her cake and have it. Who knows if the girl has even told us the whole truth as narrated by the OP?

andromida:
She has to tell if he loves her it should not break them.

well 1stly she hs to tell her man. Lets hope she hsnt been lying dt she had been a saint. 2ndly i am vry sure d man wont post dose videos online becos am sure he waz also fully naked in d videos. And as such he wudnt want dt kind of scandal to hit his home. He wudnt want his wife n kids to see him bleepin online. So he is jst makin empty threat. He also hs alot to lose like u if he eventually post it online.

Bluff or no bluff, let her go to the Police before he actually posts something.

u see y u girls shud b open n sincere to ur relationships regardless of d past tins u did. U shud ve told him ur past b4 dis time. I dnt knw y girls likes pretending.

KILL HIM!

She should let d fiance kno about him. She can gauge d mood of his receptiveness to decide up d ante about d video clips. Thats playing safe. And to those wondering or doubting if d guy still has d clips, theres evry possibility of it with cloud storage & other stressless means of stashing data these days. I kno a guy who keeps a recording of his sexcapades since 10yrs now, still counting & has no intention of disposing tho not for any macabre reasons but just for nostalgia, according to him,.......whatever d'hell that means lol.

sonofananimal:
YOU SEE WHY I HATE NIGERIA WOMEN

I SWEAR ALL OF THEM ARE ANIMALS.


MONSTER TO THE HIGHEST ORDER. GUYS BEFORE YOU MARRY THOSE ANIMALS, FIRST CHECK THERE BACKGROUND, TRY TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT THERE PAST LIFE.




BUT THE BEST IS TO MARRY FOREIGN GIRL

as ur name implies, u are an animal bt d lowest of all animals for saying such abt our wonderfu naija girls/future wives/mothers. Menh becos a silly girl made a mistake in d past doesnt gives u d effontry to call our ladies demeanin name. You r jst lucky am nt a badmouth guy, i sure wud hv rained insult on u. There is no society dt dont hv d good n bad. Even in ur so called yankee, dey hv bad, ugly n good one.

My dear the guy is a cheap blackmailer. Dnt even bother telling ur fiancee,face ur life.

I think she shud accept whatever d guy demands, dey can both agree where to meet, then she informs d police, so dey can arrest him, wt evidences of the exchanged SMS. But the fiance must b very much aware of wats happening n shud play along.

TrishaP:
All that is a bluff. Why would he be saving the video till present?!.. Or was he still hoping to date her again!? That blackmail is a cheap one and she shouldn't fall for it. The best she can do is to tell her fiance that they both once dated, that'll be enough info for now.

it's not enough for now... your reply is based on the fact that you are a lady...

let here cry to her fiance and tell him that she did something very stupid a long time ago and she made a sex video but she is wiser now. if the guy understand he will forgive.

see if she doesn't and the guy finds out from another source Na gbeghe be that one.

remember Nigeria blogs won't you tell if the video was recorded 10 years ago should it be in the leaked... they will treat it like something that was recorded recently

Her fiance's reaction should be based on what she must have told him about her past. Although, there's a very high propensity she may have lied about certain things of which this could be inclusive. Otherwise, there's actually no point been scared. One thing I know for sure is the fiance didn't meet her a virgin so I think he should be reasonable enough to understand that she must have had an affair before they met so there should be no cause for alarm but making a sex tape wasn't a good idea though. This should serve as a note of warning to girls who indulges in things of this sort.

TrishaP:
All that is a bluff. Why would he be saving the video till present?!.. Or was he still hoping to date her again!? That blackmail is a cheap one and she shouldn't fall for it. The best she can do is to tell her fiance that they both once dated, that'll be enough info for now.

Don't underestimate the power of technology, i have all my videos and pictures backed up since 1999. Although, i don't do that shiit (sexx videos and nuude pictures) it disgusts me. The best bet for the girl is to tell her fiance the whole truth before it blows in the open. If the guy truly loves her, they will fight the idiiot (blackmailer) together.

jayfolarin:
Hi nairalanders. I have been around for a while but this should be my first topic/post in the romance section. This incidence is a long epistle but i'll try and summarise.... I need urgent and reasonable advice here pls..

Just about an hour ago, a girlfriend of mine (a buddy that is a girl) came to me with tears and lamented with the hope that I can offer a 'do not worry yourself, it's a small thing' advice like I usually do.

It was about a boy she dated in d university who bumped into her again about 2weeks ago. As they didn't end things on a sour note back then, she was glad to have met him again and could not even wait to announce to him that she was now engaged with wedding plans underway.

According to her, the boy acted all good and even offered to pay for d stuffs she got at domino's. They exchanged numbers again with d promises of keeping in touch and expectation that d boy will be attending her wedding later in September.

To her utmost surprise and dismay though, the boy has been calling since last week and telling her all sort of things like he has been out of naija since after nysc, has a wife and 2 kids in d US, he still likes her, wants them to get intimate again while he's still in the country, bla bla bla...she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, she said.

The heartbreaking part here is where the guy has now threatened to post a sex video they made together back in school on the Internet coz my homegirl said NO. The attempt at the cheap blackmail just to getdown with her disgusts me to the bone but i'm still at a crossroad on what to do to this guy.

The question now is she thinks the guy is serious, she acknowledged that they recorded intimate sessions on more than 2 occasions back in the uni, she loves her husband-to-be and could get suicidal if he leaves her (her words), SHOULD SHE TELL HIM ABOUT THE VIDEOS??

Op.. Arrange with male friends or agbero and beat the hell outta the b@st@rd son of a biatch. Record a video of his confession and keep it as leverage. Ensure he deletes whatever it is he has about you in either his laptop or phone and then watch him fly away like a bat outta hell. Useless man

A girl who has thought of and even gone ahead to make a sexx video is not good enough to be called anybody's wife. Such a girl is supposed to get a room in a brothel where she can take her profession to greater height. Even Tuface Idibia or Flavour whose diicks knows no boundary will not want a one night stand with such a girl.

Give me his full name... "Full" name. That video will be history of it ever exists...