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Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by cococandy(f): 4:08am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Is the guy in the video a slut too? Recording his sexual activities. Yes, No? If you can't answer yes or no without beating about the bush, don't bother. Toks2008: |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by baby124: 4:09am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Toks2008: And you do know that some people don't know there is a video of them out there having sex? Some depraved guys have hidden camera's too. What them if you find out an ex did such to your intending wife? If I was the OP sef, when the guy brings it up, I will pretend like I do not know what he is talking about. If your fiancé finds out, say it was without your consent. Except you were doing styles with hand camera. Lmao. Tufiakwa. I never did sex video, but who knows what type of mad people are out there. If such video comes out of your wife, as long as you were not a virgin yourself, you can move on easily from it. I see no big deal at all. Except the video was boring and really bad sex. If a video came out about my husband and he had really bad sex, I will be ashamed, angry and disappointed at him for that. Lmao. Not the Fact that there is a video out there of him |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by damsy01(m): 4:16am On Jun 24, 2015 |
baby124: I think u r right on point... She cld also do a little research on him to knw abt his family too on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and so on to knw more abt his family and wok.. Forward such information to him dat u wll also share d video also... |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Notyourb1tch(f): 4:17am On Jun 24, 2015 |
adeekiti:Even as a married woman I could never make such a video. Unfortunately a lot of women these days do not think about the long term consequences. Any man that suggest I send nude pics or wants to make a sex video is a no go area for me! 1 Like |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Toks2008(m): 4:31am On Jun 24, 2015 |
baby124: I understand you perfectly and you are thinking like a perfect lady but most guys wont see it that way whether good or bad sex and infact for guys it better be a bad one. However no matter how a guy tries to understand that it was a hidden camera,it will still haunt and hurt him no matter how matured he wants to act. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by okuya: 4:39am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Let her get him arrested by the police . DAT will definitely stop him if truly if he has s video And dat can b done without d knowledge her own man |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Toks2008(m): 4:42am On Jun 24, 2015 |
cococandy: An emphatic NO. Im even surprised you are asking this funny question. How can a man be a slut for doing thatYes he is foolish and irresponsible but sluttiness is the least word because to the guy the lady is an object of conquest and just as a lady poster wrote,she will even be happy if her hubby performs well in a sex recording but im yet to see a man that will be proud of his woman sexing so good in a video recording. I remember the day my ex insisted we record a sex session and i vehemently refused yet she went ahead to do it and i had to delete the recording. Imagine now that we are no longer together and that tape is with me,even if i dont use it against her,the fear that i have it will almost kill her. ladies should get their brain set because you can fall out of relationship with even a guy you never taught you can part with. Some thibgs are better imagined than viewed. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by onelife97: 4:42am On Jun 24, 2015 |
She is indeed very stupid,I mean idiot of the highest order. How in her nincompoop mind will she think she can invite ur ex to ur wedding not even an ordinary ex,ur ex pornmate. I guess she wan continue where she stopped with the ex. She can't be trusted enuf like most 9ja babes. If I were the fiancé,I ll definitely call off every preparation with this untrusted b.iatch.PERIOD. @Op,#Msadviser just tell her as u think."e no concern u". |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by whisperj: 4:54am On Jun 24, 2015 |
The sad thing is people will not learn from this. This suggests to me that she may not have been completely open with her fiance. But then, I don't think any Nigerian man would want a wife whose sex escapade was caught on tape, him no be kanye west na...lol. She should just prepare her mind for the worst and come clean with him- for her conscience sake. She wouldn't want to go into a marriage with that kind of guilt. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Shwarz: 5:05am On Jun 24, 2015 |
The thing with blackmailers is, they always come back. Its possible he may just be joking and not even have any video but she shouldnt take it lightly, she should try to get evidence of his threat/blackmail against her and report him to the concerned department in the police. She shld even threaten to report too to the FBI peradventure he decides to post when he leaves the country. SHE MUST TAKE CHARGE!!! Going about sobbing, crying up and down wldnt solve anything, she needs to be very tactical. I guess now shes suffering for her past, unconfessed sins... |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by chupcake(m): 5:08am On Jun 24, 2015 |
I can imagine what the woman is going through. It really does depend on the man, at the very least, she shld know the type of man she is marrying and should be able to predict how he will react. If he's a kinda person that can't stomach it, she shouldn't tell him and deal with the dude (There is a million ways she could do that - I would suggest accusing him of rape. Stage the whole thing and give it an oscar winning performance. I think that attracts life in jail right). If he's the kinda person that would support her no matter what, then she should tell him, In my experience, I find out that those kind of people would rather want to know than utter thr words 'You should have told me' if they find out of their own. The whole rape thing applies for both cases anyways. That little c*nt deserves what ever it is that comes his way. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by peedeeasobie(m): 5:38am On Jun 24, 2015 |
jayfolarin: She should not, never ever tell her fiance. There are certain infos that are pretty damaging to someone's psych. She should get a close relative to pose as her fiance and call the guy- tell him that he heard about blackmail and that will never make him to stop loving his lady! When the blackmailer finds out that the "fiance" is aware and wouldn't care, he will back down! |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by peedeeasobie(m): 5:42am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Toks2008: After writing a thesis on how slutty she is, what's your solution? She made a mistake, a stupid one at that but what's the use flogging a dead horse! She needs help not bashing! |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Orkpekyandega(m): 5:43am On Jun 24, 2015 |
emmatok: Now can a girl who is a virgin have a sex video? Kapital Nooooooooo. Her sex video is still part of the sexcapade. For there is a very thin line separating the two. I know the kind of sex gospel going on among the youth nowadays. Most young men around turn to pressurize and lure these young girls into sex through very silly tricks. Some tell them the thing will pain you when you do it with your husband as if the one they will do will not pain the girl. The evil system we are in only makes these girls believe sex before marriage is the norm. The quest to examine and test every big manhood around during your high school days (maybe so as not to marry a small one) comes back to hurt us the more when we begin to reason with our senses even though it might be too late. You go for sex parties, dance naked and participate in group sex with different sets of people, forgeting that there is a beautiful but decent life, one should live before & after your high school days. You can't give the best part of your youthfulness to the devil and expect total peace afterwards. A lot of girls still fall prey to to these sex pressures and as I speak with you, so many girls' sex videos are there stored in their boyfriends' electronic gadgets. Most of them don't even know when and how the whole thing was recorded. All these guys want is to have enough arsenal from which to pay you back the day you dump them. Some boys/girls call this sodomic evil 'game'. They trade this evil path both in the university and youth service days thinking it will just go like that. Not knowing that they are only planting bombs on their express route to a better life in marriage. Your fiance or husband may not find out about your past sexcapade, but you may have only succeeded in buying the costly and risky ticket of visiting different prayer houses for life in your marriage, even if your husband is a dummy or saint as the case may be. Your husband may have lived a decent live. But immediately he MEETS you, he will begin to go for other women so as to help you reap what you sowed (its natural, harvest time). Yes I know exactly what is going through the hearts of those who are readind this right now. "Every body has a past, but not every body's past is as evil and corrupt as others" "Are you a saint, perfect/Righteous?" 'No but am called to be on the path that leads to life' the path of perfection/holiness without which no man shall see the Lord. #YouthsBeWarned# 1 Like |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by bibiking7(m): 6:10am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Tell him now. Him leaving now is better than him leaving after marriage. Also Look for the family or the blackmailer and tell them too. They might be able to call him to order. It might not be a bluff, cos I have pictures and videos on my old memory cards from waaaay back. I am one paranoid dude. If my girl sees her ex and enchanges contacts, she Had better gimme a damn good reason why. If i see a video of her riding another dude like a stallion, loll, the look on my face will be enough to send the mrssage. Once again, paranoiddd ![]() |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by anthonykezy(m): 6:29am On Jun 24, 2015 |
jameseva:anything that will make the babe agree to let her ex bleep her is likely to reoccur again and again until the marriage is ruined! The truth is, the video is nowhere to be found. The guy will continue to be threatening her for the rest of her life with the video and be bleeping her. Don't try that nonsense. She should just delete the guy contact and avoid picking his call, else, the guy will torment her life with threat. Again, never tell her hubby about it. Not all men can tolerate. She should just cut the off. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by DrGroove(f): 6:29am On Jun 24, 2015 |
adeekiti:Even with the man you are married to,why make videos?Anybody can use it against you 1 Like |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Nobody: 6:34am On Jun 24, 2015 |
The porn star has now repented because she's seen a guy that's planning to take her to the altar. I just wonder why these young girls or teenagers can be so silly! And when you even advise them to watch the kind of friends they keep or date, they think you're just jealous; they feel it's every guy that wants to sleep with them. She should just be ready for any consequences that result from her silly actions, or whose fault is it that she dated a pervert and nincompoop? She might just take some of the sensible pieces of advice offered here, if she's lucky she might not lose her hubby to be. But she should know she can't eat her cake and have it. Who knows if the girl has even told us the whole truth as narrated by the OP? |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by jabojafa(m): 6:37am On Jun 24, 2015 |
andromida:well 1stly she hs to tell her man. Lets hope she hsnt been lying dt she had been a saint. 2ndly i am vry sure d man wont post dose videos online becos am sure he waz also fully naked in d videos. And as such he wudnt want dt kind of scandal to hit his home. He wudnt want his wife n kids to see him bleepin online. So he is jst makin empty threat. He also hs alot to lose like u if he eventually post it online. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by izzieman: 6:42am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Bluff or no bluff, let her go to the Police before he actually posts something. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by ovu4real: 6:44am On Jun 24, 2015 |
u see y u girls shud b open n sincere to ur relationships regardless of d past tins u did. U shud ve told him ur past b4 dis time. I dnt knw y girls likes pretending. 1 Like |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by DrGroove(f): 6:46am On Jun 24, 2015 |
KILL HIM! |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by blackfase(m): 6:51am On Jun 24, 2015 |
She should let d fiance kno about him. She can gauge d mood of his receptiveness to decide up d ante about d video clips. Thats playing safe. And to those wondering or doubting if d guy still has d clips, theres evry possibility of it with cloud storage & other stressless means of stashing data these days. I kno a guy who keeps a recording of his sexcapades since 10yrs now, still counting & has no intention of disposing tho not for any macabre reasons but just for nostalgia, according to him,.......whatever d'hell that means lol. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by jabojafa(m): 6:59am On Jun 24, 2015 |
sonofananimal:as ur name implies, u are an animal bt d lowest of all animals for saying such abt our wonderfu naija girls/future wives/mothers. Menh becos a silly girl made a mistake in d past doesnt gives u d effontry to call our ladies demeanin name. You r jst lucky am nt a badmouth guy, i sure wud hv rained insult on u. There is no society dt dont hv d good n bad. Even in ur so called yankee, dey hv bad, ugly n good one. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by xest(m): 7:00am On Jun 24, 2015 |
My dear the guy is a cheap blackmailer. Dnt even bother telling ur fiancee,face ur life. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by David0(m): 7:04am On Jun 24, 2015 |
I think she shud accept whatever d guy demands, dey can both agree where to meet, then she informs d police, so dey can arrest him, wt evidences of the exchanged SMS. But the fiance must b very much aware of wats happening n shud play along. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Nobody: 7:10am On Jun 24, 2015 |
TrishaP: it's not enough for now... your reply is based on the fact that you are a lady... let here cry to her fiance and tell him that she did something very stupid a long time ago and she made a sex video but she is wiser now. if the guy understand he will forgive. see if she doesn't and the guy finds out from another source Na gbeghe be that one. remember Nigeria blogs won't you tell if the video was recorded 10 years ago should it be in the leaked... they will treat it like something that was recorded recently |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Pricelezz(m): 7:15am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Her fiance's reaction should be based on what she must have told him about her past. Although, there's a very high propensity she may have lied about certain things of which this could be inclusive. Otherwise, there's actually no point been scared. One thing I know for sure is the fiance didn't meet her a virgin so I think he should be reasonable enough to understand that she must have had an affair before they met so there should be no cause for alarm but making a sex tape wasn't a good idea though. This should serve as a note of warning to girls who indulges in things of this sort. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Nobody: 7:17am On Jun 24, 2015 |
TrishaP:Don't underestimate the power of technology, i have all my videos and pictures backed up since 1999. Although, i don't do that shiit (sexx videos and nuude pictures) it disgusts me. The best bet for the girl is to tell her fiance the whole truth before it blows in the open. If the guy truly loves her, they will fight the idiiot (blackmailer) together. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by Nobody: 7:17am On Jun 24, 2015 |
jayfolarin:Op.. Arrange with male friends or agbero and beat the hell outta the b@st@rd son of a biatch. Record a video of his confession and keep it as leverage. Ensure he deletes whatever it is he has about you in either his laptop or phone and then watch him fly away like a bat outta hell. Useless man |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by simpleseyi: 7:18am On Jun 24, 2015 |
A girl who has thought of and even gone ahead to make a sexx video is not good enough to be called anybody's wife. Such a girl is supposed to get a room in a brothel where she can take her profession to greater height. Even Tuface Idibia or Flavour whose diicks knows no boundary will not want a one night stand with such a girl. |
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiance About Her Sex Video by ifoundmyperfect: 7:18am On Jun 24, 2015 |
Give me his full name... "Full" name. That video will be history of it ever exists... |
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