JOEmystic:
post link to the sex video then i'd think of how to advise u

kilode100:



Pls post the video for appropriate advice

Who knows, I might even self-service if it's steamy

damsy01:



I think u r right on point... She cld also do a little research on him to knw abt his family too on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and so on to knw more abt his family and wok.. Forward such information to him dat u wll also share d video also...

InvertedHammer:
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Tell him to F off.

And if his parents are still in Nigeria,

Tell him that the parents stand as insurance in case of his fvck up.

That should calm him down.

Don't ever treat blackmailers with a kid's glove. You have to come down to their level. Most of them are cowards.

OR
With a little connection, have SARS arrest him on blackmail charges. They will seize his international passport. With missed flight and rebooking, bail charges and delay tactics of Nigeria police, he will regret ever knowing you. SARS know how to mess people up well well. Heck. They may even get close to offing him if nobody watches them closely.
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DrGroove:
KILL HIM!

JOEmystic:
kaaai! ur a lady o

kilode100:


So?
What's good for the kini is for good for kini naa...




Let's all self-service to the video and be Merry

kilode100:



Pls post the video for appropriate advice

Who knows, I might even self-service if it's steamy

TrishaP:
All that is a bluff. Why would he be saving the video till present?!.. Or was he still hoping to date her again!? That blackmail is a cheap one and she shouldn't fall for it. The best she can do is to tell her fiance that they both once dated, that'll be enough info for now.

blackfase:


Haba....kilode!! D clips not with d poster or d lady in question now, abi wher u want make them get am?

TrishaP:
All that is a bluff. Why would he be saving the video till present?!.. Or was he still hoping to date her again!? That blackmail is a cheap one and she shouldn't fall for it. The best she can do is to tell her fiance that they both once dated, that'll be enough info for now.

Melahou:


He's a man...he can always escape it, even if the evidence is glaring...
He'll also have something to say to convince the wife.

kilode100:



Let her improvise naa.....
I'm in a very naughty mood

jameseva:
Tell him about sex video? Lol!Tell her not to try that nonsense if she likes her marraige oo. Even if the guy posts the recording, chances of your fiance or friends seeing it is pretty slim. Another advice, although bad, is that she should go hookup with the guy to silence him, it's not like it's d first time he's hit it. That way she can save her marriage and beg d other guy to delete d video or something. Whateva u decide, goodluck.

gensteejay:
The porn star has now repented because she's seen a guy that's planning to take her to the altar. I just wonder why these young girls or teenagers can be so silly! And when you even advise them to watch the kind of friends they keep or date, they think you're just jealous; they feel it's every guy that wants to sleep with them. She should just be ready for any consequences that result from her silly actions, or whose fault is it that she dated a pervert and nincompoop? She might just take some of the sensible pieces of advice offered here, if she's lucky she might not lose her hubby to be. But she should know she can't eat her cake and have it. Who knows if the girl has even told us the whole truth as narrated by the OP?

baby124:


None of my ex's have that kind of mind. Because when you mess with the love of my life and you want to destroy my family, I can go to any length and they know. So they cannot even call me to start such conversations. It's the way you present yourself to people that they will treat you. Where we want to sit down and have such conversation sef. Na yansh and breast wey yapa people Neva see before? But what I will do in return will be everlasting. I kuku never hid my true colors to any ex, so they know. In a moment of stupidity and childishness we have all done things we are not proud of. Even the hubs. Plenty virgins sef don send nude pics. It takes a certain level of trust and love to go this far with someone. Anyone that uses this for blackmail does not deserve any pity. You f*#k him up complete

jayfolarin:
Hi nairalanders. I have been around for a while but this should be my first topic/post in the romance section. This incidence is a long epistle but i'll try and summarise.... I need urgent and reasonable advice here pls..

Just about an hour ago, a girlfriend of mine (a buddy that is a girl) came to me with tears and lamented with the hope that I can offer a 'do not worry yourself, it's a small thing' advice like I usually do.

It was about a boy she dated in d university who bumped into her again about 2weeks ago. As they didn't end things on a sour note back then, she was glad to have met him again and could not even wait to announce to him that she was now engaged with wedding plans underway.

According to her, the boy acted all good and even offered to pay for d stuffs she got at domino's. They exchanged numbers again with d promises of keeping in touch and expectation that d boy will be attending her wedding later in September.

To her utmost surprise and dismay though, the boy has been calling since last week and telling her all sort of things like he has been out of naija since after nysc, has a wife and 2 kids in d US, he still likes her, wants them to get intimate again while he's still in the country, bla bla bla...she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, she said.

The heartbreaking part here is where the guy has now threatened to post a sex video they made together back in school on the Internet coz my homegirl said NO. The attempt at the cheap blackmail just to getdown with her disgusts me to the bone but i'm still at a crossroad on what to do to this guy.

The question now is she thinks the guy is serious, she acknowledged that they recorded intimate sessions on more than 2 occasions back in the uni, she loves her husband-to-be and could get suicidal if he leaves her (her words), SHOULD SHE TELL HIM ABOUT THE VIDEOS??

Insidous:



Don't you think it is high time you started moving with reasonable, responsible and successful human beings.

If it is fine to have pre-marital sex, then cohabitation is not a big deal!

ovu4real:
u see y u girls shud b open n sincere to ur relationships regardless of d past tins u did. U shud ve told him ur past b4 dis time. I dnt knw y girls likes pretending.

Insidous:

remind me again how it is of anyone's freaking business?
Are you even a virgin yourself?
Ode!

jayfolarin:
Hi nairalanders. I have been around for a while but this should be my first topic/post in the romance section. This incidence is a long epistle but i'll try and summarise.... I need urgent and reasonable advice here pls..

Just about an hour ago, a girlfriend of mine (a buddy that is a girl) came to me with tears and lamented with the hope that I can offer a 'do not worry yourself, it's a small thing' advice like I usually do.

It was about a boy she dated in d university who bumped into her again about 2weeks ago. As they didn't end things on a sour note back then, she was glad to have met him again and could not even wait to announce to him that she was now engaged with wedding plans underway.

According to her, the boy acted all good and even offered to pay for d stuffs she got at domino's. They exchanged numbers again with d promises of keeping in touch and expectation that d boy will be attending her wedding later in September.

To her utmost surprise and dismay though, the boy has been calling since last week and telling her all sort of things like he has been out of naija since after nysc, has a wife and 2 kids in d US, he still likes her, wants them to get intimate again while he's still in the country, bla bla bla...she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, she said.

The heartbreaking part here is where the guy has now threatened to post a sex video they made together back in school on the Internet coz my homegirl said NO. The attempt at the cheap blackmail just to getdown with her disgusts me to the bone but i'm still at a crossroad on what to do to this guy.

The question now is she thinks the guy is serious, she acknowledged that they recorded intimate sessions on more than 2 occasions back in the uni, she loves her husband-to-be and could get suicidal if he leaves her (her words), SHOULD SHE TELL HIM ABOUT THE VIDEOS??

mightsparrow:
Don't underestimate the power of technology, i have all my videos and pictures backed up since 1999. Although, i don't do that shiit (sexx videos and nuude pictures) it disgusts me. The best bet for the girl is to tell her fiance the whole truth before it blows in the open. If the guy truly loves her, they will fight the idiiot (blackmailer) together.

YoungDaNaval:
Seconded!

jameseva:
Tell him about sex video? Lol!Tell her not to try that nonsense if she likes her marraige oo. Even if the guy posts the recording, chances of your fiance or friends seeing it is pretty slim. Another advice, although bad, is that she should go hookup with the guy to silence him, it's not like it's d first time he's hit it. That way she can save her marriage and beg d other guy to delete d video or something. Whateva u decide, goodluck.