MrsChima:


Nice try. Everything I say isn't about Feminism as well as everything you said is not unbiased.

You contradicted yourself repeatedly and one thing that stands out the most is "I believe in gender equality but not in the home".

When have I played the victim in the name of feminism? I thought you said there were no Nigerian feminists? I also said how can you expect women who do not support feminism behave like feminists? You have yet to answer that.

Pick up your face...it's cold outside.

MrsChima:


I loathes you.

ronald4lif:


Spot on. I've always assert that for gender equality to become an actuality more Nigerian women need to start thriving hard to become independent and self-reliant just like the men. I understand that in a patriarchal setting like ours men would always want to maintain a grip in most lucrative sectors and jobs thereby sustaining their dominance on women but the Nigerian woman need to do more.

Independent and hardworking women are abound but still there are many who just lay-back expecting a man to bail them out of their pressing needs. The first thing an average Nigerian lady think of after uni is marriage without any financial backings or savings to her name. How do they expect men who grew up knowing themselves as superiors respect and not lord their decision over them. The should be a mental revolt for the Nigerian woman to desist from depending on men.

ronald4lif:


One of the essence of having feminism debates is to enlighten more women why they should enjoin the movement and likewise for anti-feminists. They might not support feminism but with the right drive and persuasiveness they could have a rethink and Nigerian feminists themselves are yet to admit sharing equal financial responsibilities in relationships and marriage is enshrined in the equality treaty. They're usually passive whenever the issue is raised for deliberation and I find that suspicious.

ronald4lif:


Spot on. I've always assert that for gender equality to become an actuality more Nigerian women need to start thriving hard to become independent and self-reliant just like the men. I understand that in a patriarchal setting like ours men would always want to maintain a grip in most lucrative sectors and jobs thereby sustaining their dominance on women but the Nigerian woman need to do more.

Independent and hardworking women are abound but still there are many who just lay-back expecting a man to bail them out of their pressing needs. The first thing an average Nigerian lady think of after uni is marriage without any financial backings or savings to her name. How do they expect men who grew up knowing themselves as superiors respect and not lord their decision over them. The should be a mental revolt for the Nigerian woman to desist from depending on men.

Velocitron:


Exactly! I remember when I was in college a few months ago, most of my roommates hardly ever talked about being successful, just 'I'll just get married to someone that can take care of me'. Of course not all Nigerian women are like that, but it appears the vocal majority are. I'm tired of seeing educated women settle for less by burying their talents and depending on their husbands or boyfriends for monthly allowance or to open shops for them. Why won't those men have a superiority complex?

No way I'll pay so much money to attend school and keep my grades high just to become somebody's baby machine

MrsChima:


So every Nigerian woman in marriages and relationships are not sharing financial responsibilities?

So every Nigerian man in marriages and relationships is gainfully employed or own a business?

Haba!

MrsChima:


There you go again...you expect Nigerian women to be independent and fortitude in a male dominant country? How come when Nigerian women seek residence in other countries and gained their own financial and social freedom...she has been westernized?

Flipflop mentality sef.

ronald4lif:


Nothing is 'every' or absolute, there are always exceptionalities. But a large percentage of Nigerian women deem a relationship as an avenue to fulfilling their financial needs. Financial gratification is the drive behind a relationship and their leeching games is repulsive.

And to those who contributes it should be equivalent to the man's tranche. Nothing short would be acceptable. Equality should be matched with actions and responsibility.

Velocitron:


It appears you're straw manning his post. Did he say "when Nigerian women seek residence in other countries and gained their own financial and social freedom she has been westernized?" Where did you get that idea from what he said?

Velocitron:


It appears you're straw manning his post. Did he say "when Nigerian women seek residence in other countries and gained their own financial and social freedom she has been westernized?" Where did you get that idea from what he said?

MrsChima:


Did he not say that more Nigerian women need to become independent and not rely on male support?

Velocitron:


I love this guy sooooo much! What a smart answer!

VictoriaBee:

Lol, 200k.

MrsChima:


Did he not say that more Nigerian women need to become independent and not rely on male support?

ronald4lif:


Nothing is 'every' or absolute, there are always exceptionalities. But a large percentage of Nigerian women deem a relationship as an avenue to fulfilling their financial needs. Financial gratification is the drive behind a relationship and their leeching games is repulsive.

And to those who contributes it should be equivalent to the man's tranche. Nothing short would be acceptable. Equality should be matched with actions and responsibility.

ronald4lif:


Yea I did accede that they should thrive to become independent so as to enable them contribute 'equally' financially to the financing of the home before yearning for equable rights. When someone wants something they earn it. How does that correspond with westernization?.

ronald4lif:


I take that as a compliment. Gracias.

Velocitron:


It's just amazing how you always un-condescendingly acknowlege others' positions and never resort to name-calling or insults. It's always refreshing to see

ronald4lif:


Actually, I have also assert and maintained that I'm for gender equality and I don't deem it a threat as I relate with women daily on equal footings and we're cool. I have been quick to pointing out the contemptuous and unjust attitudes of Nigerian men towards women just like I dig out the irregularities of Nigerian feminists to the bare. Which financial responsibility is prime but madam Chima is tacitly evasive and unforthcoming whenever I highlight it. I'm used to her coy but I remain unabashed.

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MrsChima:


Do you have a link to where I can access your findings? You seems to know every financial reports and bank accounts of Nigerian families.

You said there is no absolute but you know many Nigerian women...how many do you know personally? Are you speaking of the Nigerian women you know personally then if so I digress!

I can make generalization about Nigerian men but it would be irrelevant because I can't clump all Nigerian men the same because of a few. You should try it.

ronald4lif:


I want to believe you're above this pettiness. Seeking for proof or evidence to give credence to the fact that most Nigerian women leeches on men in a relationship is puerile and please come up with something better.

I don't know when last you were in Nigeria or if you've ever lived there for a lengthy period. I schooled there and I'm a frequent visitor I can tell you for a fact that when it comes to finances it's lopsided and unfavourable to the men. Not even Victoriabee, misssclassy and other of your ilks can refute this claim. Financial responsibility is regarded a man's affair while the women hardly spend. Please let's get serious.

MrsChima:


Did you read my post? Or you responding off the chick's comment to me?

I said nothing about westernization...I said why Nigerian/African women who becomes financially and socially free especially in other countries are coined as westernized by Nigerian/African men?

Can you honestly tell me if African women become wealthier than their male counterparts that their partners won't have an issue?

MrsChima:

Oceanboy61:


Not funny

MrsChima:


That's what I thought. You don't know every Nigerian women to make that assertion. Because you went to a school full of leeching Nigerian women and their dumb boyfriends means "many" Nigerian women are leeches and dependent on men. If Ronald say so it is fact! Gotcha boo!

I feel bad for you and the men that had leeches as a girlfriend cos gotdamn you and your likes sounds bitter as hell.

Please don't date another leecher! Abeg!

Would you feel secured if your woman makes more than you?

Velocitron:


It's just amazing how you always un-condescendingly acknowlege others' positions and never resort to name-calling or insults. It's always refreshing to see

ronald4lif:


I agree that most Nigerian men (diaspora inclusive) misconstrue an independent woman as westernised and uncultured. Prolly because she might not have time to cook, wash their clothes and literally become their maid due to her job and exposure. However, there are still men who live with such women and don't deem them a threat to their perceived supremacy.

A woman should better strive to becoming independent and self-reliant and damn whatever a man purview her to be. Life is a solo race. It's her life, isn't it?.

Let's stay thematic - gender equality should be on balance in the financing of relationship and marriage. Anything short of that would be a brazen attempt to shortchange the menfolk and that would invalidate the equality agenda.

ronald4lif:


When you asserted on a thread by a certain stand.d today that Nigerian men are hypocrites and whatnot. With instances on how they can toss sperm on the air but when a woman does same she's tagged a slut. Do you know all Nigerian men?. Come on, be serious and stop this pettiness. I don't have to know every Igbo man to understand that most of us are very money conscious.