damiso:
Not a fan of polygamy because of some of the rancour it caused in my extended family.Too much drama.

However putting my own personal feelings and family issues there aside are loads of women who willingly go into it..Older wives married young girls for their husbands so they could have time to travel for trade.

The premise on why most people would say polygamy and gay marriage are not the same is that one is based on love and the other is not. Unfortunately love is subjective and not everyone marries for 'love'.Not saying its ideal but judging (which we are told not to do gay people who want to marry) people who do not marry for love is exactly the same.Judging. I won't go into a polyandry but why should I judge those who want to?

edwife:


Who take them? come here and see how illegal people are suffering.Do you watch Britain borders?you will know that they are not playing here.

There are many illegal immigrants in France that the government is not aware of,many chilli.In the banlieu you don't even have immigration police,go to chateau rouge.....

No be France i dey go when i want to?

edwife:
Damiso why you run? come and drop some some....

damiso:


I dey run now I need my 8 hours kip work don start tomorrow again.

edwife:


I am the most peaceful poster after damiso here

Chillisauce:


They came from Italy. The government no even send them. That's why they are heading to UK . Hiding inside lorries.
Chateau rouge is like Peckham.
We are lining most of them up straight to UK.
no man's land

Timbuktou:


If I hear!

coogar:


every human being deserves to be treated as one. these people fled their war-torn countries to seek refuge in the UK - why shouldn't they be given food & housing? nor be the same UK destroy their countries with selfish politicking?

would ISIS be any issue if gadaffi & saddam hussein were still alive? the western countries deserve everything they get from ISIS.




let them come, we will take them.
we would make use of the useful ones amongst them & send the others to the mines.

look at mo farah today - he was an immigrant/refugee from somalia. today, he's an olympic medallist. no human being is totally useless.

france should start making use of their refugees.

edwife:


he he he chilli continue dreaming,they no longer get easy access to this place like before.The Uk has invested heavily on the immigration services.Now just one small equipment like phone can detect the presence of O2.

Back to Calais baby...

Chillisauce:

See the ones in the football team we are trying to help. They are in the team eating all the food and can't even score one goal. We give up.

The UK needs them.
Na so I see your Brother when I went for my baby passport. He came all the way from Austria. . Say him Don get wife. He needs to marry. He spent 6yrs in Austria.
we started talking.. he couldn't even speak Dutch or whatever they speak there.

The guy was just lamenting how they were turning him around for one document to another. By the time he gets one, the other is expired. I pity am sha. I told him to go straight to UK and get married to his sweet heart.

coogar:


i don't even believe polygamy is more problematic than monogamy in this century. there are millions of monogamous marriages that are worse than any polygamous marriage you have seen. husbands hacking wives to death, wives chopping the dïcks of their husbands with knives & all sorts of clusterfück.

i am willing to bet there is a higher rate of domestic violence in monogamy than in polygamy. so what exactly is the problem? people who are troublesome would be troublesome regardless of which kind of marriage they find themselves.

coogar:


your football team is better than ours.
be contented with what you have....it could be worse.




it's better for him to marry a EU citizen than a british citizen. with EU bride, he can do the wedding anywhere in the EU & start processing his stay. with a british bride, he will be asked to do the wedding in ikoyi & start his processing from nigeria.

tell my brother to have faith - e go better

BABE3:
@ edwife,

there is a term called "Polyamory", it means being romantically in love with more than one person at the same time, AND all parties involved give their consent. These polyamorous people have a right to love/get married too. Same goes for polygamy. Let everyone do as they please "so far they're not hurting anyone".

So the argument of "first wife being cheated" is null and void. She can always seek for a divorce, and trust me, she'd get a shitload of settlement (both divorce and child support).

Plus, check out the so called "monogamous" marriages we have these days. Are they really monogamous? Side chics. Side *iggas. Exes. Baby mamas. Baby daddies.

Why not put a method to this monogamous madness and legalize polygamy/polyamory. I mean, who are we fooling? Maybe if it was legal, people would be more accepting. Just as being gay will be more accepted now that gay marriage is legal.

Chillisauce:


See the ones in the football team we are trying to help. They are in the team eating all the food and can't even score one goal. We give up.
The UK needs them.
Na so I see your Brother when I went for my baby passport. He came all the way from Austria. . Say him Don get wife. He needs to marry. He spent 6yrs in Austria.
we started talking.. he couldn't even speak Dutch or whatever they speak there.

The guy was just lamenting how they were turning him around for one document to another. By the time he gets one, the other is expired. I pity am sha.
I told him to go straight to UK and get married to his sweet heart.

edwife:


Now let see if the same America will legalized polygamy....

Right on the money baby...right on the money.

damiso:

Polygamy is not looked upon nicely cos the of the competition factor and the No of people involved. Two people and both of you have issues that you sort out but with polygamy you add different dimensions of relations ;wife to husband dimension, wife to co wife dimension, wife to step children dimension,stepchildren to co wife dimension etc .More people and relationship to manage= more drama.Also the cost implications.

However like I said earlier why should I speak for ALL women because I personally dislike the dynamics? Some people practise open marriages, some people want to be married but don't want the other person all up in their personal space all the time(which tends to happen in monogamous marriages) so who I am to CATEGORICALLY state that polyandry is bad for them? If I can say GAY people marrying does not hurt me, why can't I say two grown women deciding to share a man also does not hurt me?

Chillisauce:

Trust me a French team is the worst.
Thé wOman is french i guess. He needed to wed her in France.
The law was too much. The papers he was ask to bring was rediculous.
And he had lots of documents to translate.
I just told him to go straight to UK.
hopefully he listened to my advice.
I'm k n own to give very practical and workabe advice

coogar:


since when?
was this before or after the white men came to screw with our minds?



all i know is - with too much freedom comes all kinda bullshyte. it's gay marriage today, very soon.....these people would push for something even more ridiculous.

Chillisauce:


You go wait tire for America to legalise polygamy.
polygamy cost money. Simple.

That's why we have open marriages . With open marriage no one needs polygamy.
anybody that wants polygamy know the way .....straight to ....straight to Africa!

edwife:


oh oh so open marriage is better than polygamy?

Homosexuality was also in the open innit? what they did is to legalize it so why not legalize open marriages as a form of polygamy?
You see where white people play with us?So you can sleep with multiple partners but can not live under the same roof with them legally?

Chillisauce:

Thank God of for the white race.

Na so one old man for marry me and start choking me without my consent.
tufiakwa!!

Just like old rooster chasing tiny hen to give am belly
When ever I see the above I make sure I chase the rooster and give it a good kick that will make him fly higher over the fence

I hate maltreatment even in animals

coogar:


little did you know you are actually hurting the hen. it's the hen that sends signals to the còck for mating. if the hen doesn't want sex, she wouldn't lie down there & take it.

in my own case, i actually help the cöck to capture the hen so that fertilisation can take place. i laugh when the hen adjusts her feathers after the whole do - like nothing happened.

Chillisauce:


Its all about choice
and of cos money.
polygamy cost a lot.
maltreatment of parties involved.

Edwife are you considering letting in a second wife?

If so, let me know so I involve the government. You cant keep using tax payers money.

coogar:


since when?
was this before or after the white men came to screw with our minds?



all i know is - with too much freedom comes all kinda bullshyte. it's gay marriage today, very soon.....these people would push for something even more ridiculous.




he's better off in france!
call him and tell him to stay put.

edwife:


Now let see if the same America will legalized polygamy....

Right on the money baby...right on the money.

Chillisauce:

Chai !
Coogar yarimatising.

That's cruel. How can you say the tiny hen is sending signals. Didn't you see the hen always take off. Running for its life... flying even sometimes ... just to run away from the old bully rooaster

African hens Don suffer

damiso:

[b]
The west does not actually have 'freedom of speech' or 'freedom' like they actually want to believe. The 'freedom' is only if you conform to a certain agenda.

If someone says ' I don't hate gay people but I believe marriage is between a man and a woman' next thing the person get loads and loads of homophobic chants. Like what is the phobia in a person saying what they believe?

That's why I was scratching my heads abit after the Charlie Hebdo thing ( that was absolutely horrible act of terror ) when everybody was forming righteous indignation over 'free speech' .No one deserves to die for 'satire' but how many front line media organisations (even far right ones) come out and say they are 'anti gay marriage' or even do a satirical piece mocking gay marriage? The paper would be soo bullied and maligned that within 24 hours they would have to print a retraction.

If there is indeed freedom and free speech, I believe people should be allowed to say what they feel marriage is without the fear of being labellled homophobic. [/b]

BABE3:


I was supposed to reply here o. Lol Dunno why and how I ended up on the other thread.

Anyways, America won't legalize polyamory/polygamy, not with feminists around. Feminists will paint women as the victims and men the oppressors.

-they will mask the fact that some women actually want polygamy. they'll say those women have low-esteem.

-they will mask the fact that the polygamy/polyamory institution allows women to have multiple partners too.

E no go work sha. Feminists are currently winning.

plus, the people hastaging and chanting "love wins" and "equality for all" don't know nothing.

America won't do anything that doesn't support her government. America is selfish. This isn't entirely about love or equality. It's about increasing the number of married people in America. The American government wants you to be married. They benefit from it. From the marriage gan-gan to the divorce.

And as at last year, 70% of american males between age 24 to 35 are not married. That percentage is the highest in history of America. The government have noticed this drastic decline and they've noticed that shaming single people won't help, so legalizing gay marriage is the perfect solution.

edwife:


So the number of american males not married can be due to what? and i don't think it has anything to do with unemployment,decrease in female gender.....etc...

I think it has everything to do with the movement of women called ...............(complete the sentence,na sin if i talk am)

edwife:
@lolaredvelvet and marvellousGod,tooNoisy any comment?

bukatyne:


Should we do a survey of the number of first wives who cconsented to polygamy?