stinggy:


Respectable Naija ladies?
Have you tried badoo? The have only 'respectable' ladies, truss me

haba guy!!! Are you supposed to be joking here Be nice to him, badoo is a no go area considering what he wants. My opinion though...

Timrho:

public enemy #1 I salute

I just edited that post... Go back and read it for ur own good.

publicenemy:
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Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.

Your last paragraph is interesting guy. Did you mean that?

demoiselle:
Your last paragraph is interesting guy. Did you mean that?

I meant every alphabet I typed...

publicenemy:
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And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.

LOL what a guy how do you know the woman will release the child to you

but why are you so bitter?? I don't think the situation is that bad

demoiselle:
haba guy!!! Are you supposed to be joking here Be nice to him, badoo is a no go area considering what he wants. My opinion though...

You should know I was joking

Gurgle:


LOL what a guy how do you know the woman will release the child to you

but why are you so bitter?? I don't think the situation is that bad

She will oo... If she is good enuff I would marry her and if she isn't I will give her an offer she can refuse or do anything within my power to get my child, legally or otherwise...but I will not hurt her as she will have to remain the mother of my child.

And as for the one I paid and had an agreement with... She dey craze? she would have signed an agreement.


And why do you think I am bitter? I am not. its just hard to find a decent woman nowadays trust me... And I hate to see broken marriage, it scares the shit out of me... Imagine the emotional trauma.

stinggy:
You should know I was joking

ok

publicenemy:

I meant every alphabet I typed...

hmmm! interesting

publicenemy:
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Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.

Thanks bro for your contribution. Appreciated. It's nice to have another point of view to consider. My not having a kid already at this time is as a result of my background. Growing up in a family with step siblings, step parents has motivated me not to consider that part for my kids. I intend to have all my kids with one woman I care about, hopefully. And fight tooth and nail to keep my family together and united.

My situation is not desperate, but I realize I need to put some works into it now before things become crazy. The idea of this is not to settle down for anything one gets but for me to expand my possibilities. If I get a diamond out of this, perfect. If I don't, it is what it is. And I'm well aware of possible games that might come up. I analyze things very carefully before I take actions. And I did give it a lot of thought before coming out with this piece.

Lots of crazy girls in this nairaland. But with every 1000 crazy girls, there is just that one that just might suit my purpose. If I have to be a big dunce to find that one, bro it is worth it to me.
I really thank you for your contribution. If there are other ways to look at it, or more things to watch out for, please feel free to contribute some more.

publicenemy:


I just edited that post... Go back and read it for ur own good.

Glad you finally had time to fully write your opinion.

demoiselle:
hmmm! interesting

He has an interesting view. We all can't think alike.

publicenemy:


She will oo... If she is good enuff I would marry her and if she isn't I will give her an offer she can refuse or do anything within my power to get my child, legally or otherwise...but I will not hurt her as she will have to remain the mother of my child.

And as for the one I paid and had an agreement with... She dey craze? she would have signed an agreement.


And why do you think I am bitter? I am not. its just hard to find a decent woman nowadays trust me... And I hate to see broken marriage, it scares the shit out of me... Imagine the emotional trauma.

Having an agreement with a woman to have a kid for you does not hold water. Agreement or not, its up to her to give up the kid. And then it still has to go through legal adoption methods. I have avoided baby mamas till now, and still intend to. Not my style.

@op I pray u find...sure you will

Timrho:


Thanks bro for your contribution. Appreciated. It's nice to have another point of view to consider. My not having a kid already at this time is as a result of my background. Growing up in a family with step siblings, step parents has motivated me not to consider that part for my kids. I intend to have all my kids with one woman I care about, hopefully. And fight tooth and nail to keep my family together and united.

My situation is not desperate, but I realize I need to put some works into it now before things become crazy. The idea of this is not to settle down for anything one gets but for me to expand my possibilities. If I get a diamond out of this, perfect. If I don't, it is what it is. And I'm well aware of possible games that might come up. I analyze things very carefully before I take actions. And I did give it a lot of thought before coming out with this piece.

Lots of crazy girls in this nairaland. But with every 1000 crazy girls, there is just that one that just might suit my purpose. If I have to be a big dunce to find that one, bro it is worth it to me.
I really thank you for your contribution. If there are other ways to look at it, or more things to watch out for, please feel free to contribute some more.

As for my on having children now and ur response being " you would love to have ur kids with one woman".... Bro you will never know the importance of having children at a young age until u are in ur late 30s or 40s.... But ur the one wearing this shoe,so u know where it pinches... I pray God gives us long life and preserve Nairaland...I would advise that you save my innitail post somewhere, for future reference...

publicenemy:


She will oo... If she is good enuff I would marry her and if she isn't I will give her an offer she can refuse or do anything within my power to get my child, legally or otherwise...but I will not hurt her as she will have to remain the mother of my child.

And as for the one I paid and had an agreement with... She dey craze? she would have signed an agreement.


And why do you think I am bitter? I am not. its just hard to find a decent woman nowadays trust me... And I hate to see broken marriage, it scares the shit out of me... Imagine the emotional trauma.

interesting.

yes broken marriages are terrible for all involved. but I think if you just keep focus, be prayerful and try not to avoid problems that could be solved in the first place by the grace of God that marriage wont break

Gurgle:


interesting.

yes broken marriages are terrible for all involved. but I think if you just keep focus, be prayerful and try not to avoid problems that could be solved in the first place by the grace of God that marriage wont break

Broken marriages can be very traumatic.

Here broken marriages are more of the norm than the exception. Like a poster I saw the other day, where an old lady commented on how she was able to get her marriage to last that long, she commented she grew up in an era where if things were broken, they fixed it, not throw it away. That is something I'd like to get.
At my work place there's about a bunch of ladies that 80% are with their 2nd to 4th husbands. One even joked about been tired of her current husband and it's getting to time to replace him with a younger version. Mehn.... That's not a life I want.

Good luck, op.

lefulefu:
If u are looking for a good lady i go suggest make u check mountain of fire or deeper life church

LOL

Gurgle:


interesting.

yes broken marriages are terrible for all involved. but I think if you just keep focus, be prayerful and try not to avoid problems that could be solved in the first place by the grace of God that marriage wont break

That's like walking on egg shells... It shouldn't be like that.

Incline:
Good luck, op.

LOL

Thanks

Timrho:


Broken marriages can be very traumatic.

Here broken marriages are more of the norm than the exception. Like a poster I saw the other day, where an old lady commented on how she was able to get her marriage to last that long, she commented she grew up in an era where if things were broken, they fixed it, not throw it away. That is something I'd like to get.
At my work place there's about a bunch of ladies that 80% are with their 2nd to 4th husbands. One even joked about been tired of her current husband and it's getting to time to replace him with a younger version. Mehn.... That's not a life I want.

I would say that its happening all over the world. sad trend

that's not good. but do those women have anything in common that would explain why they are in that situation? or is that just the way it is

publicenemy:


That's like walking on egg shells... It shouldn't be like that.

what should it be like?

I think that's how I feel, a lot of the time

Prettyjo i love you ♥

Gurgle:


I would say that its happening all over the world. sad trend

that's not good. but do those women have anything in common that would explain why they are in that situation? or is that just the way it is

I think it is the way it is. People don't fix things anymore. For those ladies, the is the legal backing and financial compensation (aka alimony and child support where applicable) that come with divorce too.What used to be a last resort (divorce) is now the first things people think of. Folks go into weddings now with the mindset that if it doesn't work, they'll divorce. Unlike the past where the mindset was more of divorce is not an option for us, we got to make it work.

Timrho:


I think it is the way it is. People don't fix things anymore. For those ladies, the is the legal backing and financial compensation (aka alimony and child support where applicable) that come with divorce too.What used to be a last resort (divorce) is now the first things people think of. Folks go into weddings now with the mindset that if it doesn't work, they'll divorce. Unlike the past where the mindset was more of divorce is not an option for us, we got to make it work.

but I think its good that divorce is an option. when it wasn't a lot of women (and men, but just because we're focusing on women here) were forced to suffer in unhappy and abusive marriages. its just that people are overdoing it these days

maybe in future it will balance out

Gurgle:


but I think its good that divorce is an option. when it wasn't a lot of women (and men, but just because we're focusing on women here) were forced to suffer in unhappy and abusive marriages. its just that people are overdoing it these days

maybe in future it will balance out

No one is saying take the option of divorce away, but I consider it a last resort. Not a first option. In cases where a spouse's life is in danger, I recommend it. Abuse and Infidelity is a very gray area. Most other things should be worked out. Marriage is a partnership and is not expected to be smooth sailing.

MrBasketball:
Prettyjo i love you ♥

thanks...

prettyjo:
thanks...

Let's start from somewhere.

Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.


U tink money can buy a child, no matter d amount u payed 2 his/her real Mother she will definitely come back 2 looking 4 her Child, and der are Decent ladies out der...stop saying der are not. Ok just assume dat Beautiful well built lady is ur Sister and she came 2 tell u a Man is offering 2 pay her a very huge some of MONEY 2 bear him a child and after dat he will take d Child away, How will u feel? Won't u feel Bad huh! Pray u never be in dis type of Situation.

i'm very sure u av met good nd respectable girls arround u bt u were so blind to notice dem,cos maybe u dnt find their social status pleasing or maybe u find dem below ur standards,,,bt i will advice once u see a girl u like nd u are convinced in ur heart y not follow her,,,,for u annoucing ur social status would attract d kinda of girls u are running from,,,,follow ur heart,tk risk cos itx part of our existence

kathykathy:
i'm very sure u av met good nd respectable girls arround u bt u were so blind to notice dem,cos maybe u dnt find their social status pleasing or maybe u find dem below ur standards,,,bt i will advice once u see a girl u like nd u are convinced in ur heart y not follow her,,,,for u annoucing ur social status would attract d kinda of girls u are running from,,,,follow ur heart,tk risk cos itx part of our existence

I appreciate your response kathykathy.

I'm not the type of person to discriminate based on social status. I look at who you really are deep inside and not whor your social status is. Hence my not specifying what kind of woman I want other than the basics, God fearing and educated. I prefer young cos it gives us time to know each other without a ticking clock attached to it.

And maybe in the past, I may have met people who would have suited me. But then I was in a much bigger city, I had time to go out and meet people, but I was in a relationship. I believe in respecting ones relationship, so I always stay true to mine. The good ones don't stay single for long, so those opportunities are long gone.
But you are right in some aspects,it's hard to find what you are looking for.