most times I hate replying stuffs like this. u left her without communication for 7 months..with what form of assurance..is she a furniture dat u can dump n pick up at Will...if Ur lady is beautiful n well mannered, I believe a lot of admirers are waiting for u to Bleep up again. the moment Ur man starts showing u less attention, means he is sure giving it to someone else..you asked for a confession, u should have been matured enough to get what's coming.. have u tried also confessing to her..young man, its always nice to get counselling before marriage.....you wouldn't know what u have got until u loose it.

TK0907:
I'm into a relationship which is 4yrs old and the lady is someone that i loved so so much and i even introduced her to my parent as the girl i intend to marry and from the way she treats me also, i have this deep feeling that she even loves me more than how i love her but few months ago, I just wish to tease her and i ask her if she has slept with another guy since we started dating and sincerely, i was expecting her to be angry for even asking her such question but to my surprise after asking her several time and promising her not to use it to react to her, she eventually told me that she slept with somone else and her excuse was that it was due to the fact that we actually parted for like 7months which was due to my NYSC program which the distance was far for her to pay me visit. To cut d story short.

I still love her but their is this second thought that comes to mind once in a while what if work has to take me away from her for some months when we get married, hope there will not be a repeat of such? Pls i need a serious minded person to contribute cos the trust i have for her was not like before anymore.

Same thing happen to me, but life goes on
She slept with one movie producer last week

sonofananimal:



AND YOU STILL DEY WITH THE FEMALE ANIMAL

FVCK HER AND DUMP THAT EEDIOT DO UNTO HER WHAT SHE DID UNTO YOU.


NAIJA WOMEN ARE PARASITE TO THE HIGHEST ORDER, THERE ARE WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHITTE, EVEN WORST THAN ANIMALS

Ode!

Wow i love you. i am sleeping with a married woman too now cus i give sweet sex. she is just 26yrs old and her hubby cant do. lol

mrsefan:
u sleep with another too then 50/50

what if she had lied to you? Would you have lost the trust you had for her, FORGIVE HER AND FORGET IT, she did what was right by telling you the truth, do not use the truth she told you to work against her, Even you have your own flaws, if you can stand before God and say you are without sin, dont forgive her, but if you can not stand before God, forgive her and continue with her, we are humans we fall at times, if she doesnt love you she wouldnt have open up to you.
If you arent satisfied lets talk on 08052444590

Follow ur mind bro.. Its better to have a failed courtship than to have a failed marriage when u must have invested alot.. Whichever ways, all the very best bro..

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FEAR WOMEN!!!

Would you forgive him if it was you?

Mhizizzy:
Forgive


Forget

Move on

DWJOBScom:
You promised not to use it against her then don't

Marry her - she loves you enough to admit it

Be strong!

And when he comes back here to complain of fathering another man's(or other men's) children, years into his marriage with this girl, u'll be the first to give the knocks for agreeing to marry a woman who couldn't keep her legs closed for 7months while they were dating. O NLanders, Your hypocrisy stinks to the high heavens!
To those who've joined u to say the op should go ahead and marry her on the basis of the dirty truth that the slut told : So what she told the truth? If she had kept it under wraps, sooner or later, she'd be caught, just like most unrepentant cheats. Brother, don't listen to these ,male and female cheats here, giving advices they have no moral grounds to. Just Follow your heart. You know what's good for you . Selah

U dey go church?

If yes


Use ur church mind abeg!

Atlantian:
Its not the last time she will sleep with someone, and its not the last time you will sleep with someone. These things happen in marriages a lot but people simply refuse to talk about it. Marriage is human invention to claim ownership of women. Nature didnt invent marriage. Humans did. And anything created by humans, arent perfect, so is marriage. How many times do married women and even people's fiancee play karma sultra on my bed ? Uncountable!

Donpiero1:
FEAR WOMEN!!!

My neighbour's room mate who got married and moved out! Few weeks later he showed up with a babe and slept with her(what he used to do before marriage in that apartment)

Fear some men

thought you said you wont use it against her. But here you are telling the whole world online.

You are not a honorable man so just go and die.

BODY NO BE FIREWOOD!
IT WILL TAKE THE SPIRIT OF GOD ALMIGHTY FOR ME TO STAY 7 MONTHS NO FUCCCK!
I AM YET TO SEE A MAN I LOVE TO THAT EXTENT.

Guy in the period of the 7 months, did you not bleep another kitty-cat? Let bygone be bygone.

TK0907:
I'm into a relationship which is 4yrs old and the lady is someone that i loved so so much and i even introduced her to my parent as the girl i intend to marry and from the way she treats me also, i have this deep feeling that she even loves me more than how i love her but few months ago, I just wish to tease her and i ask her if she has slept with another guy since we started dating and sincerely, i was expecting her to be angry for even asking her such question but to my surprise after asking her several time and promising her not to use it to react to her, she eventually told me that she slept with somone else and her excuse was that it was due to the fact that we actually parted for like 7months which was due to my NYSC program which the distance was far for her to pay me visit. To cut d story short.

I still love her but their is this second thought that comes to mind once in a while what if work has to take me away from her for some months when we get married, hope there will not be a repeat of such? Pls i need a serious minded person to contribute cos the trust i have for her was not like before anymore.

Wat the eyes dont see dont hurt bro so forget and xntinue wth her.

Marriage is not dating so she possibly cant be that careless after marriage and remember that id she never told you the truth you wiill nver know so kini big deal?

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That lady sees you as very unserious. You expect tovtie her down in the robe of 'Fiancee'' for four years and she would not kick? As far as you are concerned youhave got a cunt to use and misuse. Marry her now or forever be quiet

You know your woman better than me and human nature is hard to change. There are 2 scenarios to this:
1
If she is naive enough to believe you when you told her you will not use the information against her, she still has some good in her and you can still "save" her. Ensure you two talk about these things. I will advice you to wife her (eventually if you still love her) but let her know how deeply you dislike her action. That you will not forgive her the next time around! NEVER BRING IT UP AGAIN!! Do your best to be loyal and let her know that you don't expect any less from her.

2
On the other hand, she might have thought you knew what she'd been up to in your absence. If you know her to be the crafty type that believe she can have her way whenever she wants, RUN!! She is only hedging against what you may have found out and she has done 3 to 6 guys and have her eyes on others.

Remember that a girlfriend is a girlfriend; a fiancee is a fiancee; and a wife is a wife. Many people take liberty when they are sexually active boyfriend/girlfriend. Married men and women also take liberty. So, what makes you believe that the next woman you get will not do the same and lie to you that she never did? I would rather marry a woman that does not sleep around because I don't (God's mercy in the midst of the lady sharks ). But where that is not available, I will take the one that cheats and tells me over the one that cheats and lies.

By the way, how is your skill in bed? How is your emotional bonding with her?

@op, so long as you are having pre marital sex with your partner! You should be ready for such "happenings" before marriage.

EggovinMma:



BODY NO BE FIREWOOD!
IT WILL TAKE THE SPIRIT OF GOD ALMIGHTY FOR ME TO STAY 7 MONTHS NO FUCCCK!
I AM YET TO SEE A MAN I LOVE TO THAT EXTENT.

then i must be an angel because i cant remember when i touched a lady last let alone mking love.

Women are indeed weaker sex

Why did you ask her the question in the first place?

Op am not going to ask u if you slept with anyone during those 7 months break

rather I will ask u how many girls did u sleep with during those 7 months. And how many times

Now ask yourself between you and her who committed more fornication ?

what's in sex... move on


READ MY SIGNATURE ABEG

yemmy95:
dude ur gurl actually slept with 3 men. when a woman gives you such figure, u multiply it by three. (from experience)

Plus the Number of Rounds.... 4 or 5 rounds per guy....

That's about 3x4 = 12 Rounds of Cumulative Knacking..


My Advice:-

1) If you know you can get that Thought Off (Of someone Knacking your wife), then Proceed with marriage Sharply..
Don't go for a reprisal Cheating Attack. Just take it that it's a mere Vagina.

Because at the end, True & Sincere Love Conquers All... Make sure she breaks down and Confesses her sins even before your Pastor/Priest/Imam (Whoever) and she must feel sorry for it,. Not that hopeless "konji" excuse she gave. So she doesn't indulge in such again.

2) But If you know you can't get that thought off, Dude !! Dont go into that Marriage... You guys will keep having useless and unnecessary issues and stupid Tensions in your home. Next na to Install CCTV for all the Rooms.



Afterall, Single Finer/Caring/Pretty babes Plenty, Even here on nairaland. Wey your mama go Like if she hear say na Nairalander

Jollyjoy:
Guys self,it nt like u didn"t sleep with anoda gurl during those months. See beyond her flaws and let go. But if u knw u cn"t forget it, just end the affair becos u may neva trust her again. What is love without trust!

babe,I ws damn upset wen I read ur comment bt immediately I dashed into ur profile,on seeing ur profile pics,I vomited.
Like nosa like comment!!!

Abugab:
I this she was sincere to tell you.
For that period of interlude in the relationship didn't you get down with someone too?
Afterall, there is nothing serious in the offing and so has to help herself.
Thank goodness she didn't go the way of cucumber and maybe she could have had a broken one too.
If she is good to be wifed, do it.
If you can't go on cos of trust issues, then bounce.

No cheat is good enough to be wifed. Marriage isn't just some courtship u go in and opt out when things aren't as u hoped. Once a cheat, ever......

Toks2008:


then i must be an angel because i cant remember when i touched a lady last let alone mking love.

Women are indeed weaker sex

Honey, way of life is a choice.
Between you and I, you are an angel then.

Insidous:

Ode!

MY STUBBORN BABE WHY DID YOU REMOVE YOUR BEAUTY PICS?
OR ARE YOU SHY OF YOUR PHYSIC

Honesty be encouraged as rightly said dimple! How honest are you? Bro you better manage your relationship well before you find yourself in a point of ilue lue like Gordons would say.

A 4 year relationship... did you ever set a wedding deadline? Love you as much as she does her mind would be weak to anyone that promises her marriage and most likely that was the case during your absence...the guy was whispering in her ears what she expected to hear from you. It is not a case where she ran out and grabbed the first man available....she had to be establishing a relationship with the guy before giving in. Since the cat was let out the bag then what time after you left can indicate what is to come.....did she sleep with the guy the first week after?...or a month before you returned?...if it were a one time thing then you can say it's a mistake...caught in a moment of weakness. If not.. then she is a cheat and is likely to cheat again but for another reason. However...as a man you gave your word that you shall not hold whatever she says against her. Why all this now? You need to keep your word, forgive her and move on with sealing the relationship and never ever raise this issue with her again.

Let's assume she was testing you too because I think 7month ain't too long to abstain from sex...but since you said you won't hold it against her then don't unless you feel you can't trust her again cos really trust is very very important. Best of luck!