How long did it take you to get over someone you love?
We are more than insults,please

10 DECADES

3hrs.....

but it felt like 5hrs at dat time.

10 minutes .... That was how long it took me to get to the ashawo joint in my area and have one Calabar babe give me such great sex that after d whole orggy, I kept trying very hard to remember who I was supposed to be 'getting over', and I still can't till now

Just 2months Den I fell in love with ma drumz

:DI haven't gotten over him. but i have gotten above him

naijaboiy:
Two weeks.

Shh. That's not love

havnt gotten over my first love after 3years. someone help me

naijaboiy:

Because it took you 5 years to get over your Ex doesn't make yours "love" either.

Lol. I've never been in love. But I can tell yours is not. Just a mere infatuation.

Love(bf/gf kind) is overrated...

Never

2minutes

Still counting........

It depends on how soon u realize u arent meant to be with that person and how soon u realize that life is too short to start thinking abt someone doesn't even know if u still exist or nt

naijaboiy:

Yea...so how do you get to ascertain if you want to marry a guy?

First off, let me state that "romantic love" is experienced in the first 2yrs(maximum) of dating/being with someone(my opinion but also the opinion of some people). After that, it boils down to mutual respect, understanding, compatibility and most importantly, the willingness to stay together(in my opinion ).

You've heard people say "I love him/her but I can't live with". In this case, I like to assume they are incompatible, they don't understand each other or they have different ideologies(imagine a feminist and a traditional Nigerian man ). Wisdom is walking away if all effort to make things work fails but "love" is going ahead to marry the person and when the butterflies go away? Resentment sets in. I'm not saying love is the opposite of wisdom but if they don't work hand in hand then it can be.

To your question...

Get to know him, his personality, character, attitude... can I live with that?

Get to know his opinion on marriage and family, what he expects from me and let him know what I expect from him... can we meet each other at the middle(compromise)?

His values, do they align with mine? Coz I aint gon try to change anyone and it's those values that'll be passed on to the next generation.

Check his goals... do they align with mine?

How committed are you to me and to making it work?

Love... of course you need to have that romantic love/chemistry to even want to know or understand him and when you don't feel the butterflies anymore, you are committed to each other, work on the relationship, rekindle the fire and in so doing, create a bond between the two of you (instead of hoping the children will create the bond).

But hey, I'm human so I might have false judgments in some aspects so... I'm gonna trust God to help me make the right choice...

You can dabble into love but marriage?

Sorry for the epistle, but you asked for it...

The epistle above said a lot. Pls re_read