Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by bababuff(m): 3:43pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
10: They expect you to be a super stud. Just because you a handsome, they expect you go 20 rounds and be able to do all the styles they see in mojo films. Forgetting the fact that na blood the flow thru your veins too. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by xynerise: 3:44pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
The handsome guys get the best position in a group photograph. 1 Like |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:44pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Isomerizm:
This thread just changed my mentality. I used to think I'm the only person experiencing that 'loneliness' part. You are not alone bruh!
But you can go out and make friends. It's usually easy for good looking guys to attract people of both sexes.
Don't wait for people to come to you. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:44pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
bababuff: 10: They expect you to be a super stud. Just because you a handsome, they expect you go 20 rounds and be able to do all the styles they see in mojo films. Forgetting the fact that na blood the flow thru your veins too. Funny but true |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Toks2008(m): 3:45pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy: Being a handsome or good looking guy is a very wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to be created that way by their maker. The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are also believed to always easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.
But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.
Now let's analyse some of these setbacks or disadvantages together.
1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.
2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don't really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.
3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You'll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn't let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.
4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.
5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren't outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it's a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.
6)Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your "not-so-good-looking" friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.
7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn't want to date someone more attractive than her because she can't use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he's tagged a "player".
8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don't even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.
9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.
10) share yours.
Cc: Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Evry word is so on point. The wowst part is that people conclude that u must be a play boy. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by misspicy(f): 3:45pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy:
Nope!
Just like saying one beautiful girl who is a who're makes every pretty girl a who're.
Right? not right |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:46pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Toks2008:
Evry word is so on point. The wowst part is that people conclude that u must be a play boy. Yea. I think that should be the most annoying when it comes to relationships. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:46pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
choii...why did i come late on this matter |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:46pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
misspicy:
not right Good!
So the same logic applies here too. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:47pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Tomfrench: choii...why did i come late on this matter Welcome brother.
Shey I spoke the truth? |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by stag: 3:50pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Ladies get very defensive when its a handsome guy. Just a simple harmless 'hi' and the lady's defenses are built so high up as if all you ever want is sex.
Well, for some of the so-called handsome or good-looking, they don't really like the attention they stir.
Some handsome guys are plain cocky though. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Toks2008(m): 3:50pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy:
Yea. I think that should be the most annoying when it comes to relationships. but i pity a fine guy who lacks sexual discpline because na die e dey |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Lovexme(m): 3:50pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Lots of 'handsome' brothers commenting on this thread. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Cutehector: and wen dey hav money, u will call dem players... why will i call dem players?shey money and players relate ni |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:52pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Toks2008:
but i pity a fine guy who lacks sexual discpline because na die e dey hahahaha....oga fine boy no dey for sex o.
Every guy needs to be well trained in that. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
A topic after my heart... *I'm in tears, i thought i was d only cutie living this....
But I'd rather b cute n av only a mirror on d wall as my only friend than ugly with a million friends...
Besides we only associate with fellow cutes. 1 Like |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
robosky02:
its feel sooooooooo good to be back on nairaland
miss you much fellas... where have u been dear?miss u too |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by zikray: 3:53pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy: Being a handsome or good looking guy is a very wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to be created that way by their maker. The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are also believed to always easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.
But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.
Now let's analyse some of these setbacks or disadvantages together.
1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.
2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don't really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.
3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You'll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn't let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.
4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.
5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren't outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it's a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.
6)Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your "not-so-good-looking" friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.
7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn't want to date someone more attractive than her because she can't use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he's tagged a "player".
8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don't even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.
9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.
10) share yours.
Cc: Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Exactly what good looking guys pass through on daily basis.Lalasticlala u are seriously on point....in fact i will dash u one of my boxers. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:54pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy:
Lol,,any guy can be broke.
It's just a stereotyped thought of some of you ladies which is flawed in every sense.
Well it's one of the setbacks they experience. seriously i knw what i am saying |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Nobody: 3:54pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy:
Welcome brother.
Shey I spoke the truth? mehn...you nailed it... but that loneliness part ....Personally, i decide to be lonely, especially during exam periods o |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by prettyJoy22(f): 3:55pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
chudidonas: I was expectng this and it is spot on.
Once you're handsome, every girl believes you have a girlfriend and you're automatically a cheat. If you're handsome, even the cheap girls you know their story will want love and commitment from you immediately you say Hi to them. Lol Lol but most cute guys are cheats |
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Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Cutehector(m): 3:55pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
IamYhudii: u ehn! u dis my silent follower.... Its nw dat u will come out of ur shell |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Karleb(m): 3:56pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Make I follow them claim fine boy. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by teelady(f): 3:56pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Expecting to see same topic the female version, cnt wait. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by drnoel: 3:56pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy: Being a handsome or good looking guy is a very wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to be created that way by their maker. The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are also believed to always easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.
But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.
Now let's analyse some of these setbacks or disadvantages together.
1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.
2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don't really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.
3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You'll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn't let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.
4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.
5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren't outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it's a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.
6)Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your "not-so-good-looking" friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.
7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn't want to date someone more attractive than her because she can't use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he's tagged a "player".
8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don't even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.
9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.
10) share yours.
Cc: Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Not all very correct. In uni days I had this very handsome pal of mine that I always used to use to get girls not cos they did shskara for but cos they fell head over heels in love for him but he wont want them so I was the shoulder they used tp cry on and so in all cases was their love on rebound. There were also ladies that he treated bad and they all came to cry on my shoulder and since nothing went 4 nothing it was encouraging to allow them and it the end they all ended up on their backs. I will take a normal looking guy or a not so good looking guy any day in place of a handsome guy. I will write a full story about that experience one of these dayz. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by Toks2008(m): 3:57pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
naijaboiy:
hahahaha....oga fine boy no dey for sex o.
Every guy needs to be well trained in that. i remember my university days when i will walk into my room to see a naked girl in my bed just for me to walk her out. wen i look back to those days i just thank God for the disxipline maybe i for don die tey tey of Hiv bcoc the rushing too much. |
Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by prettyJoy22(f): 3:57pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
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Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by walosha(f): 3:57pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
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Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by naijaboiy: 3:57pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
prettythicksme: seriously i knw what i am saying Well that's according to your own experience.
Wealth is not by looks. |
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Re: The Daily Pains Of A Handsome Or Good Looking Guy. by epelumi42(m): 3:58pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
Come on, do you know how many times I've had to preach that looks doesn't define a man?
To reiterate your point; your friends will automatically expect you to share the babes like you keep a flock of them.
That 7th point happened to the lady that should have been my first girl. She felt I was gonna cheat on her. I mean, she's not that bad, why would I?
Sometimes you will be expected to pay more. Traders or shop owners will expect you to just take the price without negotiations at all. 'you be fine boy na'. Lol
For me tho, Im not that charming, but I've never failed in making friends with any lady I desire. It may take time tho. Lol.
The point is, once a guy adds Intelligence to beauty, even the prettiest princesses will fall. Just a poem sheet does it for me tho #tongue_out |