Do you flog her if you find out she is having sex with a 20 year old boy who you have forbidden her to see?

why not? if she pass her boundary

talk alone aren't enough for some kids

In africa,yeah! But where i grew up, we send them to juvie.

y not?? i was told back in d days even married couples gets flogged..say if the husbsnd does something the wife doesnt like, she reports him to his parents or elders who calls him over n flogs him well..Besides shes too young naa but dnt over flog oo

Having sex .

So wil u flog her whenever she finishes a session?

Or u flog her periodically?

agarawu23:
why not? if she pass her boundary

talk alone aren't enough for some kids

I guess having sex with a 20 year old boy after she was ordered not to continue seeing him is going past her boundary. Concerned about how she'll react when the lashes are being laid on her back.

Emmaville:
Having sex .

So wil u flog her whenever she finishes a session?

Or u flog her periodically?

she'll be punished for seeing the boy

Mariecakes:
y not?? i was told back in d days even married couples gets flogged..say if the husbsnd does something the wife doesnt like, she reports him to his parents or elders who calls him over n flogs him well..Besides shes too young naa but dnt over flog oo

I remember when a man could use a switch no thicker than his thumb to beat his wife when she needed correction or control?

hvq229:


I guess having sex with a 20 year old boy after she was ordered not to continue seeing him is going past her boundary. Concerned about how she'll react when the lashes are being laid on her back.

I didn't knew you later modified your post.

the flogging will give her fear against next time.
And you should seat her down and talk some senses into her brain
if my mum talk sense into your brain eh! you will not eat for two days cos you will keep remembering her words.

Story. When the pains of the flogging go gown she'll still repeat it


by the way some 17 year olds look like 27

all these barbaric ways of dealing with situations will only make it worse. if she wants to have sex, she will have sex and since she has already started there's nothing you can do about it. she's 17 and no longer a little kid. beating her will only make her hate u, be fearful of u or prevent her from coming to u if she needs u in the future. u can't forbid them to not see each other. as u can see, that clearly didn't work. all u can do now is talk to her into always using protection, not being promiscuous, protecting her heart.

Educate her about the ills of unprepared sex.

punished not floged

hvq229:
Do you flog her if you find out she is having sex with a 20 year old boy who you have forbidden her to see?

No.

Just for having sex? And you want to flog her?

Why not state those wrong reasons to her why she should not have sex at that age.

Have you considered the fact that maybe flogging might make her stop for good then when she is of the right age to get married, she became frigid towards sex.

In that situation, are you gonna flog her into being normal again?

Education is the key please. Keep your stick somewhere. Those days when they flog teens, information was limited. Do not tell her if he touch her, she will be pregnant. Just call it what the name is.

Richy4:
Just for having sex? And you want to flog her?

Why not state those wrong reasons to her why she should not have sex at that age.

Have you considered the fact that maybe flogging might make her stop for good then when she is of the right age to get married, she became frigid towards sex.

In that situation, are you gonna flog her into being normal again?

Education is the key please. Keep your stick somewhere. Those days when they flog teens, information was limited. Do not tell her if he touch her, she will be pregnant. Just call it what the name is.

it's also for disobeying an order to keep away from the boy

hvq229:


it's also for disobeying an order to keep away from the boy

Sir, i just wanted you to listen to yourself talk or better still read through what you have been writing.

U used word like "Order"so freely. I know teenagers are in a confused state and you are to direct them. But please direct them the right way. Remind her how much you loved her that if she mistakenly tell the guy that she is pregnant, he will run away from her.

And truly if she gets pregnant,the burden will be on her immediate family that's why u are doing all this. You can also give an example of people you know that has died of HIV or story you have heard.

besides it is your plans for her to go to school and achieve a goal for herself. With good education, and good job, she will be well equipped to face the world. bla bla.

Please l am begging you. Do not use force on her, because if you do, you are forcing her into that guy's life.he will now be acting like a comforter. It will be as if you are the enemy while the guy is the angel

hvq229:
Do you flog her if you find out she is having sex with a 20 year old boy who you have forbidden her to see?

hmmmmmm!
at this stage,it is no longer about flogging.it is about CRITICAO ANALYSIS OF THE WHOLE SCENARIO.
you can win this
I remember a teenage case like that but it was rooted waaaaay back when she was 8-10 years.fast forward to a low self esteem issues she accidentally stumbled into a older male friend of 15years gap that educated and trained her mentally for 3 years how to hold herself mentally and physically from wayward lifestyle and a more discreet sex lifestyle.
it is more of planning from day 1 when it comes to teens.they want practical answers and the rest is the results.
flogging comes when it be comes corporal punishment

hvq229:
Do you flog her if you find out she is having sex with a 20 year old boy who you have forbidden her to see?

She's 17. Did you start having sex before then?

agarawu23:
I didn't knew you later modified your post.

the flogging will give her fear against next time.
And you should seat her down and talk some senses into her brain
if my mum talk sense into your brain eh! you will not eat for two days cos you will keep remembering her words.

Most of those posting on here don't think I should do it. The child had been living with her Aunt until a few months ago when she moved back with us. She be over here tomorrow so if I am going to do that will be the time. I won't have to involve her mother, the aunt can get the child ready-- I don't think she'll need to unclad her but if that's necessary the Aunt can do that. The mother can talk to her afterwards

A lady at 17 in medieval times would already be a mother of 2 or 3; her body mature for childbearing, her mind ripe for the responsibilities of woman and motherhood. They became women right from the ages of 12 (traditional history has it Mary the earthly mother of Jesus gave birth to Him when she was 14).

A lady at 17 in our generation may still be thought of as a child, but her body is already ripe for childbearing.

My point is she is way past being flogged to instill the fear of pain that would come to her as a consequence of wrongdoing. That would work on children but not on her at this point.

When I was 12 I came to know that getting flogged would not kill me, and understanding that the pain was always temporary, I decided to do whatever I believed was right in my own eyes and braced myself for the consequences. The result - I was flogged often, but as I decided never to show any expression of pain during and after the correctional activity, many believed I didn't feel pain at the time (some would even label me as a cane-chester and would love to see me get into trouble so they could compare my skill with other populars), and over the years my parents and teachers while they would flog others would seek other ways of punishing me for my actions (which they judged was wrong at the time). I probably cut more grass than most on this forum in my secondary school days...

Had I people who would have counseled me well I would not have made the mistakes that tainted my teenage years, believing that the pain that came via flogging would never fully implant itself on the consciousness of my being.

But now that I know better I would recommend the lady be punished, corrected and mentored in love.

This would be no easy task but it is infinitely better than inflicting wounds on a lady's tender body that would probably never make her regret or want to atone for her wrongdoing.

Would that all youth children learn and become enlightened at an early age so they don't get to make the mistakes we made when we were like them (which we are trying to prevent them form doing in the ways we believe is right).

The world would be a much better place if they knew that most times their brains are still developing and as such they can only process one thought or consequence of choice at at time. Which is why a proverb gossips ever so fervently that what an elder sees sitting on a stool a child that climbs an iroko tree can never see.



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agarawu23:
I didn't knew you later modified your post.

the flogging will give her fear against next time.
And you should seat her down and talk some senses into her brain
if my mum talk sense into your brain eh! you will not eat for two days cos you will keep remembering her words.

she got the flogging

She should be punished, not flogged.
Certain privileges can be withdrawn as well