centjamie:
Spot on @op.

But it is not entirely hard to find a decent girl especially since you have had a taste of both hard and confortable life.you just need to come down from your high horse and get yourself a decent lady.from your write up,your problems are so glaring,you just need a change of approach.

Men who are far richer than you have successfully gotten themselves good women,they went about it the right way.when you go about showing them you have money,why won't they want to collect their own share? Show your broke ass hommies you got money and they will still want their share.that's the reality of life.

I quite agree that good girls are not easy to come by and that there are some amount of luck involved, but there are also some amount of hard work invloved too.there are still girls who see beyond your money depending on the personality you portray....also try to look beyond drop dead beauty,big asses and big boobs and you will find what you are look for.

tellwisdom:
Op, you are foolish. That you were able to eat 2 wraps of Eba and egusi plus wearing aba made shoes and cloths doesn't make you comfortable. Guy, leave this talk for us wey dey run town. Poor boi feeling funky

tellwisdom:
Op, you are foolish. That you were able to eat 2 wraps of Eba and egusi plus wearing aba made shoes and cloths doesn't make you comfortable. Guy, leave this talk for us wey dey run town. Poor boi feeling funky

gudrated:

same assumption I talked about in numbers 9, 1 and 2. People judge you before even giving you a chance. Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance.

RealAlfranco:
dis niqqa has successfully advertised himself... U cud have dropped ur mobile numba to make things easer na. Be ready,ur mail box go know wassup soon. Goodluck to u bruh!!!

Dorrobucci:
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I don't just like this kind of advert.

yilly:

well, jst try nt to expose urself too much dat u hv d money. U c, like i said, nt evry gal likes to ask for money frm a guy. I find it hard to even beg for money frm my parents talkless of a guy. Pple like dat are hard to find. Tk ur tym n find d right one. I can date a guy for mnths wtout askng for even a #100 recharge card sef n its nt like am wrkng or something. Again, nt all gals are dsame.

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


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Nnemuka:
show me a rich humble guy and i will show you a pregnant virgin.
Rich guys are mostly arrogant and their orientation about girls sucks......

BUTCHCASSIDY:


@ the end of the day I'd rather be rich and handsome than broke

dechandel:
LOL
Please turn in the resignation A.S.A.P
I need to test my humility skills!! Make i come join you, make we begin dey soak garri till death do YOU part!

ladygudhead:
[b][/b]My ex-gfs have also accused
me of cheating eventough I was never caught. hmm still they were right dat u cheated.

goodgate:
He should just go for babes in his class/social strata,thats why i think he has personality issues, because babes from your uni day/girls you knew while growing up will just be the best for you,they will be easier to relate with and you won't have much problems understanding each other.

humilitypays:
I quite agree with you but do u know that it is easier for a guy born in a rich family to find a beautiful and responsible girl to date/marry than for a guy born in poverty, who later became rich

And y must a girl be ugly before she can have good character, yy

Why can't we see plenty super-pretty girls with respect, humility and good feminine character

I hate it when people make it seem like only ugly girls have good character.

My own mother judging from her looks now must have been very pretty as a young lady and she still had awesome character that my papa always praise till date.


Truth is, a rich single guy in present day Nigeria should avoid dating poor girls!

Find your equal...in your estate...find a way to meet those girls there living with their rich parents too...avoid the spoilt ones who club around town...e.g. those ones u see at THE PLACE @Lekki...those spoilt rich girls who come to club in company of their fellow spoilt rich girls searching for music stars to enchant...avoid them and avoid meeting girls at clubs and bars!

Look for introvert girls from rich family backgrounds.

Or y do u think kings forbid their sons marrying a girl that isn't a princess Its to avoid gold-digging by poor girls...sadly, that's how the world operates- let the rich marry the rich and let the poor marry fellow poor and work hard together to become rich. That mes it easier and fair to all concerned.

Meanwhile, learn to enjoy your money and forget women in general...the right girl will cross your path by destiny, and make sure u aren't living a dirty life of sleeping around with different girls while waiting for one cinderella...of course nature won't allow it to work.

MizMyColi:


Liking precedes Love.
I agree with you though.
It's not confusing really, especially when you understand that it's part of daily human relations.

Nnemuka:
show me a rich humble guy and i will show you a pregnant virgin.
Rich guys are mostly arrogant and their orientation about girls sucks......

dechandel:
LOL
Please turn in the resignation A.S.A.P
I need to test my humility skills!! Make i come join you, make we begin dey soak garri till death do YOU part!

haha me no see garri soak as I dey here self. E be like say na trek you go take come here. Trekking for love PT2

tellwisdom:
Op, you are foolish. That you were able to eat 2 wraps of Eba and egusi plus wearing aba made shoes and cloths doesn't make you comfortable. Guy, leave this talk for us wey dey run town. Poor boi feeling funky

hopeforcharles:

Hahahahhaha, Omo see marketing, lol, u want tell us say u no dey collect even 1 huns card, lol, Gather small children and tell them this story they will believe u intoto. Lol, and if u are for real let's date, I got swags, cash, and push, u'do be comfortable with me

ahsekeena:
boring. Boring. Boring

gudrated:

comments like this only make me laugh. People who think money is the only key to a successful relationship....
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yilly:

am sorry, i've got a bf alrdy.

hopeforcharles:

Tis okay on that dating part I was joking, I can't do distant relationship stuffs anyway, I just hope he knows that he has gotten an exceptional pricy jewel in you, I for my own part I am always luck I meet good girls, I believe it's because I have a good heart.

InvertedHammer:
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Single and rich? And you can't find a decent girl for love?

I don't want to imagine what your life would have been if you are poor.

Nigerians like to show off....therein lies your problem. It doesn't hurt to move around town simply as you without displaying those things that attract leeches. Nobody sees you and know your worth without you.displaying those things that give the clue.

Blame yourself.
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