Flips:
okay na... I will comment when this reaches FP

Sorry is ya name

Dis aint going a.._____________neva mind sef

gudrated:

lol
This doesn't have anything to do with ugliness. I am the OP

But you have to tell yourself the truth. No offence intended but you do know you're not handsome, right?

prelinctus:

But you have to tell yourself the truth. No offence intended but you do know you're not handsome, right?

I am not an ugly person by ALL standards...no more comments on that. I am not the type of guy that focuses on money or looks.

drake99:
so you think its impossible?

I've dated a girl that spends on me from the day we started till the day we departed,if I offer to give her she gets angry

She brings the money I use in taking her out

I believe you, I wasn't doubting her, after all they are humans too,

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala

Op, totally on point oh!!!

humilitypays:


And y must a girl be ugly before she can have good character, yy

Why can't we see plenty super-pretty girls with respect, humility and good feminine character

I hate it when people make it seem like only ugly girls have good character.

My own mother judging from her looks now must have been very pretty as a young lady and she still had awesome character that my papa always praise till date.

You are absolutely spot-on on this. My wife should at least the pleasing to the eyes and decent. She doesn't necessarily have to be the most beautiful woman in the world. However, she needs to be presentable and look attractive to me. I believe there are good looking and decent women at there. I have met some.
I finally find someone that is in tune with me.

I have no idea why everyone is bashing the poster and calling him arrogant. Most of what he said is true so why the hate? Once a lot of women see that you are rich they think that they have seen their meal ticket. From what I read the poster sounds like all he wants is a pretty and decent girl who wants him for who he is and not what he can provide. The fact that he is rich should be an added benefit not the only reason she is dating him.

@gudrated
You are going to have to make some adjustments if you want to meet that decent girl. this is what I would suggest.
1. Talk to your friends especially female friends and get them to introduce you to potential prospects. Speak with your family as well (your mom especially). Your mom or close female cousins would definitely have your back and would not want to introduce you to a leech.

2. Weddings: i have to warn you that this is a mixed bag. You would see the good, bad and ugly here but at least you still get a chance to meet a decent woman. Start attending all the weddings you are invited to. In fact invite yourself for the wedding if your friends don't invite you.

3. Someone recommended using public transport. I second that! I am not saying that you should completely stop using your car but you want to try and use public transport more often

4. Church. Yes, Yes some people would say that church girls are even worse but a church is also a reflection of society. You would definitely find both gold diggers and good girls in church so its all about 'shining your eye'. Besides church is probably the only place you would be able to find the 'omo mummy'. I think you should also speak with your pastor. You never can tell!

Best of luck with your search and don't listen to the haters. For some reason Nigerians equate confidence with arrogance.

this article is full of nonsense - but it will make for an interesting debate from an individual thats genuine.

Nigerian men are more obsessed with money than the women but they never admit it, it makes them stick their heads soo far up their own arses.

if you had more to you than your money, you will seek relationships on the basis of compatibility and wouldnt believe all women are after your money.

I've noticed that guys that fall into decent jobs (often not because they're intelligent) are arrogant and overbearing. They forget their manners and are probably accustomed to women flocking them they don't know how to act.

I don't care how much money such a man has I won't be able to sit in a room with him for 5 minutes.

Where I've gone on a date wanting to hear about a mans hobbies, his interests, his take on politics. i've found myself hearing how hard his life is because he has abit of spare cash, how his hobbies are making money and how he's worried about the next investment he's going to make.
What kind of woman do you expect to find with that kind of talk? O lets not forget when he now speaks on my behalf and lists my interests as brazilian hair and Beyonce. . . it's insulting!

yinkeys:
Oga sir, good & responsible girls dey. U never ready wan drop ego settle. I think you are a geek or a learner when it comes to women affairs. No offense sir, but I know your type. Like dechandel said, you can start with omo mummy's. Those soft hearted babes

broda! I no bee op! But u simply dont av a clue what he's toking about...so js zip!!

yinkeys:
Oga sir, good & responsible girls dey. U never ready wan drop ego settle. I think you are a geek or a learner when it comes to women affairs. No offense sir, but I know your type. Like dechandel said, you can start with omo mummy's. Those soft hearted babes

Pls where can u find them? This struggle is real.

AlienStar:
palm oil or groundnut oil.... lol

ode Attention seeker Go school dem no go hear

yilly:

well, jst try nt to expose urself too much dat u hv d money. U c, like i said, nt evry gal likes to ask for money frm a guy. I find it hard to even beg for money frm my parents talkless of a guy. Pple like dat are hard to find. Tk ur tym n find d right one. I can date a guy for mnths wtout askng for even a #100 recharge card sef n its nt like am wrkng or something. Again, nt all gals are dsame.

U now pretend as if u re a good girl,I have seen many of ur type who pretends @ the end u get to find out they re the worst.

Wahala dey o!!!

dechandel:
Hehehehehhehe
I no go read waka pass for this one o


I have aRich friend who once told me how difficult it is for him to get a decent chic. And i was like how possible? With your money, 'em chics go surrender na, he just laughed and said i wish!!

If you want a decent 100 yards wife material chic, go for the introverted omo mummy's
I don't mean church girls o, na them do worst pass

am in the same shoe , at a point l got fed up, even thought is evil forces

Qweenedo2:
So what do you want the single rich guys to do now....... Become poor or commit sucide. The next article will be PAINS OF A SINGLE POOR GUY....

Your comment had me laughing.

Noted

SirEzzy:


U now pretend as if u re a good girl,I have seen many of ur type who pretends @ the end u get to find out they re the worst.

lol! I hardly talk bt wen i do, i do nt lie. I do nt pretend. U dnt knw me n neither do u knw anythng abt me!
Probably u are d one who's WORST

yilly:

well, jst try nt to expose urself too much dat u hv d money. U c, like i said, nt evry gal likes to ask for money frm a guy. I find it hard to even beg for money frm my parents talkless of a guy. Pple like dat are hard to find. Tk ur tym n find d right one. I can date a guy for mnths wtout askng for even a #100 recharge card sef n its nt like am wrkng or something. Again, nt all gals are dsame.

your own version of 9ja girl different o
Shoooooooo

no2fuks:
get money f**k bitches stop looking for love if it is meant to be it will come to you

Simple and straight to the point.

mayymayy:
You get money wahala, you no get, trouble!!!

I dey tell you guy.

KingAdeOluomo1:
ode Attention seeker Go school dem no go hear

I wantd to ignore u buh dt will only make u cry n i dnt lyk seeing guys cry

queensmith:
this article is full of nonsense - but it will make for an interesting debate from an individual thats genuine.

Nigerian men are more obsessed with money than the women but they never admit it, it makes them stick their heads soo far up their own arses.

if you had more to you than your money, you will seek relationships on the basis of compatibility and wouldnt believe all women are after your money.

I've noticed that guys that fall into decent jobs (often not because they're intelligent) are arrogant and overbearing. They forget their manners and are probably accustomed to women flocking them they don't know how to act.

I don't care how much money such a man has I won't be able to sit in a room with him for 5 minutes.

Where I've gone on a date wanting to hear about a mans hobbies, his interests, his take on politics. i've found myself hearing how hard his life is because he has abit of spare cash, how his hobbies are making money and how he's worried about the next investment he's going to make.
What kind of woman do you expect to find with that kind of talk? O lets not forget when he now speaks on my behalf and lists my interests as brazilian hair and Beyonce. . . it's insulting!

And u ask urself why a lot of marriages of these well to do folks are crashing or in crisis. There is a saying, u cant give what u dont have. Most times these kind of men lack substance and are vain. They think that life is all about designer shoes, clothes, good ride and crib. Those things are good but the most important thing is who u are on the inside,ur personality and character like humility, respect, kindnes, caring, smart, considerate, wisdom, inteligence, real, honesty etc. When a guy possess these traits, he has 90percent chances of getting a decent good woman that will fall in true love with him.

Whobedatte:
your own version of 9ja girl different o
Shoooooooo

well, i would luv u to tell me d version u knw. Those cheating on u or those eating ur money? Or whichever u think i am. Pls tell me.
I jst dnt knw wats wt u guys. U said u wnt d gud gals bt wen u hv dem, u treat dem bad. And wen u happened to hv d bad gals, u complain.

[quote author=sharon763 post=35547966][/quote] sharp girl, u just quickly wan apply to. Why are u telling him u are single? Yimu, dat Op is not working in any oil company so stop disturbing urself

[May God bless u for this wonderful post,often when i hear young folks saying trash like get money then u hv love i weep for them in my heart.
I've been living with this burden for over 5yrs nw and everything u hv highlighted here is the same case with me despite my fat pay,SUV etc each time i enter my lonely big flat i get frustrated.
I even started taking brt to humble myself a bit where I met a girl who came to my house and never returned again her excuse was that I hv a wife abroad that am just lying because my house is too big for a bachelor.
Its very lonely being rich and single and thats y guys in my bracket take solace in bars and clubs where d only thing we find is runs gehls and ashies that we feel d money can easily buy but d next morning we still wake up hating and causing cos d heart is void and empty and its searching for that thing money cannot buy.
Am in my mid thirties but i wished i had not spent my twenties seeking money like most young folks here do now. D worst thing is as i grow older d more difficult it gets cos the ladies gets more and more intimidated and insecured with me.Too bad!!!

quote author=gudrated post=35543651]It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala[/quote]

[May God bless u for this wonderful post,often when i hear young folks saying trash like get money then u hv love i weep for them in my heart.
I've been living with this burden for over 5yrs nw and everything u hv highlighted here is the same case with me despite my fat pay,SUV etc each time i enter my lonely big flat i get frustrated.
I even started taking brt to humble myself a bit where I met a girl who came to my house and never returned again her excuse was that I hv a wife abroad that am just lying because my house is too big for a bachelor.
Its very lonely being rich and single and thats y guys in my bracket take solace in bars and clubs where d only thing we find is runs gehls and ashies that we feel d money can easily buy but d next morning we still wake up hating and causing cos d heart is void and empty and its searching for that thing money cannot buy.
Am in my mid thirties but i wished i had not spent my twenties seeking money like most young folks here do now. D worst thing is as i grow older d more difficult it gets cos the ladies gets more and more intimidated and insecured with me.Too bad!!!


quote author=gudrated post=35543651]It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala[/quote]

At OP God bless ur soul for this thread n may u find wat u Seek,Amen

yilly:

well, i would luv u to tell me d version u knw. Those cheating on u or those eating ur money? Or whichever u think i am. Pls tell me.
I jst dnt knw wats wt u guys. U said u wnt d gud gals bt wen u hv dem, u treat dem bad. And wen u happened to hv d bad gals, u complain.

when did I say all these you wrote?

Slimmos:
sharp girl, u just quickly wan apply to. Why are u telling him u are single? Yimu, dat Op is not working in any oil company so stop disturbing urself

lol...I work there...but that's not even the subject of discussion. There are many singles in the industry looking for husbands and wives..just like in any other industry in Nigeria

The truth of the matter is that they are indeed decent and pretty ladies,but HOW and WHERE you meet ladies play a major role in who they realy are.The OP has to understand that they are a very limited amount of decent girls in a club!Introverts are more likely to be more decent than extroverts because they are generally reserved and not easily influenced by friends/society,and clubs aren't the best hangout spot for them.
DISCLAIMER:Am not in anyway saying clubbing is for bad/indecent girls,but if you as a guy meets a lady in a club and she says she does that every weekend that's definately a REDFLAG!!!Moderation is key.
Try not to spend/impress any Lady with your money,be prudent.If you don't know how to be prudent,use google "lol" but seriously though,she isn't your wife...therefore don't be her financial security until you wife her and also don't expect same(wifely duties)from her,you are not her husband!
Make her understand this,if she's decent she would be cool with you,if otherwise.REDFLAG!
Truth be told,as a lady myself its kinda hard to believe a dude of a marriageable age is single,with a good job,car and house.So instead of allowing that doubt to linger,clear the air on your status to any potential girlfriend and be firm when doing so.
Now all those ladies making request without accepting your proposal are totally ridiculous!Requesting from a partner in a relationship is not realy the best,then asking from a potential that's the height!(Let me stop here,tired of typing)
So my dear Gudrated,all the best in your quest!I pray you find her soon.

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But you have to tell yourself the truth. No offence intended but you do know you're not handsome, right?

do you think handsomeness can do better in getting a nigerian girl more than money