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Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by freelance777: 1:01pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
PMIcon: Does that counseling of a thing truly do work? I am in a big doubt to that. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by coogar: 1:07pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
freelance777: don't waste your money on counselling in nigeria. they don't know squat & they are not even professional enough to keep your story confidential. your wife is cheating - it's up to you to take any action you deem fit. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by mkpikpub(m): 2:35pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
If this woman has not already cheated on you with this guy, it's just a matter of time. Confront the guy and report him to his wife. Chikena 4 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by raumdeuter: 2:54pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
If you are convinced she is cheating and not willing to change her ways then separate 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by PMIcon(m): 3:03pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
freelance777: It definitely works if both parties are committed to having a successful marriage rather than focusing on who is right and who is wrong? If you both make that decision first, then counseling really helps. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by PMIcon(m): 3:12pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
[quote author=coogar post=35586894] don't waste your money on counselling in nigeria. they don't know squat & they are not even professional enough to keep your story confidential. your wife is cheating - it's up to you to take any action you deem fit. [/b] He doesn't even have to spend money. There are those who will help them free but they are trained for that. Please don't advise him against something that important. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by wagazala: 4:17pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
freelance777: Marriage is not easy and this is why people have to ensure they are emotionally ready (regardless of parental, society or status pressure). It looks like your wife is not ready to let go of a certain lifestyle or her past. Or perhaps there was something you provided her before that you no longer do. I know a married woman that complains all the time that her marriage is now 'boring' due to the fact that her hubby doesn't take her to movies, clubbing etc. She then cheats on him for this excuse. OP, as a man, stand your ground in you home, let your woman know what you want and what you dont....but also re-evaluate yourself, perhaps you've lost your mojo a bit. 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 4:46pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
mkpikpub: Bad advice. He does not have any business with the man. His business is with his silly wife. OP, your wife could be cheating, at least, emotionally. Cos i really don't understand why a married woman will secretly go cook for another man in his house. And to think that man is her ex?? She is either very naive with an overdose of fish brain or she is just plain tired of the marriage and seeking happiness in another man. This is so wrong! What does she think marriage is? There should be boundaries and "no go areas" in marriage and your wife crossed it big time. You two really need to have a serious talk. Please, do not treat this with kids gloves. 10 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Goldenboy007(m): 4:51pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
My guy go and get a job. You have too much free time in your hands...wow..get a life for heavens sake !! Are you a monitoring spirit ?? I pray you don't die of hypertension ! It takes a thief to catch a thief ! It seems your hands sef are not clean !!!! Ahan !!!! Why find what is not lost !!! Why don't you just buy hijab for your wife so that no man will look at her ! 8 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Tobiegal(f): 5:16pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
Goldenboy007: Finally some real sense! What do you think you are doing snooping around her phone... talkless of impersonating her... Would you have taken it likely if it were the other way around?! OP would advise you the same as i would advise a woman in your shoes... You need to stop snooping around her phone with the mind of finding something? if only you have got a 6-10 job, this would be the least of your concern... Please, sit her down when she's in a good mood, and talk to her nicely... if that doesnt work... talk to someone she respects... if da doesnt work.... seek the Lord in Prayers! Nobi only woman sabi pray for man.... you should also learn to pray for your woman...if the marriage really means anything to you! And about the ring removal? what was your own reason for doing away with your own? You were enjoying, feeling fly like a young bachelor.... abi... tau! the tables have turned... she's an after 2 funky babe.... and you are here shouting all over the place... abegi! u tik its easy to born 2 and still look funky ba? na the result of ya attitude you dey see so.... please, free the babe jere... 7 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Daresh(f): 5:42pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
freelance777: DAMN! 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by coogar: 6:16pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
PMIcon: he doesn't need counselling - he needs common sense. so counselling would undo the fact that his partner has made herself a temporary wife to her ex-boyfriend? 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Akposb(m): 7:51pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
freelance777: Sir with all due respect I know marriage to be a relationship between two people hence the idea to guard against third party which is unfortunately turning out to be the ex of your wife. This happens alot but you have to face it squarely as the head of the family especially for the sake of your kids. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that when taken into cognizance could reap fantastic rewards for you. I believe you love your wife hence you have to apply its whole measure. Discipline is crucial at this time but if she is reluctant you must give her an ultimatum. You should be able to handle this, maybe you should find ways to occupy her time but seriously you need to take your fears to GOD. 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by repogirl(f): 8:52pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
Your wife cannot communicate with you obviously, she is scared you would read the wrong meaning and jump into conclusion which you always do from all you have said..... I agree that its wrong for her to keep these relationships but maybe you also over react when you find out about them. You are right in how you advice her against these men but try not to get her scared like you have caught her doing something she shouldnt be. Make her safe in your home and let her be able to relate with you freely or you will scare her off into doing something you will both regret. Your wife is also at fault and needs a good talking to but since you are the one here, its your own part I am focusing on. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by jossy26: 9:50pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
op is a gentle man; |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by jossy26: 9:52pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
repogirl: are you married? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by repogirl(f): 10:11pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
jossy26:Yes. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by OCTAVO: 11:35pm On Jul 07, 2015 |
Hmmmmmmmm @Godstreasure23 |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 5:25am On Jul 08, 2015 |
repogirl: Are you for real? And you say you are married? 8 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by SirAweezy(m): 7:05am On Jul 08, 2015 |
OP don't worry too much, calm your nerves. Though your wife has little or no confidence in you and she is not matured yet (reason she confined in an ex). Besides, some women are never ready to just be with one person, they get easily bored. More also, you are not being man enough in your marriage (not by acting like a soldier oo) but like the figure head which you should be, something is amiss about you, please work very well on it. Finally, correct your wife and forgive her, but if she refuses to stick to correction. Call family meeting tender your hard evidence and call for a Break! (Not divorce o) By the time the ex is through with her aspa the freedom you've given her. She'll understand you are better. But it might be too late for both of you to reconcile (which I pray God will give you the wisdom to handle) Nb: You can't stop a stray woman until she is finally lost. (Apologies to the women, but not to the hard minded) 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by repogirl(f): 7:14am On Jul 08, 2015 |
ottizz:Yes, I said i was married and my husband doesnt have time to snoop through my phone or accuse why I am not wearing my ring, why? Mutual trust garnered from frequent communication. If you dont have a certain trust and dependency in marriage, that marriage is a sham. 6 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 8:49am On Jul 08, 2015 |
repogirl: You were contradicting yourself in the original post I responded to. You mean to tell me that it was okay for the wife to go behind the husband's back and mingle with an ex, just because she felt the husband would overreact when he hears about it? Common sense dictates that anyone that does this kind of thing, be it a man or woman, is only inviting trouble to the partnership. This has nothing to do with trust. This has more to do with a woman with a miniscule regard for her husband. 15 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by repogirl(f): 8:55am On Jul 08, 2015 |
ottizz:read my innitial post where I said the woman was at fault and needs to be corrected but since its the husband whi is here looking for advice, its his part I am facing. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by godstreasure23: 9:18am On Jul 08, 2015 |
OCTAVO:And wat is my own? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mznaett: 9:00pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
hmm |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by BundlesOfJoy: 2:35pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Hmm there is a difference between being gentle and being a walkover!!! And this whole ex issue really should have been resolved before marriage. When my husband and I first started dating...I knew he wanted to be serious with me but I wasn't fully invested because he just seemed liked a nice guy but he was soft handed. I pretty much did whatever I wanted and still spoke to some exes. He even used to snoop through my phone and impersonate me just like you are doing. When I found out I was really angry as I would have just preferred a normal confrontation. Then one day he decided to toughen up, stated his boundaries, what he expected of me if we the relationship should go anywhere and I should take it or leave it. He was being very serious and that made me respect him and if you respect someone you abide by their rules. Fast forward 4 yrs of marriage my husband is my best friend and only confidant, we are open books to each other, very happy and no need for stupid phone snooping. So pls like others have said, let your wife know your boundaries, if she respects you she will abide, if not then good luck to her. After all, even western style multi-partner relationships have rules, how much more a monogamous one! 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 11:43am On Jul 11, 2015 |
bellong:Where can one get micro-bugging device? I need it for some other things! |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Truckpusher(m): 11:28pm On Jul 11, 2015 |
Mumu men are like MTN these days , everywhere you go . Make I commot o , before all the Nairaland cheats would bounce on me . 6 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Jul 11, 2015 |
You married a wh0re 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by DEngineer(m): 11:32pm On Jul 11, 2015 |
wagazala:Your wife has no single honor for the marriage or single recognition for u as the husband....she might eventually ruin u. If u have kids already run go do DNA test. U might not b their father. give her one last chance. ONE LAST CHANCE if she is truly a cheat, she is good as gone eve if na 5 last chances |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Flashh: 11:32pm On Jul 11, 2015 |
Goldenboy007: Judging from your post... You are plain stüpid... No offence! Men like you are very easy to cheat on... What if she eventually cheat on him? She had the guts to leave her husband's house and cook for her ex. Who even knows maybe your wife/girlfriend is cheating on you presently. You have to check your partner's phone sometimes to know who you are with, don't trust her. The wife wanna cheat on him, in fact, her own way of cheating is very logical. The (op) is a very smart man, in which he got her tricks. 26 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by iykedare(m): 11:33pm On Jul 11, 2015 |
Interesting |
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