I'm not claiming perfect or anything
But I don't think I can ever hurt or treat any friend the way I've been done by some "friends"

bukatyne:


If you claim not to be a 'horrible' friend, if Veave also claims not to be terrible...

Who are the terrible ones

angieberry:
Lol no, but I've had my fair share of horrible experience with 'friends'

everyone has

That's true

cococandy:
everyone has

cococandy:
Buy her motivational books.

That sounds good.

Yeah, hopefully she reads them.. One can't live his/her life trying to be like others. . Wonder how she copes...

It's well. ..

angieberry:
I'm not claiming perfect or anything
But I don't think I can ever hurt or treat any friend the way I've been done by some "friends"

These friends of yours...

Are they terrible to their male friends, boyfriends, teachers, siblings, relatives, colleagues etc. or are they terrible to only female friends?

Maybe she admires you and want to be like you
Not so bad
Unless she shows malicious intent

Hehe, I'm guessing OP never had a sister/cousins growing up? chai chai . I have 3 daighters and lord have mercy, we fight over matching colors and perfumes, name it.
'Mummy she's copying me' , 'I chose that first' 'mummy we should have different stores to shop' ' I want same as her and there's nothing you can do about it!' .. That's just a tip of an iceberg.

My best friend & I literally have identical wardrobe and meal choices, she changed her dairy to Almond because I did.
nails, hairdo, cosmetics, underwear ( creepy eh) yes same. Surprise surprise.. She's not even Nigerian.

'Copying' and competitiveness are all female traits and shouldnt be alarmed when it starts. Some just express theirs to the extreme.

So OP, If shes hurting you in any way then by all means tell her to slow down or cut her off.
If she's not then maybe just keep her.

Really life's too short to be wasted on irrelevancies. Good friends are diamonds and hard to come by. Or has she ever seduced your man?

Women and their wahala,most find it hard to compete with men so they look for their own to do so ,hating on another success.....what do you expect?

dsquare33:
Your friend is actually suffering from low self esteem.Some ladies are like that, even when they are not really your friends they copy styles, mode of dressing and mannerisms.The unfortunate thing with such people is they don't see it as a vice and if care is not taken it leads to envy, avarice, bitterness.However, you can still help her in your own way by subtly letting her know that she has to explore her own individuality because it is not every woman that has innate quality of being stylish.

Best comment so far.

Op, I think she admires you.

If she's a frienemy or being competitive, you should know.

bukatyne:


If you claim not to be a 'horrible' friend, if Veave also claims not to be terrible...

Who are the terrible ones

Madam can you categorically point out where I said I was the saint from my post? She asked a question and I answered based on my own experience. Abi you will not be happy until you call my name? Face your front abeg. I no call your name. No call my own.

bellong:


Why do you have a bad secret you are keeping from your boyfriend?

Isn't that deception?

Some things do not sound bad when you tell bae yourself first . Bae feels bad when he hears it from someone first. Especially when the person has added enough Maggi and curry to make it sweeter.

veave:


Some things do not sound bad when you tell bae yourself first . Bae feels bad when he hears it from someone first. Especially when the person has added enough Maggi and curry to make it sweeter.

Ok.. I get you.

But what is bae?

Pardon my ignorance

cococandy:
Any kind of friend can turn on you at any time be they male or female.
Just focus on meeting good folks and maintaining positive relationships instead of labeling every female you come across as 'tufiakwa'

I'd like to know if you also consider yourself as not fit to be someone's friend based on your femaleness.

Anyhow you want it babe. I no get friend. I no dey find friend. I no even want be anybody friend. Dey your lane I dey my own. If circumstances warrants us doing anything together be it work, school, or church I try to do it well as a team. After that, to your tent oh Isreal. It doesn't mean I'm a snub or a dragon. Just don't have time for dem sey dem sey. If I have a burden that it's like it would choke me I'd rather run into the bush and scream it to all the trees and wild animals than to share. Friendship nor be by force. I say I no want.

bellong:


Ok.. I get you.

But what is bae?

Pardon my ignorance

Bae- before anyone else (normally use it to refer to someone you have feelings for or in love/a relationship with. Usually the opposite sex)

veave:


Bae- before anyone else (normally use it to refer to someone you have feelings for or in love/a relationship with. Usually the opposite sex)

Ok.. Thanks for the education. I am so old school I don't understand all these modern day slangs..

However, by your definition, I guess God is my Bae...

bellong:


Ok.. Thanks for the education. I am so old school I don't understand all these modern day slangs..

However, by your definition, I guess God is my Bae...

Okay oh. I will tell your wife. Let us see whether you will eat breakfast in that house tomorrow.

Lol

Friendship is not by force of course.
But the problem is not always with the other ladies like your tufiakwa expression implied. Sometimes it's our fault too.
That was my point.

Anyway have a great day.

veave:

Anyhow you want it babe. I no get friend. I no dey find friend. I no even want be anybody friend. Dey your lane I dey my own. If circumstances warrants us doing anything together be it work, school, or church I try to do it well as a team. After that, to your tent oh Isreal. It doesn't mean I'm a snub or a dragon. Just don't have time for dem sey dem sey. If I have a burden that it's like it would choke me I'd rather run into the bush and scream it to all the trees and wild animals than to share. Friendship nor be by force. I say I no want.

cococandy:
Lol

Friendship is not by force of course.
But the problem is not always with the other ladies like your tufiakwa expression implied. Sometimes it's our fault too.
That was my point.

Anyway have a great day.

Okay. It's night here. Am going to bed.

veave:



Okay. It's night here. Am going to bed.

sweetdreams

veave:


Okay oh. I will tell your wife. Let us see whether you will eat breakfast in that house tomorrow.

I don't eat breakfast as an unwritten rule. Your threat wouldn't work.

Your definition says Bae means before anyone else. Meaning there are others but this personality comes first. In essence, God comes first before my wife.

bellong:


Ok.. Thanks for the education. I am so old school I don't understand all these modern day slangs..

However, by your definition, I guess God is my Bae...

you must be really old!
lemme guess..50?

coogaluta:


you must be really old!
lemme guess..50?

Nah.. You are wrong. I am older than that.. Keep guessing

EyeKandy:


This summarizes it. I already know that but i'm not sure how to inteprete her actions given that its a bit too extreme for my liking. She's a very caring person that's always in my house asking about every single detail of my life and cares to know what's up. But, the chronic copy-cat aspect is like identity theft.

If her been caring is what endears her to you its okay but you should take precautions. The identity theft got me laughing especially when you are the originator of your style and somebody is copying and she does it as if she creates it, some ladies are like that, even when you are not familiar with them especially in office and neigbourhood and even in churches I guess she doesn't even know she has the vice ( low self esteem). I will tell you that you have an edge over her because she sees you as a role model now don't lord yourself over her because that would be pride.

cococandy:
Aww.

And it not even Christmas yet.

Thanks

I have always liked u even while I was a guest here some yes ago. I like ur brilliant head n beauty.

cococandy:
Aww.

And it not even Christmas yet.

Thanks

I have always liked u even while I was a guest here some yes ago. I like ur brilliant head n beauty. how is ur home n hubby?

thelish:
I have always liked u even while I was a guest here some yes ago. I like ur brilliant head n beauty. how is ur home n hubby?

*Covers face like a school girl*
Pls Don't make me shy.

Thanks a lot.
We are very fine

bellong:


Nah.. You are wrong. I am older than that.. Keep guessing

lie

cococandy:
lie

I am not of the indomie generation.

Do you want me to tell you about the day to day account of the pearl harbour war as "witnessed" by me?


I am learning old age from Senior Methuselah..

bellong:


I am not of the indomie generation.

Do you want me to tell you about the day to day account of the pearl harbour war as "witnessed" by me?


I am learning old age from Senior Methuselah..

I know. I'm 60yrs old too.

Umunwanyi

cococandy:


I know. I'm 60yrs old too.

You are still a young chic..... When you are close to 75, we can discuss your age..

cococandy:

I know. I'm 60yrs old too.

Bellong is not lying. He was in my class in the 50s.