I was discussing with a friend, suddenly he got a call and after he dropped the call, he asked a question that struck me; "why are we living a pretentious life?" The call was from his girlfriend; she asked why he haven't call her for weeks now, but my friend responds was "NOTHING", that everything was cool. Sincerely everything is cool between them them (the guy wasn't seeing someone else neither has he fallen out of love or did they have unresolved issues). At the end of the call she asked if she should send him airtime and the reply was NO.

Guess what, he haven't call because he wasn't liquid; he wasn't having airtime.
Don't you think the guy had a reason why he didn't accept the offer? Yes, he does. He didn't want his girlfriend to spend her little savings on him. That was nice and considerate of him. But what about the nothing, did he have genuine reason too?

Often a times we cover up unnecessary things from those that care about us, we refute what we really want from those that offers it from their heart. Also most times we give questionable responses. Does it worth it?

Look critically at the scenario, guess what; two things were left hanging.
1).The girl was left with thoughts running in her mind which will definitely lead to hurt
2). My friend problem of not having airtime was left unsolved.

So why do we really create situations for ourselves?

Nothing will only send a signal of you are hiding something which will often lead to hurt of the other party.

Most times we live a double life, which on the long run create problem for ourselves. Why not live a genuine life? No one likes the feeling of been hurt.
So why hurt someone with your pretentious life style? Whether you like it or yes, in one way or the other, you are not fulfilled too.

My dear friends, its doesn't worth it,
be your true self.

Do have a nice day.

Hmm

Isaacmacdon:
Dear o.p, I've Bn drawn to ur thread... first tin first.. pple differ... In respect to personality nd traits... dat d guy said "nothing" doesn't mean his tryna pull up tots in his gf's head .. He just feels there's no need tryna tell her.. dats pple for u.. its left for d girl to be understanding.. dats where trust falls into play... Who knows if she didn't take it as anything as per d kinda person he is... Thanks

It's possible, but this is a scenario like, let say your girlfriend is used to doing something often and suddenly she changed, & u asked the reason for the change and the response u got was nothing. Be sincere won't it arouse tots in you?

fuoski:


It's possible, but it's a scenario like let say your girlfriend do something often and suddenly she changed, & u asked and the response u got was nothing. Be sincere won't it arouse tots in you?

Dats y dey recommended relationship both sexual nd mutual for adults.. ranging from 20years upwards... it takes a matured person to handle such situation.. in my own case.. as per my past experiences I'd simply let her be.. I wouldn't arouse any form of tots.. I'd trust her ...

Isaacmacdon:
Dats y dey recommended relationship both sexual nd mutual for adults.. ranging from 20years upwards... it takes a matured person to handle such situation.. in my own case.. as per my past experiences I'd simply let her be.. I wouldn't arouse any form of tots.. I'd trust her ... Dey said its until u see a kinda gummy scene wen cooking an okra Soup dat d soup is done or ready .... If u didn't see clearly u may end up Spoiling d soup..

It seems you didn't grasps the message

fuoski:


It seems you didn't grasps the message

Make me grasp em... Wat I meant is this.. I won't arouse any thoughts whatsoever..

You made sense.

The guy is simply pretending. It is unwise of him, first not to tell her that it was lack of airtime that stopped him from calling, two, for rejecting her offer of airtime..

400billionman:
You made sense.

The guy is simply pretending. It is unwise of him, first not to tell her that it was lack of airtime that stopped him from calling, two, for rejecting her offer of airtime..

Thanks....most time people hide unnecessary secrets which would always arouse tots in the oda party