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Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by sahm4u2nv(m): 10:43pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
You ve said it all, buh wait o,do u no God, do u no. Ao2 prepare jollof, pls wats ur ring size? |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by sahm4u2nv(m): 10:49pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
histemple:You ve said it all, buh wait o,pls r u married?do u no God, do u no?Ao2 prepare jollof? pls wats ur ring size? |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by sweatlana: 10:51pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
CHM11: Good advise but this was written by a man demanding perfection which does not exist... 3 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by ESSIETO(m): 10:53pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
NICE ONE |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by CHM11: 11:01pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
sweatlana:Not really perfection that's why the advices are numbered. Do as many as you can when you can and remain happy!!..Men also have their role to play no doubt |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by sweatlana: 11:04pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Can we please have some advise for the men, the ones who do things that make women nagg cos women nag for a reason. 2 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by watchindelta(m): 11:05pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Good good very good 4 d wicked men ladies |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by kandiikane(m): 11:10pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
neocortex: Gbam! 2 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by CHM11: 11:11pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
sweatlana:https://www.nairaland.com/2439762/steps-make-wife-happy |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by kandiikane(m): 11:13pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
imbless:I am for real I do not understand the second line. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Nobody: 11:24pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
buygala:Abo ke wan mfo ki yak edinam amor ibiat ufok ndor amor. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Nobody: 11:25pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
buygala:]Abo ke wan mfo ki yak edinam amor ibiat ufok ndor amor. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by bukatyne(f): 11:30pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
neocortex: |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by iRepNaija1: 11:35pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
OnyeEgo1: For the record, I used the term Africa because the original poster I was responding to did so. Read before you open your mouth to speak. Africa is not a country and yet your last sentence closes with, "We are Africa." And then you want to educate me and tell me that Africa is not a country and yet you clump all of the countries that make up the west together and blame your problems on them? Yeah okay, boo. Second, I don't represent the west so if you have an issue with some vast group of western countries manipulating you, you can take it up with them. Good luck with that. Third, I want better for Nigeria. There is so much potential here but it's being squandered. If you want to pretend that Nigeria is getting wiser and doing better, go right ahead. I'm not going to play myself like that. The Nigerian people have so much more power and influence than they realize and yet it's 2015 and we don't have basic necessities. 3 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by sonnie10: 11:39pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
ozzugworlee: Words From A Mother To Her Daughter About Marriage by ozzugworlee(m): 4:44pm On May 06 WORDS FROM A MOTHER TO HER DAUGHTER ABOUT MARRIAGE 1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law court. 2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home - placing embargo, going to bed in jeans shorts and trousers - lacks wisdom. 3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of "women's rights" to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself. 4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels needs help. A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and cosiest place on earth for him. 5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition. It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the de facto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home. 6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest. 7. A wife that does not pull herself away from friends' influence and advice or even from the control of her mother and father will have herself to blame. 8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man's aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defence is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is, but when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions.... You go to bed wearing grandmothers' clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looks - we know. But looks enhances love and marriage. There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don't be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase. 9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down with headache or fever, "not in the mood," you are a joker, a serious comedian! 10. If your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband, you need prayers. 11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied. 12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend. A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a "useless man", is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband's girlfriend in word and in deed? LASTLY, DO NOT INFORM ME OF YOUR QUARRELS, I DIDN’T JOIN YOU TOGETHER, GOD DID, GO AND INFORM HIM AND HE WILL SORT YOU OUT. (Quote) (Report) 1 Like (Like) 1 Share (Share) This is so heart breaking that people would not even give credit. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Icekyng: 11:44pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Dotwillis1:she will later be hard to want |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Nobody: 12:07am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Nice one...... |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by peeta89(m): 12:14am On Jul 10, 2015 |
histemple:Good evening. I read ur comment and I was impressed. Only few Nigerian ladies will reason the way u have just reasoned. Take kia and good nyt. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Xano(m): 12:23am On Jul 10, 2015 |
histemple: Thank you. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by histemple: 12:48am On Jul 10, 2015 |
neocortex: You are sounding so embittered. I hope all is well? I can feel a sense of anger from your response but please be reminded that Nairaland is a forum where everyone is entitled to their opinion. No insult please. 2 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by Cynosure04: 12:51am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Dis is lovely,if all women can abide by all dis rules,there wil b peace n amony in every home.there wont b anything like broken home again. I think i luv dis write up.my wife mst reap dis. |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by AkpAkp1: 12:59am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Nice write up.... Pls next time indicate the source |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by histemple: 1:16am On Jul 10, 2015 |
iRepNaija1: You raised very salient points here but in very harsh and insulting way. However, let me respond to your points and not your person. As a woman, I understand perfectly what your frustrations are and genuinely so. Majority of your disappointment has to do with the quality of governance and that is a digression from the discuss here. But even in governance, we have women in good numbers that are part of all the arms of government. What are they doing to help? The only point you raised that is related to this topic is the fact that the west don't care about Africa and I think you may be partially right. But why should we care about the west to the point of emulating everything they do? I am vastly travelled and I can confidently tell you that it is better to build my country than being a slave to immoral cultures. I am even shocked to hear you say children born out of wedlock are not bastards. So what then is your definition of a bastard or the word doesn't exist? That is part of the damage the western culture has done to some of us. Obviously, if you delete that word from the dictionary, then the whole essence of marriage is gone as prevalent in the west and the same mentality is fast destroying our once enviable marriage institution. Hitherto we listened to their music but we have decided to build our music industry and Nigerians are listening more to naija music and enjoying it than their crap. Who said Tiwa savage, yemi Alade, Sheyi Shey, are not better than Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez etc? We should understand that no culture is superior to the other. It is heartbreaking that we are trying so hard to destroy our values through westernization of our beautiful continent. Why are we not selling our valuable culture to the west instead of emulating their immoral lifestyles such as gay practices. Why can't they learn how to build a happy home from us instead of us learning how to break up and file for divorce from them? Our ladies move unclad because they watched some devilish musicians with the outfit. Even our men now move about advertising their buttocks for potential gay practitioners in the disgusting style called "Sagging". Other vices such as rape, male chauvinism, domestic violence etc are not peculiar to Africa or Nigeria. Do your research. Just my candid opinion, no offence intended. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by abbey621(m): 1:20am On Jul 10, 2015 |
iRepNaija1: I think you got it all wrong. The point deduced from her post is that we should value our African heritage. This is not about how the West feels about us but how we value ourselves. My parents have been in the U.S.A. for over 20 years and I've been living here for over 5 years, trust me when it comes to morals this country sucks! The women have no value because marriage is no longer valued. We all know Nigeria is screwed up but part of fixing it starts with ensuring we don't lose the little pride we have left. We must ensure that our heritage survives this age of sin. Also, children born out of wedlock and not claimed by a male are bastards, that's the term the English use for children without a father. It is not a nice word but it is a valid word. Be careful when criticizing someone for speaking their mind, we all have the right to express the way we feel. 1 Like |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by kalu01(m): 1:34am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Okay
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Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by iRepNaija1: 2:39am On Jul 10, 2015 |
abbey621: We can value our Nigerian heritage without a) comparing ourselves to another country/region and b) without putting another country/region down. I understood the point of her post just fine but I didn't agree with her means of proving her point so I let her know. The term 'bastard' is derogatory and misogynistic. So a child who isn't claimed by a father means he or she is something different (and subpar)? But if the child is claimed by the father, then everything is all good? I know that Nigeria is a patriarchal society but how does that even make sense? It took two people to create the child, a child who did not ask to be brought into this world and did not ask to be called such a terrible name. If anything, the parent, mother or father, who decides not to acknowledge his or her child should be called a bastard. And you say that bastard is a word used by the English. Last time I checked, the English and Nigerians were not the same. We don't have to use that word just because the English do. We don't have to validate a word just because someone else decides to use it. I've lived in both Nigeria and the United States and trust me, the things some Nigerians bemoan about America are the same things that happen in Nigeria: the cheating, the children born outside of marriage, the murders, stealing, corruption, lying, sex, the drugs. How are the morals of Nigeria any better than any other country's? Marriage is no longer valued because women don't have value? This statement doesn't make sense to me and it's misogynistic. Fixing Nigeria, for me, is going to come from getting rid of all those old, corrupt politicians who just want to steal. That's the first priority. Preserving our culture can come later. But we can agree to disagree on that. 2 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by iRepNaija1: 3:00am On Jul 10, 2015 |
histemple: If you honestly believe that rape, male chauvinism, domestic violence and etc don't happen in Nigeria, then I honestly don't know what to say to you. I really don't. I've done plenty of "research." I don't open my mouth unless I know what I'm talking about. Why do you need to call a child born out of wedlock a bastard? Why? I really don't understand the rational. I'm going to refer to America instead of the west because the west is made up of many different countries. You asked why should Nigerians care about America and emulate its culture? I don't know. It's not my question to answer. But no one told Nigerians to do so. Blaming America because some Nigerians decided to watch American movies, take on American mindsets and etc. is not America's fault. Was it forced on Nigeria? Maybe some Nigerians are so ready to adopt American customs and culture because they implicitly know something is missing in their own culture or they find Nigerian culture inferior. Maybe not. Again, I don't know. America isn't going to adopt Nigeria's idea of a happy home, our values, and our customs because they don't care and they believe their ways are superior to Nigeria's. Simple. 3 Likes |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by InvertedHammer: 3:03am On Jul 10, 2015 |
histemple: \ Misery needs company. The so-called westernized women are always out to drag more women down to their pitiful level. Smart women know when to draw the line. Ever wondered why about 80% of members of dating websites are women. They got liberated from the shackles of their evil husbands only to find out too late that there are no fantasy spouses out there somewhere. / 1 Like |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by abbey621(m): 4:07am On Jul 10, 2015 |
iRepNaija1: There are lots of things wrong with your response but I'll only tackle a few. Firstly, you are forgetting Nigeria was colonized by the English, most of our societal values, we tend to have more in common with the English than the radical American culture. There are lots of terms in the English language that are negative but we still use them till date and nothing is going to change that. Bastard is a term used for a child brought into the world when the parents are not married, it has a negative undertone but so does pauper, wretched, orphan, cheap and some other English words. Next, I maintain my stance that marriage is no longer valued in the U.S because the women have lost their values. The laws and other factors highly favors the females over male in America and most of these women have become leaders instead of the men. They control everything, are highly opinionated and still wonder why men feel insecure around them It's not misogynistic, just facts! Lastly, America is such a wonderful place, so many opportunities, so much intelligence but I would never forsake my heritage or culture. As a society our culture remains the single most important factor safeguarding our morality. The moment we lose it is when we start seeing homosexuality, outright disrespect of elders and parents, a lost society that keeps getting worse with each passing day. What we are dealing with in Nigeria right now is nothing compared to the nightmare brewing in America. Our problem in Nigeria is mainly cosmetic in nature. A simple & disciplined government will fix most of our problems but in America the worst is yet to come both economically and morally. So don't work yourself up, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion. Words like bastards and orphan are just descriptors, negative as they may be, they remain grammatically correct! 1 Like |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by oluwafeolami(m): 5:05am On Jul 10, 2015 |
#9 meeeehhhnnn |
Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by kenoz(m): 5:17am On Jul 10, 2015 |
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Re: Words Of Advice From A Mother To Her Daughter by cardinalmundez(m): 6:28am On Jul 10, 2015 |
I don't know who you are but reading the first few lines of westernization and feminism, I would read you column any day anytime. histemple: |
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