1]Know that negative thoughts are not the same as actual characteristics. These types of thoughts, feelings, physical signs, and behaviors are like “symptoms” of low self-esteem.
Recognizing the symptoms will help you know what thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to target for improvement.

2) Listen to your inner monologue. When many of the following thoughts occur, it’s like you’re hearing a voice inside your head. These thoughts are often automatic, almost like a reflex.
I’m too weak/not skilled enough/not smart enough.

I hope they don’t think I’m a jerk.

I’m too fat/thin/old/young/etc.

Everything is my fault.

My boss doesn’t like my report. I must be a total failure at my job.

Why try meeting new people? They won’t like me anyway.

Fights such thoughts with a very strong positive passion to succeed.


3) Pinpoint the way you feel about yourself. Feelings, like thoughts, often stem from an inner dialogue that does not accurately reflect the facts. Deal with these thoughts before they become fact.


4) Assess your behavior to see if your self-esteem is influencing your life. If you find that one or more of these behavioral statements apply to you, your self-esteem may be having a greater impact on the way that you live than you realize.


5) Identify your negative thoughts. Whether you realize it or not, your own thoughts in your head are trapping you inside the cycle of low self-esteem. To feel better, it’s productive to identify when these types of thoughts are happening, and find ways to overcome them. There are some typical negative self-statements you can become familiar with, so if you come across some of them, you can target them for elimination.


6) Don’t be a nagger, putter-downer, or a name-caller. Imagine you have a “friend” who is constantly by your side, and this friend constantly berates you. He or she calls you bad names, tells you that you are doing everything wrong, you’re not worth anything, you’ll never achieve anything, and you’re unlikable. Wouldn’t that get you down?



7) Avoid being a generalist. The generalist will take a mistake, an occasion where he or she did not perform to expectations or excel, or other things that go wrong and generalize it to their entire lives.
For example, if a person steps into a pothole, she might have these thoughts if she were generalizing: “Why do things like this always happen to me? I’m just cursed. I never have any goodluck they won't help rather they will make you feel very bad.

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U try.

Fantusi:
U try.

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Good points.

vislabraye:
Good points.

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Teempakguy:
Did you write this yourself?

Researched from Google.

Cutehector:
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Cutehector:
Take leadership roles....

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Okay, Noted.

Am learning..... and dats gud

I stopped trying all these and told myself that is how nature made me...being shy is bad, being shy and having low self esteem kills....and I know what am saying..as I live with that feeling every day.... but unlike some other people..u can run to Nairaland and hide my inadequacy under my moniker.

walanter:
Am learning..... and dats gud

Good to know.

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Sassybae:
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