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Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by emmatok(m): 11:08pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe: You probably don't know that son couples don't use wedding Ring. Way some stop useing due to medical issues. So the ring is not the issue here . The couple are no longer comfortable with each. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by abbey621(m): 11:08pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
vague: Please where did you get your statistics? Last time I checked Western worlds have a much higher rate of divorce than Nigeria and the majority of divorces in Nigeria comes from couples doing things differently from the traditional way. Compare the amount of marriages from the 60s and 70s to nowadays and tell me which generation produced more successful marriages. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 11:09pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Hnmn since the wife has discovered this tread she would be like " Honey I have replied you on Nairaland o! Have you read it" ![]() |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:10pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
bigfly: Lets get this straight, removing a wedding ring without giving a valid reason for it prior or after removal is a trivial issue but an ex's number saved in an old phone that has not been in use for a while is bigger than murder? Pls read her response very, it is clear her husband started misbehaving immediately her ex came in. That is why she said she now know why d man has been mean to her.what you are saying is he can play tit for tat if she does something wrong, i.e. misbehave but if he does something wrong she has to be react differently? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Brytawon(m): 11:10pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Moana: I understand you but I mean that it is the only way to cage the heart of someone who has phlegmatic temperament to love you back. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 11:10pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe:I can ignore a message while I still communicate with a coded phone number. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:14pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
bigfly:you can read so much meaning into how a phone number is saved but see nothing with removing a wedding ring a year into the marriage without consulting or informing your wife? Im sure marriage these days is now meant for kindergarten kids not adults. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:17pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
emmatok:Medical reasons a wife is not informed of before removal of the ring? Couples that dont use wedding rings usually choose to do so after mutual agreement, which is not the case here. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by egobetatoday: 11:17pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Brytawon: tnks |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by abbey621(m): 11:21pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
vague: Let me tell you something, the fear of the unknown is what kills most ambitions. A man will always find a wife, it's so easy as long as he's capable financially. The children will be okay, when they grow up they'll understand why their mother was sent packing for adultery. Furthermore if I've never been in a serious relationship I doubt I would be discussing a subject as sensitive as this so don't insult my intelligence ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Brytawon(m): 11:24pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
egobetatoday:You're welcome my broda... |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by vague: 11:26pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
abbey621: I did not insult anyone's intelligence it just that most intelligent people that i know know that marriage is not a bed of roses and when you go through trivial trials its better to fix the marriage than hope to find someone else close to perfect. Finding a replacement and finding a good woman are 2 entirely different things, sadly some people never know the difference. Intelligent people also know that commit adultery is having an extra-marital affair with someone not cooking for someone, they usually know the huge difference between the 2 ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 11:29pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe:I still stand on my words go and read her response and you will see that she knows she made a mistake. Let start dissenting it, her ex called, her husband foolishly called his ex instead of setting a strict boundaries. Her husband stops wearing his ring but she wore it out to office but removed it later and keeps it in d car. She saved William with 4 alpabets a year b4 ring issue. Now estate dude, food and lies to cover up. No doubt the husband has his own share of wrong doing, but let's call a spade a spade. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by abbey621(m): 11:33pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
vague: I'm sorry you might want to check the meaning of adultery again, it's not only about physical contact, emotional bonding is considered cheating nowadays. Now what you are suggesting is for the man to stick with the wife, a wife that has yet to admit she did anything wrong. Forget the westernized crap, as an African man I cannot tolerate such a thing and I cannot advice any man to tolerate such nonsense! |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:34pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
bigfly:if you pick up your stranded ex and later on find out that your wife would have been against it, you think the most mature thing for her to do is put divorce or seperation on her mind? No doubt the husband has his own share of wrong doing, but let's call a spade a spade.and the best thing to do it vow for better or worse on the alter and divorce because of how a number was saved or a cooked meal? Why do people waste their time getting married if they are not ready to keep their vows when a challenge comes their way? Please do give me a good reason. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 11:35pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe:Yes, I think marriage is meant for kindergarten kids otherwise no sane adult will justify cheating in any form for any reason. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by emmatok(m): 11:38pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe: Some couples don't use the Ring at all , due to their religious beliefs. When the husband notice his wife is not wearing her ring he asked why . And the wife too should have asked why he removed his ring in the first place, instead of reacting by removing her ring. She is trying to justify her selfish actions, by claiming the husband is doing the same. So if I'd the husband sleeps around, she was will do the same. If the husband eats out, she'll do the same. Marriage don't work like that. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by vague: 11:40pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
abbey621: You are not mature enough for the commitment which is why you cannot tolerate the smallest of things that can be fixed. So its understandable. If you don't have tolerance or patience you will not survive a successful marriage. For a marriage to be called successful it has to pass through tests, if you cannot do that it cannot be called successful. You should learn from many that have lost out on many things because they put pride first before anything else. Many have fallen because their egos take over their reasoning. When you end up on wife number 4 and still end up with the same results, you will understand. Tell me when you find a definition of adultery that does not include the phrase "sexual intercourse" before you give your own new meaning to it. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Kimoni: 11:43pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
freelance777: You don't love your wife. Unfortunately and kids cannot go together in one sentence especially when you are the father of the kids. The problem with your marriage is you. Be sincere with yourself and don't blame it on her. I strongly suspect you have some other love interest outside. Own up and don't blame your wife for your feelings. 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:45pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
emmatok:if it were for religious purpose they would both not have rings in the first place. Again this doesnt apply to this case. When the husband notice his wife is not wearing her ring he asked why .last time i checked marriage doesnt work on doing something knowing well it is not right and expecting positive results to yield from it either. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 11:48pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
bigfly:who slept with who? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by vague: 11:50pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Kimoni:people always tend to make the biggest issues out of the smallest of things just to get away with certain things. Any slight opportunity to overreact they will always use it to the best of their advantage. Or he could be getting action elsewhere and the slightest idea of his wife doing the same makes him act irrational to every small incident. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 11:52pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe: Did I call for divorce in any of my post? The key to solve any problem is point out fault and mend those faults accordingly, like I said in my past comments, u don't sweep matters under the carpet, it will still find it way out, u clear it once and for all. If they can resolve it that way, they will love and understand each better than before. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Kimoni: 11:59pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
vague: Exactly |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by emmatok(m): 12:03am On Jul 13, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe: In marriage if you use your partner wrong actions to justify your reactions, both of you Will regret that marriage. Do me, I do you, don't help marriage. Because everybody makes mistakes. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 12:04am On Jul 13, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe:Can u please read the title of the thread loud and clear, then read the op's complian and his wife's response. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Moana(f): 12:07am On Jul 13, 2015 |
Brytawon:by the time you get married you shouldnt be working on making someone love you back, thats something you do before you even think of making someone part of your family. You should only get married when your are sure the love is requited. If you find yourself trying to get someone to love you back only after saying "i do" best believe me your middle name will be sorry. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by abbey621(m): 12:07am On Jul 13, 2015 |
vague: And if you call cooking for another man, flirting with another man and sharing heart to heart moments with him "small things" then obviously you are one of those I consider classless or undignified. Once again you try to sound intelligent but the result is completely opposite. Just because you are not enlightened enough to understand the different meanings of adultery does not mean they do not exist! For your reference: ADULTERY WITHOUT SEXUAL INTERCOURSE—The Bible speaks of “wanton eyes” (Isa. 3:16), “eyes full of adultery” (2 Pet. 2:14), and “the lust of the eyes” (1 John 2:16). Jesus Christ warned, “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery already with her in his heart.” http://www.christiananswers.net/dictionary/adultery.html You seem to be one of those people of the mind that a wife can have as many male friends as possible as long as there are no sexual activities, you seem to believe it is okay to flirt around and if caught then it's no big deal, the man should be man enough to accept and work through it. Now to my final point, I don't know about American men or those in European countries but as an African man I'm meant to be the head, I do not subscribe to the notion that marriage is 50/50, more like 60/40 or 70/30 with the man having the majority of the decision making, it is the role which was given to us by God, promoted by tradition and accepted by society. I do not believe a wife should compete with her husband in terms of tit for tat as it is clear the ultimate loser would be the woman as society still judges a woman negatively for being married two or more times but for a man no one really cares if he marries 4 or more times. So spare me the bullshit and focus more on educating yourself ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by nonjebose(m): 12:11am On Jul 13, 2015 |
naijadeyhia:Having followed your interventions in revlution's case, am persuaaded to believe that you are a very considerate guy. God bless you |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 12:11am On Jul 13, 2015 |
bigfly:i did not see anywhere where anyone slept with someone so how was there anyone who cheated? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Mutendiwashe(f): 12:12am On Jul 13, 2015 |
emmatok:if everybody makes mistakes why shouldnt the woman's mistakes be worked on? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bigfly: 12:24am On Jul 13, 2015 |
emmatok:Bros it is just a feel good excuse, the lady said her ex was helping her brother to secure a job in oil firm, it is obvious the appearance of d ex is the major problem of this matter, I must confess her husband mishandled the ex thing because he could warned her instead of behaving as if his not concern then he called his own ex. After the ex stuff things just keep getting worse for them. Not everybody can handle ex around their spouse especially the one u called your only and best love. Others just ignored the fact and made reference to incidence after ex. All her actions and reactions portray her as a cheat even though It may not be so. To me it is d immature husband that was trying to play tit for tat but his emotion can not withstand it, but his wife was far ahead of him in the game. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying she is cheating on him but she acted a cheating wife better than d husband could form strong head. |
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