Despite staying idle for over a year after his graduation from one of Nigerian Polytechnics, my friend finally secured his first job at Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. After two years in Access Bank, he did not only become a graduate member of a professional body in his discipline, but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo, the capital state capital of Osun State. As a very ambitious man, he is also considering going for his Master Degree Programme, but has not yet decide on which the course and direction to follow.

At a talented student, he came out as the best candidate among both Universities and Polytechnic graduates called for interview in one of private firms in Nigeria and has started working with them with N115k as net monthly salary in the past few months.
He is 32 years of age now, and he is in love with a lady of 26 who was her junior while in Polytechnic. The lady in question too has combined fashion school with her job search, the ambition which has not yet come to a fruition.

The bone of contention now is the insistence of my friend that his would-be-partner MUST be employed gainfully too before he can have a slightest though about marriage despite intense pressures from all angles. His parents have assured him of little help during marriage ceremony, but his self-reliant tendency has not acceded to their admonition. In my own perception about him, he is not ready to settle down for marriage as a result of his 'over ambition' in academic line: truly he is talented and I can beat my chest for him anyday anytime when it comes his discipline.

Without accommodation of his own at present, coupled with the need for marriage expenses and the need to further his education, should he consider settling for marriage in Lagos now?

As one of his closest friend, I decided to narrate this incidence on nairaland so that he can get first-hand-advice different from my own perspective because he is a kind of somebody that nobody can compel to do something unless he is personally and totally convinced, just like me.

This is a true life scenario: matured advice is needed. Thank God he is a nairalander too

so basically he doesn't want to marry her until she has her own income?

and his parents are saying he should marry her anyway?

Make it five million to be sure you are truly comfortable..

Your friend, hmm!

Buddy....those your lands...do you wanna build house on it or wat do you wanna do with it??
If yes...in my perspective...i'll rather stand my house 1st before gettin married





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Now that am back from the mods prison. I will continue bashing you guys until you stop being clueless.
Now back to the topic, I will advice you reason with your brain and not your d*ck. Don't let the thought of free pvssy involved in marriage make you do what you will regret. Besides you don't need someone to tell you when you are ready.
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Eyekandi:
Your friend, hmm!

With 600k: do you want to apply? He is not married yet: overtaking is allowed

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Marry what? With what?

And he doesn't have a house of his? Which means he is still squatting At 32 right? If he doesn't have a house of his, then he can't get married now. Getting a house and furnishing it 'no be beans'. And then having to feed an extra mouth...this is Africa, so, some members of her family. And most likely his.

Marriage no be beans o. Which is why I don't blame guys who insist on getting married to ladies who are self sufficient. He should break up with that girl and stop wasting her time. Because from all indications, he wants a lady who can also chip in financially in the home.

600k? That's too damn small. He should work more. 32 is not that too old. Give it one more year, and he will be good to go.

go on and settle if you are a good spender.

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Can't believe a grown ass man is asking such question. This simply implies;

* He's definitely not ready for marriage, and I pity the girl who'd commit to him.

* What was the source of the 600K? Is it sustainable? How long did it take him to make that amount?

* The third is just like the first, as a grown ass man, people with vision have married with a lot less.

I think the problem most times, is we have too many immature men jumping into marriage. Cos if you ask me, I didn't pick a wife for you, so I don't know why you'd ask if 600K is okay. Pls ask Cosmas Maduka

No! settle up for relationship.

Na marriage 0r dating?



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600k t00 small bik0

If #600k is the price to marry,by now,I would have been a multiple polygamist hubby.,

600k is damn too small in the present Nigeria,where a kilo of turkey is #1000 as at this morning,and a derica of beans is #190.. Tomatoes is expensive,4 pieces for #100,and pepper is scarce.

House rent is killing,and a good school fees is beyond the minimum wage.

So think twice.

verdict: he is not ready for marriage

advise: he should further his studies first if that makes him happy.

But: he should know that age is not on his side any longer except he is an Igbo boy

Acting baba Ijebu abi? He shud marry fashion designer,tailor,hair dresser(aren't dey human too ).Make he come Marry vickyrotex,dosht(Millionaire)But he must roga mi

na from clap dem take dey enter dance.

make him marry, things go better

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Yeah bro...u can marry wives and born children.. dont beg for money layer

I ALWAYS SAID THE TRUTH EVEN IF THEM BAN ME FOR SAYING THE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH.


IF HE MARRY THAT WOMAN OF 26 YRS OF AGE. GOD KNOW SAY NA HIM DO HIM SELF
LEAVE THAT WOMAN MAKE SHE DEY WALKER ABOUT AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR CAREER. ONCE YOU DON GET THE MONEY AND ASSURANCE, YOU GO SEE BEAUTIFUL, VERY YOUNG, BIGGI, SEXIST, FRONT AND BACK BABES FLOODING YOUR ARMS WITH FLOWERS OF LOVES. THATS WHEN YOU GO KNOW SAY MARRIAGE NA SCAM

DON'T LIVE THE LIFE OF BORNING PINKIN UP AND DOWN

To take care of a family ain't cheap.

I can understand his point of view since his ambitions are being actualized in order of priority

115K per month would easily become peanut when 1 becomes 2, 3 etc.

You always have to plan your life to suit your ambition in order to be successful

If financial stability and freedom is his number one goal then surely, marriage ain't going to add kobo to it.

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If it has to do with age? then you can marry (because you might have a certain age on your mind) but, if your concern is about money? pls work for another 8years

Nope use the 600k to get more certification till 45

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