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Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by radicalove(f): 11:43am On Jul 14, 2015 |
To Treese, you should never have gotten yourself pregnant for a man that does not love you, let alone getting married to him. Amaka's law of Relationship states that "It is better for a man to love a woman more than the way she loves him, not the other way round" Love is not by force and you can not force him to love you. I understand how you feel my Treese, the only crime you committed was LOVING A MAN THAT DOES NOT LOVE YOU. You have virtually done everything just to win his love, but it is not working. How can a man tell you not to give him problems on your wedding day and you still went ahead with the wedding, believe you me, if I were in your shoes, my answer to the question "Will you take this man as your lawfully wedded husband to love and to Cherish till death do you part?" would have been a "NO NO NO and NO, let the heavens fall if it wants to. What nonsense? Who knows? You might have been a lot happier being a single mother, instead of living 3 years of your life trying to please an undeserving man. 5 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by OluwaChinenyenwa: 11:47am On Jul 14, 2015 |
Kimoni:This right here should also be noted!! |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by GHoJes: 1:06pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
If it was treese' account only, i also would have thought her husband does not totally love her. Freelance still feel something for treese, something i would have love to trully ascertain. His posts closely looked at, exposed an insecure man scared of losing his wife to her ex. He says but for the kids, he would have walked out but i know a man who threat his wife as poorly as he does would not use that excuse if he doesnt feel anything for her especially with the seeming adulterous wife's acts taunting him, his tone was that of a man scared and for the first time he considered counseling in his heart which made him voiced out his fears by asking if it really works. When he paid back his wife for speaking with her ex, it was out of jealousy of a man who cared even enough to further find out the mission of the ex by insecurely impersonating the wife. Yet he lied when the wife asked if he doesnt get jealous, because of his fat ego. Treese took enough already, freelance pushed her to the path she took. Freelance has a big ego that dosent let him express or communicate his feelings, i also think his childhood contributed too. I wish i could see freelance' love language from his posts but treese's is that of physical touch and she is not getting it from her hubby. Its is in her posts, naggings to her husband, even the ex said it with the lack of hugs etc Treese want to make it work, freelance admitted same for his kids sake atleast but they are not understanding each other because they are not speaking the right language. They will make it if they know and speak to each other their love languages as a first step to their problem solving. 4 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by Nitefury: 2:08pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
treese: She said this |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by zeb04(f): 3:08pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
who ended marriage? when you bring problems to social media,you must be ready to accept the hard truth. marriage ended when you started giving sex through the back door even though you bled afterwards. in fact reading your story, it ended before it began. 4 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by emmatok(m): 5:35pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
radicalove: It's easy to blame the man for women's problems. If you read Treese post on VJ lax, you will noticed how her various Ex, insulted and dumped her . It's the hands of same Ex(married) she is now finding her comfort. She wants to get married due to fear of neglect and the guy married her out of pity, not knowing her history. 2 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 5:54pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
Kimoni: Hello Kimoni, They both have their faults and interestingly, my earlier posts actually captures the full picture. . The husband is a hard man while the wife is emotionally immature. The wife is not putting herself in the position to be loved; if she liked what she saw on social media, why didn't she start it? (Between, who judges the health of a marriage from the paparazzi on social media). She cooks for random friends, confide in her ex, is not trustworthy and she wonders why her husband doesn't display her pictures?(is it a metrics for happiness?) The husband might not love her and probably decided to marry her due to the pregnancy despite the lax privates (which is a plus aka responsibility) which she could have developed. Marriage is a garden which couples water and nurture as it suits them not as it is dictated by 'society' Re gut feeling: Why didn't this feeling come up before they got married or she got pregnant? @Husband: The guy was obviously not ready for marriage when she got pregnant and also very vengeful. If they can both go back to the foundation and have heart to heart discussions, they can salvage their relationship |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 5:56pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
Islie: Thanks |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 5:58pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
DonTim1: That is hardness of heart right there. The removal of the ring is a constant reminder he feels the wife/marriage is a failure |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 5:58pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
Time2Smile: True |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 5:59pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: Thanks I hope all becomes well with them |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by babygirlfl: 6:34pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
Well done bukatyne |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by oweniwe(m): 6:42pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
See all these people throwing blames and advicing lile say dem holy pass. Like a man who flirts with other girls blamimg d wife for flirting or a beer guzzling father advicing his son not to drink beer. All of una wey dey form adviser.... una get una own palava too. if I were any of d couple, I won't take anything said here with a pinch of salt cos I kno most of d folks here will do worse if in d wife's situation ..... imagine dem saying she for no do backdoor.... if she no gree do backdoor and husband go out go cheat, na d same ppl go still blame her for not being caring. for d husband, I go just say, women are hard to understand. if u giv den too much freedom, they will start to misbehave, if u control dem with heavy hand, they will cry out dat u are a dictator ...... I will say, assume you are a teacher, treat ur wife like you would do ur favorite student. daz all |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by peedeeasobie(m): 6:45pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
Mutendiwashe: With due respect Ma, ur analysis is one sided! Whether the man is helping her brother to get a job or to become president is completely immaterial! She is a married woman! Cooking for a man is an act of intimacy! Its a thing of pride for most men! Taking groceries to him? As per what? The appreciation she should show is "thank you" period! She was wrong in that! Like the OP said, the both of them are immature! They are both insincere to each other! |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by bukatyne(f): 9:03pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
babygirlfl: Thanks dear 1 Like |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by radicalove(f): 9:36pm On Jul 14, 2015 |
emmatok: |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by Mutendiwashe(f): 5:26am On Jul 15, 2015 |
peedeeasobie: Cooking is an act of intimacy and taking off a wedding ring every time you have non-marital related issues is an act of what? i will not shoot myself dead because you decided to read my comment with a biased mind. Thats on you. I already said she could have given a small grocery for someone to go cook for him instead just to show appreciation. You clearly shut your eyes and skipped that part. Wherever you got the idea that a married woman has to isolate every opposite sex friend she has simply because she changed her surname simply amazes me. If you intend on being more successful you will always need more connections and this includes making both male and female friends. 3 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by cococandy(f): 5:56am On Jul 15, 2015 |
By the way I think I saw somewhere in her post where she said she gave some leftover food to the nanny to give the dude because he said he was broke at the moment. If that's true, I don't see the crime in that. 3 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by kreamidiva(f): 7:07am On Jul 15, 2015 |
Immaturity in marriage... |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by Kimoni: 8:26am On Jul 15, 2015 |
cococandy: You know, I have been restraining myself a lot from speaking further on this issue out of respect for the couple. But I don't understand why people are deliberately ignoring a significant part of what the lady has said or gone through. The hubby conveniently twisted the above to "cooking for him" and peeps have continued to drag her over this despite her explanation. 3 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by mizzochocinco: 8:35am On Jul 15, 2015 |
bukatyne:enlighten us on how a person can put herself in a position to be loved if her husband takes off his ring for virtually anything that upsets him even when its work related? 5 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by GHoJes: 12:40pm On Jul 15, 2015 |
The man is just trying to make the woman be scared and become more "submissive" with the ending of the marriage thing. He is will go back to her although his ego would wait for a few more begs afterall he must have noticed from his "wakabout" that not every woman can tolerate like his wife. But freelance you are a manipulator. Freelance knows his wife visit nl, impersonated his wife and had proof that his wife did not cheat all the while his phone passworded. When he saw that he has been caught from his wife's reply to his version, his ego bloated again. I imagined him say how dare she?, she must pay (his usual weapon) and decided to trow the vj thing at his wife. He suddenly realised it is time to do it in a manner that will get back at her and make her feel threatened. I am not even convinced by his statement, he may even have twisted her history to get at her like he twisted the cooking story. Ego aside, if he checks his tool and skills well, he will know he has no right to point at his wife the way he did. The worst of it all, is for treese to exclude herself and man but blame "non existent" people for her marriage end. She went into that marriage with low esteem, the marriage further reduced it to nothing, she knows but doesnt mind. 4 Likes |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by efemenaslectura: 1:21pm On Jul 15, 2015 |
Bukky/bukatyne ok.i reserve my comment |
Re: For Freelance777 And Treese by focus7: 2:41am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Op I respect your counsel, more wisdom and grace. To the man, he should please be fair to the lady and respect her emotions. A woman you have been with for year with 2kids and now you are suddenly coming up with bad sex on the accusation of a lax V, that's cruel, selfish, mean and inconsiderate. He should give that lady support to solve that lax V problem, in marriage one person problem should be all party problem. In conclusion, though I agree the woman has her loads of faults but I chose to take on the man, he has not been responsible enough as treating the lady fairly, I beg I am a married man as well and will not treat my wife with less sense of esteem. 1 Like |
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