Some people complains that their darling dear no longer show them love like the time they were never married (going to cinema, clubbing, shopping, excursion etc) while some believes married life is the best, that it is the sweetest.

Married people here, kindly tell us which is the sweetest to you and reason(s) to support your claim.

Wait till I get married then I will be back to answer you

Before naa.

it depends on how ur fianicial status before or after d weddin. Married into a rich family-sweet. Marry into a blood suckin family- not sweet.

yomi007k:
Before naa.

Smiles... Kindly giv reason(s) why bfor getin married is sweeter for you dan after getting married.

as far as am concerned "after"is the sweeter cus marriage is meant to be full of joy not field with sorrow......only few NIGERIAS understand this.......

bigiyaro:
it depends on how ur fianicial status before or after d weddin. Married into a rich family-sweet. Marry into a blood suckin family- not sweet.

Hmmm.... I will assume frm ur post dat u bliv money maks marriage sweet.
Wot if d man/woman doesn't giv d require time for fun nd other enjoyable activities, lovey-dovey despite avin money? Do u fink d moment shared bfor getin married is still going to be same or better after getting married?

Both are sweet... u have to marry to experience the joy of holding ur child.. being a chairman in ur domain... abd doing family stuff

Olami90:



Hmmm.... I will assume frm ur post dat u bliv money maks marriage sweet.
Wot if d man/woman doesn't giv d require time for fun nd other enjoyable activities, lovey-dovey despite avin money? Do u fink d moment shared bfor getin married is still going to be same or better after getting married?

cant loveyin-doveyin on an empty stomach menh, money creates d time for fun n makes all activities very enjoyable.

After iis always better than before..

Depends on you and your spouse

Even the single ones will rush to answer the question.

After marriage is sweeter joor. at this point you are the center of his plans.life is not about partying and clubbing or even 'fast fooding' there is much joy in the guy seeking your opinion on how to invest, how to dress, how much to spend on feeding, what car to buy, how to manage his assets.there is nothing as sweet as he saying 'we' when he's discussing about most private issues of his life with you instead of the former 'I'

bigiyaro:
it depends on how ur fianicial status before or after d weddin. Married into a rich family-sweet. Marry into a blood suckin family- not sweet.

the truth is that joy and compartibility in marriage has nothing to do with riches.i have seen really poor folks living in one room apartment enjoy themselves.these couple call each other daddy and mummy(i used to find it funny).their closeness was something else.they didnt even go to school.they were christians though... my uncle and his wife on the other hand are something else.my uncle is a professor while the wife is a rich pharmasist.both from rich background with their own raw cash but you need to see fight.as in they even start from inside to outside which includes the wife having to throw whaterer(ranging from stick,bottle ,spoon,anything...)at his car while he must have settled her with blows before leaving the house...
my point is money has little to contribute in having fun.

ChrisChino:
Both are sweet... u have to marry to experience the joy of holding ur child.. being a chairman in ur domain... abd doing family stuff

I understand avin ur child givs happiness buh u cant rule out ur responsibility of making ur wife happy because of ur children's arrival.. Wot of d outings nd fun u had bfor u got married?is it likely to be better?

Note: u met ur wife bfor u av children. Witout her, u wunt b avin dem.

Joavid:
Even the single ones will rush to answer the question.

dats d problem nd it is likely to be biased. People dat av tasted d two sides wld knw better.

a married buddy told me this.

Chidoks:


the truth is that joy and compartibility in marriage has nothing to do with riches.i have seen really poor folks living in one room apartment enjoy themselves.these couple call each other daddy and mummy(i used to find it funny).their closeness was something else.they didnt even go to school.they were christians though... my uncle and his wife on the other hand are something else.my uncle is a professor while the wife is a rich pharmasist.both from rich background with their own raw cash but you need to see fight.as in they even start from inside to outside which includes the wife having to throw whaterer(ranging from stick,bottle ,spoon,anything...)at his car while he must have settled her with blows before leaving the house...
my point is money has little to contribute in having fun.

heheheh! Na 'small pikin' dey worry u for now. Wen u grow up properly, u go no y bible talk say 'money answereth all things'

Chidoks:
After marriage is sweeter joor. at this point you are the center of his plans.life is not about partying and clubbing or even 'fast fooding' there is much joy in the guy seeking your opinion on how to invest, how to dress, how much to spend on feeding, what car to buy, how to manage his assets.there is nothing as sweet as he saying 'we' when he's discussing about most private issues of his life with you instead of the former 'I'

You got it down babes

Chidoks:
After marriage is sweeter joor. at this point you are the center of his plans.life is not about partying and clubbing or even 'fast fooding' there is much joy in the guy seeking your opinion on how to invest, how to dress, how much to spend on feeding, what car to buy, how to manage his assets.there is nothing as sweet as he saying 'we' when he's discussing about most private issues of his life with you instead of the former 'I'

Interesting!!! U have made very good points.

Tho, life isn't about clubbing $ partying buh I think the feeling $ sense of "we" / executing plans as a couple may not b dat enough to mak it sweet since dey won't always agree on issues, and it is one of those things that makes marriage challenging.

bigiyaro:
heheheh! Na 'small pikin' dey worry u for now. Wen u grow up properly, u go no y bible talk say 'money answereth all things'

I do think you are the "small pikin" here. She made much more sense than you did. Is money good? Hell yea! Does it make life a lil easier? Ofcourse yes! Does it make a happy marriage? Big NO!

Marriage entails much more. My own parents weren't rich, but OMG, I've not seen a happier couple. I used to wonder if my marriage could ever be as happy as theirs. . .

There is just this inward happiness and peace of mind that money cannot give.

OP, to answer your question. . . My single life was very sweet. So sweet I dreaded marriage. Now, I'm married and I got to know a different kind of sweetness. Settled-responsible-family life kinda sweetness. And I totally love it! Much more than the single one.

Phema:


I do think you are the "small pikin". She made much more sense than you did. Is money good? Hell yea! Does it make life a lil easier? Ofcourse yes! Does it make a happy marriage? Big NO!

Marriage entails much more. My own parents weren't rich, but OMG, I've not seen a happier couple. I used to wonder if my marriage could ever be as happy as theirs. . .

There is just this inward happiness and peace of mind that money cannot give.

OP, to answer your question. . . My single life was so sweet. Now, I'm married and I got to know a different kind of sweetness. Settled-responsible-family life kinda sweetness. And I totally love it. Much more than the single one.

can't be discusin adult issues wit kids, dey will never understand.

bigiyaro:
can't be discusin adult issues wit kids, dey will never understand.

Yea right.

Olami90:



Interesting!!! U have made very good points.

Tho, life isn't about clubbing $ partying buh I think the feeling $ sense of "we" / executing plans as a couple may not b dat enough to mak it sweet since dey won't always agree on issues, and it is one of those things that makes marriage challenging.

the 'we' thing is abot the most important source of joy in marriage.it is not limited to decision making.it includes bearing children,raising same, having and caring for extende families.standing up for each other,supporting each other and pulling resources together to meet ends.the 'we' thing is very broad.wherever you go,whatever you do;someone is somewhere praying for you,worrying about you,thinking about you, wishing you well,thinking of how best to plant a smile on your face.it goes on and on... you can still club,hang out,make out,whatever that appeals to you untop of the fantastic 'we' factor.

by the way what makes you think decision making breeds disagreement? you see in narriage you leave self and focus on the good of the family.in any home where the common good of the family is key in decision making you hardly see such challenging disagreements rather the disagree to agree later and that is normal

Phema:


I do think you are the "small pikin". She made much more sense than you did. Is money good? Hell yea! Does it make life a lil easier? Ofcourse yes! Does it make a happy marriage? Big NO!

Marriage entails much more. My own parents weren't rich, but OMG, I've not seen a happier couple. I used to wonder if my marriage could ever be as happy as theirs. . .

There is just this inward happiness and peace of mind that money cannot give.

OP, to answer your question. . . My single life was very sweet. So sweet I dreaded marriage. Now, I'm married and I got to know a different kind of sweetness. Settled-responsible-family life kinda sweetness. And I totally love it! Much more than the single one.

Hmmm... classic!!!
Very encouraging.I pray God will continue to give u grace $ hold your family.


I guess there is more to the cry/complaint of some that no longer feel the love and fun they felt from their partner before they got married.

bigiyaro:
can't be discusin adult issues wit kids, dey will never understand.

Loool. Sir, don't be offended and please be calm. You can actually educate us explicitly.

Tho, money is important in marriages but do you think it can make one self sufficient not to talk of being the sole factor of having a sweet marriage?

Chidoks:


the 'we' thing is abot the most important source of joy in marriage.it is not limited to decision making.it includes bearing children,raising same, having and caring for extende families.standing up for each other,supporting each other and pulling resources together to meet ends.the 'we' thing is very broad.wherever you go,whatever you do;someone is somewhere praying for you,worrying about you,thinking about you, wishing you well,thinking of how best to plant a smile on your face.it goes on and on... you can still club,hang out,make out,whatever that appeals to you untop of the fantastic 'we' factor.

by the way what makes you think decision making breeds disagreement? you see in narriage you leave self and focus on the good of the family.in any home where the common good of the family is key in decision making you hardly see such challenging disagreements rather the disagree to agree later and that is normal

This is educative knowledge at its best. Thanks. I appreciate you.

At this point I think it balls down to whom one's partner is.

Olami90:


This is educative experience at its best. Thanks so much. I appreciate you.

At this point I think it balls down to whom one's partner is.

yes who your partner really is matters.for dome men once the wife puts to bed they tend to push the wife to the child/children and seek for fun outside--wrong!
some women tend to transfer part of their husband's love to the male children--wrong too
some lovey-dovey men become so bossy after marriage--wrong
some women become disobedient after marriage and stubborn after the first child--wrong
the aforementioned is capable of turning thr marriage sour but if you maintain your initial charm,your home will be so charming...

Marriage is beautiful

bigiyaro:
heheheh! Na 'small pikin' dey worry u for now. Wen u grow up properly, u go no y bible talk say 'money answereth all things'

mr? small pikin at 36? huh? understand this:there is a big difference between managing little or average resources in love and wisdom abd having in abundance yet no peace or appreciation .i don't advocate for poverty and by his grace i have never tasted same but you should know that in marriage what matters is not the volume of wealth your husband or family has but a home is created and sustained by love, understanding,patience and divine wisdom

Chidoks:


mr? small pikin at 36? huh? understand this:there is a big difference between managing little or average resources in love and wisdom abd having in abundance yet no peace or appreciation .i don't advocate for poverty and by his grace i have never tasted same but you should know that in marriage what matters is not the volume of wealth your husband or family has but a home is created and sustained by love, understanding,patience and divine wisdom

grow up.

bigiyaro:
grow up.

yessir!!!