Please nairalanders..help me.been dating this girl for almost 2 years now..Due to my busy schedule we see once in a month.I gave her my all and I go the extra mile for her..yesterday we were on phone when she said she wanted to tell me something..I gave her the go ahead ,she hesistated sighing several times until she broke into tears telling me she cheated on two occasions..I'm so confused right now..she would be in my place today.she has lied to me severally,she drinks alcohol though I've been trying so hard to help her stop.I'm confused I know the rules..never take back a cheating gf..once a cheat always a cheat?can l ever forgive and forget?my emotions are getting a better part of me..I had plans for this gul I swear..so unfair..nairalanders pls talk to me

she go do am again... its a matter of time...!

Brother, distance is always a problem to relationships, especially when the party involved are retired players, but one thing I found out is that she has a conscience, and she truly loves you, if she had the strength to tell u she cheated without you asking then she's worth giving a second chance.
But show her you are not happy, lest she does it again, learn how to turn ur lemon into lemonade, she loves you, and respect you, which means you can always influence her life. Sorry bro, and good luck. Sh*it always happens you know

ChrisChino:
she go do am again... its a matter of time...!

can we still find decent girls these days..so annoying

For her to call you and tell you she cheated on you without you asking, like the poster above me said, then she's worth giving a second chance.......

Truth is you can't find a perfect woman..........
.funny thing is many women cheat and many will,
difference is, unlike men you will hardly ever find out when your babe cheats on you......they are innocent until proven guilty
So they come and rant on social media how men are unfaithful........its even the serial cheats that lead such campaigns..........but that's by the way

So if you're looking for miss perfect.....you might have to lower your expectations.....there's no assurance that if you find a new girl, even if she works in the office beside yours, she wouldn't cheat. ...

If this girl didn't tell you, you wouldn't have found out....and she knew, she also knew that telling you could mean the end of the relationship but I believe her conscience wouldn't be at rest.........meaning she still has a good heart...........also meaning she truly loves you



Op, do what you want in the end, but believe me when I say that you might never find any woman who would be as sincere to you as your babe in the end

faith551:
Brother, distance is always a problem to relationships, especially when the party involved are retired players, but one thing I found out is that she has a conscience, and she truly loves you, if she had the strength to tell u she cheated without you asking then she's worth giving a second chance.
But show her you are not happy, lest she does it again, learn how to turn ur lemon into lemonade, she loves you, and respect you, which means you can always influence her life. Sorry bro, and good luck. Sh*it always happens you know

is she worth it anymore?this is so painful..I'm having a funny feeling she's been on d cheating thing for long..I'm confused

Since u knw d rule.....be a man and apply d rule...

faith551:
Brother, distance is always a problem to relationships, especially when the party involved are retired players, but one thing I found out is that she has a conscience, and she truly loves you, if she had the strength to tell u she cheated without you asking then she's worth giving a second chance.
But show her you are not happy, lest she does it again, learn how to turn ur lemon into lemonade, she loves you, and respect you, which means you can always influence her life. Sorry bro, and good luck. Sh*it always happens you know

I don't have the strength to type.....thank God this poster said my mind

a busy guy should date a busy babe. dating a non virgin in a monthly schedule is a big risk.....

Crocodile tears! As if she was raped... She cheated intentionally...Maybe because of the far distance btw you guys I will advice you to just end the relationship b4 it gets any further.. Plz don't be blinded by ur feelings 4 this girl... She don cheat then tell her to shift...find a girl within ur vicinity..long distance btw partners na Gobe from 1885.

oseod:


I don't have the strength to type.....thank God this poster said my mind

Bia oya pay me my salary

gimme d chick contact

faith551:



Bia oya pay me my salary

Origin or coke?

BANGERLEE1:
Crocodile tears! As if she was raped... She cheated intentionally...Maybe because of the far distance btw you guys I will advice you to just end the relationship b4 it gets any further.. Plz don't be blinded by ur feelings 4 this girl... She don cheat then tell her to shift...find a girl within ur vicinity..long distance btw partners na Gobe from 1885.

atleast she took her clothes off herself..there is no mistake here cos it happened twice..#annoying

painedbro:
is she worth it anymore?this is so painful..I'm having a funny feeling she's been on d cheating thing for long..I'm confused

Then cool down and do ur research on her, what if u caught he'd on the act? Wat if she kept on playing the game without u knowing it, because it seems like Wat would have been the case without she telling u.

gboso1ne:
gimme d chick contact

funny you

oseod:

Origin or coke?

Chin chin

If I should live by that theory of once a cheat is always a cheat......then I don't think I should get married......... Mtchewwwwwuuuuuu.



Am nt supporting wat she did o.......bt I think there is a reason she cheated and there is also a reason she told you.

painedbro:
atleast she took her clothes off herself..there is no mistake here cos it happened twice..#annoying

sure

Harbosede02:
If I should live by that theory of once a cheat is always a cheat......then I don't think I should get married......... Mtchewwwwwuuuuuu.
Am nt supporting wat she did o.......bt I think there is a reason she cheated and there is also a reason she told you.

A reason that she couldn't talk to me about?asked here severally about her being comfortable with the once in a month thing and she said she was..saying what I was on was more important for the now

faith551:



Chin chin

Enjoy.....u do well

oseod:
For her to call you and tell you she cheated on you without you asking, like the poster above me said, then she's worth giving a second chance.......

Truth is you can't find a perfect woman..........
.funny thing is many women cheat and many will,
difference is, unlike men you will hardly ever find out when your babe cheats on you......they are innocent until proven guilty
So they come and rant on social media how men are unfaithful........its even the serial cheats that lead such campaigns..........but that's by the way

So if you're looking for miss perfect.....you might have to lower your expectations.....there's no assurance that if you find a new girl, even if she works in the office beside yours, she wouldn't cheat. ...

If this girl didn't tell you, you wouldn't have found out....and she knew, she also knew that telling you could mean the end of the relationship but I believe her conscience wouldn't be at rest.........meaning she still has a good heart...........also meaning she truly loves you



Op, do what you want in the end, but believe me when I say that you might never find any woman who would be as sincere to you as your babe in the end

your post made me weak in my knees..

painedbro:
A reason that she couldn't talk to me about?asked here severally about her being comfortable with the once in a month thing and she said she was..saying what I was on was more important for the now

She was only trying to be thoughtful. ....
You don't expect her to say "quit your job and be with me" that would be selfish of her.....
she wanted you to be happy even when she knew it wasn't go to be easy for her to be celibate every month

oseod:

Enjoy.....u do well

Hahahahahahahahaha, are u serious? Well thank ya

Harbosede02:
If I should live by that theory of once a cheat is always a cheat......then I don't think I should get married......... Mtchewwwwwuuuuuu.



Am nt supporting wat she did o.......bt I think there is a reason she cheated and there is also a reason she told you.

Once a cheat always a cheat. Fact.
She did not cheat with one person but 2 different guys,
Yes there is a reason she did it. She is a hoe

Why do I have this feeling she MAY be pulling ur legs?
Talk to her face to face, make her confirm it's true.
Then make ur decision.

AmiLaHoit:
Why do I have this feeling she MAY be pulling ur legs?
Talk to her face to face, make her confirm it's true.
Then make ur decision.

no leg pulling here sis..I saw it coming she's been professing d I will always love u bla bla..promise you won't give up on me and stuff..I know when she is joking

I want to believe she cried because she feels bad about it, you don't just judge people like that, not everyone has a well filled emotional tank...and what makes you think people in close range relationships can't cheat...

Well, no justification. Bae didn't do well. If you can go on with the relationship it shows how strong you are. But you both need to have a comprehensive face to face conversation about matters arising in your relationship and the forseeable future.

Also, don't go ahead to cheat to equal the score..you will only feel worse.

BANGERLEE1:
Crocodile tears! As if she was raped... She cheated intentionally...Maybe because of the far distance btw you guys I will advice you to just end the relationship b4 it gets any further.. Plz don't be blinded by ur feelings 4 this girl... She don cheat then tell her to shift...find a girl within ur vicinity..long distance btw partners na Gobe from 1885.

@Bangerlee1 distance will always be there in a rship at one point or the other, so far we are all aspiring to become better in life. If you have a gf you guys stay close by and she got transferred @ work or needed to further her studies how will that not amount to a long distance rship. Many people get married to people who have cheated before marriage. If they don't tell you and played their games well you will never know. If I look @ the immortality going on with our girls these days, the thought of marriage just fears me. Even me I have had sex with girls in a serz rship and I am in one and d thought of it just scares me like what if am doing to these girls is been done to mine as well. My advice to the OP, she has told u and the thought of it will hunt u. Just do what you feel is best for you.

Is there a way I can get more responses?I'm losing my mind

marry ha!
shez betta dan
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