His sister just found out by "accident" from my bf's cousin, that I live with him (which I do not) and that the good Christian boy he is, has been engaging in A LOT of premarital sex.

He was mad at his cousin for telling the sisters about us, because he felt it was his responsibility to talk with his family.

My question is should I contact them or wait for him to do it? It's been four days and he's not made a move yet.

Four days .

No need to rush. Wait for him to do it.

Contact Him

YourMain:
Four days .
No need to rush. Wait for him to do it.

I'm antsy too... I just want to rip the bandaid off

why would you want to do that? go and meet the dad and mom and tell them that you're their son's gf and also go visit his grandparents too.smh .......

icedbeatz:
why would you want to do that? go and meet the dad and mom and tell them that you're their son's gf and also go visit his grandparents too.smh .......

I don't understand the question? I feel like someone needs to make an introduction otherwise I'm just some girl who he's dating

fromnigeria:
Contact Him

He knows, we were both given the news while we were together

BlackGirlLost:


I don't understand the question? I feel like someone needs to make an introduction otherwise I'm just some girl who hes dating

. U r confuse ,am confuse .may God help us

mekzyjoe:
. U r confuse ,am confuse .may God help us

Mmmhmm... so ya'll are saying I'm wrong if his avoidance continues? I'm just trying to figure out what man would willingly walk into drama.

Sorry I asked, I just want this to be over, so it can stop being the "thing" hanging over our heads

Let him do it... If he doesn't you'll knw he doesn't want an exclusive relationship.. That's too bad

Sandydayz:
Let him do it... If he doesn't you'll knw he doesn't want an exclusive relationship.. That's too bad

I feel like a dunce. I hadn't thought of that

BlackGirlLost:



Mmmhmm... so ya'll are saying I'm wrong if his avoidance continues? I'm just trying to figure out what man would willingly walk into drama.

Sorry I asked, I just want this to be over, so it can stop being the "thing" hanging over our heads

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BlackGirlLost:



Mmmhmm... so ya'll are saying I'm wrong if his avoidance continues? I'm just trying to figure out what man would willingly walk into drama.

Sorry I asked, I just want this to be over, so it can stop being the "thing" hanging over our heads

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Sandydayz:
Let him do it... If he doesn't you'll knw he doesn't want an exclusive relationship.. That's too bad

He works two full time jobs and goes to school. His response to this is that it should be face to face and he's trying to figure out the best time.

His cousin said I should meet with the 3 sisters one on one. .. smh I feel like they may already dislike me because someone else besides my boyfriend (they said third party) let them know we were dating. Smh

They will probably forgive him, I'm concerned that I'm the one who's gonna have to work for their acceptance

mekzyjoe:
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I'm really trying to figure out why everyone is confused by my statements but Rich Homie Quan has a hit record

BlackGirlLost:


He works two full time jobs and goes to school. His response to this is that it should be face to face and he's trying to figure out the best time.

His cousin said I should meet with the 3 sisters one on one. .. smh I feel like they may already dislike me because someone else besides my boyfriend (they said third party) let them know we were dating. Smh

They will probably forgive him, I'm concerned that I'm the one who's gonna have to work for their acceptance

Two full time jobs and school?
Huh Aiit... Haha at bolded... Trust me i knw that feeling is like a death sentence... U don't av to feel that way, Except u knew his sis before u guys started dating?

Abeg this op sef! Are you gods gift 2 men that everyone in his family needs 2 know who you are? Your a side biatch 4 now @ most so stop fooling yourself! Only wifey material or potential wifey materials need 2 meet peoples folks! You may be dumped next week 4 dis your question sef!

No don't pls let him be d one to tell them so it won't sound like you are desperate and he might get angry again. I just hope its not dat his trying to play you cos if his serious with you he should have told his family about you.

Sandydayz:

Two full time jobs and school?
Huh Aiit... Haha at bolded... Trust me i knw that feeling is like a death sentence... U don't av to feel that way, Except u knew his sis before u guys started dating?

No babe, I don't know his sisters, I just know his cousins and their girlfriends.

Apparently, I was mentioned at a family barbecue as "O's girlfriend is so funny. " by the cousin and then O's sister was like "Wait, what? "

And everyone tried to act like they didn't say anything but it was too late

TheUmmah:

Abeg this op sef! Are you gods gift 2 men that everyone in his family needs 2 know who you are? Your a side biatch 4 now @ most so stop fooling yourself! Only wifey material or potential wifey materials need 2 meet peoples folks! You may be dumped next week 4 dis your question sef!

I want to respect your opinion, but it's hard for me to do so when you refer to me as a "biatch". Whether I'm in the front or the side, is neither here or there. We all play roles, so I suggest you learn yours when addressing me.

grad2012:
No don't pls let him be d one to tell them so it won't sound like you are dispirate and he might get angry again. I just hope its not dat his trying to play you cos if his serious with you he should have told his family about you.

Thank you grad2012 this is difficult

BlackGirlLost:


No babe, I don't know his sisters, I just know his cousins and their girlfriends.

Apparently, I was mentioned at a family barbecue as "Chize's girlfriend is so funny. " by the cousin and then Chize's sister was like "Wait, what? "

And everyone tried to act like they didn't say anything but it was too late

Huh i get it... U should be lucky that u got his cousin for a friend....

Still yet don't do the introduction except u come across the sis who's already found by mistake, I'll advice u avoid her if u can...

Let him take the responsibility...
You wouldn't like it if it were the other way round.. Am sure of that

Sandydayz:

Huh i get it... U should be lucky that u got his cousin for a friend....

Still yet don't do the introduction except u come across the sis who's already found by mistake, I'll advice u avoid her if u can...

Let him take the responsibility...
You wouldn't like it if it were the other way round.. Am sure of that

Yeah the cousin she's nice, I made cassava leaf and she was honest, she said there was too much salt, but it's a good first try. I'm gonna make egusi soup on Monday and she said she will help me.

On one hand I want to avoid them, but on the other hand I wonder if it would be best to put everything on the table now that she knows.

He said he is afraid that if he introduces me to his family, the sisters will try to intimidate me because they are so "overprotective" and he doesn't want to lose me.

I try to tell him that there's nothing they can do to make me feel any differently towards him and he says "Then you don't know my sisters. "

BlackGirlLost:


Yeah she's nice, I made cassava leaf and she was honest, she said there was too much salt, but it's a good first try. I'm gonna make egusi soup on Monday and she said she will help me.

On one hand I want to avoid them, but on the other hand I wonder if it would be best to put everything on the table now that she knows.

He said he is afraid that if he introduces me to his family, the sisters will try to intimidate me because they are so "overprotective" and he doesn't want to lose me.

I try to tell him that there's nothing they can do to make me feel any differently towards him and he says "Then you don't know my sisters. "

Huh... Younger sisters?

Sandydayz:

Huh... Younger sisters?

Giiiirrrrllllll now you understand why I said this is drama and i wanted to be the one to take care of it?

He said his mother and his father and his brothers will love me, it's the sisters I gotta worry about. He says they don't even argue amongst themselves because they argue with everyone else

BlackGirlLost:


Giiiirrrrllllll now you understand why I said this is drama and i wanted to be the one to take care of it?

He said his mother and his father and his brothers will love me, it's the sisters I gotta worry about. He says they don't even argue amongst themselves because they argue with everyone else

Still yet... Patience

BlackGirlLost:


Giiiirrrrllllll now you understand why I said this is drama and i wanted to be the one to take care of it?

He said his mother and his father and his brothers will love me, it's the sisters I gotta worry about. He says they don't even argue amongst themselves because they argue with everyone else

Still yet... Patience
Just wait for him

BlackGirlLost:


Giiiirrrrllllll now you understand why I said this is drama and i wanted to be the one to take care of it?

He said his mother and his father and his brothers will love me, it's the sisters I gotta worry about. He says they don't even argue amongst themselves because they argue with everyone else

Guess they are trouble.. Still yet babe I'll advice u av patience

Sandydayz:

Still yet... Patience
Just wait for him

You're right, what was I thinking? If this is truly the man that wants to marry me, I must follow his lead on things having to do with his family and not just have my own way.

I followed you Sandy... I didn't know you could put pictures up smh I just posted mine

BlackGirlLost:


You're right, what was I thinking? If this is truly the man that wants to marry me, I must follow his lead on things having to do with his family and not just have my own way.

I followed you Sandy... I didn't know you could put pictures up smh I just posted mine

Hahaahha u newbie... Can clearly see that
U pretty o
Welcome

Sandydayz:

Hahaahha u newbie... Can clearly see that
U pretty o
Welcome

You are pretty too, pls keep in touch

Please! Please!! Please!!! Let him be the one to introduce you to his family.

If you try to work your way into his family's good grace you would only end up looking desperate and no man likes that. Just let it flow. Besides your boyfriend may or may not be looking for a lasting relationship so don't try to force his hand because it would backfire. If the relationship eventually gets to the point where he is comfortable introducing you to his family, then he would do it. But for now chill and enjoy the relationship.

I am assuming he is Nigerian?

sevule:
Please! Please!! Please!!! Let him be the one to introduce you to his family.

If you try to work your way into his family's good grace you would only end up looking desperate and no man likes that. Just let it flow. Besides your boyfriend may or may not be looking for a lasting relationship so don't try to force his hand because it would backfire. If the relationship eventually gets to the point where he is comfortable introducing you to his family, then he would do it. But for now chill and enjoy the relationship.

I am assuming he is Nigerian?

He is VERY Nigerian.

I am trying to learn the ropes here.