herald9:

Was that supposed to be a joke? Hmm I'd be coming back to laugh.

Paedophilia is alien to us here in Akwa Ibom.
Here, we let our crops grow to the right stage before we harvest them, after all, the creator blessed us with fertile soils (beautiful women). In that aspect, I can't think of any solution to a foreign disease. Those affected should investigate themselves and repeal any law that condones paedophilia.

Our children were to be protected and not penetrated. Anything that goes against nature is not normal and should be treated as such. If shaming and jailing cannot curb this act, maybe they should take it up psychologically.

And with the parents playing their parts, the media house creating more awareness, the government enacting strict laws to punish offenders and sticking to it.... Slowly, this crime, if not totally eradicated would be reduced to the barest minimum.

Homosexuality has come to stay, let's not add paedophilia to the list.

You are funny.
You love ya' state so much.

Nihilist:


Nigga just shutdafuckup.

I ignored you at first because you dont know what you are talking about.

Only last year, there was a big brouhaha in the news about the town of rotherham here in the UK where over 1500 underage girls had been molested between 1999 and 2013 by a gang led by 5 men.

3 years ago, the story broke about Jimmy Saville who had molested over 600 underage girls....that number is even a conservative estimate

Jimmy Saville's reign of rape was started in the 60's and spanned over 50 years, so the 589 rapes/molestation are not so impressive. And his case was unusual as he was 1) a rich celeb and 2) had access to young children in the NHS. I was actually in the UK during the height of the scandal in 2012/2013.


I dont know much about your rotterham rape gang. So I can not say much


I never said that rape didnt happen in the UK. I clearly said that rape of minors in the EU is relatively rare- people know that it is difficult to get away with such.

Nihilist:

The rest of this statement is just more uninformed nonsense. I cannot help you of you think that NGO promoting contraceptives can also protect against rape. I cannot help you if you think villagers sexually molest underage girls because they are illiterate.

Ever since you were educated on Standd's over thread, you have been looking for a way to get one over Nihilist. You have made personal attacks on Nihilist and avoided his points that were not even addressed to you at all. Nihilist doesn't send you mate. Nihilist doesn't give two.

You're better off promoting your failure of a blog with it's lack of comments and advertising than you are getting Nihilist's attention because this is his last post to you.

I dont need my blog to blow to make money. I write for other magazines. This is how I know that you are a beggar in the UK. Everything is about money for you.


Oh, and Nihilist if only you knew who I am.......we used to be good friends. The only reason why I keep trolling you,


So don't think you are special.

Nihilist:


I will not let you ruin this thread.

Jog on.

Jog your balls you fa..ot!

freecocoa:
Pedophilia is alien to who? So the man that r*ped a 9 years old girl and blamed his sons, labelling them witches, is from America abi?

Haven't heard of it. If it ever happened, it might have been a sex-starved old man in action.

You can't live by the Niger and wash your hands with spittle na.
Sure we have other problems,but paedophilia is not one of them.

joseph1832:
Jog your balls you fa..ot!

Point taken.

Standd do you moderate this section?

FrancisTony:
You are funny. You love ya' state so much.

We all love our States, don't you?
But seriously, paedophilia is very rare or inexistent.

herald9:

Haven't heard of it. If it ever happened, it might have been a sex-starved old man in action.

You can't live by the Niger and wash your hands with spittle na.
Sure we have other problems,but paedophilia is not one of them.

Just listen to yourself, sex starved old man, how can he be sex starved when you have all those beautiful women like you said?

My friend pedophilia is everywhere, it is not a thing of state.

freecocoa:
Just listen to yourself, sex starved old man, how can he be sex starved when you have all those beautiful women like you said?

My friend pedophilia is everywhere, it is not a thing of state.

There are different kinds of 'old men' that are worth sleeping with. He might not have been in that category... Abi do women sleep with everything they see?

Our customs, tradition and common sense doesn't allow any room for paedophilia.

herald9:

We all love our States, don't you?

But seriously, paedophilia is very rare or inexistent.

It's rare because most people do it in their closet mostly in southern Nigeria.

It's their culture in the Northern Nigeria and Arabic/Islamic countries.

standd:


My point is people who get raped do not deserve it no matter their choice of clothing. You keep talking about the ladies, what of the little children, boys and girls, toddlers?
You saw on FP today, cases of children who were raped by grown men. Was that 9year old not decent too?

Maybe you should read the Op again. Thank you.

Thank you for being so sensible.

standd:



Calm down freecocoa

3 things I'm working on

(1)PSAs in various languages

(2)Helplines

(3)Training for parents,school counselors,pastors,law enforcement,doctors and nurses,professionals working with kids,day care staff e t c

I think part of the problem is that the offenders would always find a way to justify their actions by blaming the victim. They would say the woman was dressed 'indecently' or that 'children these days know too much'. It's pathetic.

Not to mention the shame put on victims of sexual violence is used to silence them, so their abusers aren't brought to book.

busky101:
yea true talk, if a rich man is brought down by such disaster it wont stop a poor man from doing the same, lets take a case study, a jewish man after serving a ten year jail term for stabbing people during a gay pride parade in Israel in 2005 was released just last month and barely three weeks after his release he commited the same act he was jailed for just on thursday, dis time around he stabbed 6 people, what do you suggest they do to him this time? ??



Back to the topic, what if konji na the demon name...lol

There is no silly demon anything. People should start taking responsibility for their actions.

Freemanan:
Ladies should be more decent in their appearance.. Huge step...

This kind of post gets me very angry.

freecocoa:
Just listen to yourself, sex starved old man, how can he be sex starved when you have all those beautiful women like you said?

My friend pedophilia is everywhere, it is not a thing of state.

My dear sister. pls pay no mind to herald9. Check my last 10 or 15 mentions and post, you will see that he and probably a cousin or friend of his(they all have the same mindset) and I have a running battle on stone age opinions such as this.

plaetton:

This kind of post gets me very angry.

Don't be.

AllNaijaBlogger:



First, protect the underage girls. From the age of 5/6 my nieces already know that no one is supposed to touch them anyhow. Also, they never go out alone. They are also told to report any teacher or any guardian or relative behaving funny to them.


Parents too are needed. My parents gave us children close marking. They hardly left us in the hands of others

And your little nephews?

cococandy:

Great job girl.
But they will need legal backing to do anything like that. That's where it is dicey.

Nigerians, the whole freaking populace need to be schooled on empathy. I like the idea behind this discussion. I also understand that the younger ones are more vulnerable than we are. But I'd like emphasis to be spread evenly. Too many psychologically and emotionally damaged women maketh not good mentors or good guardians to these youngsters.

Pls its important not to buy into the narrative that grown ass women are to blame for the rape that happens to them. Dressing is subjective. No human should be constrained by the wants or needs of another except consent is granted or there is a mutual agreement. Yesterday I wore a skinny jean, a long sweater and a grey veil around my head. Yet I still had men ogling and whistling "sister you no go come my shop come greet me".

If there is anything to be done, I would like to help.

p.s men also get molested too. Let's fight this together.

alphalpha:


And your little nephews?

Oh, I allowed them to be forked in the as.......


Guy, what do you think? Of course, my nephews were as well taught how to avoid predators.

I mentioned "nieces" because we were focusing on females

MarieSucre:

Nigerians, the whole freaking populace need to schooled on empathy. I like the idea behind this discussion. I also understand that the younger ones are more vulnerable than we are. But I'd like emphasis to be spread evenly. Too many psychologically and emotionally damaged women maketh not good mentors or good guardians to these youngsters.

Pls its important not to buy into the narrative that grown ass women are to blame for the rape that happens to them. Dressing is subjective. Yesterday I wore a skinny jean, a long sweater and a grey veil around my head. Yet I still had men ogling and whistling "sister you no go come my shop come greet me".

If there is anything to be done, I would like to help.

p.s men also get molested too. Let's fight this together.

if only we have a thousand people like you and standd in our country atleast the crime rate ought to has been reduced by now

Nihilist:


Naming and Shaming does not work. We've seen all the articles posted online with names and photos of the pedos and rapists. What has happened to them afterwards? Do you even remember the names of the perps or the victims? I certainly don't.

The ideal thing to have is a sex offenders list...but even that wouldn't work in Nigeria for obvious reasons.

The only thing to do is to protect yourself.

Look at it this way, I live in a country where fences are ornamental rather than functional, and windows don't have bars on them. The average person here does not need a 6 foot fence with barbed wire to protect him from burglars and the police are well equipped to rapidly respond to any calls for help. Consequently it is illegal to use deadly force to defend yourself in your own house

Now in contrast, I was born in a country where the fences are very much functional and all the windows and doors have bars on them. The average person needs a 10 foot wall topped with barbed wire, spikes and broken bottles, in addition to burglary proofed iron bars on windows and doors, and their gates are padlocked. The police system does not work, and you are encouraged to defend yourself if and when you can.

That is the key thing here: Self-Defence.

Now one _idiot quoted me to ask who would defend a 10 year old girl. 10 year old girls get molested even in advanced countries. If I have to explain that my post on self-defence also extends to guardians defending their wards, I might as well just give up on having an intelligent conversation.

Finally, Standd Nigeria is broken, no two ways about it. Idealism is misplaced when talking about the utter clusterfuck that is that country. Nigerians must be pragmatic realists on all occasions. There is really nothing else to aspire to.

Summary of your post:-NIGERIANS JUST LIE DOWN AND DIE.

All convicted rapist and other sexual offenders should be placed in a nationwide data base; and be barred from working in educational institutions.

AllNaijaBlogger:



Oh, I allowed them to be forked in the as.......


Guy, what do you think? Of course, my nephews were as well taught how to avoid predators.

I mentioned "nieces" because we were focusing on females

Focus and which females... OP categorically mentioned boys too

Nihilist:


Exactly rape can happen anywhere. Does a father need education to know that maybe he shouldn't rape his own daughter?

Does a principal need education to know that he shouldn't rape his students?

Konji is a bastard and can strike anywhere...The best you can do is try to protect yourself.

I now know why AllNaijaBlogger doesn't like your comments. Your lie down and die tone is grating.

This thread is for proffering functional ways of curbing rape, apprehending rapists and providing any and all support to rape victims. Your comment has not said anything that victims have not been doing for years. in fact if a victim were to read your comments, their depression and revulsion with themselves may reach rock bottom. Unlike you Mr Britain, we live with realities of these vice, and unlike you we continually live with consequences of both the vice and the failed infrastructure that could have help curb it.

You're not forced to participate so shove all your negativity where the sun don't shine.

Till you have something productive to add to this thread, I politely suggest you desist from commenting.

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in my own understanding, dressing plays a major role among d adult(a dress can be decent, also a dress can be naughty)
The use of an online database system to check if your collegues, neighbours, friends nd relatives s a rapist will mk the enivornment save for our children, adults etc.
Furthermore, every rape must be reported to d approipate authority( to get punished nd get their names nd details registered) online)

Freemanan:

Your choice of wit is poor. Try harder. I approached the problem from its root but seems your knowledge on sociology is too poor so you prefer making sarcasm. I will leave you to those who will give you a surface solution. Thanks.

bro, you angle of objectivity is damn too narrow, not covering other people affected such as 10,8, 12. Even 2 year old kids that are r+a+p+e+d. Do you want to say that these ones dress indecently? Or haven't you been seeing all the r-*a+p+.e news involving minors on front page of nairaland? Or do these kids walk around n+a-k-e+d that made oldies in their 50s-70s rape them?

Come on, you are more intelligent than this and therefore you should seen what standd was driving at... Or her perception of the overall case.

Your stance and failure to attack this issue more objectively and broadly made you appear biased towards the female gender.

Not cool, man.

MarieSucre:

I now know why AllNaijaBlogger doesn't like your comments. Your lie down and die tone is grating.

This thread is for proffering functional ways of curbing rape, apprehending rapists and providing any and all support to rape victims. Your comment has not said anything that victims have not been doing for years. in fact if a victim were to read your comments, their depression and revulsion with themselves may reach rock bottom. Unlike you Mr Britain, we live with realities of these vice, and unlike you we continually live with consequences of both the vice and the failed infrastructure that could have help curb it.

You're not forced to participate so shove all your negativity where the sun don't shine.

Till you have something productive to add to this thread, I politely suggest you desist from commenting.

Where do these maggots keep crawling out from?

Have YOU posted anything productive on the thread?

Have YOU picked any of the points I raised and constructively countered them?

Why is my opinion grating to YOU?

The reason why you can agree with someone who has continued unprovoked personal attacks on my person, is because you too incapable of rational thinking and logical conclusion.

You need to curl up into a ball somewhere and just die cos Nihilist does not give two about you or your merry gang of _idiots

#ignored.

AllNaijaBlogger:



Wrong. Capital punishment doesnt work, especially when a person can't be 100% proven guilty or 100% convicted without doubt.

What we beat/castrate an innocent man?

Here are the steps to be taken

-First produce material (Videos, pamphlets and conventions) that inform men and women about their rights and ra.pe. This should be done in many languages for all Nigerians to understand.

-TV stations and health workers around the nation should be educated and also themselves educate the masses about ra.pe and pe.dophilia

-Laws regarding ra.pe and pedop.hilia should be ratified. Also, false rape allegations should carry heavy penalties.



On the grassroot levels
-educate your sisters, children, nieces and nephews on ra.pe and pedophilia
-get nairaland admin to promote anti-rape and safe-sex threads on the front page
-don't be a molester

you have spoken my mind.... Aggressive media sensitization

standd:

I feel that I finally need to speak up since I now know that merely creating threads, pointing fingers and name-calling will no longer suffice. I am plain fed up with the hundreds of Rape cases being published in my country.
How do these cases end?
We even hear of pastors and elderly men begging the parents of the victim to withdraw their case against an offender who raped their child. And victims being shamed and blamed and at the end of the day, the rapist could relocate and commit the same offence all over again. Then some men now say that 9year old girls seduce them and witches push them to rape. So pathetic and shameful.

Okay, you may feel that it doesn't concern you but then what goes around comes around, and one day, it will finally concern you, directly or indirectly.

So, my question is.. What is the most viable way to curb sexual offences, rape and abuse of any form; against women, men, girls, boys and helpless children especially.


Do we begin to publish names and pictures of CONVICTED sexual offenders and paste them in public places?

Do we start a publication, blog, website where we put up the details of every sexual offence plus details of the rapists, then send the link to everyone we know?

Do we solicit any of our dailies to help publish these notices profiling sexual offenders and their addresses?

What do we do?

P.S: Pls, let us not talk about the NPF, or prison sentences or even any sort of law put in place that never favours the poor or the voiceless masses. Think about the physical and psychological effect on these helpless children subjected to rape by adults who later bribe their way out.

I plead that if you have links to dailies or ideas on things that can be done to proffer an effective and lasting solution to this evil debacle that has befallen our society, kindly let us know.
It is my belief that when a rapist sees his picture and name in public, it will stop him from committing the same offence again, and also serve as a deterrent to others who plan on abusing anyone in the future.


Disclaimer: My post do not cover those who were/are/will be wrongly accused of a crime they know nothing about. And only CONVICTED rapists should be exposed and punished.

Thank you.
Pls, send me a PM if you do not want to comment on this thread.
Looking forward to positive and lasting solutions.

Cc
AllNaijaBlogger
Ishilove
Cococandy
Idowuogbo
Mynd44
Freecocoa
EfemenaXY
Sambarry
Semitunde
Ijebabe
FrancisTony
Caracta
Ujsizzle
Jaybee3
Bukatyne
Shaybebaby
Miss Nairaland(Tohpahz)
Anyone with a link to newspapers/dailies
Softandmoist
Joecutie
Olashas
EggovinMma
Divsy



All ideas/contributions are welcome as long as we stick to topic.

I don't believe in cutting down unwanted trees as much as in rooting them out.

That said, it is expedient that we address the root cause of the matter, which is the rapist or paedophile or whatever fancy name they are called.

It is said that everybody has a drop of greatness in them. Likewise everybody has a drop of villainy in them. ... of çourse, everyone is a potential rapist/paedophile etc

The problem today is because of the activation of this potential, and the alarming rate at which it has increased...

To solve this problem, we need to stop/annihilate/eradicate the activation of the rape potential. We can achieve this with the help of an activated rapist/paedo...

We have them here on Nairaland. They should volunteer for this great cause. If no one does, then I, myself, will volunteer. But I must warn you, my rape potential is 0. (zero to ñothingness)

Freemanan:

If decency from the female pack is in tact, the rate of rape or sexual offences will reduce. Hence no need for this discussion... You get the idea?

what kind of philosurfer are u sef?

Please o... Anyone making suggestions should give base on the language Nigerians understand. Please stop that database crap.