Geezyayo:
nice post


you try

Toks2008:
My candid advice for the ladies

I simply laugh at the naivety of some ladies who claim they are in search of a man who will truly love them and appreciate them.

Why i laugh is because deep inside these ladies,they know if a man truly desires and appreciates them but what they are actually looking for is totally different from what they claim.

I have heard many ladies set standards as regards the type of man they want and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that except the fact that they cross the line by wanting to be with a man they have strong feelings for and even if they meet a man that truly desires them,as long as they don't have feelings for such man,its a NO.

I'm sorry to tell you this truth; many ladies will end up been an object of ridicule in their affairs until they learn the fact that all you need is a man that will truly love,appreciate and value you and every other thing is secondary.

Don't be carried away by his money,looks or razzmatazz but be sensitive to know if he sincerely wants you and cherish you. If you are fortunate to have a prince charming who also truly desires you,good for you but never make this a must.

Yes i agree that your feelings towards this person is important but your marital happiness does not lie in what you feel for him rather its the way he feels towards you.

Of what use will it be if you end up marrying a man you are crazy about but will make you cry all the time?,Of what use will it be if you end up with that man that has all you want except the fact that he turns you to a punching bag or makes you unhappy?

Some ladies are actually fortunate to end up with man of their dreams but to be on the safer side,be sensitive to know if that man truly desires you because not every man that comes for your hand in marriage truly loves and cherishes you because many guys these days marry for selfish reasons.

Trust me,its better to be with a man who truly wants,desires,appreciates you than to end up with a man you want but does not really want you.

As a lady,you are genetically structured to naturally love a man that treats you well and a cute guy will turn ugly to you when he treats you like poo while that guy you felt nothing for will look so cute and adorable to you after he treats you like a queen so the best part is that you will fall in love in a short while with any man who truly shows you he cares even if he is a short fat ugly man.(watch beauty and the beast) and you will agree with me that all a woman needs is a man that will love and cherish her all the days of her life.

That is the man you need,and not necessarily the man you are crazy about.

Hope this helps

Arami92:

Yes you should not be with a man that is not as crazy about you as you are about him.

But I think for marriage both parties should be crazy about each other.

I've met many "good guys" I wasn't crazy about... I've also met some "bad boys" I've been crazy about.. But non of these men were my husband because I will not marry someone I don't adore and someone that doesn't adore me..we must both be completely in love with one another




And lastly, I see soooooo many posts about how to ensure a good marriage. I've listened to countless people offer advice..and what I've concluded is leave it to the Lord. Pray God grant you the right person for you...because there is honestly no way to predict the success of a marriage, except for one ordained in the heavens. I think the problem is people are too wayward to submit to the will of God..they marry because it's *time* or because he has *money* or she seems like the *ideal* wife...it's almost impossible to make the decision of who you can happily spend the rest of your life with, without seeking the hand of God. Some were best of friends and the marriage still crumbles, some people marry after a week and live happily ever after. There is no recipe or full proof method, just God.

delleby:
This assumption is not entirely true. If you marry a lady whom you love and who doesn't have feelings for you, you'l just be among those that will prefer to live in a house with thatched roof than wit that woman.

egobetatoday:



well said. but u know some ladies will not understand this until they become examples for others to learn.

Toks2008:


Then you are getting it all twisted.

A man can marry a lady who does not love him and stil manage to cope real good but when a lady marries a man who does not love her,SHE IS FINISHED.

lagmostkuit:

And what makes u think a woman would be able to cope with a man she doesn't love in a marriage?

The love must be equal cos I can't bear it staying with a man I don't love.

Toks2008:


Great but as i wrote before,i have not seen that lady that will not fall in love with a man in the long run who makes her feel really loved and special.Beauty and the beast is not just a fiction but applicable in real life scenario.

You may never understand and i pray you don't.

FYI,The feeling of affection can never be equal no matter how the parties involved claim they love each other so every lady should pray to find a man who loves and wants them more than she does.

lagmostkuit:
It's alright..
Nice write up!

tuns9629:
Nice post...I really wish our ladies could learn frm this. Marriage is a forever thing, they shouldn't send the right person away by looking elsewhere..I'm talking frm experience. Peace out y'all.

cuteshantel39:
Its better both love each other, the guy's love maybe greater than the girl's but she needs to have a little love for him. Someone like me cannot stay with a person i don't love no matter how caring he may be. I can't even sleep with that person

2CatWoman:
^^^^^
Couldn't disagree more.

Omotayor123:
Very True.

A woman should work towards marrying a man who loves her than with a man she loves.

Omotayor123:
Very True.

A woman should work towards marrying a man who loves her than with a man she loves.

Arami92:

Yes you should not be with a man that is not as crazy about you as you are about him.

But I think for marriage both parties should be crazy about each other.

I've met many "good guys" I wasn't crazy about... I've also met some "bad boys" I've been crazy about.. But non of these men were my husband because I will not marry someone I don't adore and someone that doesn't adore me..we must both be completely in love with one another




And lastly, I see soooooo many posts about how to ensure a good marriage. I've listened to countless people offer advice..and what I've concluded is leave it to the Lord. Pray God grant you the right person for you...because there is honestly no way to predict the success of a marriage, except for one ordained in the heavens. I think the problem is people are too wayward to submit to the will of God..they marry because it's *time* or because he has *money* or she seems like the *ideal* wife...it's almost impossible to make the decision of who you can happily spend the rest of your life with, without seeking the hand of God. Some were best of friends and the marriage still crumbles, some people marry after a week and live happily ever after. There is no recipe or full proof method, just God.

Toks2008:


When it comes to marriage,its more than feelings but its about that man who will really take you special and not the other way round.

I pray our ladies will learn.

Toks2008:

Why?
Please explain.

Youngpo413:
I pray they never learn,their mistakes is for our own good...you are wasting your time advicing ladies,it seems they are very important to you.I don't give a fuckkk if they make mistakes or not,after all they are called fishbrains for nothing.

Toks2008:


If you think all that matters is prince charming,six packs,bedmatics and your feelings fore him then pray he feels the same way or more because a drop dead gorgeous guy will look like a demon after treating you like poo while a seemingly ugly guy will be as cute as an angel after treating you like a queen.

Ladies should please learn.