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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by yanabasee(m): 12:32am On Aug 10, 2015
classicB:
.who are those guys saying I used "all men" in my thread?? I didn't. You guys should please stop the mentality that "I spent my money on her so she must have sex wimme" we didn't force you to spend your money same way you shouldn't force sex on us. Your giving should be because the girl deserves it and not because u have a hidden agenda.called sex at the back of your mind. If Youcant spend.on a girl without expecting sex pls stop spending at all. We ain't no sex worker.
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You sound very cheap and very dependent... No insult intended
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Must a man always foot ur bills? How will a man regard u girls? When all you do is expect a man to take u guys out just to eat? And to mek orders for ur siblings and grannies at home!
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Men respect ladies that will sit out with a man yet foot the bills and or contribute to it...
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They're other places to hangout with a man... It mustn't really be an eatery.
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Sometimes u can surprise ur man and take him out to places! Make life easy for u and ur fellow girls.
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And next time u want to open a thread... Try and advice ur fellow girls to stick to one man! So that we won't be raping u girls back-to-back.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Margauxluv(f): 12:33am On Aug 10, 2015
Timbuktu14:
you are not well angry



Timbuktu14:
you are not well angry





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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by noblegrex: 12:33am On Aug 10, 2015
MarieSucre:


What are your statistics that show that majority of the people who are rapes where there for free food?

I have closw friends and acquantaince who i have taken to eateries and the cinema. And i am female. Are you saying that i would be justified in taking advantage of them forcefully because that is somehow the expected outcome?

Is that the kind of society you want to live in?
I'm not talking bout d one that's raped bt d one that rapes. D inocent girl may nt knw d intentions of d guys' spending bt at d end of d day he'll nt want to loose out if d lady doesn't want to give him n that eventually resulted into rape. Cos I've heard guys saying wow!! So this gilr will just go like that without anything after all my spending? Bt don't get confused I'm nt I support of it, infact I hate that word,bt ladies too should watch it that's what I'm driving at
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Timbuktu14(m): 12:33am On Aug 10, 2015
classicB:

I can
My father didn't train me up to be a begger. I thrive to be that kinda classy girl with her own car and her own company such that no man will look upon me as a hoe kiss
you didnt answer his question jhur angry grin
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Flashh: 12:33am On Aug 10, 2015
Joy1706:
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Dimwitted naija boys everywhere
Sorry! My post hit your nerve.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by leevi93(m): 12:34am On Aug 10, 2015
This topic self don't tire me...so because we refused to fall in all the traps u girls ah setting don mean say we be rapist...arhhh
nawao all this girls we de type gra gra here n em no de tire for sex self even if na rape em go de pretend like say em no enjoy it...maybe it might be the best sex they hav ever like cos girls of our days like it rough and crazy....make una just tell us say na hulk like
una de like now instead of acusin us a rape.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Margauxluv(f): 12:34am On Aug 10, 2015
Timbuktu14:
Boy-girl, we don see u angry


undecided
Timbuktu14:
Boy-girl, we don see u angry





wat s it huh!
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Flashh: 12:34am On Aug 10, 2015
If it were to be opposite of this, you will see them crediting the (op).

But base on fact now, they decided to descend their anger on this thread by labelling all guys are the same. SMH for all these ignoramus girls.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by naijaboiy: 12:35am On Aug 10, 2015
Vyolet:
Even a prostitute along Allen road,when sex is forced on her,it is called "rape".
There is no justification for rape.
I bet all the guys justifying rape here would never ask their sisters how she was dressed if she came home and said she was rape.
If a girl dresses seductively,can't you take your eyes off her?

I once met a guy on social network and we had talked for a long time before we decided to meet. we never talked intimately neither did he ever asked me
out,I decided to pay him a visit on his request but went with my sister,I noticed his reaction changed as soon as he saw her. We chatted and left his house about 40min later. He then sent me a message asking why I came with my sis,he wanted me alone,he claimed i was immature for doing that cos he thought we would have nice time. I deleted him straight and tagged him " potential rapist"
If I had go e alone and he couldn't have his way gently,he surely would have raped me.
Many Guys are just so confused.
Now this is what i'm talking about.

The guy fuçked up because if he wanted anything intimate with you he should hav let you know before you guys met up. That way he would know if you are in or not.

And you did right by going with your sister. At least you weren't expecting anything to happen.

My advice to guys will be : IF YOU HAVE NOT TALKED TO A GIRL INTIMATELY BEFORE HAND THEN DON'T INITIATE SEX.

That's the only way we can escape from all these mess.

But according to your last statement that guys are confused,,i can agree with you to an extent because some guys have actually made an attempt to initiate sex with girls that they didn't have prior conversation about it and it worked out well. And some other girls also get upset or angry when they don't make moves.

That's why majority have this belief that when a girl shows up,,it's for sex. But it doesn't mean he's going to rape you.

Strong resistance should be applied in my own opinion.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by ronald4lif(m): 12:35am On Aug 10, 2015
MarieSucre:


That is not the point of her post and you clouding the context of her post is not doing anything for past, present or future victims. Maybe her post might have come across as generalizing all men or tarring them with one brush. But that does not mean there are no real victims; male and female.

Concentrate more on sensitizing the people arouns you that rape is wrong no matter what gender and ensuring that Nigeria should never become the rape capital of Africa as India is to the world. This is the productive and progressive thing to do.

Everyone should know rape is wrong and an obscene behaviour that could be perpetuated by anyone be it male or female alike. While we do counsel when there's a need to but it's also pertinent that we correct the impression by some certain characters who are of the believe that only women are victims of rape and goes about making blanket and colligating statements inferring and categorising every guy as rapist or a potential one.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Lovelynature(m): 12:36am On Aug 10, 2015
Honestly, I wasn't ready for argument while reading what she posted and some funny comments from her like minded fellows, if not, I would've argued with them till they get tired. I'm happy that the op posted this.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by MarieSucre(f): 12:36am On Aug 10, 2015
leevi93:

That's bullshit.
girls girls girls...how do u thrive to be that classy girl without the help of a sugar daddy who gets the cookies and shower the means to go classy. I laugh at u female...let me remind us all...God himself knows why he made a man & a woman. but if some men tend to go bout taking the cookie from an unknown source is definitely the fault of hers. I will say when a girl is been rape she knows 99% of why she has been rape. she knows why.

When a person is being murdered, they know 99% of the time why they were murdered. Does that justify it? We are better than this bro. Making excuses will leave our society stagnant. young boys and girls are being molested. Grown men and women's bodies used against their will. is that your ideal society?
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Timbuktu14(m): 12:37am On Aug 10, 2015
easystudy101:


Bleep YOU.

Going to a guy's house should be a bad thing for women now?!

Stupid 'social engineer'

and you had to quote all his write up to say ds rubbish? M.u.m.u somebody. angry
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by sleek82(m): 12:40am On Aug 10, 2015
Vyolet:
Even a prostitute along Allen road,when sex is forced on her,it is called "rape".
There is no justification for rape.
I bet all the guys justifying rape here would never ask their sisters how she was dressed if she came home and said she was rape.
If a girl dresses seductively,can't you take your eyes off her?

I once met a guy on social network and we had talked for a long time before we decided to meet. we never talked intimately neither did he ever asked me
out,I decided to pay him a visit on his request but went with my sister,I noticed his reaction changed as soon as he saw her. We chatted and left his house about 40min later. He then sent me a message asking why I came with my sis,he wanted me alone,he claimed i was immature for doing that cos he thought we would have nice time. I deleted him straight and tagged him " potential rapist"
If I had go e alone and he couldn't have his way gently,he surely would have raped me.
Many Guys are just so confused.
you are very wrong to label him a rapist.....some guys would see that move as a dick move, I would feel the same way. If a guy wants to really rape you, going to his house with your sister wont stop him, all he needs to do is call another friend to handle your sister. Trust me, not all guys you judge from afar are really whom you think they are. When i met my woman who happens to be my wife now, she also thought the same way, she thought i was just there to have my way and run. Even after telling her what i want, she still ddnt bliv and she came up with the 'no sex' relationship which i was able to handle till we married. If i were the guy, i could feel bad that you brought your sister, not because i want to do smtin bad but because the fact that ur sister is there might not make me get as intimate as i wanted to be (not in terms of sex)....i could want to ask you some private questions, share some intimate stories etc

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by noblegrex: 12:40am On Aug 10, 2015
classicB:

No be by force to give
haven't u heard that blesseth is d hand that giveth.bt for real girls like taking,n above all I'm nt in support of d raping thing anyways.cos I do wonder if d rapist don't even have girl friends n some other extra tyer they can bleep if need b.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Boyooosa(m): 12:41am On Aug 10, 2015
U used ur [b]OWN [/b]common sense jare!
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Timbuktu14(m): 12:42am On Aug 10, 2015
Margauxluv:










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we are men and not niggas angry
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by MarieSucre(f): 12:42am On Aug 10, 2015
naijaboiy:

You think?

Please rape is as old as any criminal offence. You would even see many rape cases in the Bible so don't put an irrelevant thing as a major cause.

Neither is rape excused in the bible. Check yourself before you wreck yourself bro.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 12:43am On Aug 10, 2015
ronald4lif:


Depends on who's defining the term hypocrites though. It's getting sickening the way almost (as I wouldn't want to use all) every lady feels certain crimes and injustices are exclusive to them with some classifying all guys as rapist or potential rapist.

Did you go through that thread? Yes, the op might have generalised but reading the comments on that thread was disgusting and nauseating. If I hadn't grown up in Nigeria, I would have concluded that most Nigerian men are sick which obviously isn't the case.

I highlighted this same problem on another thread. This is a big issue, one that needs to be confronted. Abuse is real. We are not claiming that some men aren't victims what we are saying is that women consitute a larger percentage of abuse victims. Unfortunately it gets ugly when men make up stupid reasons why a man shouldnt be culpable and it is sad that some women get carried away. But can you blame them, really?

I will start taking you seriously when you attack monikers like dinachi and Toks2008. I am sorry women always cry wolf but you have no right to blame them when all you do is to ignore us and blame us for playing the victim card. Not until a sweeping generalisation over men is made, you wouldn't step in. Then you come in and act like you have the right to call them bitter women. Yes, they are bitter women and they have every right to be.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by leevi93(m): 12:44am On Aug 10, 2015
MarieSucre:


When a person is being murdered, they know 99% of the time why they were murdered. Does that justify it? We are better than this bro. Making excuses will leave our society stagnant. young boys and girls are being molested. Grown men and women's bodies used against their will. is that your ideal society?
We ain't the one making excuses here...
all we ah trynna say and pleading is girls shud be takefull in what she does...we ain't against the word (a woman) we talking bout girls of our time, the hv gone far in what de do and if what befalls em is rape why will de wanna blame it on us. Its time u girls change. ain't our fault raping is toping the lost nowadays.
okay why is it so? A question for a woman to answer not a girl.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Begonia(m): 12:47am On Aug 10, 2015
ronald4lif:


Applause for a wonderful remark. But don't you think the 99.5% quota is rather low, perhaps it'd have been 99.9% with remaining 0.1% allocated to your male relatives as I'm confident they must be equally daft like the NL guys.

Any lady who thinks Nigerian men mind are fvcked up must be a fvcktard themselves. If you feel all a guy wants from you is sex that's because sex is the only thing you've got to bring into the affair. Nonsense!

Ouch! Someone's hurt.
Ahaha! And where did the last sentence come from? Bringing my male relatives into this wouldn't change a thing, hun. I've seen some comments of yours on here, little boy. Face it, you're just as messed up as the rest.

Well, I'll let you in on what I told some other user. Save your energy. Your daughters will definitely be needing it wink

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by naijaboiy: 12:47am On Aug 10, 2015
sleekch1c:


Try not to mention me while justifying rape.
And since it is all about the girl trying not to provoke the monster rapist, please say amen to these:
May anything you own which another finds attractive be forcefully taken from you. You have to engage your brains more if you have to justify anything as heinous as rape.
You definitely have a porous brain so you can't comprehend my previous post.

I'm still looking for where I justified rape.

How is saying "No" when the act has begun already rape?

Resisting before the act is different from resisting after giving consent. They are two different things.

Now as for your weak curse or prayer I also wish the same upon you in a 100fold.

Nonsense! undecided
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by MarieSucre(f): 12:48am On Aug 10, 2015
chigoizie7:





Lolz, I appreciate ur concern, I ve since and long forgotten about the incidence(in my mid 20s now). Yeah, she is married now, so I will let it be bygones.

I only brought it up because of that stereotyped notion that all guys are animals as regards to RAPE case. They made it seem like only the female genders are liable to be raped.


I ve read countless cases of men being raped by women, it might seem impossible,but it is real, it happens.

RAPE I very bad. I condemn it in totality.


But 1st, we have to start from somewhere, in as much as there are rape cases all over the world, let's look @ the Arabians, I am not saying that rape does not occur their, but, they have done their part by being decent, now if the govt catches any man that rapes any lady in arab, what do u think will happen to the man? Its death straight away,no two ways about it. the can't apportion blame of any sort.



Do ur part and leave d rest to God/govt.

Google is your friend. Egypt a country with about 97% muslim population has the highest case of sexual harassment. A country were majority of the women wear the veil.

Sweden has the highest case in "reported" rape. This doesn't mean that rape cases are at a high but that Swedish women are more comfortable and confident to report to the law enforcements. The stigma is significantlt lower than the middle east. The statistics are at your fingertips.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by naijaboiy: 12:49am On Aug 10, 2015
MarieSucre:


Neither is rape excused in the bible. Check yourself before you wreck yourself bro.
And I never excused rape.

Was there pornography in the bible?

I think now you should get my point. undecided
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Mistermamus(m): 12:50am On Aug 10, 2015
galz n hypocrisy well nt surprised na fish oil dey dere head instead of brain
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by leevi93(m): 12:50am On Aug 10, 2015
MarieSucre:


When a person is being murdered, they know 99% of the time why they were murdered. Does that justify it? We are better than this bro. Making excuses will leave our society stagnant. young boys and girls are being molested. Grown men and women's bodies used against their will. is that your ideal society?
We ain't the one making excuses here...
all we ah trynna say and pleading is girls shud be takefull in what they do...we ain't against the word (a woman) we talking bout girls of our time, the hv gone far in what de do and if what befalls em is rape why will de wanna blame it on us. Its time u girls change. ain't our fault raping is toping the list nowadays.
okay why is it so? A question for a woman to answer not a girl.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by naijaboiy: 12:51am On Aug 10, 2015
ronald4lif:


No mind am. She for make am 99.9% na. Na so dey go just dey pull out nonsense statistics from no where.
Leave am! Then the other 0.1% na her male relatives who are supposedly saints.

Nonsense! undecided
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by MarieSucre(f): 12:52am On Aug 10, 2015
leevi93:

Well, "the all successful women out there" is then not now...
gosh act like a woman and think like a man for once
Everything is out there. from my experience 98% of girls giv emself out like hoe s and the ended up becoming successful (behind any successful woman is a man) its real...he might not be spouse but he is there as long as he gets wat he wants vise-versa such as she thrive for a goal.
woman lemme tell u something we men ah not fools

*slow clap* 98%! hmmmmnnn. I am guessing the remaining 2% are your female relatives. i have never read so much bullshit in one comment since i registered on nairaland.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by leevi93(m): 12:54am On Aug 10, 2015
Wait self...if una Vex make una the Rape us too na
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 12:56am On Aug 10, 2015
Mistermamus:
galz n hypocrisy well nt surprised na fish oil dey dere head instead of brain

Shey na fish oil dey your momma's brain too?
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by MarieSucre(f): 12:58am On Aug 10, 2015
fexyrich:
From my opinion girls love and enjoy sex much more than guys..From d look on their faces and their expressions during the act would tell u they enjoy it much more..And amazingly they even have more sex than guys..but yet you still se them pretending like they dont love sex and paintaing guys as bad when they are even more carnal..Many guys who are sexually active i mean non virgin guys can even control thenselves even more when there is no girl available..Than a sexually active girl who can have sex with as many partners as she wants simply because she has different advances frm guys..please u ladies shld stop d pretence and hypocrisy..

That is not the point of her post.

Yes girls are sexual beings who enjoy sex. We just wish there wasn't so much stigma around female sexuality. What about you? What do you think is the high point of male sexuality?

i am asking coz i dont know, i am not a man.

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