Good morning Elsieisy. I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3yrs now. Everything was very rosy for the first 18months after which I started having problems. I met her during my final year in school but then, she was a fresher. During the first 3months of our relationship, she turned down suitors who came for her hand in marriage all because of me which made her family to know about our relationship and since then, I’ve been like a part of the family. She even said she cannot marry another man except me. But now, it seems the feeling is no longer there.

The problem started when I traveled to Abuja to see my parents during the strike. She cried and never wanted me to go beacuse she said she would miss me yet didn’t want to go with me cause of reasons best known to her.

She stayed back in school and two days later, she told me she met a guy who bears my name and has been keeping her company. I didn’t suspect anything because I trusted her but I only told her to be careful and not misbehave which she promised

I began to smell rat when she spent about a week without traveling yet doing nothing in school which made me threaten to tell her parents . And she had to travel

since then, she’s been with the guy and anytime I talk about it, she tells me he’s just a friend. It got to a stage that the guy had to lie to her that a lady came to my house when she traveled and spent the night just for us to break up for him to have his way only for my girl to believe him and she almost called off

She treats me anyhow she likes and even goes out with men despite my warnings. But note that for almost 3yrs we’ve been together, I’ve never cheated on her, I don’t even have friends because she tells me she doesn’t like the female friends I had and that I should call them in her presence and tell them to leave us alone that they are disturbing our relationship which I gladly do. But whenever I tell her to stop her friendship with any of her male friends, she tells me she can’t do it that she cannot leave them.

I’m worried and confused because I love her and wish to marry her which we’ve both planned. But my problem is that she’s causing me unbearable pain. Please what should I do?

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You dated a child and she's still yet to grow up. Give her space and watch her actions, with time you'll realize that the earlier you move on, the better for you.

Una Don marry? Guy relationship is not a do or die affair , she's obviously not interested again. So free her abeg

They are many fishes in the river my friend....lemme tell you the truth she is inlove with the other guy...leave her and go get anoda..dont kill your self untop one woman...even if you kill your self she won't show @your funeral sef....abeg Go to the river and get another fish

Evry lady is nw turnin to be relationship experts.. Due to unemployment

Haba, don't conclude yet now
P.S the lady in question might have a reasonable quote

elantraceey:
You dated a child and she's still yet to grow up. Give her space and watch her actions, with time you'll realize that the earlier you move on, the better for you.

true talk elantraceey ...she is still a child who just wanna v fun.. perhaps she wasn't free at home and now dat she is far from her home she wanna v enuf fun dats explain y she dos not want to go home... My advice for u is to give her some space.. allow her make and learn from her mistakes .and u should move on.. it's obvious she is gonna break up with u soon so u should get prepared for dat

bros,.. This ur case shaa,, she dosent like u anymore,, so y push it?? She isnt the only girl in the world bro.

Y dnt u end the relationship,there are better girls out there

Bibidear:
Y dnt u end the relationship,there are better girls out there

beta girls like u?

justified19:
beta girls like u?

better girls lyk ur girl friend

Bibidear:

better girls lyk ur girl friend

I dont have one, dat is y I'm asking if u available...

some girls are like that.... you don't claim to know them extremely until they are fully exposed..


Better you seat her down and have a deep discussion with her to see either you people have a future together or not.

justified19:
I dont have one, dat is y I'm asking if u available...

i'm in a relarionship

Bibidear:

i'm in a relarionship

dats what every girl say...what's d hope of single guys? snatch anoda guy's babe.


allow me to snatch u.

justified19:
dats what every girl say...what's d hope of single guys? snatch anoda guy's babe.


allow me to snatch u.

lols,funny u,there are so many single ladies out there

Bibidear:
lols,funny u,there are so many single ladies out there

I am not sure...
every girl av talked to has a relationship weda fake or real

justified19:
I am not sure...
every girl av talked to has a relationship weda fake or real

haha,thats weird,arent u handsome

According 2 ur story is as if d gal is d wan in control of d relationship. If she isn't listening 2 any of ur words den dude u gotta path ways wit her.

Bibidear:

haha,thats weird,arent u handsome

my mirror tells me I am handsome and I believe it.

u tell me, am I handsome? (my pics on ma profile)

justified19:
my mirror tells me I am handsome and I believe it.

u tell me, am I handsome? (my pics on ma profile)

u looking cute so whats wrong

Bibidear:

u looking cute so whats wrong

maybe dia is more to it dan just good look,..

now, can we talk privately? whatsap, bbm?

justified19:
maybe dia is more to it dan just good look,..

now, can we talk privately? whatsap, bbm?

send me a pm

I smell...

NO SEX relationship

Bibidear:
send me a pm

done

Just move on get a new lover....forget...love is not by force...wat if u get married to her and she can't get ur name sake off her memory...guy ur wife u shld be ur best friend....u must colonize her......

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