cococandy:


A minor can't work for pay legally.
So whoever you're paying to keep her as your maid is exploiting her with your help.
I'm sure you won't like to give your own child out to work as an underage maid to anyone but will encourage others to do so to children of poorer parents who are ignorant and greedy and won't mind using their kids to survive.

The earlier you learn that self control is the way out, the better for you. The solution is not using children as maids. It's for those guys who have minds like yours to learn to control themselves.

I don't know what's all these nonsense one reads here everyday. We are talking of how to move the country forward and you're busy propagating child labor because in your mind all men lack self control. If the ladies insult you guys with that phrase, you will start crying. But here you are lending credence to the generalization that men have no self control. Are all of them like you?

Do you all sleep with your female classmates and female colleagues because you come in contact with them everyday? So a man can't have an adult female employee without thinking of sleeping with her? Do you hope to one day employ people as a boss or will women be out of the question because you don't trust yourself around them?

What's wrong with you self?

This is not one of those topics that one will be like just ignore them they are talking nonsense. You're actually here propagating child labor. An offense for which people serve jail time in saner climes.

Pls stop this nonsense. It's enough.

Toks2008:


Not that the man will just see a maid and just pounce on her but when the made starts doing the vital duties of a wife,apparently the maid should get what madam gets.

Toks2008:


Some guys will always say they are different until they come face to face with the situatiion.

Which man will accept that he has the tendency to cheat on his woman? how many ladies have used that phrase...my man is different...just to realize how myopic they have been.

A man no matter how highly placed can decend so low as ladies put it to sleep with a dirty looking maid if she is allowed to do stuffs that madamm should do and that is the message im passing accross.

SAMBARRY:
see excuses and justification to sleep with housemaid?

How low can some men get. Doing house chores turns him on

Toks2008:


i will not give you another luxury of having me respond to your comment if you dont learn how to articulate your opinion in a non derogatorry manner.

I wrote my opinion and if you have a counter opinion please articulate it in an intelligent andd intellectual manner without hyperventilations and vulgarity. We are not in a beer parlor.

Onegai:


sorry but out of all my siblings, this is the only one I can vouch for. His mentality is so not typical nigerian guy, he can't date or befriend Nigerians (he genuinely tried but kept getting appalled at what he saw in the community). He even thinks I'm too conservative (and this is a guy who was one of the few Christians I respected in this world). He knows cheating happens but he's just ashamed that fellow men keep justifying and expecting women to accept it (he believes strongly in personal responsibility).

ORALL:

The bi.tch is probably in. Her periods...PMS behaviour,pardon her

Toks2008:

lol. that bitch word though

cococandy:
Do you even know the meaning of vulgarity?
Because this one doesn't match your opinion, it is vulgar Abi. Were there any cuss word or censored words in that post.

This your opinion is like saying there's nothing wrong in slave trading and expect to be lauded for it. I can't sugarcoat how annoying it is so pls forgive the directness. You expect me to tell you "Oga pls ejoor child labor is not good"

If you don't see anything wrong in hiring children to work for you--a situation in which they have no choice but to go with whatever you and the seller decide to do with them, there's no gentle way to tell you except bluntly.

Child labor is wrong
It is wrong
It is wrong
Wrong wrong wrong.

Many people didn't know better and used to do it. Can't blame them. But that time has passed. I'm surprised all the campaign of child's rights organizations all over Nigerian is not affecting that many people. Now anyone who's doing it can't claim ignorant.
What will happen before that will change?

It's disheartening that you're a young man who should know better.

By all means, dislike adult maids if you want but the solution is not using children instead. Prepare your mind to work with your partner and keep your home as you want if you can't hire an adult maid.

Toks2008:


come to think of it.

A maid washes my cloths and that of the baby

makes my food

runs errands for me

Always at my beck and call

makes the bed
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.will it be out of place if i start admiring her?

Toks2008:


now you are communicating without using harsh words of nonsense...

Well if employing minors will translate to childs labor then forget getting a maid.

This is not about discipline please..men are visual and i dont expect many women to understand this.

Jahblessme:
Same old excuses to keep a woman slaving from dusk to dawn in the bid to keep the hot maid away..I hope the same will be said of me if I fall for the nubile muscular hardworking and handsome houseboy.

The maid is in a vulnerable position,she's there as a paid help.probably because she has no other option.Taking advantage of her and abusing your position of trust is absolutely wrong.Theres no excuse.

Anyone cleaning and cooking like ayamatanga because she wants to save a supposedly helpless man with roaming chukuchuku from himself dey long tin.You will age faster than him and he will still sleep around..

Can never have high bp or stress myself, lailai.Always endeavour to look good just incase.He chooks ,I chook my own.After that we move front and sin no more.amin

Toks2008:


lol

well we have madams also sleeping with maids gatemen as well as drivers so its not an endemic situation to guys.

the shook i shook part got me wandering because commiting adultery is not the best revenge on a randy hubby

Jahblessme:


When it's a woman you remember to label it 'adultery' abi? Yet oga sleeping with housemaid is trivialised because he cannot help himself.

Anyone who employs a child to work as a maid is wicked.No child should ever be in that position.And to now suggest using children as maids instead of a consenting adult just because a man cannot have self control is hideous.

For how long will you chase after such a man? Will you also ask your sisters and friends not to visit because d prick can't stay in a place??

Theres money to be made o jare,building a future for my children, not chasing after an irresponsible man.

If I were single and my bf makes these sort of excuses,na to dump am sharp sharp.Marry a man of like mind to avoid stories that touch.

Toks2008:
THE MAID FACTOR...A must read for every lady

I just got a disturbing news from my neighborhood about a man who just got their house maid pregnant and this is why i decided to write this article for everyone to read but before i continue i will like to quote this scripture not to justify the act but to lay emphases on how strange it is:

"There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand:The way of an eagle in the sky, The way of a serpent on a rock, The way of a ship in the middle of the sea, And the way of a man with a maid" Proverbs 30:18-19.

I get so surprised when a woman finds out that her hubby is making out with a maid and she uses words like "How could you? a COMMON MAID"

Now ladies open your eyes and widen your reasoning faculty and get this straight.

Men are visual,we think about sex way more than you do as women and we are very polygamous by nature meaning we naturally love to be with as many ladies as possible but if you find a man who is decent and disciplined then such a man is a rare breed.

The Nigerian mentality that your level in life is determined by how much money you make or your educational background is quite honestly annoying; every occupation should be accorded it's dignity, housemaids offer an essential service to the society and should be respected as such.

That stated, when a woman fails to realize that part of the seduction process involves the respect and care she offers her husband I.e in the little things she does, like making him food, paying attention to his attire, etc if she totally reneges on these duties and leaves it to the housemaid, she effectively sets up her husband to be seduced by the housemaid; besides, a housemaid is so awestruck by the attention she receives from the master of the house, she is willing to submit to a lot of things madam no longer deems necessary and if you're a man, you know there's nothing more flattering nor seductive than a willing woman....

In short, it is my opinion that when a man begins to cast a lustful glance at the housemaid,in most cases it's a symptom that madam is neglecting her duties somewhere.

Wait guys, i am not promoting randy lifestyle or justifying the shameless act of sleeping with a maid not because SHE IS A MAID but how can you have your wife in the same house and yet sleeping with a maid? This is arrant nonsense i must say

But then to the women, please if you must get a house maid, do not go for the type with conspicous sexual body features.

Lets leave hypocrisy, if my wife brings home a maid that has sweet curves, i will call her to order and ask her to send the maid back. Prevention is better than fighting temptation.

A maid is human, a maid was born the same way you were born, a maid has the same feminine sexual features just as you have and even usually younger,Stop employing matured maids if you have a man at home to prevent unpleasant situation.

If you like ,start saying you trust your husband, he can not do this or that but by the time it happens, don't say i have not warned you.

Be wise

Toks2008:


i was actually trying to point out that 13 to 15 are still minors and only a beast of a husband will stoop low to this level and if you see a 13 yr old maid with fully developed sexual features you can always go for another one.

moca:
Myopic mentality.
Tuah!


@op, presently I have a full blooded young man working for me as handy man(i don't call him maid,less dignifying)
He sags his trouser like his fellow youths, and exudes sexuality 100%. And the bobo sabi do inyanga.
Has access to everywhere in my house.

So I should rape or sleep with him?

Ndi ara. Mcheew!

Toks2008:


lol

well we have madams also sleeping with maids gatemen as well as drivers so its not an endemic situation to guys.

the shook i shook part got me wandering because commiting adultery is not the best revenge on a randy hubby

Onegai:


Why have you been dulling yourself like this, heh? "How Moca Got Her Groove Back" can happen o! I have a boss, he's attractive and well-spoken and dresses nice. He signs my cheques and he's rich. He compliments me for a job well-done. We laugh together. Thanks to the OP, I finally have a excuse to cheat on my hubby since there's a man doing everything I want to be done to me, outside.

Alright!! o yeah o yeah!!

Pidggin:


Hmmmmm typical of a male living in the comfort of a society that glorifies the male gender. OP imagine it was the other way around, and madam employs a young eloquent driver, who is always there to drive her wherever she wants to go as her husband can't possibly go everywhere with her. Wouldn't he expert her to exercise self-control regardless? Although your post was written with good intentions, the content is filled with excuses for men shortcomings. We have heard your advice, thanks.

tearoses:
What we should be encouraging is partners doing things together, so there wont be any need for maid in the first instance. it kills 2 birds with one stone.

If oga rolls up his sleeves and pulls his weight in the home, There will be no need for maid and it bonds the couple together . . infact 3 birds because it means that one party is not fagged out, stressed and too tired and looking older than her years.

If you clean up after yourself and are considerate about your partner, there is really no need for a maid.

I know that I will be told that in Nigeria maids are required, but there are some homes, where with good planning and all hands on deck, there is no need for a maid.

The only thing I agree with in the posters write up assuming we are saying the same thing, is that people should not give opportunity for temptation where possible. . . .
Years ago I fought on this section saying that people should be able to fight all forms of temptation and win. ..I am older and wiser now.
Id rather not even put temptation on the plate if avoidable.
Ive seem too many people fall to all sorts of temptation. . . Even men of God have been known to fall.
Even to follow a diet, I know how much we struggle when we are tempted with sweet smelling and nice looking food.
In short dont even give that oppourtunity if it can be avoided.
Pls no one should misunderstand me o! I am not saying that men must/should/can/programmed to cheat/cant help but cheat bla bla bla. I am looking at the bigger picture and this includes both sexes.

And NO NO NO to child labour. . . .Biko. It is very wicked and should not be tolerated.

cococandy:
Do you even know the meaning of vulgarity?
Because this one doesn't match your opinion, it is vulgar Abi. Were there any cuss word or censored words in that post.

This your opinion is like saying there's nothing wrong in slave trading and expect to be lauded for it. I can't sugarcoat how annoying it is so pls forgive the directness. You expect me to tell you "Oga pls ejoor child labor is not good"

If you don't see anything wrong in hiring children to work for you--a situation in which they have no choice but to go with whatever you and the seller decide to do with them, there's no gentle way to tell you except bluntly.

Child labor is wrong
It is wrong
It is wrong
Wrong wrong wrong.

Many people didn't know better and used to do it. Can't blame them. But that time has passed. I'm surprised all the campaign of child's rights organizations all over Nigerian is not affecting that many people. Now anyone who's doing it can't claim ignorant.
What will happen before that will change?

It's disheartening that you're a young man who should know better.

By all means, dislike adult maids if you want but the solution is not using children instead. Prepare your mind to work with your partner and keep your home as you want if you can't hire an adult maid.

SAMBARRY:
And you're talking as if you are not a Nigerian living in Nigeria

1.how many husbands will WILLINGLY join their wives in doing the house chotrs without the I'm the head of the home How dare you
2.coming back from work and having to deal with traffic and other hassles before you get home nko? At least the house maid will have prepared something for you to eat a bi will you start microwaving food you kept in the freezer
I'm not against house helps . It's not wrong as long as you pay them and treat them with dignity. They are also employed workers. It's child labour when you use them, don't pay for their services, abuse them and throw them out when they start developing hips etc

however they're necessary evils. You can't do without them in our own peculiar society