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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by 400billionman: 1:24am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008: You know ladies love lies. I can see her fellow ladies hate her.. 7 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by AreaFada2: 1:42am On Aug 14, 2015 |
cococandy: The fact is that in saner climes, those sane politicians have put a social safety net/social wellfare system in place. One cannot accuse most of our nutjob politicians of ever thinking of such. Even the 5k promise of Bubu, nobody hears of it now. In such a situation, you have possibly millions of poor kids begging, weaving their way between cars hawking goods and generally fending for themselves and families however they can. House help is just one of them. OP is facing reality here, not some fanciful idea of how it ought to be. You might do well to petition NASS to enact robust and enforceable laws against child labour. Not those meaningless signatory to UN yada yada yada. But I wish you good luck with that o. Because you're talking of a country where 13 year olds can marry legally in some areas. ![]() ![]() Nothing works in 9ja like in saner climes except those things God himself put in place. Shikena. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by anonimi: 1:59am On Aug 14, 2015 |
cococandy: Don't worry, Buhari & APC are already here ![]() ![]() [img]http://i.onthe.io/vllkytaHR0cDovL2Nkbi0wMS5uYWlqLmNvbS9vL2pUcXFYWmxreldDc2FzNkZ5RVRVdVJUNC5qcGc=.prx.r800x600.ec913bfb.jpg[/img] |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by anonimi: 2:04am On Aug 14, 2015 |
AreaFada2: Would you mind telling us how those "saner climes" got to be like that ![]() Or they were always like that since their days of being CAVEMEN? [img]http://comps.canstockphoto.fr/can-stock-photo_csp9657397.jpg[/img] |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by tete7000(m): 2:11am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008: Op quoted a scripture to wrongfully give credence to man's lustfulness and his penchant for adultery . Has he not read in the same scripture that 'when a man is born again old things have passed away and all things have become new - 2Cor. 5:17' . We can't claim to know God and still be justifiably allowing our passion to rule us. St. Paul condemned sexual immorality and emphasises that self control is the gift of the holy spirit when he wrote in Galatians 5:19-23 'The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery ; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. ' The word of God cannot and must not be used to justify evil. Evil irrespective of why we do it remain evil and can never find justification in the word of God for the same word of God says all evil doers shall be brought to condemnation. A lewd man is just a lewd man and it becomes very repugnant when we quote scripture out of context to justify lewdness. That part of the scripture quoted is simply expressing how baffling it is to see two people who have never known each other fall so much in love that they become inseparable. It doesn't support adultery in anyway. It does not justify a man who left his wife he claims to love to sleep with her maid and thus bring her wife to disrepute. Adultery is and remains a grave and mortal sin. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by DrGroove(f): 2:45am On Aug 14, 2015 |
cyprus000:NOISE MAKER!!! |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Guidette(f): 3:02am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008:Excuses excuses excuses. What about if there was a hot houseboy with a big dick. Or mai guard that looks sexy? Shey only men are visual creatures cause na only them get eye? Then me as a woman am blind. This nonsense needs to stop. If you can't practice self control fine! But it is not a mans nature to sleep around like a dog. Only animals do that. Why take vows if you cant live up to them. But yet u expect your wife to do so abi? He who has equity comes with clean hands. Also what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Thank G im not planning to marry a Nigerian man because with this mentality that most of yall subscribe to, a divorce is a sure banker. P.S: All ye that lack self control. Let me paint a scenario for you. Lady is stark naked in your bed, beautiful and very sexy. No condom in the room. The door is locked so u have no where to go. She is seductive. But u know on very good authority she is HIV+. Will yall still fucck? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by AreaFada2: 3:03am On Aug 14, 2015 |
anonimi: I have clearly suggested a modern way of making changes legally in a modern society. Suggest your own ways. Or ignore it. How many parents do you employ? How many "not so rich" distant relative kids do you sponsor at school? Do you volunteer your time for poor kids in society in a charitable way or help kids in any other selfless way? If you don't, then you're not contributing to eradicating child poverty. So no matter how much you type here or question people, no single kid would have escaped possible servitude or child labour through your contribution. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ssuccess(m): 3:04am On Aug 14, 2015 |
cococandy:Actually, I have no doubts in me about how unfair and heinous child labour is, but ma'am, hmm the op has a very important, and unignorable point. sincerely. If you weren't able to understand his idea via hos earlier arguments, I really don't know what I would do to help convince you. But, in all Sincerity, please follow a larger part of his advice. 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by cococandy(f): 3:11am On Aug 14, 2015 |
tartarus: @ bold, there are. And that's what still gives me hope 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ssuccess(m): 3:12am On Aug 14, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:Sorry o, when you get married employ an Uche Jombo, or Mercy Johnson ad maid. Report back to NL in 9 months time . Yeye people, they'll be telling you the truth, you'll be forming blind and dumb. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by kenny987(f): 3:14am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Onegai: According to the op, men are visual and polygamous. On the other hand women are blind and of course, monogamous! Somehow he has a justification. Just because another female assists hos wife with chores then he justifies her getting some of what madam gets. Then why not marry them all? Why marry one and destroy others? If madam deserves marriage then the maid deserves it too! I follow u hail dem o! Dem go rape woman finish still talk say na her fault cos she no wear 'decent' cloth! 4 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by AreaFada2: 3:15am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Guidette: It goes both ways. That some housewives also knack maiguard, driver or gardner is no news. If they are the only ones readily available. ![]() ![]() BUT women generally look to sleep with higher placed males in society. That is why female infidelity usually involves their boss at work, pastor or some other powerful or rich or someone in a position of authority. Power, wealth and status attract women. Men are attracted more by basic biological stuff like curves, health, beauty & youthfullness of the female. Men intrinsically want a fertile female, women want a male that can provide and help bring up kids over many years. Iara & Osho Baba are a good example. No matter how sophisticated we consider ourselves now, we're still just biological entities. ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by cococandy(f): 3:24am On Aug 14, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Do you support child labor? Yes or no. Is it possible to ask anyone around here to talk like they have sense of what's right and wrong without it being a 'personal attack' What's logical about saying children should be employed so that men won't get tempted? What's your definition of logic? 6 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Guidette(f): 3:24am On Aug 14, 2015 |
AreaFada2:As for me i dont believe in that lack of self control thing. Unless soneone truly has a psychiatric problem, every single thought that comes through a persons mind is well calculated before they cheat. Besides men are not wired one way and women differently. Everyone is unique irregardless of gender. Society just loves to put labels on things which is called social conditioning. Im very deconditioned from society bcs i do what i feel is right. And also speak up for injustice. Anyways, my turn on is not particularly successful men bcs i am practically a doctor now but men who look very nice, hot, sexy and clean. Basically i am turned on by looks. I got my own money so all that other stuff doesnt really matter to me for now. Well at least dnt be a bum ass nigga. 3 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ssuccess(m): 3:27am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Onegai:Hi. I also am this advocate of Feminism, but when we look at the manner in which the male beings are wired, also considering the inevitable existence of the incubent African mentality in them. Sincerely, for a home to last longer I'd advise we keep away from things like this, not just to avoid female maids but even the male ones also. okay , we say men are visually triggered does that mean the women can't be triggered also? My point is ; nothing stops a developing family from handling their chores themselves. 'Cause believe me, you should on no condition underestimate the evil prospect a third party brings NO MATTER WHAT SEX it is. 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Guidette(f): 3:28am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Reading through some of these comments got me like wow. Thats why rape is still so rampant these days cos these niggas feel so self entitled with this whole lack of self control excuse. God forbid i or any woman i know marry any1 of these fools. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by AreaFada2: 3:42am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Guidette:My dear, all women like those things you mentioned. But at the end they chose a guy who won't be a "liability". A euphemism for a poor guy. If they have a choice. Trust me, I know female colleagues who are successful senior physicians and surgeons. In 9ja currency, some take home about 50m Naira yearly. Some far more. They are financially comfortable. And none is married to or dates a hot, sexy clean janitor or kitchen help ![]() ![]() Very rare with women, even more so African women. ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Edusouls(m): 4:22am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Blizzyblinkzy:yes true, when a man gets tired with nagging wife with numerous baad karacters, and not even good in bed or attractive, then he quickly looks somewhere.... |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by InvertedHammer: 4:30am On Aug 14, 2015 |
/ Simple solution. If you want a maid, bring one from oga's side of the family. Oga will not sleep with his relation. That's all. \ 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by menshealth1234: 4:33am On Aug 14, 2015 |
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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by scarffield(m): 4:53am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Chillis:u qet senx so ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Rapunzel001: 4:55am On Aug 14, 2015 |
SexyStrawberry: Na women with dis kind mentality I dey respect!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by anonimi: 5:16am On Aug 14, 2015 |
AreaFada2: I employ many parents. I have sponsored & continue to sponsor kids for education at different levels, related to me or not. Next ![]() |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 5:16am On Aug 14, 2015 |
ceecee0703: He could have said it without telling people to employ minors and without claiming that men are unable to resist temptation. Then I would have agreed with him 100%. 6 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ndidibabe(f): 5:26am On Aug 14, 2015 |
SexyStrawberry:I guess you are a full house wife. I'm a banker and I leave home as early as 5am and won't come back till 9pm due to traffic. Now, tell me how I can do without a maid. The mistake most ladies make today is to run after rich men and erase the word 'God fearing' from their dictionary. I'm happy for whom I am today and what my man has turned to be. He wasn't a millionaire when I met him but he was a very good christian . Today, he is rich and he is still very God fearing. We have two maids. The two of them have very big boobs but honestly, my man is too big to be randy. 5 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 5:35am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Nairaland is a microcosm of the society! Your brother cannot be too different from the stereotypes here! That's the honest truth...Just like you can't be markedly different from the range of ladies here! Please try and take one free course on www.edx.org. It's called "The Science Of Everyday Thinking: Think 101". It's a revelation!! Most times, we think we are unique, but in reality, we are just a variety from the pack! Onegai: 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 5:46am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Jah bless you!!! ![]() Jahblessme: 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 5:48am On Aug 14, 2015 |
![]() ![]() Onegai: 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 5:54am On Aug 14, 2015 |
You're wrong! There are many men with self control! I won't tell you about myself, but believe me, a lot can withstand the "temptations" from a housemaid! I'd rather do it outside with the variety of young eaglets from Uniport rather than a housemaid, someone's wife or a colleague at work! ![]() SexyStrawberry: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by cococandy(f): 5:57am On Aug 14, 2015 |
ideykwum: Well from their comments it does seem like they do. Any attempt to preach otherwise is frowned upon. 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 5:59am On Aug 14, 2015 |
It's not that bad dear! Not all men!! I live in Phc with its temptations and generally, I abstain! If I can withstand the storm outside, home is more sacred, and I can too! I have done the occasional flirting and cheating outside, but it's far from a priority! DrGroove: |
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