Toks2008:


Honestly that lady SexyStrawberry deserves a medal and i fell in love with her for that pure and non pretentious post.

You know ladies love lies. I can see her fellow ladies hate her..

cococandy:


A minor can't work for pay legally.
So whoever you're paying to keep her as your maid is exploiting her with your help.
I'm sure you won't like to give your own child out to work as an underage maid to anyone but will encourage others to do so to children of poorer parents who are ignorant and greedy and won't mind using their kids to survive.

This is not one of those topics that one will be like just ignore them they are talking nonsense. You're actually here propagating child labor. An offense for which people serve jail time in saner climes.

Pls stop this nonsense. It's enough.

The fact is that in saner climes, those sane politicians have put a social safety net/social wellfare system in place. One cannot accuse most of our nutjob politicians of ever thinking of such. Even the 5k promise of Bubu, nobody hears of it now.

In such a situation, you have possibly millions of poor kids begging, weaving their way between cars hawking goods and generally fending for themselves and families however they can.

House help is just one of them. OP is facing reality here, not some fanciful idea of how it ought to be.

You might do well to petition NASS to enact robust and enforceable laws against child labour. Not those meaningless signatory to UN yada yada yada. But I wish you good luck with that o. Because you're talking of a country where 13 year olds can marry legally in some areas.

Nothing works in 9ja like in saner climes except those things God himself put in place. Shikena.

cococandy:
If she must have a maid, pls advice her to not take a child.

Child labor should be dying off now instead of increasing.

Don't worry, Buhari & APC are already here




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AreaFada2:
The fact is that in saner climes, those sane politicians have put a social safety net/social wellfare system in place. One cannot accuse most of our nutjob politicians of ever thinking of such. Even the 5k promise of Bubu, nobody hears of it now.

In such a situation, you have possibly millions of poor kids begging, weaving their way between cars hawking goods and generally fending for themselves and families however they can.

House help is just one of them. OP is facing reality here, not some fanciful idea of how it ought to be.

You might do well to petition NASS to enact robust and enforceable laws against child labour. Not those meaningless signatory to UN yada yada yada. But I wish you good luck with that o. Because you're talking of a country where 13 year olds can marry legally in some areas.

Nothing works in 9ja like in saner climes except those things God himself put in place. Shikena.

Would you mind telling us how those "saner climes" got to be like that

Or they were always like that since their days of being CAVEMEN?



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Toks2008:
THE MAID FACTOR...A must read for every lady

Op quoted a scripture to wrongfully give credence to man's lustfulness and his penchant for adultery . Has he not read in the same scripture that 'when a man is born again old things have passed away and all things have become new - 2Cor. 5:17' . We can't claim to know God and still be justifiably allowing our passion to rule us. St. Paul condemned sexual immorality and emphasises that self control is the gift of the holy spirit when he wrote in Galatians 5:19-23
'The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery ; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

22  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. '

The word of God cannot and must not be used to justify evil. Evil irrespective of why we do it remain evil and can never find justification in the word of God for the same word of God says all evil doers shall be brought to condemnation. A lewd man is just a lewd man and it becomes very repugnant when we quote scripture out of context to justify lewdness. That part of the scripture quoted is simply expressing how baffling it is to see two people who have never known each other fall so much in love that they become inseparable. It doesn't support adultery in anyway. It does not justify a man who left his wife he claims to love to sleep with her maid and thus bring her wife to disrepute. Adultery is and remains a grave and mortal sin.

cyprus000:

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tho I hate cheating with my last blood and can't forgive a cheating partner.

But about the @embolded.
They are certain people you can try that shitt with,cos if I happen to be in that position.

I promise you that I won't wait for you to finish planning before I kill you and give your body to vulture's to feed.
I go teach you the difference btwn person and person's.

What a heap of dogshit..**spits**
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NOISE MAKER!!!

Toks2008:
THE MAID FACTOR...A must read for every lady

I just got a disturbing news from my neighborhood about a man who just got their house maid pregnant and this is why i decided to write this article for everyone to read but before i continue i will like to quote this scripture not to justify the act but to lay emphases on how strange it is:

"There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand:The way of an eagle in the sky, The way of a serpent on a rock, The way of a ship in the middle of the sea, And the way of a man with a maid" Proverbs 30:18-19.

I get so surprised when a woman finds out that her hubby is making out with a maid and she uses words like "How could you? a COMMON MAID"

Now ladies open your eyes and widen your reasoning faculty and get this straight.

Men are visual,we think about sex way more than you do as women and we are very polygamous by nature meaning we naturally love to be with as many ladies as possible but if you find a man who is decent and disciplined then such a man is a rare breed.

The Nigerian mentality that your level in life is determined by how much money you make or your educational background is quite honestly annoying; every occupation should be accorded it's dignity, housemaids offer an essential service to the society and should be respected as such.

That stated, when a woman fails to realize that part of the seduction process involves the respect and care she offers her husband I.e in the little things she does, like making him food, paying attention to his attire, etc if she totally reneges on these duties and leaves it to the housemaid, she effectively sets up her husband to be seduced by the housemaid; besides, a housemaid is so awestruck by the attention she receives from the master of the house, she is willing to submit to a lot of things madam no longer deems necessary and if you're a man, you know there's nothing more flattering nor seductive than a willing woman....

In short, it is my opinion that when a man begins to cast a lustful glance at the housemaid,in most cases it's a symptom that madam is neglecting her duties somewhere.

Wait guys, i am not promoting randy lifestyle or justifying the shameless act of sleeping with a maid not because SHE IS A MAID but how can you have your wife in the same house and yet sleeping with a maid? This is arrant nonsense i must say

But then to the women, please if you must get a house maid, do not go for the type with conspicous sexual body features.

Lets leave hypocrisy, if my wife brings home a maid that has sweet curves, i will call her to order and ask her to send the maid back. Prevention is better than fighting temptation.

A maid is human, a maid was born the same way you were born, a maid has the same feminine sexual features just as you have and even usually younger,Stop employing matured maids if you have a man at home to prevent unpleasant situation.

If you like ,start saying you trust your husband, he can not do this or that but by the time it happens, don't say i have not warned you.

Be wise

Excuses excuses excuses. What about if there was a hot houseboy with a big dick. Or mai guard that looks sexy? Shey only men are visual creatures cause na only them get eye? Then me as a woman am blind. This nonsense needs to stop. If you can't practice self control fine! But it is not a mans nature to sleep around like a dog. Only animals do that. Why take vows if you cant live up to them. But yet u expect your wife to do so abi? He who has equity comes with clean hands. Also what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Thank G im not planning to marry a Nigerian man because with this mentality that most of yall subscribe to, a divorce is a sure banker.

P.S: All ye that lack self control. Let me paint a scenario for you. Lady is stark naked in your bed, beautiful and very sexy. No condom in the room. The door is locked so u have no where to go. She is seductive. But u know on very good authority she is HIV+. Will yall still fucck?

anonimi:



Would you mind telling us how those "saner climes" got to be like that

Or they were always like that since their days of being CAVEMEN?

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I have clearly suggested a modern way of making changes legally in a modern society. Suggest your own ways. Or ignore it.

How many parents do you employ? How many "not so rich" distant relative kids do you sponsor at school? Do you volunteer your time for poor kids in society in a charitable way or help kids in any other selfless way?

If you don't, then you're not contributing to eradicating child poverty. So no matter how much you type here or question people, no single kid would have escaped possible servitude or child labour through your contribution.

cococandy:


A minor can't work for pay legally.
So whoever you're paying to keep her as your maid is exploiting her with your help.
I'm sure you won't like to give your own child out to work as an underage maid to anyone but will encourage others to do so to children of poorer parents who are ignorant and greedy and won't mind using their kids to survive.

The earlier you learn that self control is the way out, the better for you. The solution is not using children as maids. It's for those guys who have minds like yours to learn to control themselves.

I don't know what's all these nonsense one reads here everyday. We are talking of how to move the country forward and you're busy propagating child labor because in your mind all men lack self control. If the ladies insult you guys with that phrase, you will start crying. But here you are lending credence to the generalization that men have no self control. Are all of them like you?

Do you all sleep with your female classmates and female colleagues because you come in contact with them everyday? So a man can't have an adult female employee without thinking of sleeping with her? Do you hope to one day employ people as a boss or will women be out of the question because you don't trust yourself around them?

What's wrong with you self?

This is not one of those topics that one will be like just ignore them they are talking nonsense. You're actually here propagating child labor. An offense for which people serve jail time in saner climes.

Pls stop this nonsense. It's enough.

Actually, I have no doubts in me about how unfair and heinous child labour is, but ma'am, hmm the op has a very important, and unignorable point. sincerely.
If you weren't able to understand his idea via hos earlier arguments, I really don't know what I would do to help convince you.
But, in all Sincerity, please follow a larger part of his advice.

tartarus:
Read their comments! You'll know them, most men on NL wouldn't hesitate to sleep with a minor.... They'll sleep with anything ; a maid, an animal, their sisters, their wives sisters, their brother's wives, mad women, old women, flat women, voluptuous women, a toddler...etc

As long as there's a hole a Nigerian man will dive into it! Look at them commending the op. *spits*

Sometimes I wonder if they're nigerian men like me out there.. With common sense!

@ bold, there are. And that's what still gives me hope

SAMBARRY:
see excuses and justification to sleep with housemaid?

How low can some men get. Doing house chores turns him on

Sorry o, when you get married employ an Uche Jombo, or Mercy Johnson ad maid. Report back to NL in 9 months time .
Yeye people, they'll be telling you the truth, you'll be forming blind and dumb.

Onegai:

Rather than practise self-control, women should "dress decently" to avoid rape, babies should sew decent looking diapers and wear agbada so men are not tempted, teenagers should lock themselves up because men are not to be tempted, children should continue working long hours and getting underpaid because men cannot be trusted around adult women, in fact to demand that Nigerian men behave decently is a crime otherwise known as "Feminism"

I dey hail una o

According to the op, men are visual and polygamous. On the other hand women are blind and of course, monogamous! Somehow he has a justification. Just because another female assists hos wife with chores then he justifies her getting some of what madam gets. Then why not marry them all? Why marry one and destroy others? If madam deserves marriage then the maid deserves it too! I follow u hail dem o! Dem go rape woman finish still talk say na her fault cos she no wear 'decent' cloth!

Guidette:

Excuses excuses excuses. What about if there was a hot houseboy with a big dick. Or mai guard that looks sexy? Shey only men are visual creatures cause na only them get eye? Then me as a woman am blind. This nonsense needs to stop. If you can't practice self control fine! But it is not a mans nature to sleep around like a dog. Only animals do that. Why take vows if you cant live up to them. But yet u expect your wife to do so abi? He who has equity comes with clean hands. Also what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Thank G im not planning to marry a Nigerian man because with this mentality that most of yall subscribe to, a divorce is a sure banker.

P.S: All ye that lack self control. Let me paint a scenario for you. Lady is stark naked in your bed, beautiful and very sexy. No condom in the room. The door is locked so u have no where to go. She is seductive. But u know on very good authority she is HIV+. Will yall still fucck?

It goes both ways. That some housewives also knack maiguard, driver or gardner is no news. If they are the only ones readily available.

BUT women generally look to sleep with higher placed males in society. That is why female infidelity usually involves their boss at work, pastor or some other powerful or rich or someone in a position of authority. Power, wealth and status attract women.
Men are attracted more by basic biological stuff like curves, health, beauty & youthfullness of the female.

Men intrinsically want a fertile female, women want a male that can provide and help bring up kids over many years.

Iara & Osho Baba are a good example.

No matter how sophisticated we consider ourselves now, we're still just biological entities.

5minsmadness:


Because they are not reading the message. Thier own is 'here is an article written by a male, and since all males are oppressors let's show him we can't be oppressed. Let's do this by insulting him and throwing insults and attacking him personally.'
By so doing they get thier mandatory 'high' but they remain unlearned and immature. Most of them have no logical thought process whatsoever.

Do you support child labor? Yes or no.

Is it possible to ask anyone around here to talk like they have sense of what's right and wrong without it being a 'personal attack'

What's logical about saying children should be employed so that men won't get tempted?

What's your definition of logic?

AreaFada2:


It goes both ways. That some housewives also knack maiguard, driver or gardner is no news. If they are the only ones readily available.

BUT women generally look to sleep with higher placed males in society. That is why female infidelity usually involves their boss at work, pastor or some other powerful or rich or someone in a position of authority. Power, wealth and status attract women.
Men are attracted more by basic biological stuff like curves, health, beauty & youthfullness of the female.

Men intrinsically want a fertile female, women want a male that can provide and help bring up kids over many years.

Iara & Osho Baba are a good example.

No matter how sophisticated we consider ourselves now, we're still just biological entities.

As for me i dont believe in that lack of self control thing. Unless soneone truly has a psychiatric problem, every single thought that comes through a persons mind is well calculated before they cheat. Besides men are not wired one way and women differently. Everyone is unique irregardless of gender. Society just loves to put labels on things which is called social conditioning.
Im very deconditioned from society bcs i do what i feel is right. And also speak up for injustice.
Anyways, my turn on is not particularly successful men bcs i am practically a doctor now but men who look very nice, hot, sexy and clean. Basically i am turned on by looks. I got my own money so all that other stuff doesnt really matter to me for now. Well at least dnt be a bum ass nigga.

Onegai:

Rather than practise self-control, women should "dress decently" to avoid rape, babies should sew decent looking diapers and wear agbada so men are not tempted, teenagers should lock themselves up because men are not to be tempted, children should continue working long hours and getting underpaid because men cannot be trusted around adult women, in fact to demand that Nigerian men behave decently is a crime otherwise known as "Feminism"

I dey hail una o

Hi. I also am this advocate of Feminism, but when we look at the manner in which the male beings are wired, also considering the inevitable existence of the incubent African mentality in them.
Sincerely, for a home to last longer I'd advise we keep away from things like this, not just to avoid female maids but even the male ones also.
okay , we say men are visually triggered does that mean the women can't be triggered also?
My point is ; nothing stops a developing family from handling their chores themselves. 'Cause believe me, you should on no condition underestimate the evil prospect a third party brings NO MATTER WHAT SEX it is.

Reading through some of these comments got me like wow. Thats why rape is still so rampant these days cos these niggas feel so self entitled with this whole lack of self control excuse.
God forbid i or any woman i know marry any1 of these fools.

Guidette:

As for me i dont believe in that lack of self control thing. Unless soneone truly has a psychiatric problem, every single thought that comes through a persons mind is well calculated before they cheat. Besides men are not wired one way and women differently. Everyone is unique irregardless of gender. Society just loves to put labels on things which is called social conditioning.
Im very deconditioned from society bcs i do what i feel is right. And also speak up for injustice.
Anyways, my turn on is not particularly successful men bcs i am practically a doctor now but men who look very nice, hot, sexy and clean. Basically i am turned on by looks. I got my own money so all that other stuff doesnt really matter to me for now. Well at least dnt be a bum ass nigga.

My dear, all women like those things you mentioned. But at the end they chose a guy who won't be a "liability". A euphemism for a poor guy. If they have a choice. Trust me, I know female colleagues who are successful senior physicians and surgeons. In 9ja currency, some take home about 50m Naira yearly. Some far more. They are financially comfortable. And none is married to or dates a hot, sexy clean janitor or kitchen help If anything successful women are more picky when it comes to men. A wealthy guy can marry a pretty but dirt poor girl.
Very rare with women, even more so African women.

Blizzyblinkzy:
So true

yes true, when a man gets tired with nagging wife with numerous baad karacters, and not even good in bed or attractive, then he quickly looks somewhere....

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Simple solution.

If you want a maid, bring one from oga's side of the family.

Oga will not sleep with his relation.

That's all.
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Chillis:
Na wah. Nairaland is now a dumping ground for cave, local boys.
All these free mb Etisalat , glo, MTN. . Vodacom are sharing.
I so much blame the network operators for this.

u qet senx so

SexyStrawberry:
... And as for employing house helps, me personally don't think I need them, even if I have a thousand kids, I am not a lazy woman! what can the house help do in my house that I can't do?! huh?

Na women with dis kind mentality I dey respect!!

AreaFada2:
How many parents do you employ? How many "not so rich" distant relative kids do you sponsor at school? Do you volunteer your time for poor kids in society in a charitable way or help kids in any other selfless way?

I employ many parents.
I have sponsored & continue to sponsor kids for education at different levels, related to me or not.

Next

ceecee0703:


u obviously didnt get d OP drift....he simply called women to be nice even after marriage n try not to neglect their duties as the men continue in theirs

He could have said it without telling people to employ minors and without claiming that men are unable to resist temptation.

Then I would have agreed with him 100%.

SexyStrawberry:
OP God bless u, I have seen a deacon in the church who is bleeping his wife's best friend! u can imagine that! So why can't men bleep their house helps if the opportunity sets itself, I must say the ladies out their who thinks their husband wouldn't do such are gullible! Men are moved by what they see, no matter how saintly he is, women are moved by what they hear! Men and women are not the same! unless ur trying to say that ur husband is Jesus Himself! as in no be normal human being. A woman can see and appreciate a good looking man, but that is as far as it gets as long as her hubby is satisfying her all round, unless he is falling short in some ways b4 she will start misbehaving, I am talking about a well mannered woman o, not the loose ones, but for men, no matter how many styles u give him in bed tonight, as long as he is seeing a well shaped Ukwu moving around d house untouched, he would want to have a taste of that one as well! And God punish u that Ukwu is tighter than urs, ur own don finish be that! Men with a very very strict self control are like 1 out of 500. And as for employing house helps, me personally don't think I need them, even if I have a thousand kids, I am not a lazy woman! what can the house help do in my house that I can't do?! huh?

I guess you are a full house wife. I'm a banker and I leave home as early as 5am and won't come back till 9pm due to traffic. Now, tell me how I can do without a maid. The mistake most ladies make today is to run after rich men and erase the word 'God fearing' from their dictionary. I'm happy for whom I am today and what my man has turned to be. He wasn't a millionaire when I met him but he was a very good christian . Today, he is rich and he is still very God fearing. We have two maids. The two of them have very big boobs but honestly, my man is too big to be randy.

Nairaland is a microcosm of the society! Your brother cannot be too different from the stereotypes here! That's the honest truth...Just like you can't be markedly different from the range of ladies here! Please try and take one free course on www.edx.org. It's called "The Science Of Everyday Thinking: Think 101". It's a revelation!!

Most times, we think we are unique, but in reality, we are just a variety from the pack!

Onegai:


God bless you. Child labour rather than self-control.

I scared my brother's gf by showing her NL last month. See panicking! My bro had to tell her "I'm different from these guys"

Jah bless you!!! I like your candour!!

Jahblessme:
Same old excuses to keep a woman slaving from dusk to dawn in the bid to keep the hot maid away..I hope the same will be said of me if I fall for the nubile muscular hardworking and handsome houseboy.

The maid is in a vulnerable position,she's there as a paid help.probably because she has no other option.Taking advantage of her and abusing your position of trust is absolutely wrong.Theres no excuse.

Anyone cleaning and cooking like ayamatanga because she wants to save a supposedly helpless man with roaming chukuchuku from himself dey long tin.You will age faster than him and he will still sleep around..

Can never have high bp or stress myself, lailai.Always endeavour to look good just incase.He chooks ,I chook my own.After that we move front and sin no more.amin

That's a bit unfair to the male folk! Many Nigerian men do not support lack of self control! Don't crucify all for the sins of a few!

Onegai:

Rather than practise self-control, women should "dress decently" to avoid rape, babies should sew decent looking diapers and wear agbada so men are not tempted, teenagers should lock themselves up because men are not to be tempted, children should continue working long hours and getting underpaid because men cannot be trusted around adult women, in fact to demand that Nigerian men behave decently is a crime otherwise known as "Feminism"

I dey hail una o

You're wrong! There are many men with self control! I won't tell you about myself, but believe me, a lot can withstand the "temptations" from a housemaid! I'd rather do it outside with the variety of young eaglets from Uniport rather than a housemaid, someone's wife or a colleague at work!

SexyStrawberry:
OP God bless u, I have seen a deacon in the church who is bleeping his wife's best friend! u can imagine that! So why can't men bleep their house helps if the opportunity sets itself, I must say the ladies out their who thinks their husband wouldn't do such are gullible! Men are moved by what they see, no matter how saintly he is, women are moved by what they hear! Men and women are not the same! unless ur trying to say that ur husband is Jesus Himself! as in no be normal human being. A woman can see and appreciate a good looking man, but that is as far as it gets as long as her hubby is satisfying her all round, unless he is falling short in some ways b4 she will start misbehaving, I am talking about a well mannered woman o, not the loose ones, but for men, no matter how many styles u give him in bed tonight, as long as he is seeing a well shaped Ukwu moving around d house untouched, he would want to have a taste of that one as well! And God punish u that Ukwu is tighter than urs, ur own don finish be that! Men with a very very strict self control are like 1 out of 500. And as for employing house helps, me personally don't think I need them, even if I have a thousand kids, I am not a lazy woman! what can the house help do in my house that I can't do?! huh?

ideykwum:
That's a bit unfair to the male folk! Many Nigerian men do not support lack of self control! Don't crucify all for the sins of a few!

Well from their comments it does seem like they do. Any attempt to preach otherwise is frowned upon.

It's not that bad dear! Not all men!! I live in Phc with its temptations and generally, I abstain! If I can withstand the storm outside, home is more sacred, and I can too! I have done the occasional flirting and cheating outside, but it's far from a priority!

DrGroove:
ALL men sleep with maids...Once there is a female who is not related to the man by BLOOD living under his roof,he MUST sleep with her.until he does that,he cannot be a happy man! the younger she is,the more aroused he will be.Men don't need to see fully matured breasts and buttocks to be sexually attracted,anything female @ any stage of development is attractive enough(no be hole dem wan chook?).Those advocating for kids as maids,May God forgive you people..As if men are not happily bleeping kids in Nigeria today.