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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 6:11am On Aug 14, 2015 |
I think it's largely because a majority of the men who would support you just read and not comment! I just learnt to start contributing to the Romance section! But politics and business would bring me out any day! Most of the guys who comment on the Romance section aren't bad either, but some out of mischief, childishness, or just to be the enfant terrible, would say anything! ![]() Don't let it colour your view of Nigerian men! I also believe social media has also helped highlight issues that were usually swept under the carpet; personally, some of the stories on Nairaland shock me! "Man rapess 3 year old"; Pastor rapes 13 year student" etc! There will always be aberrations in the society, but let's not allow our shock to stereotype our perception of reality. If I use some of the female comments as yardstick, I wouldn't go far in appreciating that wonderful creature called the Nigerian woman! Having said all that, I must commend your use of words and your stance on child labour! Of the many evils in our society, this one is just heart-breaking! Evil thrives when good men/women do nothing! Thanks for being a good woman! cococandy: 4 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 6:13am On Aug 14, 2015 |
cococandy:You go mtcheww na,na ur type of wife op dey talk about. Bless ur marriage with a sexy curvy,maid in manhattan type of type joor,that will put a smile to the unfortunate guys face ![]() |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ABEngine(m): 6:16am On Aug 14, 2015 |
I do hope our ladies realize the responsibilities they often times handed to these set of individuals tagged house maids. It is as important as marriage itself to assess the needs of the home before employing a third party to aid the daily running of your homes. Foremost let me draw our attention to the fictional way of life been adopted by couples in the foreclosures of trend and style, such that the daily contributions of each spouse to the affairs of their home upkeep has been relegated solely to financial inputs and nothing more, therefore issuing undue authority and advantages to the house maids. These fellows do not only cater for our kids, they also exploit the advantage to bond and severely influence our kids. A number of mishaps are expected when the kids choose to honour the "common" house girl's plea as compared to your instruction sets, this may include kidnap. The men are not left out as the house girls assume the roles of our wives until her eventual return and this routine occurs daily. Our feeding is entrusted to these folks and there are no surer ways to a man's heart than his stomach. Thereby making procreation the only duty reserved for the ultra modern day wive. This and many more instances are indeed not new to anyone of us here, the dynamics of this menace is also inexhaustible as many pose reasons why they should seek the help of these third parties. However, the aim of this epistle is to identify the roles of our men and women in the home and to plead that we extinguish all manner of excuses we put up at the detriment of our unions. Primarily, as the scriptures made us understand a husband and his companion are essentially mutual helpers but we end up pursuing vain quests some due to ego-bound believes and others due a reckless comprehension of the family. Man and wife "is" sufficient alone regardless of the commitment they invest into other spheres of life. I suggest we put in more effort at home than at work, help our spouses with chores, find time to parlay with kids as often as possible and devise suitable alternatives to handle the many challenges of running the home other than absconding from responsibilities like we subconsciously have done in the past while we pray God sees our homes through. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 6:22am On Aug 14, 2015 |
ideykwum:Bros,I spend most of my time reading tru posts on NL,never commented like two years after registering so it was easy to observe. Forget cococandy,she and many others are stereotypical and prejudiced for whatever reason and there's nothing you or anyone can say that will change it. Just praying for the sorry dude that will pay. You see them "crouching like a tiger","hidden like a dragon",seeking ways to bash Nigerian men every lil chance they get. Yeye shildren. 6 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by AreaFada2: 6:31am On Aug 14, 2015 |
anonimi:If true then good. Keep doing so and encourage others to. Then petition politicians to play their part. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by cococandy(f): 6:31am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Gaidenk: OP is the one stereotyping all men to have no self control and you don't seem to have a problem with him. But somehow regardless of what I posted, I'm the one bashing Nigerian men. Some of you don't apply sense when commenting. You say what you want to say without engaging your brains. I wonder what's responsible for this level of senselessness. @bold, you're the prejudiced ediot who should be advising himself to read first without commenting stupidly. 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by cococandy(f): 6:32am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Gaidenk Cure yourself of your prejudice. Because you seem to see only what you want. cococandy: 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by dapsin999(m): 6:36am On Aug 14, 2015 |
"There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand:The way of an eagle in the sky, The way of a serpent on a rock, The way of a ship in the middle of the sea, And the way of a man with a maid" Proverbs 30:18-19. You changed the words of the bible. "Woman not maid" 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 6:40am On Aug 14, 2015 |
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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Toks2008(m): 6:50am On Aug 14, 2015 |
ndidibabe: Madam i use GOD beg you,,i am not insinuating anything at all but erase that last line fast. No man is too big to be randy. I pride myself anyday anywhere anytime as one of the most sexually decent man still alive but nevertheless i know my limits.I flee from sexual sins rather than confront it and hope to withstand it. I won't write beyond this. 8 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Toks2008(m): 6:55am On Aug 14, 2015 |
dapsin999: Na wa for you o. na one version of bible dey and wettin be the difference between woman and maid as these two are used interchangeably. 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by TooNoisy(f): 6:55am On Aug 14, 2015 |
There is absolutely no justification for a man to sleep with the maid. None whatsoever. But I will also add that women should not abandon their family responsibilities to maids, if you do and shit happens, I wouldn't blame you but you will blame yourself! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by chiibekee(f): 6:57am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Mindfulness:I think a kid here is a help not a maid. will still be going to school with ur children but the major thing is that the kid must be older than ur own kids so that she will stay with then when they are back from school. That's my opinion though. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by poseidon12: 6:58am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Very apt advice, Toks. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by godoluwa(m): 7:02am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Omotayor123:tell that your friend that she is sick. am very sure that shes a dirty gal(obun ni). I prefer to assist my wife instead of employing any fuccking housemaid. most of these housemaid goes extra mile to become madam of the house by force. try & talk senses to her head |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Vicben(m): 7:03am On Aug 14, 2015 |
I personally don't like the idea of having a full time maid in the house, but both men and have to take charge of their lives and parts of their bodies respectively. Control yourself. Devious Maids S3 |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Ngokafor(f): 7:04am On Aug 14, 2015 |
tete7000: ...Good one!!...You are the one who God would bless indeed..not the senseless op and his evil message supoorted by equaly discrepit males here..If we had more like you in this country cases of rape and sexually molestation of children and adult alike will not be as common as it now.. ..Even some fathers have joined in this show of shame with their daughters ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Oahray: 7:05am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Op, when the Bible uses 'maid', like this case, it simply means a young unmarried woman. It's the short form of maiden. Please don't misinterpret Scriptures, no matter how noble your course. The Bible uses 'slave girl' or servant girl when referring to what we now call housemaids. That said, I agree with your stance on housemaids. Most times, they are an unnecessary temptation in a world full of temptations. It's easy to talk about men and a lack of self control, as if it's an exclusively man thing. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by jnrbayano(m): 7:06am On Aug 14, 2015 |
InvertedHammer: That's wisdom. 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 7:06am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008: ![]() |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Davidohida(m): 7:09am On Aug 14, 2015 |
If my wife brings a beautiful maid home,OYO is her surname |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 7:09am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Lol,men too need to be careful with who they hire as there driver cause some women are not smiling too these days, I heard of a story where the wife of a rich man was having an affair with his driver. 3 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by SAMBARRY: 7:11am On Aug 14, 2015 |
ssuccess:shut up ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by SAMBARRY: 7:15am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Pasito pasito oro re sumi ![]() I'm done with this thread jnrbayano: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Oahray: 7:15am On Aug 14, 2015 |
esosa993:that's no news. Let's say it's just fashionable to pretend Infidelity is a man. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by endeedike(m): 7:15am On Aug 14, 2015 |
did you actually ead the article? dont display your ignorance pls... Mindfulness: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 7:17am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by SAMBARRY: 7:18am On Aug 14, 2015 |
I'm done arguing with blind deaf and dumb men hell bent on using their phenese to think. bye! 400billionman: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Ngokafor(f): 7:18am On Aug 14, 2015 |
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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by bosunjohns(m): 7:19am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by jnrbayano(m): 7:19am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Ngokafor(f): 7:19am On Aug 14, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: ...End Of Discussion. 1 Like |
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