I was already in 400 level and she was seeking admission. She scored about 3 points below the cut off for her first choice course. She was given her second choice and a scammer already promised to help her with 80k. She came with the money and incidentally, somebody asked her to meet me and leave his message with me as he was in another campus is our university. Luckily, she came to my house to drop that before proceeding to see the scammer. As a sharp guy, I wanted to scope her for a quickie, but she refused. One thing led to another and we got into a deep discussion. She told me about her admission issues and confided in me that she was taking 80k to a well known admission racketeer. I stopped her and later helped her to get that her first course of choice through my lecturer friend.

You guys were never married

So where does divorce come into it

Mexican soap Opera!
Wait for season two, when its out someone should call me.

Mach1plus1

NO DEY FALL HANDS NAA...

So?

Op, kindly go to google and search for the meaning of divorce

I don't think he has finished posting the remainder of the story

It seems like op drank d mixture of Alomo nd palm wine.....mtchwwww

We became love mates later and decided to marry. Her first year was my final year and we utilised it very well to achieve excellent results. Her family is a an average one, but her mother is dead. She was going through hell and had to work to raise money for her upkeep and academic needs. I tried to reconcile her with her father, a faculty officer in another university, but her step mum wouldn't allow that. They refused to train her and I took it upon myself. After graduation, life became difficult for me as job was not forthcoming and her needs increased as the demand for her academics arose. We quarrelled at intervals and in one of the cases a man living in US came in. While we were quarrelling, I made sure, she never lacked money as I gave her the usual allowances when due. I am a born hustler and could still afford to train her even with no job, albeit tight situations. We manage our finances, but it was better when we were students.

To cut the story short, within the three weeks that we were having issues, her new boy friend had changed her wardrobe, phones and standard of living in no small way. She went as far as sleeping with him, but in all couldn't cope with betraying me. She came back and confessed, but that was after I had sent her a text message asking her that we make up. It wasn't easy for me, but I accepted her back and had to break her relationship with that guy. I paid him for all that she spent on her and returned those returnable. I fought gallantly to be able to do that, as the guy in question was better in all ramifications. She initially hid many things from me, but I smartly unravelled all the hidden things.

We are currently married with two kids and are not doing badly. The problem is that she is being unnecessarily jealous and nags whenever she sees my free attitude to other women, even when they are married. The thing pains me a lot because I never cheated on her. We dated for 8 years before marriage and I kept to her. Beside her nag, I haven't really gotten over that incidence. Before her latest nagging character, I have already hated her and sometimes spend as much as 3 months without touching her. She has complained and complained and each passing day, I grow colder. I really loved her and could lay my life for her, but presently do not believe in love, courtesy of that incidence. At present, we are suffering in the marriage and the thoughts of divorce keep recurring in my head. Should we do that?

A true life story of my bos.om friend

Sorry, I had network challenges. It is a true life story and the couple is in dire need of support

I don't think so; it sounds like a rough patch

Have you visited a marriage counsellor?

Gurgle:
I don't think so; it sounds like a rough patch

Have you visited a marriage counsellor?

They had been living peacefully and never had the cause to visit a marriage counselor.

Gurgle:
I don't think he has finished posting the remainder of the story

You can say that again

mcino:

They had been living peacefully and never had the cause to visit a marriage counselor.

Ok. So I think they should go and see one

It doesn't sound like it cant be solved but they have some issues that need to be addressed to prevent future heartache

He should take heart, all is well

Hmm,i think d two of u should com back to ur senses now or i will rather prefer u sit ur wife down and try talking things through,make her understand that all u re doin for other women is just to show ur kind gestures,was she still cheatn after u got married?

Gurgle:


Ok. So I think they should go and see one

It doesn't sound like it cant be solved but they have some issues that need to be addressed to prevent future heartache

He should take heart, all is well

OK, thanks! Outside seeing the counselor, what else do you think they should do? How does the guy get over that feeling and what actually do you think is the implications of their divorce? Don't you think it will make them happier?

Wait o;the couple in question,are they christians?

mcino:

OK, thanks! Outside seeing the counselor, what else do you think they should do? How does the guy get over that feeling and what actually do you think is the implications of their divorce? Don't you think it will make them happier?

mcino:

OK, thanks! Outside seeing the counselor, what else do you think they should do? How does the guy get over that feeling and what actually do you think is the implications of their divorce? Don't you think it will make them happier?

Well I haven't married so I cant advocate divorce outright unless its something like physical violence, or something where one of them is going to die at the hands of the other

If the feeling that youre talking about is that she slept with the American fellow, then I can only advise that he makes a conscious effort to forgive her and try not to think of it too much because its a mistake that has already been made and she cant do anything about it. although its not easy but he has married her and invested a lot in her, so even if he feels he doesn't love her at this exact moment there are other secondary reasons that could keep him there until his anger clears

like the children's welfare

The guy really tried. A jealous nagging wife is not easy to live with. He deserves better than her but he already made the mistake of taking her back when she cheated on him years ago.

This is the reward. She suspects him because she has greater potential to cheat. The guy should just focus on other aspects of his life. If not, he will get violent one day. This is his cross and he must carry it.

Women think their Jealousy and nagging are harmless but the reverse is the case. A man hates coming home to a wife who gives him stress. How difficult is it for her to keep her mouth shut? Must she nag the living daylight out of him? Now she is just a source of irritation. And some men don't handle irritation well.

Let's pray he doesn't get angry enough to hurt her physically because of her nagging and accusations. Divorce is very final. I don't think it has gotten to that point although he has to tell her that she has pushed him to the point of considering divorce. Maybe her brain will reset.

MhizVee:
Wait o;the couple in question,are they christians?

Yes, they are. Why do you ask?

Seconded

Gurgle:


Well I haven't married so I cant advocate divorce outright unless its something like physical violence, or something where one of them is going to die at the hands of the other

If the feeling that youre talking about is that she slept with the American fellow, then I can only advise that he makes a conscious effort to forgive her and try not to think of it too much because its a mistake that has already been made and she cant do anything about it. although its not easy but he has married her and invested a lot in her, so even if he feels he doesn't love her at the exact moment there are other secondary reasons that could keep him there until his anger clears

like the children's welfare

I am not married yet but i can never forget about twhat the bible says,moreover the guy knew what she did and all of her past, she did this when dey were not married,i dnt think gettn a divorce is a better option,i think it will be wise enough for the guy to stay with his wife till the anger wears off,he shld learn to forgive,all dat happened,happened in the past

mcino:

Yes, they are. Why do you ask?

Gurgle:


Well I haven't married so I cant advocate divorce outright unless its something like physical violence, or something where one of them is going to die at the hands of the other

If the feeling that youre talking about is that she slept with the American fellow, then I can only advise that he makes a conscious effort to forgive her and try not to think of it too much because its a mistake that has already been made and she cant do anything about it. although its not easy but he has married her and invested a lot in her, so even if he feels he doesn't love her at the exact moment there are other secondary reasons that could keep him there until his anger clears

like the children's welfare

It is a good one. The wife's recent nag is the reason for resurrecting the whole feelings, though he has been struggling to cope with it. My take is that since he could endure it then, he can still do it now. Especially now that they have kids. I think the guy made a mistake by continuing with that marriage. But he confided in me that the woman actually envisaged this and pleaded with him for a quit, on that account but he refused. He was so blinded and now he is facing the reality of that insight

MhizVee:
I am not married yet but i can never forget about twhat the bible says,moreover the guy knew what she did and all of her past, she did this when dey were not married,i dnt think gettn a divorce is a better option,i think it will be wise enough for the guy to stay with his wife till the anger wears off,he shld learn to forgive,all dat happened,happened in the past

You are right, though. It has happened and is irreparable. However, something has to be done for them to quit the accompanying emotional torture. Both are suffering, as a result of that

mcino:

It is a good one. The wife's recent nag is the reason for resurrecting the whole feelings, though he has been struggling to cope with it. My take is that since he could endure it then, he can still do it now. Especially now that they have kids. I think the guy made a mistake by continuing with that marriage. But he confided in me that the woman actually envisaged this and pleaded with him for a quit, on that account but he refused. He was so blinded and now he is facing the reality of that insight

Yeah I was thinking that. So if she stops the nagging it may be easier for him to forget it. I think he should just let her know how hes feeling so she can stop it. Anyway women often nag their husbands even when they haven't committed any atrocity so its nothing new. Just that the irritation from the nagging is also dragging up previous irritation from before

It sounds like she is insecure because of what happened before which is giving rise to the nagging. So if they just talk about it and come to some resolution it may be better for them. With a counsellor/ Christian counsellor present if they cant agree or if they fight a lot

I don't know o, he should just try and continue for the sake of those children and for the love he had shared with her in the first place. it may have been a mistake in the beginning to continue with the marriage but it doesn't have to continue being a mistake; it could turn into a blessing if they work on it

You cant enjoy a blessing fully, until you have known pain and suffering

I don't think they should divorce

Gurgle:


Yeah I was thinking that. So if she stops the nagging it may be easier for him to forget it. I think he should just let her know how hes feeling so she can stop it. Anyway women often nag their husbands even when they haven't committed any atrocity so its nothing new. Just that the irritation from the nagging is also dragging up previous irritation from before

It sounds like she is insecure because of what happened before which is giving rise to the nagging. So if they just talk about it and come to some resolution it may be better for them. With a counsellor/ Christian counsellor present if they cant agree or if they fight a lot

I don't know o, he should just try and continue for the sake of those children and for the love he had shared with her in the first place. it may have been a mistake in the beginning to continue with the marriage but it doesn't have to continue being a mistake; it could turn into a blessing if they work on it

You cant enjoy a blessing fully, until you have known pain and suffering

I don't think they should divorce

Hmm! To think that you are not yet married... You are gifted with wisdom in marriage counseling. The children are the key thing here, else divorce wouldn't have been a bad idea.

mcino:

Hmm! To think that you are not yet married... You are gifted with wisdom in marriage counseling. The children are the key thing here, else divorce wouldn't have been a bad idea.

Lol, thanks a lot. I can only say that Im trying, as everybody is

And yes, if he had seen this before he had those children I could have said another thing. But the whole thing is different now that he has them. So I think he should continue with the lady, although it wont be easy. When he eventually gets over it maybe he will even enjoy her more

AfroKnight:
The guy really tried. A jealous nagging wife is not easy to live with. He deserves better than her but he already made the mistake of taking her back when she cheated on him years ago.

This is the reward. She suspects him because she has greater potential to cheat. The guy should just focus on other aspects of his life. If not, he will get violent one day. This is his cross and he must carry it.

Women think their Jealousy and nagging are harmless but the reverse is the case. A man hates coming home to a wife who gives him stress. How difficult is it for her to keep her mouth shut? Must she nag the living daylight out of him? Now she is just a source of irritation. And some men don't handle irritation well.

Let's pray he doesn't get angry enough to hurt her physically because of her nagging and accusations. Divorce is very final. I don't think it has gotten to that point although he has to tell her that she has pushed him to the point of considering divorce. Maybe her brain will reset.

You hit the nail on the head. Women don't know that while their husbands don't talk, they hurt from inside. No husband enjoys a nagging wife, especially when the husband has been tolerating her past. Marriage is a whole lot of prison

[b][/b] UPDATE
The woman is parking her lots to leave the house, as the guy has refused to eat her food for sometime now. Mods, please help this guy get more advice. He is a member of this forum
cc Seun, Farano, Rocktation, Lalasticlala, Ishilove

Hmm i c,i really do think d guy shld come out and explain tins himself,moreover all that happened happened in the past,i beg u,c divorce is not a better option,ur wife doesnt know u are silence just because u remembered all she did in the past,c i think u guys should sort things out,u decided to marry her after all she did,y do u wanna revolt now.

mcino:
[b][/b] UPDATE
The woman is parking her lots to leave the house, as the guy has refused to eat her food for sometime now. Mods, please help this guy get more advice. He is a member of this forum

Mcino,hmm,are u sure u re not the person in particular