What will be your reaction if your 18 year old daughter walks up to you and tells you she has a boyfriend?

Most naija dad wil scold her, n tell her to face her studies, wch is very wrong

Wrong?u think it is wrong to scold her?

dulux07:
Most naija dad wil scold her, n tell her to face her studies, wch is very wrong

At 18 she is a young adult and issues of relationship shouldn't occupy the front burner in her life yet?
Coming to say it is good particularly when there is friendship between the two but the manner and circumstances could determine the response she will get.
Its a two way thing of getting scolded on one hand or advice offered on how best to go about it. I will do the latter as her hiding it doesn't mean she is not in it.

MhizVee:
What will be your reaction if your 18 year old daughter walks up to you and tells you she has a boyfriend?

.well am not a dad yet.,but i will sit her down and talk, i will also like to meet the boy in question..

Hmm okk

Randyhot:
.well am not a dad yet.,but i will sit her down and talk, i will also like to meet the boy in question..

MhizVee:
Wrong,u think it is wrong to scold her?

if u scold her, ur indirectly telin her to kip it a secret nxt time, n wen she nids rlationship advice nxt time, she wud rather tell her friends instead.

In such case, d dad is meant to talk to her as a friend, advice, guide n counsel her, instead of scolding. Many of us wer scolded when we wer young, but did that stop us rm havin gf n bf at tender ages, NO.it didnt, it only made us do it secret, in which d end result for some was disastrous..

dulux07:

if u scold her, ur indirectly telin her to kip it a secret nxt time, n wen she nids rlationship advice nxt time, she wud rather tell her friends instead.

In such case, d dad is meant to talk to her as a friend, advice, guide n counsel her, instead of scolding. Many of us wer scolded when we wer young, but did that stop us rm havin gf n bf at tender ages, NO.it didnt, it only made us do it secret, in which d end result for some was disastrous..

hm, u really do have a point here,so instead of scoldn her,just sit her down and talk to her.

Hey my 16inches cane and frog the devil out of her backside

Are there no mummies here

MhizVee:
hm, u really do have a point here,so instead of scoldn her,just sit her down and talk to her.

Yh..lik someone said u can even meet d so called bf, in order to monitor d rlatnship. D devil u know is better than d devil u dont know. Imagine how it wud fil if ur daughter chooses u as her relationship counsellor rather than her friends.. she will hardly go astray.

goodmorning40:
Hey my 16inches cane and frog the devil out of her backside

and u think she is gonna come back and tell u her secret some oda tym,nigerian parent and their mentality.

Wait o,are u gonna be in support of that kind of relationship?

dulux07:

Yh..lik someone said u can even meet d so called bf, in order to monitor d rlatnship. D devil u know is better than d devil u dont know. Imagine how it wud fil if ur daughter chooses u as her relationship counsellor rather than her friends.. she will hardly go astray.

MhizVee:
and u think she is gonna come back and tell u her secret some oda tym,nigerian parent and their mentality.

Okay be doing oyibo mentality there, tomorrow she will come and tell you she's pregnant

Scold her and she will continue with the relationship secretly without ur knowledge

goodmorning40:

Okay be doing oyibo mentality there, tomorrow she will come and tell you she's pregnant

MhizVee:
Scold her and she will continue with the relationship secretly without ur knowledge

And give her talk she will boldly go into the relationship

No,i think u should sit her down and allow her see things from ur perspective,if u dont want her to be in a relationship at such a tender age u ve got to tell her with love

goodmorning40:

And give her talk she will boldly go into the relationship

MhizVee:
Wait o,are u gonna be in support of that kind of relationship?

No, but at lis jst to monitor both of them, u cant forbid her rm seein d boy.

U do think u can monitor them?

dulux07:
No, but at lis jst to monitor both of them, u cant forbid her rm seein d boy.

When a child does that it is a great show of thrust and confidence in you ad a parent.
We should never forget that..
I would thank her for comming to me and trusting me. Then I would carefully advice her based on all the circumstances and the boy in question.
Then I will get on my knees and start praying real hard.
I have tried to raise my girls to know they are worthy of love and to be patient for the right time and the right man.
But however it goes. I will always be there for them.

At 18, I expect her to have a boyfriend.
I will only ask to bring him home when she feels comfortable.

Yup! She can PHOCK in my house too!

By 18?
I should be done talking. I am only there to listen.
Time for her to practice all I have taught her BY EXAMPLE!

MhizVee:
No,i think u should sit her down and allow her see things from ur perspective,if u dont want her to be in a relationship at such a tender age u ve got to tell her with love

You mix talk with action, this is Africa. Ur child needs to have some fear. Leave oyibo and their culture alone

Thnks ma'am

mutter:
When a child does that it is a great show of thrust and confidence in you ad a parent.
We should never forget that..
I would thank her for comming to me and trusting me. Then I would carefully advice her based on all the circumstances and the boy in question.
Then I will get on my knees and start praying real hard.
I have tried to raise my girls to know they are worthy of love and to be patient for the right time and the right man.
But however it goes. I will always be there for them.