Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

Nice1 bro

prittyboi:
Nice1 bro

Thanks

Dis is wot I call reality check. Nice one op. If only d struggling guys would listen and stop killing themselves over ladies

True. Thank God i now have some cash to spice things up but i dont have time for such frivolities. Any babe who can not bear should bounce.

Brb


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Hmmm get your mind right!

Everything in it's right time!

Kingsasian:
True. Thank God i now have some cash to spice things up but i dont have time for such frivolities. Any babe who can not bear should bounce.

there the wahala dey.
The guy when no get money na him get time
person when get money no get time

Something's gotta give

For the records,,,Na guys wey no get moni de love pass.....na dem de jealousy pass..... ..if the bae strts acting strange.....d guy wil ask her,,,is it cos I don't av money?

Ok.. So girls, if I ask u out, pls say no!

Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

Realistic post indeed...but let me pitch up this simple inverse to your post which you all similar writers, tend to forget...:

Cool...get money...keep your woman happy ....bla bla bla...now here's the turn...who the hell says the objective after making the money should be to please that woman?...why do women have to just slide in with love at that time...who says you as a guy, can't then decide...IF YOU DONT HAVE MY KIND OF MONEY, BOUNCE!..raise your standards boiz and stop giving these girls handouts....I have always said it....its OK when down as a guy..keep up the struggle...but if your woman don't stay...no wahala..but please, when made don't buy that bullshit love yarns if they ain't got your kind of money or a father that can give them same...simple....

Let's see which gender will weep last last ...
Girls be scamming boiz with looks and surprisingly, they are all dying to become acceptable by these bunch of greedy, lazy, unambitious ladies....lol....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE......upgrade your reasoning men!...
Don't let women toy with you via the "bought" presentation of love...because, really it is BOUGHT when you are made and a broke babe becomes faithful.....
bid higher...get one with similar status and not just looks....now let's see where all these hungry girls who demand things that their fathers can't afford them will run to... .....
unfortunately they constitute about 80% of the female population...

Small evidence: boiz already zoning into Angola, Zimbabwe, mauritius, e.t.c to marry.....lol
the volume of mixed breeds the next generation will have ehn ....it might be only village boys that will produce the majority of next pure nigerians..lol

finditng, love professor.

Captainswag225:
finditng, love professor.

I see firstEVA got you out ....what a gem you've got...lol

Make sure she's well taken care of..else...."got my eyes watching"..."swag go commot" for your captainhood o..lol

Truth

finditng:


I see firstEVA got you out ....what a gem you've got...lol

Make sure she's well taken care of..else...."got my eyes watching"..."swag go commot" for your captainhood o..lol

hahaha yes my bro in law,,, i will take great care of her... She did her best but them cowards didnt lift my ban. Anyway, u got no p after eva,,, she is in safe hands.

Captainswag225:
hahaha yes my bro in law,,, i will take great care of her... She did her best but them cowards didnt lift my ban. Anyway, u got no p after eva,,, she is in safe hands.

Good to know she's safe in the hands of a captain..

U can only find true love while u re broke,and for the text and calling stuff a lot of girls love it.make's dem see they man as a very confident and social active guy if u dnt call or txt frequently they tag u boring then move on to anoda guy who aint boring lyk u. Funny how u guys tink u can play God truth is u dont know women at all even wit ur cash if a woman dont luv u..men u a waste cuz she will jst drain ur 40,000 mah bat3 then move on to someone dat will make her happy. Keep tinking u know all why others are pulling stunts wit the little they know..as cute nd successfull as drake wit lota award nd international recognition nicki minaj still see's a beta man in meek mill who acts lyk a child on twitter dissing drake 4 no reason, wise up u cnt predict women else u will commit suicide someday.

o.p and finditng, great points but i think its not always abt money in the relationship, its abt how u treat her, making her value u and the little u have. Making her think and feel u are irreplaceable. Why is that some women marry rich dudes and still have affairs with their old broke lovers? Some ladies even leave their rich husbands for poor dudes coz at the end of the day its abt how u make her fall for u...... Power belongs to u not money.

Long epistle.......some truth in it though.






Btw, check my signature

This is reality, but I must add that struggling guys do not need a girlfriend at all.

If you must get married, be sure you are financially stable to provide for your wife, prolonged state of lack drives women into another man's bed, this is a proven fact.

Experience has proven that everyone loves atmosphere of music, alcohol and sex, but sex thrives in the atmosphere of alcohol and music, love isn't necessary for sex to happen.

Experience has proven that the easiest women to lay are the ones in serious relationships and marriages without material supports of 21st century world. Please note that 98% of the women calling me, texting me and begging out-rightly and openly for sex are married or co-habiting ladies whose men are not doing financially well.

There is something wrong with being in love without money to support the lady, you try to prove how much you love by calling, texting, proposing love and you become a nuisance infected with obsessive compulsive disorder, and the lady will eventually run into another man's arm just for comfort, peace of mind and support.

I must stop here.

Captainswag225:
o.p and finditng, great points but i think its not always abt money in the relationship, its abt how u treat her, making her value u and the little u have. Making her think and feel u are irreplaceable. Why is that some women marry rich dudes and still have affairs with their old broke lovers? Some ladies even leave their rich husbands for poor dudes coz at the end of the day its abt how u make her fall for u...... Power belongs to u not money.

Your last paragraph was true in 20th century, not anymore. Rich guys do not lose girls to poor guys. Believe me, rich guys lay poor people's beautiful wives and girlfriends daily. The funny thing is, it is the women that beg to come spend time. Women wanna feel taken-care-of. That is their definition of love.

Atlantian:
Your last paragraph was true in 2oth century, not anymore. Rich guys do not lose girls to poor guys. Believe me, rich guys lay poor people's beautiful wives and girlfriends daily. The funny thing is, it is the women that beg to come spend time. Women wanna feel taken-care-of. That is their definition of love.

u said it yourself. Thats more like rich guy: take care of me even tho i still dont love u. It happens, i recently read a true life story where the woman married the rich dude and had 4 kidz but all the kidz were for her poor lover. She eventually left to stay with her poor lover so my guy it still happens.

Captainswag225:
u said it yourself. Thats more like rich guy: take care of me even tho i still dont love u. It happens, i recently read a true life story where the woman married the rich dude and had 4 kidz but all the kidz were for her poor lover. She eventually left to stay with her poor lover so my guy it still happens.

Rare, very rare. It makes story books because it is uncommon and crazy. But the reverse is popular. We can even relate to it cos it happens all around us.

Atlantian:
Rare, very rare. It makes story books because it is uncommon and crazy. But the reverse is popular. We can even relate to it cos it happens all around us.

but u also cant deny the fact that no matter how rich u are, how u make ur women feel also counts, the emotional and sexual satisfaction, the appreciative wordz etc.... Dis is what most women seek b4 money.

Atlantian:
This is reality, but I must add that struggling guys do not need a girlfriend at all.

If you must get married, be sure you are financially stable to provide for your wife, prolonged state of lack drives women into another man's bed, this is a proven fact.

Experience has proven that everyone loves atmosphere of music, alcohol and sex, but sex thrives in the atmosphere of alcohol and music, love isn't necessary for sex to happen.

Experience has proven that the easiest women to lay are the ones in serious relationships and marriages without material supports of 21st century world. Please note that 98% of the women calling me, texting me and begging out-rightly and openly for sex are married or co-habiting ladies whose men are not doing financially well.

There is something wrong with being in love without money to support the lady, you try to prove how much you love by calling, texting, proposing love and you become a nuisance infected with obsessive compulsive disorder, and the lady will eventually run into another man's arm just for comfort, peace of mind and support.

I must stop here.

oh rili?? Hw come my ex gf left and zoom back to her old broke bf, it wasnt callin nd textin diz tym i did to keep her i spent hell to keep her but in d end my money couldnt buy her i later found out she waz enjoying the money but wasnt happy so she dumped me 4 the broke guy dat makes her happy.

BUTCHCASSIDY:


there the wahala dey.
The guy when no get money na him get time
person when get money no get time

Something's gotta give

the truth be say you can never satisfy a woman no matter how hard you try to or no matter how much you spend on them. I know of many of my friends wey no get shi shi before yet their gf stuck to them till they got married. A serious and wife material suppose dey tell you how to make money and save for future use. If you like take her out on trips, get her some nice clothes, give her money all the time, if she wan leave you she go still leave you for someone who has more than you. I would rather spend such money on my mother who sacrificed a lot for me and that is exactly what I am doing. No lady is worth my sweat for now. They deserve the crumbs that falls from my table.

nice piece op...... dere x always a ryt gal for a boy irrespective of if he x struggling or not.... sometyms dat struggling guy can be beta dan even d guy dt wasn't struggling @ all in future.... so in life d power ov a gal to be wiv ha bf irrespective*of if he has money or not is a stepping stone ov defining true luv... d gal was surviving b4 she started datn a struggling guy xo y wuld she be dying for wat d boy nidx to buy for her wen they xtart dating? d head ov a relatnship x luv anyoda tin can come afta...

markmira:

oh rili?? Hw come my ex gf left and zoom back to her old broke bf, it wasnt callin nd textin diz tym i did to keep her i spent hell to keep her but in d end my money couldnt buy her i later found out she waz enjoying the money but wasnt happy so she dumped me 4 the broke guy dat makes her happy.

You misunderstand. Women need comfort and happiness including ofcourse financial support. How do you live ? What are the qualities of your home designs ? What quality of car do you drive ? What does your bed and beddings look like ? And then, you need some careless money to put those wines on the table after every meal and take care of her basic material needs. Those latest phones, branded cloths etc. They way you even type, shows you are careless. You are in a hurry,always. Women dont like men like you. Sorry.

Captainswag225:
but u also cant deny the fact that no matter how rich u are, how u make ur women feel also counts, the emotional and sexual satisfaction, the appreciative wordz etc.... Dis is what most women seek b4 money.

Not how you make a women feel. It's how a woman feels around you. Listen, your environment, how you live. The ambiens, the flowers, the scents of your home. The poolside designs. The jacuzzi. The touch of class in every piece of furniture. The smell of the fabrics you wear. Your upholstery in the car. The perfumes and colognes you wear, determines how a woman feels. The regulated temperature, by the AC in your house. Your kitchen, the choice of wines after each meal. All play key roles in how a woman feels around a man. If you like, live in a one bedroom apartment and lick a woman's feet and pusssy all night under the hot waves from the fan. You are just wasting your energy until the 'real man' comes her way. Sorry.

Kingsasian:
the truth be say you can never satisfy a woman no matter how hard you try to or no matter how much you spend on them. I know of many of my friends wey no get shi shi before yet their gf stuck to them till they got married. A serious and wife material suppose dey tell you how to make money and save for future use. If you like take her out on trips, get her some nice clothes, give her money all the time, if she wan leave you she go still leave you for someone who has more than you. I would rather spend such money on my mother who sacrificed a lot for me and that is exactly what I am doing. No lady is worth my sweat for now. They deserve the crumbs that falls from my table.

awww this are d dangote nd bill gates of 2morow God bless u broda,sum people tink getting rich will save dem from hrtbreaks so instead of dem to invest money on family members they prefer buying love wit d money forgetting everytin has an xpirering date.jst pray u r woman got a good hrt nd mindset broke or rich she will leave if she want. Guys who bring up topic lyk diz are those who' v suffered a lota hrt break from diffrent ladies due to they dull iq.

.what is this OP trying to say? That broke guys can't.find.true love?? I know it's rare but it happens. You guys need to set your standard right no girl is ready to date u when u were broke but girls are not begging to date you cos you havr money, cnt u guys see that these kinda girl are not in for the love but for the money
A rich guy should date a rich babe, an independent one for that matter not a broke ass girl.
A woman that loves you will truly stay whether or not u have money. Money cannot buy love, it can only bring the wrong girl if you're not careful.
Consider the love stories of some of our celebrities that started out as a broke girlfriend and boyfriend, now they are making it real big! That's true love, a love that can stand the test of time, not an "already made man" like some females will say whereas they have no money themselves o

Atlantian:
Not how you make a women feel. It's how a woman feels around you. Listen, your environment, how you live. The ambiens, the flowers, the scents of your home. The poolside designs. The jacuzzi. The touch of class in every piece of furniture. The smell of the fabrics you wear. Your upholstery in the car. The perfumes and colognes you wear, determines how a woman feels. The regulated temperature, by the AC in your house. Your kitchen, the choice of wines after each meal. All play key roles in how a woman feels around a man. If you like, live in a one bedroom apartment and leak a woman's feet and pusssy all night under the hot waves from the fan. You are just wasting your energy until the 'real man' comes her way. Sorry.

hahahaha, money love aint true love bro and u know it.