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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by enoqueen: 9:20pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
1. Forgive her and start making her feel love again like before. Stress make women age quickly. She is now looking old cos she is sorry for the lies and afraid of what might happen later. 2. Get a young lady to marry and explain everything to her. Still treat her well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by adconline(m): 9:20pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Marriage premised on lies is bound to crumble. I wonder if she lied about having a child before marriage? Wonder if she married b4? She had the intention to be deceitful given the fact that women of her age at the time of marriage are going to find it difficult to conceive. She knew what she was getting into -marriage without kids.. She just wanted to be married while you wanted to be married in order to have kids.. Different goals.. Only u can save u. Divorce or adoption!! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Gurgle(f): 9:20pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Op I don't know how to advise you but just know that I sympathise with you and hope you are able to find a solution, whether on here or elsewhere. May God guide you towards the right path to take 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by henryuzor(m): 9:21pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Marriage is meant to be ENJOYED not ENDURED Any house that is built on a faulty foundation will definitely collapse Trust is like an egg,once broken it can never be rebuilt First impression matters a lot,as one can never have a second chance to make a good first impression Your wife told you a FUNDAMENTAL lie that strikes at the very FOUNDATION of your marriage,there can be no reparition for that kind of heartless lie...my candid advise is that you opt out of the marriage because if you don't,you will continue to resent her for the duration of the marriage and you will not be able to trust her completely anymore even if she is able to bear you children...but you must try to forgive her,rid your heart of any ill feelings or grudges towards her for the four wasted years and move on Imagine a scenario where even if she bears you children,when your kids come of age you will begin to explain to them that their mother is way older than their father....and that will continue to be a constant reminder of the LIE,an ETERNAL SCAR i dare say may never ever heal. You may be reluctant to act beacuse you may be considering how to start afresh,stress of divorcing your current wife and then remarrying another younger woman....but trust me the stress of living with this your current situation will be far worse....and mind you you will never know and meet other beautiful and amazing women out there unless you take the bold step 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Sunymoore(m): 9:22pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
melodies:This is simply retarded_ A Man at 60 can still impregnate a woman... So tuning tables around in this case is practically not applicable... Mr. Man, it's either you adopt a child, or if you really want your blood, then marry another woman or get a baby mama.. These are your options... Since you love your wife, let her be. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Forwetinnah: 9:22pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Buhari lied about his age too..what have we done?? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Gurgle(f): 9:22pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sagamite: Its just her signature na, she posts it everywhere. Maybe because this thread is emotionally charged and quite sensitive, it looks inappropriate. But I think her comment is going to be one of the less irritating ones we will see here 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:22pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
deadZONE: You are not mature at all... And you need to upgrade your mentality and ways of approach. Sorry if that hurts. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Rareg: 9:23pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Op, this is a very complex situation because this issue bothers on trust. You have confirmed she is a good woman. Listen to your pastor, pray to God to give u a forgiving spirit and to remove every hurt. Treat her right so she can relax and maybe take in again. Still consider adoption, lots of people get their babies when they adopt. Continue to pray and may God help you. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by AfroKnight: 9:24pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Please forgive her. It is hard but this is your wife not just a girlfriend. I'm glad you have not forgotten what a good and respectful wife she is. Let those wonderful memories of your marriage guide your heart to forgiveness. If you want a biological child kindly allow her to have a say in that decision. Whatever decision you would take that would be irreversible, please think it through. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by kpolli(m): 9:24pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sigh!!!! That was very selfish of her, now brings of the question of if she lied because she loves you or to get you to marry her... Honestly, do whatever your heart tells you to do.... Remember it's easier for people to tell you to forgive than to actually forgive.... But this lie is something else, was she expecting to get away with it? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by darlenese(f): 9:25pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
EVILFOREST: @ bolded , its not always true. I've seen ladies who got married as virgins, but yet find it difficult to conceive .its God that gives children. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
And come to think of it o, When this ladies were between 21 - 29 ,Them go dey form like say tomorrow no dey, see her life on the Fence now. Scamming her boo with football age. Chai. Nairaland ladies, Una see una life . Keep on forming hard to get. When you don finally clock 29, Make you dey tie head gear like SU.. Op, just ask her these simple question, what was she doing when her mate were getting married at the age 24 - 30 ? 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by santosesq1(m): 9:26pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Happy u said ur wife then y ask som1 else 4 advice on wat to do ? Its ur wife & life take ur decision all by urself I wonder y some of u com to ask foolish questions here. My goat is pregnant wat do I do ? |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by ify84(m): 9:27pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Very very difficult situation.... Divorce is not a good tin Second wife is problematic It is clear, from your write up, you love her.. She sinned against u.... Love covereth multitude Of sin... So, close eye forgive and if you two are born again..... Children will come naturally 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Gurgle(f): 9:27pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
kpolli: If she had taken in successfully, this topic wouldn't even exist on Nairaland. Not expecting maybe, but hoping. Which sometimes is all anybody can do. |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:27pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Dannyabu: This marriage is based on false from the start. I will divorce if I am in your shoe. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by tivta(m): 9:28pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Nigerian women are always right... |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by joseph1013: 9:31pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sagamite: I keep asking myself if she is actually employed. Maybe she's a student, but even at that, why would a sound person be on every post looking to be the first to comment. So many things are wrong with my people. Kids in civilized societies will not think of doing these. Beats me, honestly. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:31pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Don't give up ,she can try other means of conception such as IVF 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by SylarsMcQuins: 9:32pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sagamite: Free her, she's a child and lack sense |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by mechanics(m): 9:33pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sir, since she has told u d truth, den u need to 4give n 4get, u talked abt beauty, did u marry her base on beauty, if dats d case u need to pray to God to bring back d luv u had 4 ur wife b4 u got weded, divorce is nt d issue, believe God ur wife wil cari her baby, hw old was Sarah wen she gave birth to Isaac, read Gen 11:30, 16:1, 18: 1-15, 21:1-8, oda women who were barren and God answered their prayers were Ruth, Rebeccah etc, dey waited patiently on God, and dey didnt divorce their husbands, pray without ceasing, 1 Thess 5:16-18. |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by pappilo(m): 9:33pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
She is 43 not 47 |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by SylarsMcQuins: 9:35pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Sagamite: She lacks sense, she's probably in her mid teens |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by IceDude(m): 9:36pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
After God fear women .....OP pls get urself anoda wife, earlier the better......Expect more revelations from her |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:36pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
You wrote she was a good wife, then you should forgive her. Show her true love. |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:37pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
chigoizie7:i love ur signature boo...inbtw shey d'marriage na for better for worse??... Bear ur cross" dat wat beta for worse is all about.. And d'chi guy u rock! Love is so pointless and overrated! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by mechanics(m): 9:38pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:ur numb 2 is against d will of God, ave u 4goten d marriage vow wich say 4 beta 4 worse? Dis is somebody's life, wat if he marries and he does nt enjoy d peace with dis present one just because of d lies, wat wil u advise him? |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:38pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
What's with Nigerians and 'football age' especially women. Is it a crime to grow old? The foundation of your marriage was built on lies..Even if she is now mother Theresa,she is a liar and a pretender. You are 39 now,she is 47...In 3years,she will be 50! If you were my brother,sorry,you are leaving her! Who the hell is the pastor? Why didn't he teach her not to lie and not deceive a young man into marriage. Dannyabu: 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Dynaman(m): 9:44pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
ladyF:Dis comment is not helping matters here!! Mehn this man needs real advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by mnguz(f): 9:45pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
And u have never told her a lie? I know younger couples who have no children God is d giver of children o |
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Age, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:45pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
So all dis time u guys were married u never came across any of her documents showing her real age? She must have been a really good liar. She shud be recruited by a spy agency |
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