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Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by Enoquin(f): 11:45am On Aug 21, 2015 |
UjSizzle: How else can we learn kindness if not to ourselves first? We aint queer jare, we are treating ourselves right. According to Dettol's advert (modified) If we don't take care of ourselves, who will? |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by Chillis: 11:46am On Aug 21, 2015 |
edwife: There is no better reward believing in something and sticking to it. I don't have a problem with non feminist. I have a problem with those that enjoy the reward by the fight of some of these activist , those that preach the same thing the activist are fighting for then turn around and say.. "Pls oh ,I'm not a feminist ' What a joke 6 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by babygirlfl: 11:49am On Aug 21, 2015 |
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Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by edwife(f): 12:09pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Chillis: We have activists for every human right,enjoying the reward is not the problem,the problem here is must i be tag? If some of their beliefs or ideologies don't stick with me should i just accept it because they fought for me? My mother has been working before i even know what feminism is all about and has done well for her and her family without being tagged a feminist,why should I? 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by kaboninc(m): 12:14pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Put too many women in a cage, none will be left alive. ![]() ![]() ![]() What a troublesome set of individuals even among their clan. ![]() ![]() If women were to rule this world, I would be walking around NAKEDDD and still latch onto my mother's bossomm. Even asking her to strap me on her back. Thank God for men....at least there is orderliness.... 4 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by Chillis: 12:15pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
edwife: You are not a feminist. Simply. I don't know there is a tag for feminist. My dad is a feminist because of his beliefs but I don't go around calling him a feminist . He doesn't g around too saying I'm a feminist. His actions shows it. Non feminist should give themselves another name and leave our feminist name for us abeg. 3 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by edwife(f): 12:23pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Chillis: That is the more reason they don't call themselves FEMINIST. So if i said i am not a feminist that should be enough for every one,feminists can carry the name on their heads or foreheads if they want it is their business as it is also for those who do not want to be called feminists. ![]() The name is non-feminist by the way. ![]() ***he who never dreamed he would be made King, wears his crown to sleep**** 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by crackhaus: 12:51pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
You sit in the comfort of your struggled-to-acquire cubicle in the west and scream to high heavens about how you're a feminist, yet your neighbour's daughter back home in Nigeria still wakes up in the morning to hawk banana and groundnut just to make ends meet while her peers are in a classroom somewhere learning. You have not made a difference in the life of one underprivileged young girl or woman in the village you come from by affecting her outcome and future, yet you're a bloody feminist. The ones (probably related to you) that you've even managed to buy sewing machine for, you only did because you enjoy the idea of someone running to you calling you 'Aunty' and kissing your feet whenever they see you. Charity organization, you can't start. Organize grassroot rallies for your cause, you no fit. Change the situation of some random young girl/woman on the streets, you don't even have the resources for it. All y'all know how to do is sit behind your phones and laptops all day (probably jobless or earning meager wages) and scream I am a feminist without anything to show for it, except to claim the successes of your forebearers like y'all had anything to do with that - do you think they achieved what you say you're now enjoying by sitting behind technology, practising lazy feminism, and hating on anyone who refuses to be tagged as a feminist? At least you people should join the free-the-tips campaign or the free-blood-flow campaign of some feminists so you can at least be seen as practising some form of what you preach, instead of being everywhere and nowhere. Lawd knows I got no problem with freeing-the-tips, one can never see enough of b00bs...so please, go for it. ![]() ![]() 26 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:27pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
MizMyColi:babe you just killed it here! thumbs up and a high 5. 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by MizMyColi(f): 1:33pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by MizMyColi(f): 1:35pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Crackhaus, How are you able to make so much sense? I envy you ![]() |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by pickabeau1: 1:53pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't want no free bleeders Free the Nip - ples.. seems ok |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by crackhaus: 1:54pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
MizMyColi:I don't know, but I know that's the only reason these pseudo-feminists hate my guts... ![]() ![]() |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by crackhaus: 2:11pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Lol, no leave them be o. . let em' be freeing everything free-able if it makes them fulfilled. It's really not my business if some so-called 21st century numbskulls decide to be so dirty and repulsive by allowing their blood flow freely down their crotch without pads or tampons. These NL stock of feminists should just align with one movement and stick to it FFS... I bet even the married ones here answer their husband's surname with the prefix Mrs. so gloriously attached to it. And here I thought Miss Chimamanda Adichie their Messiah knew it all, I wonder why they haven't followed her in towing her path with the 'I-am-a-strong-educated-woman-who's-worth-cannot-be-measured-by-the-man-I-married' horsesh!t. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by nasha1(f): 2:14pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
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Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by Nobody: 2:31pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
And they crawled back to their shell..... 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by damiso(f): 2:38pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
![]() ![]() ![]() I don't even know what to See me defending us on another post . You people don fall my hand o Na wa for NL. @ OP nice original post by the way. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by francizy(m): 2:43pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
SUGARBEE: I actually wanted to read thru this thread and move on as it mostly is meant for the ladies but the bolded caught my attention. You deserve a hug and a handshake. Now lemme comment in line with the bolded, I've noticed that it seems like a norm for ladies out there to always expect the guy she's dating to do things like her ex. You know, the things he did in the past that made her smile. Even if the guy is trying in his own ways to make her smile, women can't always refrain from comparing a guy with their exs and I ask, if the ex was so perfect and she was so into him, then why did they break up? I guess a man is supposed to pen down all the positive things that a lady's ex did and then read it as a manual in order to be able to have a smooth relationship. Then on the other hand, a lady should live her life whichever way it pleases her as they guy should understand. There's this ex of mine that complained bitterly and said I wasn't romantic just because I wouldn't carry her hand bag and her past bfs carried her hand bag for her. So my question to her was "you called them your exs but am not your ex, so why tell me to do things your exs did? To her, I was to do it since her exs did it bearing in mind that I hated such with passion. I can help my woman carry anything other than a female handbag cuz am not a gay dude for crying out loud. Well that's the past by the way. Although she wasn't the only girl that compared me with exs. Sometimes women get mad at a guy for doing things they usually did and the guy overlooked it. This is probably because they feel we men are supernatural beings and can handle being hurt while women should never be hurt. They nag at every opportunity and at anything not giving a hoot if the said guy can take such for so long. Women complain a lot about men but when they finally meet one who wants to stay true to them, they disappoint such person then why won't they eventually end up with the wrong man. Like Miz said, women should do a soul searching and know what they really want, then do that thing that makes them happy. If they wanna date a man, they should go ahead, if they feel five at a go will make them happy, then they should consider that. The fact is, at the very end, one shouldn't expect to receive what one didn't give. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by francizy(m): 2:45pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
crackhaus: Oh boy eh!!! This my guy don vex oh!!! ![]() |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by Nobody: 2:46pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Waoh! Beautiful piece.What's so very deep, very insightful here? ![]() The fawning and hawing here over a generic blogpost with hints of 'mysticism' [?] is fùck boring. Is it that people these days are so easily impressed or y'all want to be kind and not hurt OP's feelings? Frankly, the fights make for better megabyte mileage. 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by bukatyne(f): 2:49pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Chillis: 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by donodion(m): 2:49pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
crackhaus: Osanobua ooooooooooooooo !!!!!!!!!! for this weekend, maka why? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by SUGARBEE(f): 2:51pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
francizy: This was awesome. . I think you should create a thread with this and maybe quote me... One thing I don't do is comparing my ex with my bf.. . He has his own unique abilities which shouldn't be compromised cuz that's the main reason we even started dating in the first place Thanks 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by pickabeau1: 2:51pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
lol Na so... Nothing wrong with Nip-ple thon Further objectivizing women by women themselves Hilarity ![]() ![]() crackhaus: 2 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by freecocoa(f): 2:56pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
damiso:Two or more women fighting here doesn't/shouldn't change anything. Can you count how many men on here sagamite, coogar, davidlyn, Dayokanu, shymex etc, have beef with? 3 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by bukatyne(f): 2:59pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Chillis: @Bold: On point I doubt people in real life go about saying I am a feminist etc. bla bla Your actions tell If you are or are not. Again, not everyone will be a feminist / Christian /liberal/ conservative etc. @Mizmycoli: nice thread Afteral, the Bible says 'Love your neighbor as yourself' You have got to love yourself first which you Now extend to other people. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by cococandy(f): 3:02pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Chillis: I thought so too. @bold tell me about about it. If you're working for any private company in NIGERIA, na dem get you be that. You gotta do as they say because they can drop unjustly without repercussions. 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by damiso(f): 3:04pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Please I want to ask a question following on from the I am/not a feminist label argument that has ensued esp. based on Chillis assertion about women who are enjoying privileges fought for by activists not being want to be called feminists. Please what are those privileges or rights in NIGERIA that women now enjoy from NIGERIAN Feminist activities? And no I am not talking things like TED talk by Chinamanda I am talking about actual political issues( social and cultural norms are subjective and influenced by location, culture which is quite vast In Nigeria or even family background sef) so its difficult to gauge how that has been influenced by the femisnist movement. I never thought I was less than any boy right from when I was young and that was not even before I knew of the word or movement called feminism. I want issues like right to vote, right to own property, right to education etc. as these are some of the things that Feminists eg the suffragettes had to fight for in the west. I know there are loads of organisations and people that talk about empowering women financially, culturally etcin Nigeria but I rarely see the insistence on being called 'feminist' organisations like I see on NL. I personally don't see why anybody cant choose to identify or call themselves anything they want to. I just don't get the flip side on why any woman who believes women can and should be empowered but just chooses not to say ' I am a feminist' is a joker. A lot of priviledges enjoyed by AAs today was fought for by the civil rights movement but that same movement is not really reckoned with by some AAs today because some believe that organisations like the NAACP have become overtly self serving. Does that mean that those AA's should not vote,get a job, sit on the bus next to a white person?etc. I don't believe they should deride those who are civil rights activists ( like I don't feel feminists should be derided) but why cant they say they 'choose' not to be called one.Afterall some of the rights that they now enjoy was fought for by that movement. 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by cococandy(f): 3:06pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
kaboninc:Taaa sharrap. What's keepin you from going to type this when you you see two guys fighting on any of those numerous threads. 2 Likes |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by francizy(m): 3:07pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
MizMyColi: The bolded is a norm. I actually waited to see your objectivity but it was all lacking in the initial post till I saw it here... 1 Like |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by damiso(f): 3:19pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
freecocoa: I guess that's true. Maybe I don't get why difference in opinions always results in such bitter vitriol being exchanged. |
Re: When He Becomes Emotionally Unavailable by francizy(m): 3:26pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
kaboninc: Didn't know the bolded is an animal ni oh!!! ![]() ![]() Does he type with claws, cloven or split hooves?? ![]() ![]() |
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